My name is Lacey, I'm 22. 4th yr in college. I like to give advice. I try to be a good person.I'm a very outspoken and honest person.I honestly been through alot throughout my years of dating and taking peoples stuff.I play softball and use to play volleyball.I've been playing softball since I was about 5.And I played volleyball since 7th grade til sophomore year in HS.But that's really it.If you want to know more about me or have any questions.Go for it and ask away.Either message me or IM me sometime.BYEEE!
E-mail: lacey.simmons8@yahoo.com
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OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.
but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.
I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why? (link)
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Well you need to accept it. You should be understanding and you seem like you should wait for all that anyways, your vocabulary isn't up to what should be a older adult,But back to subject. Look, she has been raped and you need to comfort her and not try to make her do something she doesn't want to do. When she's ready she will move forward, but in the meantime, be happy with what you got.
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Me and my old boyfriend went through alot of tough situations. He had hit me before and was very controlling so I broke it off. I told him we could be just friends but now its to the point where I dont even want to talk to him. But everytime I see him, I cant get over him. I'm still in love with him but I know the relationship was hurting more than it helped. I can't even remember how to be single since I haven't been single for almost a year and a half. I always have the need to be in a relationship because I hate being alone. I'm not hanging out with him this weekend and I wanted to know what are some things to do to keep him off my mind/get over him. I'm 15/f. Thanks. (link)
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First off, good job. Alot of people either can't get out of the relationship or they are too naive to let go. You have to accept the fact that your relationship wasn't going anywhere and keep telling yourself that you are way better off without him and pick out all the flaws he has to get over easier.Also, you need to keep yourself busy with other stuff. That goes for have a girls night out or go to the movies , even go out with another guy, that will probaly help. If you ever do think about him, discipline yourself and think of something else. Time is the key though, you need to be patient and keep shooting forward and never look back. Hope I helped. If you need futher advice or any other advice be sure and message me.
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Me and my boyfriend are real serious. We been datin for a year and 2 monthes.
Weve had a lot of problems.
Stuff in the beginning wasnt so great.
(stuff went around that he touched another girl... and about around our 9 months i found a note between him and her,talkin bout her sittn on his lap. etc.)
He used to hang out with a lot of people that smoked weed,and did a bunch of other stuff.
Hes always gotten on me for doing that stuff. And he said he wouldnt do it again.
One day his neighbor, and friend asked me if i wanted a puff (of his ciggarette) and i said no. he asked why. and i said because he (my boyfriend) doesnt want me too.) he said why he does it.
i asked my boyfriend about it and he said he stopped along time ago.
he stopped hanging out with a lot of the other people who smoked.
Thats when he started to hang out with his sister and her friends. (her friends smoke ciggarettes & weed & drink.)
well one day we were riding in the car with his sister,her boyfriend, and two other people. well his sisters boyfriend sat in front of us. he startd smokin a ciggarette and handin the pack back and my bofriend shot a look to his sister like "what the f*** is he doin" like he wasnt supposed to that when i was around or something.
so then he asked me if i minded if he smoked one. i said no when i really didnt mean it.
Then he asked me if i wanted a puff. (because he knew i used to smoke.)
Hes been hanging out with his sister and her friends a lot. i think he might be smoking with them.
i dont think hes been telling the truth. but everytime i bring it up and say something to him he says he wouldnt lie to me and hell say ive told you before i dont do that s***.
Then he gets all pissed at me.
but i think its because he feels guilty.
Im not sure if im just overreacting or something.
I dont know what to do.
should i tell him how i feel and risk fighting with him?
any suggestions on what to do??
Thanks in advance. (link)
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You need to take control. Bring it up and don't let him take lead. Confront him and take it one on one. Make sure he knows that your serious and that he shouldn't have to hide anything even if it's something the other person doesn't like. It's about trust in a relationship. Try not to attack him, let them him know that you both have to have trust and that you do the same to him and he should be able to tell you anything. I wouldn't blame you for thinking that he might be hiding it. If you have to, catch him doing it, that way you can prove that yall need to work on communication and trust issues. You shouldn't have to hide anything in a relationship, no matter how hard it is to. Just talk to him and compromise. Hope I helped and good luck :]
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well i am dating this guy we have nothing in common but i am attracted to him and i find myself flirting with other guys and not telling guys i am taken when i should be what is wrong with me and what should i do? (link)
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You have mistaken love with lust. You need to seperate the two or you will get yourself seriously hurt. I don't think it is fair to your boyfriend that you are leading guys on and not telling them you are taken. In a relationship your suppose to be physically and personally attracted to them. You have to be honest in a relationship or you both will not get very far at all. Get out of that relationship before you hurt him more. Try to make it clear how you are attracted to someone before you start dating them.Hope I helped :]
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How can I be more of an individual.
