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So, I've liked this guy very, very much for a long time, and now I'm hearing rumors that he's with someone...Tomorrow, I'm attending an event in which they will both be there, and I don't know how I'm going to handle seeing them together if the rumors are true...I'm not mad at either of them or bitter or anything, but I am extremely sad and disappointed...what can I do to help myself prepare for this? (link)
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You are smart to prepare yourself.
You need to visualize your worst possible scenario at this function and how you can best react. Even if the only action you can do is to just to look the other way and pretend not to see them ... IF possible, smile brightly or even if possible say a cheerful hello.
Go with a group or at least one other person so you don't feel so singled out. Plus having people around you will provide a distraction. Locate the nearest private place should you start feeling yourself 'tear up'. You don't want to cause drama or draw attention to yourself.
Go in looking GREAT and feeling GREAT about yourself. I know, hard to do when you are in a funk about something. But spend the extra time on your hair, nails, make-up etc.
Accept the fact you will still be sad and disappointed, but don't get caught up in feeling sorry for yourself.
Get some sleep- don't let yourself stay up obsessing about tomorrow. It is NEVER as bad as you imagine.
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you know how there are products for hair growth? is there a way to *stop* hair growth in a particular area? (link)
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To STOP hair growth you need to have a laser hair removal treatment.
There is no published clinical data that backs up claims that over the counter hair inhibitors can slow or stop hair growth. ANY non-prescription product claiming to inhibit hair growth in humans is making unproven claims.
DO NOT USE Epil-Stop. There are a lot of injury claims against this product.
The only medication that has demonstrated it can work as claimed is Vaniqa, and they only claim to SLOW hair growth. Vaniqa is available by perscription.
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Legal age to move out in CT?
my cousin moved out when she was 16 and the ct cops said they couldnt bring her home because she wasnt in danger, she had a roof over her head ext.. this happend a few years ago.. my other friend was in foster care and signed herself out, at 16 and moved in with a friend and her parents couldnt do anything about it.... none of them where emancipated...
my cousin wants to move in with her friend because she cant handle her parents, and at time they abuse her and she just wants to move in with a friend, that family said its fine, but her parents say no and they will call the cops.. but would they be able to bring her home, shes not running away, shes moving out because i know if you run away and dont tell your parents where your going the cops can bring you back but if your moving out and you have a place to go and your not in danger can they bring you back, my two other friends where from CT and so is my cousin.....
is it legal? (link)
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The laws are changing in CT, so what worked for a runaway teen two years ago, may not work today.
Beginning Oct. 1, 2008, judges WILL be able to order youths (under 18) to submit to their parents´ control after determining that the child was not abused or their reason for running away was not otherwise justified. So, the parents could push the police to act with a court order.
Running away from home isn’t a crime under state law, merely a “status offense,”. Technically, a 16-year-old is a “missing teenager,” even if the parent/police know where the teen is.
Officers DO have immunity to force teenage runaways to return to their parents, but most are reluctant to do so without a court order.
Also, to put pressure on the teen to return home, juvenile court judge COULD revoke their drivers license, or order them to perform community service or get mental counseling.
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I've tried a few coupons that don't work and just link to the sale items...does anyone have an actual code? (link)
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retailmenot has TWO 2009 coupon codes for $20 at shopyop that show 100% success by users. There is also a coupon code for free shipping.
Don't LINK using the coupons. Copy down the number and put it in at checkout.
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When guys get into high school, are they all perverts? Do they change or what? (link)
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When guys get into high school, are they all perverts? YES ... lol. It is a combination of testosterone and curiosity.
Do they change or what? They don't change for a LONG time, but they do learn to control it so that it isn't so obvious or obnoxious! You will see a big difference between the different age groups, even in HS.
A lot of guys are throwing things out there just to get a reaction and while they are hoping for some action.
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Well this year I'm going to our dance and I really need a flirty dress!
