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16/f, junior in high school
I'm a member of my school's debate team. We're really, really good and the team has gotten really far and has even won the state championships. Only three members can actually debate at the competitions. Everyone else has to spectate. So, I was a debator last year and did pretty well. This year is my junior year and I just lost focus with it. I had other extacurricular activities to tend to, such as all-state percussion auditions and other musical activities, and I have a lot of schoolwork this year. I only got to argue at one debate this year. Then, my coach replaced me with someone else. Now, I'm not at all complaining about this. I really didn't do so well and he could tell I was really busy with other things and I understand completely. The problem is, now I'm really, really depressed about it. Being a prominent member of this team was my dream since freshman year. The team keeps winning and winning and moving on and they might even be going to states! It absolutely KILLS me to see my friends up there while I'm watching and having the joy and honor of being winners, and having their names announced on the morning announcements, and getting to compete! It's like a crushed dream and I'm extremely jealous. I try so hard to console my self with "look on the bright side" statements such as "I'll do better next year" and "I'm good at other things too" (which I am) but it doesn't work. Not only do I feel like a failure now but I've never been more jealous in my life!! It absolutely kills me now to ever hear ANYTHING about debate team. And it's so selfish, but every time I hear they won, I feel like I'm about to cry or like someone just slapped me in the face. Does anyone have anything they can say to me to make me feel better? Any similar life experiences? I'll appreciate any advice but if you tell me to be happy about the other things I'm good at or that I'll do better next year, it won't work,I try it all the time. I'm a very competitive and jealous person by nature and it kills me to see my peers doing better at something than I do. This is the case with anything, not just debate. But the main issue right now is debate. If you could just give me anything, it would be great. And is there a way I can break this horrible habit of being so jealous ALL THE TIME? thank you so so much and sorry so long.
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well insted of focousing on the jelasnes try thinking about somthig else like yea your coach swith you but dont think about the bad break the jealos with proudnes as people has told me hope i helped
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