I am sick of being like everyone else and doing what everyone else is doing all the time.
What sort of things can I wear so I can have more of an individual style? What accessories could I use?
Do I need to find new interests?
Thanks everyone who can help.xx (link)
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It takes time to find your individual style. You do what you want to do and not do what other people do. Make your own decisions and don't let anyone tell you what to do. If you don't want to wear or do something say no. Wear what you feel like and don't get influenced. That's all there is to it. If you let others depend on what you want then your not standing up for yourself. In order to start being your own person, you have to make your own decisions. And go from there. Hope I helped.
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okay 14/f
I just turned fourteen this month, and I still have never had an actual boyfriend. I havn't really kissed a boy either. I mean not to brag or anything but people tell me I'm really pretty. But I sort of feel lonely because it seems that everyone already has someone, and don't. I'm not one of those people who just go out with people for the heck of it. I just need someone who will make me feel good, because I'm sick of having no one. Please help me! =) (link)
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You shouldn't worry about having a boyfriend.You have to be patient and wait for a guy to come to you. Your smart and not getting a boyfriend every other week. When doing that, you really won't find a decent boyfriend. Honestly, being without one; will cause you to not have so much drama,but it's always nice to have someone. All you really have to do is be patient and don't go out there to look for a boyfriend. They will come to you if they really want to be with you. If your interested in a guy;indicate that you are even a little interested. When guys know you interested, then they will try to figure something about between.Or just start a relationship. Hope I helped. :]
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Hi Again, by the way, i asked my dentist if he would recommend me getting a perminent retainer becasue I first invisalign said that I would have to have the final tray in for 8 years so that my teeth didnt move back to there starting position but now they are saying I will only need 2 years, he said that he did recommend me get them. Did you experience any of this, are you getting a retainer?.. and how long will you have yours in after they are fixed? (link)
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They said about an year. My top are pretty much finished just my bottom has some work. They said that alot of users tend to lose weight or eat less due to trouble of taking them out and brushing your teeth every time. Which is kind of true unless you rarely use them which I don't recommend. I didn't ask about a perminent retainer though. I'm not sure how all that works. But hope it works out for you. You should be getting yours within a week or 2 if they just ordered them. They are really sore and it will be akward the first week, but then you get use to them so don't worry about it.
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Hi...I am planning on getting invisalign, I want it because i don't want the pain from the metal and because I like to idea of being able to remove them to eat and such. My dentist said that I will need buttons becuase my teeth are very complicated. I would like to know if the buttons are very visible and if they damage your teeth after they are removed. Also I would like to know if my teeth will move back to there original place, or should i request to have a perminent retainer put in. I would basically like to know your experiences and if there is anything I should knwo or do. please help me.! (link)
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Well right now I personally have them. If your not at all responsible, then you are kind of screwed. It's alot of responsibility. You take them out with you eat or drink anything except water, and you have to brush your teeth as well as the actual invisalign. Don't ever put them in a napkin or anything like that because chances are.. you'll forget them and throw them away and dig for them later. If you want it to work, take care of your teeth and wear them as much as you can. Even if you are embarrassed of brushing your teeth in the bathroom at school, do it. You'll be glad because it will work and have straight teeth. I will admit that your teeth will be sore for a couple days after you get new trays. Just deal with it. It might be embarrassing when your at lunch, make sure you put your hand over your mouth, they tend to leave saliva off the invisalign. The buttons help, trust me. They kind of noticeable, But not from afar. I had mine since like end of april or beginning of May and I wore them to prom.Their not that noticeable at all. In pictures they actually make them seem whiter. You will notice your teeth will get whiter because you'd be brushing you teeth alot more than usual. If you have anymore questions, be sure and leave me messages. :]
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okay so im asking this guy to snowball obvisouly
im going to his house to do it, but i havent really ever hung out with him befor so im just wondering after i ask him. then wat happens we just stand there?
haha can you give me some ideas (link)
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Why would you do that in the first place, especially if you've never really hung out. Unless you just like to mess around I suggest you not to. I heard from someone it really isn't pleasant...
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well i like this girl she does know i like her from me telling her from a love letter and then from alot of people and now i think she hates me i never asked her should i ask her if she likes me or not and go for it no matter what any one else thinks cause i dont want her to miserable and all her friends hating her for me talking to her or her liking me but when i wait to talk to her she looks pissed off at me and like she doesnt want to talk to me but i mean we look at ecother alot im a runescape person and shes a book person i guess u could say i love her alot but her friend and lots of other girls are trying to talk to me but i hate them all cause b4 they new i liked her they all hated me after school should i go to her locker and talk to her and walk out with her to the buses or wait by a door to talk to her and she works as a lunch worker so she cleans dishes for school during lunch should i talk to her then to god i bet she or her friends think bad about me please help me find out what to do (link)
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If you like her and she seems even a little bit interested then talk to her and give it a chance.Stop being hesistant because you care what people think.It shouldn't matter what people think if you really like a girl.You have to suck it up and just ask her and see how she feels because you shouldn't just wait around and ask yourself if she likes you or not.Out with it and ask her straight up.Hope I helped
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16/f
This is a general question for any type of relationship..