I am about 5'4
Dirty blonde hair (about an inch longer that shoulder length)
Blue eyes
Somewhat medium skin tone
What color should I get? If you could find some (preferably short) that would be great. Also email me at lexalovessocks@gmail.com
Last thing, the stores we have where I live are dillards, macys, forever 21, jcpenny, ect.
(also it would be great if you show makeup to go with the dress, optional but I would really appretiate it!)
Thanks =]
alexa
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What ever color you wear - DON'T WEAR BLACK!!! Every one in 8th grade for their first dance wears black because it is safe and they think it looks formal/grown-up/sexy.
RED is much more flirty! With your eyes/hair any shade of purple or turquoise is beautiful. I have never seen a GREEN dress I liked - even on red heads. Don't go for any dress that is the same color as your skin tone -it will make you look washed out.
Also, make sure the dress you are wearing isn't 'overpowering'. Don't go for anything dramatic or with too many ruffles. You want to wear your dress, not have the dress wear you.
It is easier and more comfortable to wear a dress with wider straps so you can wear a regular bra, vs a strapless that you are always tugging up.
Plus, if you are dancing, you don't want to get hot.
Macys is my FIRST stop for dress shopping. Right now they have a dress called 'Love Tease Pleated Dress', with wider straps, Pleated at bust; padded for shape, short (knee), pleated 'shirt' with a empire waist and beading just under the bust line. This style dress covers any tummy, gives you a figure by hugging the smallest part of the body, and still covers you well up top without making you look like a nun. It is on sale for around $52.
As for hair - again...keep it simple and do a trial run if possible. You don't want to have a hair melt down the day of the dance. I prefer just adding a few curls if you are usually straight,or straightened if you usually go natural. Add glamor with rhinestone clips or pins. And if you can, see if your mom will spring for some 'partial highlights' just around your face.
Make-up can be kept simple but bumped up a notch. Add a little eyeliner to top and bottom lids. Get your browns freshly done. Make the lid color either darker or more shimmery than you'd usually wear. If your lips are your best feature, focus on them instead - but don't focus on both LIPS and EYEs. Pick one to do up. Some stores like Ulta or beauty counter will do your make up for you for free. Again -trial run!
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I met my current boyfriend two months ago but we have only been dating for a few days now. I am a virgin (prior to meeting my boyfriend I was too busy to care about serious relationships and didn't want to have sex with someone I was casually dating). My boyfriend is not a virgin.
We have been teasing each other since the moment we met so the sexual tension is hardly bearable. I feel obligated to wait until we take things to the next level. On the other hand, I had been hoping to be single when I start university in the fall (I could change my mind) - regardless, I want us both to enjoy however long we get to spend together.
What wins out? Feeling obligated to wait or enjoying the potentially short time we have? (link)
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You need to know yourself really well before you take the next step.
Are you going to look back and regret not waiting for a more solid/stable relationship? Or is virginity something that isn't of great emotional value to you - and you happily will accept this as your 'first' experience?
Either way. Don't do this out of obligation or because it is 'hard for him to wait' because 'he isn't a Virgin'. Boo hoo for him. This is your body, your decision. If he hits the road earlier than expected because you won't put out, wave bye!
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I met this girl through a mutual friend and we have been communicating online and texting (I don't move to her town until this summer). I know she likes me too. Her ex boyfriend assaulted some dude recently and actually got sentenced to 2 years in jail today. Also today, I see that they got back together. How can they be a relationship if he's going to jail? Would this potentially mean that I still have a shot with her? I'm hoping that maybe she is just freaking out about one of her best friends going to jail and said she'd get back together with him, but nothing will happen once she actually realizes that he'll be gone for 2 years. (link)
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WOW! I bet that was a shocker.
If you are communicating with her ask her what is up. You may find out she is feeling obligated to 'be there' for him. Or maybe she likes being part of his drama ... if so, that will pass soon.
Also - if you are going by her myspace or facebook as 'back together', don't believe it until you talk with her.
Yes definitely ... If he is gone 2 years, you have a shot. Even if he wasn't gone, it looks like you have a shot.
