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Q: 13/female
Okey dokey...I've know this guy for like 2 years now and we pretty much everything bout each other! He's a few years older then me and I really like him! Right now we are just extrem good friends! He has a girl friend but yet we talk on the phone for like 3 hours every other night or so and we talk about how we wanna have sex with each other and everything! So what should I do?? Lol

You need to cut the line a little with this guy. He shouldn't be leading you on by talking to you on the phone for three hours while talking about intimate things. He has a girlfriend.

You shouldn't be doing things with him or to him that you wouldn't with any other normal guy friend. At least until him and his girlfriend break up.

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Q: My boyfriend's little sister recently got a puppy.

She's getting mad at me because the puppy is getting more attached to me. She always tries to go to me when she gets the chance.

But I don't even play with her really. She just sleeps.

I get to watch her in the morning while his sister is at school. And still, she just sleeps.

And because she's afraid of being alone at night, I have to stay up for most of the night while watching her sleep on my bed. She wakes up every so often.

His sister treats her like a toy most of the time. She also doesn't want me to play with her when she is home and even when she's not paying any attention to her. (Because it's her puppy, not mine!)

And she has come running into my room several times already. Trying to get away from her. I feel bad. She tries to get on the bed and I can't let her.

I'm not sure what to do. It's giving me a headache.

She's not listening to what anyone tells her. She forces her to keep playing even when it's obvious she wants sleep. She keeps her on her lap and doesn't let her move around. And she carries her everywhere she goes (so I can't take her I guess?)

Everyone else tried to tell her to stop doing the things she obviously doesn't like but she doesn't listen or refuses to believe she's doing something wrong.

She's making me feel bad and tells people the dog doesn't really like me, it's just that she likes everything.

Am I doing anything wrong? It's not like I take her away or tell the puppy to run away from her...

you arn't doing anything wrong
it sounds like you're doing everything right

just stay away from the dog as much as possible

she's only a little kid and it seems like everyone else understands the situation and they know that you arn't trying to get the dog to love you better than the little girl

she'll get over it soon, good luck

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Q: ok so sorry if its long!

So theres always a group in school! and theres a boy lets call him [F) alot of girls dated him! girl after girl after girl! i date him! but i dont like him anymore! now im dating his bestfriend! lets call him (A] he dumped me because,he thought i still liked (F] and that i used [A) to get over (F] but i didtn! but me and [A) got back together today! my friend is mad that we got back together because she said that he was gonna hurt me again nd break my heart once again! nd that im gonna go crying again! i dont knoe what to do! he keeps on telling me he loves me! nd tht he'll never hurt me! but my friends dont believe it! there not happy at all! nd i cant even mention his name! there telling mee to choose between [A) and MY FRIENDS i dont knoe who to pick!

... are you serious.
you don't know who to pick between a dumb guy or your friends...

first off if they were really your friends they wouldn't make you chose.. its not The Hills

secondly .. this guy is going to what last a month or two. then your going to be out of a guy and a friend.

thirdly.. i'd just talk to you friends tell them you apperciate them looking out for you but that you like him and want to give him a second chance and see where it goes and that if they end up being right they can tell you "I told you so"

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Q: 16/f, junior in high school
I'm a member of my school's debate team. We're really, really good and the team has gotten really far and has even won the state championships. Only three members can actually debate at the competitions. Everyone else has to spectate. So, I was a debator last year and did pretty well. This year is my junior year and I just lost focus with it. I had other extacurricular activities to tend to, such as all-state percussion auditions and other musical activities, and I have a lot of schoolwork this year. I only got to argue at one debate this year. Then, my coach replaced me with someone else. Now, I'm not at all complaining about this. I really didn't do so well and he could tell I was really busy with other things and I understand completely. The problem is, now I'm really, really depressed about it. Being a prominent member of this team was my dream since freshman year. The team keeps winning and winning and moving on and they might even be going to states! It absolutely KILLS me to see my friends up there while I'm watching and having the joy and honor of being winners, and having their names announced on the morning announcements, and getting to compete! It's like a crushed dream and I'm extremely jealous. I try so hard to console my self with "look on the bright side" statements such as "I'll do better next year" and "I'm good at other things too" (which I am) but it doesn't work. Not only do I feel like a failure now but I've never been more jealous in my life!! It absolutely kills me now to ever hear ANYTHING about debate team. And it's so selfish, but every time I hear they won, I feel like I'm about to cry or like someone just slapped me in the face. Does anyone have anything they can say to me to make me feel better? Any similar life experiences? I'll appreciate any advice but if you tell me to be happy about the other things I'm good at or that I'll do better next year, it won't work,I try it all the time. I'm a very competitive and jealous person by nature and it kills me to see my peers doing better at something than I do. This is the case with anything, not just debate. But the main issue right now is debate. If you could just give me anything, it would be great. And is there a way I can break this horrible habit of being so jealous ALL THE TIME? thank you so so much and sorry so long.

