Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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Why do girls wear tops to flaunt their cleavage? (link)
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Some girls think it is extremely feminine. Others might just like the shirt because it is cute and it happens to show cleavage too. And still others have the if you have it, flaunt it mentality.
It honestly depends on the girl.
Teacup
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Ok well I'm 17 years old. I'm 5'8 and weigh about 132 pounds. I work in retail (so im always walking around) about 3 days a week and about 4 days a week i go to the gym. I eat about 1000 calories a day (max). If I want to lose weight, am i eating too much? and what else can i do to lose weight?
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Well, I spoke to a fitness expert once and she said that the average amount of calories for women is 1600 and the average for men is 1800-2000. So 1000 is probably too little, and eating too little won't help you lose weight either.
Good luck.
Teacup
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ok today me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months , we've had major ups and downs . but latley its just been downs , we love each other very much ; but we are so jelous its creating problems more nad more everyday , i cant even remember the last time we've went the WH0LE day with out one argument . its eaither always over some girl or some boy . we are very jelous & it kills me , we call each other bitches and ass holes it breaks my heart . we know we both love each other very much but we need help . i mean reall good advice . we both dont want this to end but its not lookin good .
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I think all you can do is sit down and have a very long talk. Just discuss everything and try to reach a solution. It is normal to be jealous, but you know you each trust each other and maybe there won't be as many arguments about other girls and other guys.
Just be honest with each other about what you each want and hopefully it will get better.
You should also try to spend a day with each other in which you agree to be disconnected from the rest of the world (well maybe not an entire day, but a few hours), it will help you two remember the good times.
Good luck.
Teacup
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15/F
In school, I'm kind of loserish.
I mean, there are deff people who are huger losers than me, no question.
But I'm def not cool. Like, I've never been to a party or anything(with people from my school).
Outside of school, I'm cool. Like, at camp I'm at least top five most popular girls. I've drank and smoked, just a tiny bit, with people from camp. Most of them live in towns less than half an hour away. I've hooked up with hot guys, and I've turned down a lot of kinda-cute ones. So basically, I'm just a loser in school.
I don't want to sound conceited or anything but I know I'm pretty. I'm not fat, I'm skinny. I dress well.
I thinkkk the reason I am at school is b/c of my friends. I was new in middle school, and I already knew a few people there. They were kinda losers, but I stuck with them. I feel like if I hadn't, I'd have made different friends. I def had opportunities to. Now, I really don't like them too much. They're kinda annoying and suckish friends. Like, I can't tell them anything.
I want a new group of friends. I want to be popular because (a) thats just def better, i mean cuter guys better social life, you know. and (b) the other cliques who aren't popular suck. Like there really isnt anyone else who id ever want to be friends with.
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If the friends you have at school now are not good to you, then don't hang around them. Just make sure it's on the basis that they are not good friends and not because they are not on the social level you want them to be.
Make sure you judge the popular kids on the people they are and not the fact that they are popular. If not you will find yourself being someone you don't want to be.
Either way, I guess just try making new friends. I'm sure if you start making good friends in your classes, they will be more inviting than just if you randomly go up to them.
Good luck.
Teacup
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okay. this is weird so ya =) haha anyways, me and this boy have been on and off since the first week of 7th grade and now we are in 10th grade. we were about to go out again but then he was saying he just wanted to do stuff and if i didn't do anything with him then we couldn't go out so i was like okay bye. but now he has a girlfriend. and he was telling me he liked me and he doesn't care for his girlfriend at all and he is using her for sex. so i saved the conversations on AIM of that and then one day she im'd me calling me a bitch and stuff and i told her how he doesn't really like her and showed her the conversation and she still didn't believe me. and in gym class we are doing dancing right now and we told eachother we would be eachother's partner. so we were dancing and like kept touching me everywhere and i was like stop you have a girlfriend and he waslike so she won't find out and i was like just admit it you don't love her he goes so what and then she im'd me again today saying hey bitch so i was like why are you so mean and she was like cause you're a liar i was like no you just chose not to believe me and she was like no i believe my boyfriend over you and i was like well you don't really know him she goes i know him better than u i was like right i've been with him since 7th grade she goes he has changed i was like for the worse now all he does is cheat on his girlfriends. which is true. and she told him i guess and he im'd me any started yelling at me and told me to never talk to him again and i shouldn't be telling her that. was i wrong to tell her??and what should id o!!?!!?!??!! (link)
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I don't think you were wrong in telling her. She IMs you and calls you a bitch, and you didn't want him to be all over you because of his girlfriend.