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Hay! well,i got 200 dollers at victoria's secret, and i'm planning on useing it to buy a cute bathing suit and some other things. But you see, i do not have a loverly bunch of coconuts so to speak.What i'm getting at is- what style bathing suit would be good for a girl who is,ehhh, about a 34B? and would victoria's secret run big?
muchos gracias =] (link)
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I have bought bathing suits from VS for years- ever since I was a 32A (XS)to current 34B (SM) But I am 5'8 and around 125. VS does not run big. Sometimes I get a M for the bottom because I like more coverage.
Worst on me is the bandeau tops. I tend to go for triangle tops.
Wear padded or molded tops if available in the style you like. I like underwire and removeable pad designs best.
Also, you can go for the styles with the extra ruffles (sm), beading, embroidery, etc. on the top. Choose brighter tops and darker bottoms.
And of course, feeling confident in what ever you wear will double your sex appeal.
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Okay so I don't usually carry purses/handbags because it's always kind of been inconvieniant for me, seeing as I'm very forgettful and always leave it everywhere. However, I've decided lately to go ahead and get one because I saw a girl who had a really cute dark blue one. I don't really know the girl and she's kind of known to be a little rude so I don't want to just randomly ask her o.o so I've been scouring the internet, looking for this bag. I'm not very good at looking for it though because, as I said before, I usually don't carry them so I don't really know the different types and brands and stuff. I did some research and I THINK this one that she had is called a hobo bag? Well, the closest thing I can find that looks like her is this one:
http://chic.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pCHIC1-5457929t220x350.jpg
except it doesn't come in dark blue. I'd like the bag to have a bit more uh folds, sort of like this one:
http://www.splendicity.com/files/101/2007/12/sigrid-olsen-nora-hobo-bag.jpg
So I don't want it to be smooth, I want there to be folds. I just really like this bag but I can not for the life of me find it ANYWHERE. Thanks sooooo much to anyone who can help me. Sorry if this comes out confusing. Thanks!!!!! (link)
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Yep - that is a HOBO style, and lucky for you...one of the more common/popular styles so you should be able to find one you like.
Coach has a ton of options in that style. At least 16 different styles of hobo, plus different colors in each style.
If that is too pricey for you, Kohls has a large selection. As does Target. Even the KIOSKs in the middle of the mall will carry this style.
My favorite place to shop for bags is Macy's. I have one near me in a nicer mall, and they carry designers plus lower priced brands.
Since this is your first purse, I suggest going for a lower priced brand until you decide if the style and size is the right fit for you.
If you want that EXACT bag - either ask her, or get a pic with your camera phone, and ask a more fashion esta friend to help you track it down.
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I will be traveling to florida soon and will be around alot of water.that also means that well...i have absolutly no idea what to do with my hair. it is about my arm pitt length. up here in canada i usually just wash it, dry it, straighten it and...thats it. its all good until the next day ;and I do that pretty much everyday. even though i straighten it everyday, i also condition it extremely well. It's very gold, thick and healthy:)So what should i do with it in florida?because it's very humid, straightening it would probably be pointless.originally my hair is not curly or wavy, it just pretty much goes everywere. and i don't like puttig my hair in a ponytail.Should i just moose it and let it fly?maybe i icould just ghold a little back with a pair of sunglasses on my head. what do you think?
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Some people get FLAT hair in humidity, some get frizzies.
You are smart not to depend on a straighter to fight it. Learn to love the 'beach or bed-head' look while you are in Florida. The messy pony tail is a great laid back look!
Aveda makes a product called "Hang Straight" which is designed to be used for blowing-out curly hair.
Look for a hair serum that contains silicone. My favorite is Tony & Guy products. Be sure to apply the hair serum while your hair is still wet, and blot it with a towel. Hair serums made with silicon are available at all salons and drugstores.
Also, apply a cream based smoothing product from the roots to the end of your hair.
You won't have the straight look you are used to getting, but at least you can still have a good hair day - just with a different style.