It seems like you learned your lesson the hard way.
If you really want something then you've got to fight for it. It won't always be handed to you. There isn't anything you can do anymore and you just need to let it go. I'm sorry about your luck. Good luck senior year. Knowing what you do now I'm sure you'll be great.

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Q: my bffe chloe is going off with another girl called tania and she is gonna get into trouble and im just afraid that my bffe will stopping being my bffe. me and my bffe have been friends for 12 years and her mum doesn't like this tania girl. and to be honest i don't shes always threatining me and shes always telling chloe to start with me and just today chloe started trying to hurt this little girl i just want my bffe back not this horrible plastic slut and i want her to just stop being evil and saying she hates her mum for no reason. the reason i hear you ask why i hate tania is because today she pulled the handle down on the quad door and i was stood there and i banged my elbow and i fell and i was upset and in class she said to me that was bloody hilarious and even my bffe laughed.

please help me im really upset

1.I love that your English
2.Stop saying bffe
3.Talk to Chloe

Q: There's this comedy group at our school, and auditions are coming up. We have to write a two minute monologue.

What are some topics I can write a hilarious two minute monologue on? I can't think of anything currently.

Thanks to all who answer.

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Q: 18/f
Ok. SO. Currently I work at GameStop. I've been employed there for about 3 months now, and they have yet to give me more than ONE day a week. Now..being a senior in high school with no car and plans to attend college next year, I need more money than ONE day a week. So I applied at Home Depot. I got an interview tomorrow. Seeing as Home Depot pays $12.00 starting rate, I think it's a great opportunity. Now GameStop has recently started to give me more hours. Now that I got the interview at Home Depot, I feel that I'm basically going behind GameStops back. It's not that I want to quit GameStop, I want both jobs. But say I do get the Home Depot job..How do I explain to my GameStop boss that I have a second job but still want to keep this one? I'm feeling the extreme pressure on how to pay for future bills that include college, insurance, and possibly an apartment. I just want to be financially stable when I graduate high school. I'm basically writing this because I just need some one to talk to that's been through the same thing, or is currently in my situation. I don't know why I'm SO nervous about being in debt. I guess my whole question in this entire paragraph is, How do I explain to my GameStop boss that I still want to work there but I got an interview to work some where else? I want both jobs.

Thanks guys,
-One confused high school senior. =/

You can have two jobs at one time. It's no big deal. GameStop doesn't even need to know about it. Just work out your hours and your good to go. It's even better to have more than one job because you'll be getting more hours when combined.

And if you do have to choose, Home Depot...
it pays more
and plus you'll meet way hotter guys at a construction place than Nerds-Are-Us... no offense.

Q: What would be a good hair lotion to moisterize my hair everyday. There is this olive oil one at a drug store but i do not know if it would be good for my relaxed hair. It is really damaged and i need one with out mineral oil because they said it is bad for hair. also can use use leave in conditioner and hair lotion together? and how often shoud a person use protein treatments?

The best thing to do right now for you hair is to..
drink lots of water
and use shampoo only 2-3 times a week
(shampoo dries out your hair)
but still use conditioner

this should help

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Q: so today i randomly got this like, dark dark brown disharge on my underwear. it wasnt a lot just a little bit. and throughout the day id get little tiny bits of clumps of it. my period has been over for at least 2 weeks, i dont think i could be starting? it smells like cheese.. i havent had sex for at least 2 months so what could this be??

Go type this into google.
It's deffiently not right.

Q: Where can i find Twilight Merchendise in Toronto?
I've looked everywhere.

15/F

You can buy it offline if you can't find it.
But I've seen them at everybook store including Wal-Mart.
You can also reqest it from your local bookstore and they'll let you know when it comes in.

Q: Okay. I'm a female.. Well I have been dating a guy for awhile. And my niece just died. I have been kind of sad, And the guy I'm dating said he has been hearing stuff. Like I don't like him. But I really do. The other day I got a text message from him and it said "It feels like you don't like me anymore." And I want him to believe that I do. But Its hard to convince him because people are still saying that I dont like him. But He's starting to act different around me. Any ideas? :(

You need to just flat out tell him that you like him. You need to tell him that if he loves you and trusts you enough then he shouldn't believe what all the other people are saying but what your telling him.