You should probably steer clear from both of them and save yourself a lot of drama. Just don't involve yourself in it. I went through a lot of drama over a boy in high school, and it was so messy and it ruined a lot of things. So don't even worry about it. Ignore it. Block her from your buddy list so she won't IM you. Ignore him or even block him so you don't get caught in the middle again.
And I know it is hard to let go of someone that you have been involved with for such a long time. But seriously take your time and think of whether or not this guy is worth involving yourself with, if he were to be single again and were pursuing you. He is willing to cheat on his girlfriend, he lied and he is using a girl for sex, how demeaning is that?
Good luck.
Teacup
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over the summer, me and this boy Cody were "talking" and i was completely in love with him and i hate when people throw that word around. i mean we were on the phone till like three or four in there was one time we were on the phone for seven hours straight. : )and he said he loved me too. well we slowly stopped talking. then a lil after school started he started dating this other girl Danielle again. they had dated before, but they broke up because she started this fake rumor about how he got her pregnant when they didnt even do anything. well i got kind of mad at him for obvious reasons. well he called me one day and said that he didnt want me to be mad at him and wanted to work out and stuff like that. then he said "well if if makes you feel better, me and Danielle aren't doing too well." i told him that i wanted him to be happy, so that didn't really make me happy but i did kinda get my hopes up. well, they're still together and i think i still love him. i think about him all of the time and i dont know what to do. i want to call him and ask him if he still has feelings for me but im scared to feel like an ass. please help. (link)
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Sorry. Boys can be so unpredictible.
You are in a tough spot. Because he can either say no and you may feel bad, but if he says yes there isn't anything you can do if he is still with Danielle.
Maybe wait a little and see if they do break up, if they do then ask him. But in the meanwhile, try to limit your contact with him and it will help you with not having feelings for him. That way if things do work out with him and Danielle, you would have already moved on.
Good luck.
Teacup
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So this kid likes me. But i heard this other girl likes him, and he likes or liked her back .. im not sure. But i know she still does. And I don't know how long he's liked me for.. he knows my best friend because they went to school together and he texts her all the time to find out if i like him back .. but thats all he texts her about..&he also texted my other friend that he knows i talk to all the time to find out if i like him. he says we should hang out soon and all that -- last night my 2 friends told me that they only think he likes me because i drink& smoke .. and he that he thinks im easy .. but he's a really nice kid and i wouldnt expect him to only like a girl for that reason.. -- do you think he likes me or .. ? (link)
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Well based on the information your provided, it's hard to draw any conclusions. But if he is always asking about you, then he is definitely interested.
The only thing I could suggest you do is get to know him and decide for yourself what kind of guy he is.
Good luck.
Teacup
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im 13, female. and i have a few extra " fat " on my thys, and my sthomach, and i dont really like it. my mom says that its not fat, its just muscle that needs to be toned. i dont know how many calories i have a day. um...i usually dont eat breakfast, i eat lunch, usually a mustard and cheese sandwich on weat, chips, a soda, and thats about it for lunch, and my grandma just cooks full meals for dinner. i drink about...maybe....5 or 6 cokes a day. im 5'4".i had a BMI at school, and they said that i was 117. my mom dosent belive it though cause they always say that im over weight. i dont exercise, although, every night, i go out and take a walk. thats really the only exercise that i get. i spend alot of my free time on the computer. i dont get enough sleep. am i SERIOUSLY out of shape, and do i need to start exercising? what can i do, cause i really want to make my stomach flat, and my thys firm...or whatever.....(lol)
any help will do. thanks alot!!!
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Five or six cokes a day is an awful lot. Once my doctor told me that it took an hour of cardio to work out a can of coke. That really scared me.
You have to eat breakfast, because this is slowing down your metabolism. Drink less coke, until you eventually barely drink it. You also need to sleep more.
If you want a flat stomach and firm thighs, you are going to have to exercise. Since you already go walking, maybe you should try going jogging. Make sure you stretch before.
Good luck and just try to remain strong and you will get the results you want.