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I just bought a strapless dress for prom. I tried it on and it fit perfectly. The thing is the dress is very heavy and I was wondering if anyone knew any tricks on how to keep it up. It wouldn't fall of my chest, but it falls lower than it should. (link)
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Most strapless dresses need to be custom fitted for the BEST fit, so take it to a taylor for the best fit. The top should be snug - but not so snug it causes 'arm-pit fat'.
The better support your strapless bra gives you...the better supported the dress will be to stay up. Try to find a strapless bra with a long waist. (Victoria Secret)
Strapless wedding dresses often add 'boning' to keep the heavy bodice up. This might also be an option for your dress.
The double sided tape is great!
Oh - be sure and do the 'arm lift' test. See if anything is popping out to say 'hello' as you are dancing with your arms up or hugging someone taller.
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I've been laying in the tanning bed lately & I burnt my nipples.
Now they have this scab-looking skin over them & its not attractive at all...
How can I speed up the healing process? (link)
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They make a cream for nursing mom's: lanolin-based nipple ointment. You can use any kind of lanolin ointment. It does not have to be for breastfeeding moms.
Also, be sure NOT to pick at the scab. You don't want to cause scaring or infections. Since you do have scabbing, you may want to also use an antibacterial ointment (neosporin).
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Okay, so this is just out of curiosity, I would never mess with my birth control because I know that's bad for you. Just to clarify.
But just wondering...
I'm on Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo. It has pills to take every day, then placebo pills to take for the week you have your period.
If someone was to skip the placebo pills and just keep taking the regular pills for two months, say, would they not get their period?
Oh, and also, do I take all 7 placebo pills or just stop taking them once my period's over? (link)
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Women have been doing this for years to delay their period so it doesn't hit a special weekend, a pool party, their honeymoon, their vacation...
Most likely if you skipped your placebo pills and kept taking the birth control pills you would not get your period. BUT, you could still get some light bleeding. Everyone's body reacts differently. I have never delayed an entire month, but I have successfully delayed 1-2 weeks.
The placebo pills can be taken or tossed. They are there just to help you keep track. So you have three weeks of 'birth control' and one week off.
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I'm starting to pay lacrosse and it invloves a lottt of running. I have really bad asthma and was wondering if there are any foods that can help my asthma? Does anyone have some tips on running with asthma?
Thank you! :) (link)
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Hi. Are you working with a Dr. for help with your asthma?
Lots of asthmatics are athletes.
Here is how I manage mine: First you need two medications. One is a daily, long-acting, medication that controls the bronchial inflammation at the root of asthma (I use Advair) . The other is an inhaled, short-acting ("reliever") medication for when you are in trouble (I use Maxair).
You MUST take the FIRST medication religiously. I take mine 2X a day and I rarely need my rescue inhaler.
I take my Maxair about 15-20 minutes before I workout or play a game and I don't usually need it during.
Always have your inhaler with you and be aware of your triggers- cold weather, running, etc. and take it as soon as you feel symptoms.
Foods: Not a lot of research has been done on DIET and Asthma links, but I did find a few suggestions:
1. Limit salt intake and salty foods.
2. Eat more fish and/or take fish oil supplements.
3. Since Asthma is an inflamatory desease, antioxidants vitamins (C -500 mg/day and E - 33 IU/day) have been studied and found helpful.