No matter the guys age, if he teases you in a friendly kinda way(like, not mean) does that mean he likes you?
Because, there's this guy that I work with and he was teasing me tonight at work saying I was annoying, but then after he'd smile. Lets not forget to mention that he's gorgeous. He looks like Jesse from the Free Willy movies. And, I'm not that bad myself but whatever.
Could this be a slight sign that he sees something? Like, he asked me to check out his band and when I said I would he was like.. no you won't. And seemed a bit upset.
Thanks. All my love. :) (link)
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Well, he could be flirting, not necessarily interested, But flirt back if you think there could be any connection or future relationship.Take a risk and take it futher and ask questions and act like your interested in something more.Hope I helped. :]
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What are some of the sweetest things your boyfriend has ever done for you...how does he show you he genuinely cares? (link)
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Well one of my ex's.. came after school before work on my birthday to drop off a gift for me for my birthday.There were a dozen roses && expensive necklace ( heart with red rhimstones around the border) && it was pouring down.It was really cute && sweet.. he also was working at kroger for a little bit && he wanted to have lunch with me.So I came to Wendy's (right across the street) && he was running late from work && he wasn't answering his phone so I just walked in there && he was running out the door with a rose.. && I was like wtf?? Haha... && he said.. here you go.. && I ask what that was for && he said just because.. Sorry I was late.It was sweet,But currently my boyfriend always calls me or texts me && asks how my day was.He opens the door for me && tells me he loves me.He goes out his way for me, no matter what he's doing.He always tries to make me smile && succeeds.Generally all that helps me reassure he's a good boyfriend :] Hope I helped.
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Hullo :] 15/f Well, about a year ago, I met a guy online. And I didn't have much friends at that time, so I would be obsessed with talking to him. To the point of staying up till 3 in the morning waiting for him to log in on MSN. He's meaner nnow.....and he changed. He messes with my feelings and hurts me. Okay and so...Now, as I started school. I found that I'm more distracted. And I could seriously not give a shit what he thinks of me anymore. He insults me and makes fun of me. I don't need him. I don't even catch myself thinking about him anymore. He's like an extra unneeded load on my shoulders. My question is...how do I cut him off for good? I don't want to talk to him anymore. How can I do it nicely? Or should I just delete him off MSN..cut him off? Thank you very much. Any advice would be appreciated :] (link)
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Good start by realizing you need to let go.Either you can just stop talking to him completely and not tell him.Or just be straight up with him and figure out why he's acting the way he is and see if he is willing to change or not.If he doesn't and he's just doing it just because, tell him you don't need that.Do whatever you feel like doing.Alot of people have trouble letting go completely and stop talking to them anymore,But when you do..you'll be relieved.Hope I helped and good luck.
-Lacey
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Alright, so to sum this all up, homecoming is 2 weeks away. I am going to Chicago this weekend, and no matter what I am buying a dress, the only problem is that techinally, i dont have an offical date. I have my choices tho:
1) One group of my friends are going with some guys from a differnt city as a huge group date. The only thing is I feel like it would be super awkward because I have never met this kid before, or any of them to be clear. Right now I am not sold on this one
2) Another group of friends are bringing their boyfriends, or good friends from out of college, which for the most part I know well. I talked to my friend today and she said I could possibly go with one of the guys friends. I am feeling more towards this group.
I just need your advice on what you think I should do. (link)
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Don't put yourself in a position to where you uncomfortable and end up having a bad time.Honestly, going without a date isn't so bad.You don't have to worry about upsetting your date and dance with whoever you want,But it's your choice.Do what will be more convienent and comfortable doing.Hope you have fun and good luck! :]
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I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now. He's always been so good to me and I love him so much.
A couple weeks ago, I went on his computer and saw that he left a comment on this girl's picture saying how beautiful she was. I can't explain it, but this literally broke my heart. Probably because it was so unlike him to do something like that. I confronted him about it and he said it didn't mean anything and it wasn't a big deal and he was sorry. I believe him. I really do. But I can't understand why it still hurts me so much to think about it. It still kills me inside even though he really didn't do anything that horrible. Sometimes when I'm talking to him I'll remember what he did and I'll get upset about it all over again and he doesn't understand why it's such a big deal.
