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So Jealous-Can't Take It Anymore
16/f, junior in high school
I'm a member of my school's debate team. We're really, really good and the team has gotten really far and has even won the state championships. Only three members can actually debate at the competitions. Everyone else has to spectate. So, I was a debator last year and did pretty well. This year is my junior year and I just lost focus with it. I had other extacurricular activities to tend to, such as all-state percussion auditions and other musical activities, and I have a lot of schoolwork this year. I only got to argue at one debate this year. Then, my coach replaced me with someone else. Now, I'm not at all complaining about this. I really didn't do so well and he could tell I was really busy with other things and I understand completely. The problem is, now I'm really, really depressed about it. Being a prominent member of this team was my dream since freshman year. The team keeps winning and winning and moving on and they might even be going to states! It absolutely KILLS me to see my friends up there while I'm watching and having the joy and honor of being winners, and having their names announced on the morning announcements, and getting to compete! It's like a crushed dream and I'm extremely jealous. I try so hard to console my self with "look on the bright side" statements such as "I'll do better next year" and "I'm good at other things too" (which I am) but it doesn't work. Not only do I feel like a failure now but I've never been more jealous in my life!! It absolutely kills me now to ever hear ANYTHING about debate team. And it's so selfish, but every time I hear they won, I feel like I'm about to cry or like someone just slapped me in the face. Does anyone have anything they can say to me to make me feel better? Any similar life experiences? I'll appreciate any advice but if you tell me to be happy about the other things I'm good at or that I'll do better next year, it won't work,I try it all the time. I'm a very competitive and jealous person by nature and it kills me to see my peers doing better at something than I do. This is the case with anything, not just debate. But the main issue right now is debate. If you could just give me anything, it would be great. And is there a way I can break this horrible habit of being so jealous ALL THE TIME? thank you so so much and sorry so long.
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things can pilr up if you have to much to do looks like its a sign that you need to slow down worry about the school work trust me I did some things in high school like chior drama but it up set me one year my choir teacher said i wa no good so I just went on did my school work so i did my talent art after i graduated in 2003 went to art instuction school. winnig not every thing its when your out of school when the fredom come I became a pluzsize model and a artist in one I work hard do things you wanna do be cofedent be happy dont let people get in your way do your school work because it in the end it worth it you in college thier more to do they dont shuve thing in your face they give you time you no your good some time you have to let things go and move on if you lose somthing you get somthing back. thier more to life but life is short and its good to be a girl do somthing for you self if some thing are getting in the wat get your hair done do somthing thier more to life then the made of things in life when your the real person your self hope this helps wake in the morning and say im wonderful and im going to have a good day im not going to let ay thing get in my way
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I read your question twice. I noticed, the two key words you used were Competitive and Jealousy. Being competitive is a good possitive quality. It makes us want to strive do better and succeed. However, jealousy can be unhealthy, and a sign of insecurity. We all have it to some degree. You mentioned you are feeling this emotion of Jealousy All The Time. It isn't a habit... You may want to think about how this is interfering with you not only in debate, but with your relationships, etc. You might want to consider some counseling. I think this would be of great benefit to you. You sound like you have alot on your plate. Good Luck
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It seems like you learned your lesson the hard way.
If you really want something then you've got to fight for it. It won't always be handed to you. There isn't anything you can do anymore and you just need to let it go. I'm sorry about your luck. Good luck senior year. Knowing what you do now I'm sure you'll be great.
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well insted of focousing on the jelasnes try thinking about somthig else like yea your coach swith you but dont think about the bad break the jealos with proudnes as people has told me hope i helped
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