4. Caffeine supplementation has been used by athletes for many years for asthma.
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My only bestfriend has been talking to this guy that I like alot lately. I really do like him, he's such a great guy. Well my friend and I were talking last night about her talking to him a little bit. Now talks to all the guys in our group A LOT. The problem isnt exactly that she talks to them alot. It's that they tell her so many things. Like when my friend,we'll call her A, and my other friend, we'll call him K, were going out K would tell my best friend things that he didnt even tell A. I dont know I just don't think that's right. It really bugs me that all the guys in our group talk to her and tell her things that they don't even tell their own girlfirends. I mean i'm glad that they can open up to her about things, but well I don't know it just really bugs me. My friend always does this, I say I like a guy and then she wants to talk to him all of a sudden. Not to mention the fact that she flirts with them. The guy that I really like, well she flirts with him constantly, she even told me she does, she also has a boyfriend so that definitely doesnt make sense to me. I just don't know what to do about it. She said she just gets along better with the guys, and I could have understood that, but the fact that she flirts with them, even though she knows that I really like them, I don't understand that. I don't know what to do. What do you think of this, what should I do. I'm just really scared of losing him to her. I really don't want that to happen. Plus I don't like her flirting with so many people even though she has a boyfriend. She even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend, and then if he gets the least bit upset about it she just tells him to stop being so jealous and that it's nothing. I don't know, help please. Any advice would be greatly appeciated. (link)
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EDITED: WARNING - this reviewer rates with a 1 if you don't agree with her: (example. Oh you are so right. You should stop her from flirting. She has no right to do that...he likes you not her ...blah blah blah...) This gets you a high rating. BUT, if you tell her like you see it with sincere advice she rates a 1. She is too immature to take constructive criticism. EDITED
Wow. A lot of things to address here...
1. Your flirty friend and her BF ... none of your business.
2. How much your flirty friend flirts ... none of your business.
3. What other boys tell her that they don't tell their girlfriends ... none of your business.
4. Who your flirty friend flirts with ... none of your business.
It doesn't matter that you 'don't think it is right'. That is your own code of ethics and you can't FORCE her to behave the way YOU think she should.
She probably does get along better with guys. Most girls are threatened, jealous and disapprove of her, and guys love the attention she gives them (and she loves the attention she GETS from them.)
Now - your personal friendship with this flirty friend - THIS is your business and you have every right to set boundaries as it affects you directly.
You need to tell your flirty friend you REALLY like this guy and IT HURTS YOU when she flirts with him. She may reply that it doesn't mean anything and you shouldn't be upset - then you can point out if it doesn't mean anything, then she shouldn't mind backing off.
Also, give the guys some credit. Unless they are thinking with the wrong head, they see her for what she is. Guys enjoy a flirt, but it doesn't mean they take a chronic one seriously. They know they aren't the ONLY guy she is flirting with. They know for her, flirting doesn't equal interest.
It sounds like you are at a point where you need to re-evaluate this friendship. You have to either accept her as the flirt she is ... or decide you need a different kind of a friend. Because you can't change her. Her flirting is filling a need she has for attention.
There is also the 'can't beat 'em, join 'em' rule of thumb. Take lessons from the master and learn a little about how to flirt yourself. Because as soon as you get this girl out of your life, there will be another one flirting her ass off right behind her.
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i have been friends with taylor on and off for more than two years. me and a few frriends will stay over her boyfriends house on weekends and part there random weekdays too. we always have a lot of fun, we are all exactly alike and just wild teenagers and twenty yearolds. i was shopping with our friend melissa last night and she told me thattaylor told her a story of how one day taylor was in stop and shop and when she came out i put condoms all over her car as a joke and she had to pick all of them up..., never happened. she also told melisaa that one time i put a bumpersticker on her car that said somehting funny.. never happened. and she also tellls me she has her nipples pierced but she tells me not to tell anyone else. so she clearly doesnt. she also told melissa i called her a pervert because she madeout with a 17yearold. and to be honest i dont care, its sort of funny. there are so many more stories like that, its just so aggravating. what can we do? (link)
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You can't change your friend ... if she is the type to make up stories to appear clever, funny, interesting, etc... then that is who she is.
Honestly, none of the examples you gave looked like she was trying to make someone look bad. (The pervert thing was in a gray area).
You have a group of people you hang with and enjoy - just know there is 'always one in every group'. Enjoy the things you like about her - and then don't believe a word she says! Why cause drama by confronting her?
Chill, have fun. It isn't like her exaggerations are changing your life in any way.
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Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f. (link)
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First. You are not a horrible person ... you let your emotions flip/flop, you caved and convinced yourself you MUST like him because you missed him ... now that the panic and loneliness has passed, your head is clearer and you are regretting your decision.
I am assuming when you say you "don't like him" you mean you "don't like him romantically", but you DO like him as a friend and you want to continue the friendship.
