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In school, I'm kind of loserish.
I mean, there are deff people who are huger losers than me, no question.
But I'm def not cool. Like, I've never been to a party or anything(with people from my school).
Outside of school, I'm cool. Like, at camp I'm at least top five most popular girls. I've drank and smoked, just a tiny bit, with people from camp. Most of them live in towns less than half an hour away. I've hooked up with hot guys, and I've turned down a lot of kinda-cute ones. So basically, I'm just a loser in school.
I don't want to sound conceited or anything but I know I'm pretty. I'm not fat, I'm skinny. I dress well.
I thinkkk the reason I am at school is b/c of my friends. I was new in middle school, and I already knew a few people there. They were kinda losers, but I stuck with them. I feel like if I hadn't, I'd have made different friends. I def had opportunities to. Now, I really don't like them too much. They're kinda annoying and suckish friends. Like, I can't tell them anything.
I want a new group of friends. I want to be popular because (a) thats just def better, i mean cuter guys better social life, you know. and (b) the other cliques who aren't popular suck. Like there really isnt anyone else who id ever want to be friends with.
Advice?
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You need to take a look at what you're asking here.
You're 'not cool' because you don't drink or smoke? Since when did that become the definition of cool? I guess I'm still a loser, because I'm 20 and I don't smoke, and only drink casually (and legally). Hmm.
Seriously, you have to grow up and stop using Hollywood as your basis of comparison.
Maybe the reason you can't tell your friends anything is the fact that you think they're losers. I had friends in middle school who, all of a sudden, got too 'cool' for me. Now, ironically enough, they're the ones getting pregnant, doing drugs and just generally becoming the laughingstock of the people I knew back then.
You want to be popular because:
a) That's just definitely better.
No, it isn't. I didn't have a 'popular' group of friends in high school. I hung out with the kids who had fun, and enjoyed being the age we were. They were hardworking but still social, and had their priorities straight. We still had parties, but there was more ice cream and games, and less vomiting and hangovers. I'm still friends with them. The popular kids (at least the one you seem to want to become) go through life using everyone they come into contact with in order to move further up the social ladder. It's sick. No matter what these shows like "Gossip Girls" or whatever else you've been watching say, it's not the right way to be, and you're a worse person for behaving like this.
b) The other cliques suck.
Try not being in a clique. Most of my friends were from various social groups. I was friends with the kids who played Magic cards under the basement stairs, and I was friends with the people on student council. Nobody excluded me for not dressing a specific way, or for not declaring myself a part of one specific group.
My suggestion: grow up, and take a look around you. These people aren't just your pawns. Try making friends for the right reasons. Because you have fun together. Because you can talk to them for hours and not even notice. Because you can accept them for who and what they are. Because you have something in common beyond what brand of clothes you wear.
Just think about it.
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You are far better off not basing social status when trying to make new friends.
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If the friends you have at school now are not good to you, then don't hang around them. Just make sure it's on the basis that they are not good friends and not because they are not on the social level you want them to be.
Make sure you judge the popular kids on the people they are and not the fact that they are popular. If not you will find yourself being someone you don't want to be.
Either way, I guess just try making new friends. I'm sure if you start making good friends in your classes, they will be more inviting than just if you randomly go up to them.
Good luck.
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