Don't do it over a txt either. Do it face to face. It'll be more effective.

If you haven't been going out for long then I'd break up. He might just be looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship.

Q: Okay so since the summer I've been losing weight. Before the summer I was 150 pounds. And now I'm 155 pounds except..I'm skinnier than I was before the summer, a lot skinnier. Maybe like 10 pounds. And now I'm 5 pounds more? :-/

Anyways. So since I got back from vacation I've been going to the gym 4-5 times a week. I go on the elliptical for 45 minutes every single time. Then I do 200 crunches and a few weight machines on my arms and legs. I eat healthy too and drink a lot of water. But honestly you'd think I would've lost at least 10 pounds but it really doesn't look that way. I can't get rid of my stomach, and I want a flat, hard stomach. But not abs. These 200 crunches don't do anything for me anymore. Everyone says I do so much, but it's not doing much for me. Any tips on getting a flat stomach and getting rid of love handles? Any good foods to help lose weight?? Please help. I plan on losing 20 pounds before summer rolls around.

Go on youtube and look up 15 min. full body workouts and do those.
They work really well.
You could also purchase a workout tape.

These will just help you to make sure your working your whole body.

Q: I was wondering if anyone here breeds hamsters or knows of anyone that does. Preferably in the lower penninsula please.

If your looking for a hamster to buy why don't you just go to the pet store?

Q: so i really want the blackberry storm
and my plan isnt up yet so my mom wont spend like 500$ to pay for the phone and stufff.
and theres this sight ioffer.com and im prettty sure its the real blackberry storm and its really cheap.

so anyways. i wanna buy that and i was wondering if i buy that and go to verizon. do you think they can still activate it for me and stufff?
thanksss !

I'm sure if you get one they can activate it for you.
Just give them a call first before you buy the phone to make sure it's not a rip off and if it isn't that they can activate it for you.

I'm jealous already!!

Q: 18 years old, female

ohhh boy, i love funny people :) who doesnt? i would say that i can be funny, at times. i commute to college but i did meet like four girls and they are always making me laugh, they are really funny and outgoing but they also know when to be serious. sometimes i feel like i don't fit in though, because they're always acting crazy and making jokes, just being funny and i just sit there and kind of laugh about it, not really getting into the conversations. i love making people laugh, to me that is the best feeling in the world and i know it's hard to tell someone how to be funny but is there ANY WAY i could become more funny, more outgoing and just feel like i'm always having a great time? these girls really do seem like they're always happy because they're always smiling, always cracking jokes and i wish i could be more like that. it's the kind of people you just want to be around because they make you feel good and thats who i want to be. it's not that i don't like myself, but i am one of those people who have trouble keeping a conversation going. i wish i wasn't like that because i don't really like people like that, they're kind of boring. well for all those funny people out there, what do you do? how do you make people laugh, and not care what others think? any stories, or helpful hints would be very much appreciated. thank you!

You should deffiently watch hilarious t.v. shows like The Office or 30's Rock. Shows like that.

Q: F/15
I've failed 9th grade so I'm in my second year of it. I'm currently taking
health and pe 9, english 9, intro to design I, world history and geography part II, biology, and geometry. I know FOR SURE that I want to be a psychologist. I just hope I turn out to actually be one!
But I was wondering what classes I should take next year? I definitely want to sign up for psychology I.

You should go and talk to your guidence counsoler.
She would have the best advice for you.

Q: i don't really like driving with other people, well besides my best friends because there are always awkward silences! like when you're with a boy you like, and you are driving and he is in the passenger seat, it's like we don't really talk? and it's just an awkward silence, and sometimes i will be like "whats wrong" just to say something but i just don't know how to not have awkward silences? it's fine when we're together like at someone's house, but while driving it is really awkward sometimes. does this happen to anyone else? what do you usually say, or do? thanks :)! 18/f by the way

You know I used to always have this happen to me.

But I came to realize that if he's not talking either then it's not your fault.

Like he doesn't mind not talking.
Or he's feeling like he has to fill the space too.

I don't know if you quite understand but basically I don't worry about it anymore but it just isn't me in the car but someone else.

Try turning on the music or play a car game or something simple like that.

Q: I like a guy but im not sure if he likes me back how can i no

If he flirts with you or says he likes you then he likes you.

Q: what is a good age for me to have sex and not be to young but not be too old?

It's not about age.

Q: 13/m
ok so for few years ive been itchy in my genital area ive nevr had sex before or anything like htat but i was watching something the other day and they said that you can have something thats really bad if its itchy there i forget the exact name of it but i heard you can get it by having sex or anything like that so do i have some kind of disease?