I am also assuming you are willing to BE a friend, and you aren't just keeping him around to feed your own ego - just have someone around that you can talk to. I am also assuming you are there for HIM too.
The worst possible thing you can do is nothing: Don't just keep pretending romantic interest. Don't date him to avoid hurting his feelings. Don't continue to let him think he has a chance to mean more to you than he does. In the end, this approach will crash and burn. But don't be brutal and cruel either.
Tell him honestly you don't know where your feeling are. Sometimes you are interested to see if/where this can go - and other times you want to keep this firmly in the friendship box. Apologize and tell him you KNOW this isn't fair to him but you PROMISE to continue to be honest.
Even though you want to continue to be his friend, he may get tired of waiting on you and move on. He may feel jerked around or have no interest in a platonic relationship with you.
If he does move on, you have to accept it and let him go so he can be happy with someone that IS interested in him.
It will also open up your world for the right guy for you too.
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I met this friend when we were 14 (25 now)and we were really really close for a few years, but I felt like she was using me, then we went our separate ways for about 8 or 9 years. Well a few years ago we started hanging out together and everything was fine for a while, but now she never wants to hang out and she never calls unless she wants something. I bend over backwards for this friend, and I don't mind doing things for her, but I just feel like she's using me again. I honestly don't want to be friends with her anymore, but I feel REALLY guilty because we've gone through this before and this woman, she's had a really hard life. She tells me all the time she's never had a friend treat her as good as I do. I don't think she's selfish on purpose, I think she doesn't know any better. I've told her twice before how I feel but she tries to turn it around and make it sound like I'm making her feel uncomfortable or unwanted.
I stood by her side non stop for a week when her son died in a car accident, I quit my job and babysat for her other five year old son for $20/week and when she got pregnant recently I threw her a huge baby shower.. I have literally given this woman the coat off my back and I just feel like she uses me, but I don't want to hurt her. What should I do? I've tried confronting her and nothing changes. (link)
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There is an old saying that I think is very true:
"YOU teach people how to treat you"
I don't see that she is so much as using you- as she is a 'high needs' type person. A lot has happened in her life that you decided to assist her with.
Her son dying is tragic ... of course as a friend you were there for her.
Quitting your job to babysit for her?? You need to remember why you thought that was a good decision at the time. If it was the right thing to do at that time, why are you questioning it now?
The baby shower thing ... another thing you typically do for a best friend.
Is she asking you to do these favors you later resent, or do you volunteer yourself? Do you do these things in anticipation of her appreciation? Is she disappointing you with a lower level of gratitude than you expected.?
Does she refuse to do the same for you in return, or have you ever even asked a favor from her? Perhaps your life is more stable due to circumstance or because you manage your life better. Maybe you are more independent and hesitate to ask for her attention or favors.
Remember, she may not be as good as you are in anticipating what someone needs, so you may need to be more forthcoming in what you expect FROM her. She could also be so wrapped up in her own drama that she doesn't see the needs of others around her. You may simply need to speak up.
If you really do feel used, then this is a one-sided relationship and not healthy. Examine your motives for allowing her to use you. Set some boundaries so you don't feel used later. If she is using you (unintentionally or not) - and you don't allow it - then she will move on and find someone else she can dump her load off on.
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Hi um it also has to be something I can cofortably move around in not like big, but maybe somethething that has stretch to it so my arms aren't locked in. (link)
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Are you comfortable in sleeveless dresses? Most all party dresses are sleeveless.
It is easier and more comfortable to wear a dress with wider straps so you can wear a regular bra, vs a strapless that you are always tugging up.
Plus, if you are dancing, you don't want to get hot.
Macys has a dress called 'Love Tease Pleated Dress', with wider straps, Pleated at bust; padded for shape, short (knee), pleated 'shirt' with a empire waist and beading just under the bust line. This style dress covers any tummy, gives you a figure by hugging the smallest part of the body, and still covers you well up top without making you look like a nun. It is on sale for around $52.
If you have time you can order it on-line, and return it right to the store if it isn't what you like.
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