Teacup. =]
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How do people pay for college? It's so expensive and I'm starting to get accepted and I'm not sure what to do. We don't have that much money but thousands of people go every year. Any advice? (link)
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Make sure you apply for financial aid. I come from a one-parent household, and I currently go to college. Everything is paid for.
http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/
Check in your school, with your college advisor and see if they have scholarships to apply to.
Also try fastweb.com
Good luck!
Teacup
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WHat can i get or make a girl for christmas? (link)
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If you are going to buy her something...and you don't know her exact style, you could get help from one of her friends or a gift card (although I find these to be a tad impersonal)
You can make her (and I am assuming she is a girlfriend type):
-an album of pictures
-you can draw a picture of her
-make her a card
-if you are handy with tools, maybe you can make her a simple jewelry box
-a candle
here's a website that gives plenty of homemade gifts...it even shows you how to do it.
http://familyfun.go.com/arts-and-crafts/season/specialfeature/holiday_gifts_ms/
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Which is much better between the 2?
A.) A guy/girl who will love you but you don't love/like him/her
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B.) A guy/girl that you love/like you, but does not
love/like you
( I know that's it's better when you like each other but the question ask which one is better between the 2) (link)
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I'd rather like/love someone and not have it reciprocated than have someone have feelings for me and have me not feel anything for them.
I'd rather go through the pain than put someone else through it. I wouldn't want to feel bad for flirting with someone because that persons feelings will be hurt.
Teacup
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ok so i really fell hard for this guy and he liked me too till this other girl came around.
we have some history so i thought he wouldnt go for her.
but he did.
now hes going out with her.
they started going out today.
how do i win him back with out making a fool of myself?
this girl is ten times prettier then me.
but ive known him way longer.
shes known him for maybe a week or two.
ive known him for almost a year.
we were great friends then we told eachother that we liked eachother.
i fell for him.
i told him i fell for him and that i love him and hes asked how i knew i loved him and its just something a girl knows.
but i dont know how to win him back cuz him mom doesnt like me at all.
thats the reason he wouldnt go out with me in the first place.
but i need to know how to win him back.
HELPPPP!!!
before its too lateee.
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I'm sorry.
I honestly do not think there is anything you can do. As much as it sucks, you can't get someone to do what you want. The only thing I would suggest is just asking him what happened and why he chose to be with her. It will at least give you an understanding or closure. But in the meantime, I don't think this is something you should put yourself down for...don't compare what you look like to other girls. If he chose her because she is "prettier than you"...then he is not worth it. A real guy will find the inner you more beautiful than the outer you.
If you two are meant to be together...it will happen.
Think about it this way...would you want a date a guy who can't decide on his own who he wants to go out with or one whose mom tells him what to do.
Good luck and I hope it works out well for you.
Teacup
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I finished my college admissions essay and I'm about to send it online but what format should I use like where should I put my name and should I add anything else besides the title? (link)
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Do you need to put your name on it? I thought you wouldn't since it's with the rest of your application. If you do need to put it...I guess the top right corner would be fine. Either way, I'm sure they won't care too much about that.
Good luck with your applications.
Teacup
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okay, well... i started my period on December 3rd, and it's about to end today... which is December 6th. while i was on my period.. like.. since day one. i had a REALLY heavy flow.. i mean.. gross you know? lol. is it normal if it ended early since i had a heavy flow? (link)
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I would think so. Especially if you are a little younger, periods tend to be...I guess you can say...unpredictible.
I usually have a pretty heavy flow on my first day, and mine lasts 4 days.
=]
Teacup
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I'm on my second Xbox and the warranty is expired,so I can't get it replaced.I was going to get one for Christmas but I'm not so sure that I want to keep shelling out money for a faulty piece of hardware that could just die on me whenever it feels like it.I'm considering getting a PS3 instead but I'm not positive.
People that have a PS3:What makes it better than the 360 and do you regret buying it?
People that have both:Which do you prefer and why?Would getting a PS3 over a new 360 be a bad choice? (link)
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Well, I don't know much about these things, but my boyfriend had an xbox 360, and he eventually got fed up with it. He said the games were pretty limited. He got a PS3 several months ago, and he loves it.
All I can tell you about it, from having played very few games on it is that it's a very pretty console.
Obviously my knowledge is very limited and not very worthy, soo I found these two articles that I thought would be more helpful. It's a video game developer...his initial feelings when he compared the two, and then his response a year later in November. Hope this helps.
Either way, Merry Christmas! =]
http://www.hardcoreware.net/playstation-3-vs-xbox-360-one-year-later/
http://www.hardcoreware.net/reviews/review-348-1.htm
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Alright, I've been looking into this univeristy that seems to be a good option for me, but other than the large classes there is just ONE big problem, the girls are all beautiful. I've always been extremely self-conscience and obsessed with looking beautiful, and I've been miserable the last 3 years because my classmates have all been models. Since all I ever hear about this uni is "the girls are amazing" "its very competitive to get guys since they have so much to choose from" I'm a bit hesitant about even applying - especially since I know that when I go to states like New Jersey I always get tons of attention for my long curly hair and "nice ass" (Im more of the latin type of beautiful) but the state I'm considering is mainly into the beach blonden type of beautiful.. Im just so afraid of being an outcast, or considered ugly, or even just average. Should I even apply? (link)
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YES! The truth is, there will be beautiful girls everywhere. I am Hispanic and the college I go to has a lot of pretty blonde girls and it's fine. I don't worry about it because in the end you are there for your education and being intimidated by "beautiful girls" hardly matters.
Go for this school if it is important to you. You will regret it later. Good luck and don't worry about those girls. Remember Latin type of beautiful can be more beautiful than typical beautiful.
Teacup
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Okay, well i like this guy. His name is Pete. Well My friend Jes liked pete FOREVER and i had to hide that i liked pete from her, til she got a bf and i told her and shes like i still like him but w.e. Well, i told my other friend Leah, and she was like he doesnt want a gf. But i told him i loved him anyway. He said he loved me too, and i didnt ask him out because i hate asking guys out, i mean, since he loved me, he would ask ME out right? He did, but he seemed hesitant when he did. Well, one day, when i was supposed to have lab durring lunch, i walked in regular time, because it was cancelled, and i saw Leah all over him and trying to get him to hook up with her, and she was sitting on his lap and he was like pushing her off him. Leahs one of my really close friends and when i confronted her about it, she said he was all over me and said that you siad you didnt like him and then when he saw you he got weird. Well i really love this guy. I have for about a year, and asked him out before but he said no, so this is a big deal. I dont know who to believe bc he couldve seen me, bc i wasnt looking at him for a minute, i was talking to my friend. Idk, should i break it off? or should i not talk to my friend? Help, and thanks in advance.
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Well, I can't really tell you if he is responsible. But, if Pete did tell Leah to sit on his lap, she didn't have to do it. As far as you did see, it is her fault.
Was there anyone else around? Try to find out through them what they saw. However, Leah doesn't seem like a friend if she would sit on your guys lap. It is just not right.
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well, the title says it all. guys don't find me attractive. don't get me wrong, i'd know if i was hideous, but i'm not. all my girl friends say i'm gorgeous, but guys just don't. i have like big boobs and stuff and i'm pretty thin i have pretty clear skin, i'm kinda pale but i don't know what it is. can someone give me an explanation on why or how i can fix this?
ps. i'm really outgoing and flirty with guys... usually. but i recently moved so i kinda lost my flare. (link)
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If you are still in high school, it is probably just immaturity on the guys part. They look for easy girls, and that's what most care about. If not, it could be that you intimidate guys or they think of you as too much of a friend.
You can try asking a guy out, going out with a guy that you don't go to school with, or just wait it out.
Good luck and I hope you get your flair back.
Teacup
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i really really really like this boy, but he is 2 yrs older then me and my bros best friend. we tease eachother, hav nicknames and when we c eachother in da hall @ skool we "accidentally" bump in2 eachother. But i dont know if he likes me? HELP (link)
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Well, he definitely likes you as a person if he playfully jokes around with you. As far as whether or not he likes you romantically is hard to tell because boys are difficult. But, I would say it leans more towards yes he likes you than no he doesn't. Seems like he is at least interested. I guess just see where it leads.
Good luck and I hope the feeling is mutual. =]
Teacup
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Is there anyway to tighten the upper inner thigh muscle or more importantly tighten up a vagina? I work as a young model and I'm very self-concious about posing in bikinis because I've been told my groin area sags. I have a great body otherwise, so I feel that part of me is unproportional. Is there anything I can do? Keep in mind I'm only 16. (link)
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Kegel exercises are said to be good for vaginal prolapse. Maybe it will help.
Good luck.
Teacup
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