Can anyone explain why I can't get through this? I don't want our relationship to all of a sudden be bad over a stupid comment. (link)
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Your jealousy level has increased dramatically without you really knowing it.It's so unlike him giving a "girl" a compliment, when it really wasn't a big deal in the first place.I know you may hate feeling the way you do, you can't help it.You need to explain how your feeling to your boyfriend so he will understand it's not your fault or intentionally trying to hurt yalls relationship.It's okay to feel the way you are.Alot of girls tend to over-react about certain things and you need to learn to accept things and not to worry about the little things.Obviously yall love and care about each other considering how long yall have been together.You need to accept that he's yours and your his.Noone else.If you truely think somethings up, talk to him about it, don't ever hide anything from him.You have to have trust in your relationship or it will fail miserably.Hope I helped :]
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15/m
ive been trough many relationships, im a nice guy siriously, well every girl ive gone out with well they all ended up being bitches or something like that and they all broke up with me for dumb reasons like we wern't french kissing by our third day of going out and stuff like that, but this year i met this girl i thought she was different she told me she liked me but that she couldnt have a boyfreind till shes 16 so i told her i would wait, a few weeks later she told me she rather be freinds i told her it was alright but the other day i found out she has a boyfreind already, my point is, it there any girls out there who arent like that who are nice, pretty smart, and have a great personality? or why is it so hard to find someone like that? (link)
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Well, all you can really do is be patient, and get to know a girl REALLY well before you actually decide to ask her out or get into a relationship.Not all girls are like that.Some we can't do anything about except ignore them.Sorry there's not alot I can tell you.Hope you find a nice girl.Good luck :]
-Lacey
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i am 13 and my mom is a slut. She brings at least five guys a day. when she gets drunk and pass out. the man comes to my room. it is really scary for me. i can never have anyone over my house. My boyfriend really wants to do it with me, but i say no and he doesn't understand why. i don't want to end up like my mother. But i really love my boyfriend. What should i do. i need an outlet. (link)
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I understand why you feel like you need to make better decisions than your mother, But your 13.You shouldn't even consider it at your age.Your boyfriend should realize you are still young.Even if you feel as though your ready, rethink it.Maybe later on you may consider it,But doing that won't make you a slut unless you abuse it and start doing it with numerous guys.Personally, I don't think having sex is a good idea at such a young age, for do not really know what love is.Until you REALLY know what love is then I suggest it.Alot of people regret doing it at such a young age and or with the wrong person.You need to talk to your boyfriend about it and make sure he understands why you wouldn't suggest doing it.I'm sure he'll understand and sorry if it sounds like I'm lecturing you.All I'm doing is trying to help.Hope I helped.
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how would you give a good handjob? (link)
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Well there's not alot to it.Best best is to use lube.Personally I don't.None to my reach.First start off slow, gradually get faster and alternate speed.Whatever you like to do, you could kiss him in between or massage his balls, gentle though because their very sensitive.It depends on what the guy likes and whatever the girl does.Hope I helpedd haha! :]
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im 16/f & school starts in a few days for me. on august 27th & im going to be a junior. & i have so many problems like i can't concentrate & i have ADD. and also i can't remember stuff & i get easily distracted. since i can remember whenever i come home from school i would watch tv. & now i know the password for my computer & can't seem to stop going on. & instead of doing my homework im always doing something & my mom calls me & lie about doing my homework & she finds out when she comes home. because when she comes home i only have on homework done. so what should i do about that? & also theres the part that my friends from my group except for one girl moved away. & so i don't have many friends because everyone at my school thinks im annoying & that im always getting up into their business. & i do do that. so how should i stop doing that? & since the beginning of high school people have been making fun of me for being skinny & hairy. & i always end up getting in fights with them & my parents are getting calls from school about that. in 9th grade i got punched in the eye because i called her skinny & a whore. & for that i've had a bad rep. & i got in another fight with this girl because i over reacted. & then in 10th grade i got in a fight & almost got beat up. so im always getting in fights & i don't want to be that person anymore. what should i do to make friends & get people's respect because i don't want people to think im annoying & rude & make fun of me all th time when they see me. so what should i do?
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I've had the same problem.The resort to ADD is aderal.I use to take it a while back.I stopped in 6th grade though.Just to see if it has an effect on me, Which it did.I just never went back to it.Although I'm thinking I need to.If you do already then try not sitting by your friends and be in the front.Focus and hopefully you'll do okay.As for the computer and tv thing is discipline yourself.Everytime you come home from school.Make sure you finish it then do what you want.That's the only thing I can think of to solve that problem.Once your hooked on the computer, you always tell yourself you'll do it later.. and it end not doing it.Trust me, I know.I'm with youu!Developing friends is just be socialable.Don't hesistate to have a random conversation with anybody either,But don't interrupt someone or they'd think your annoying somehow.Be yourself and be confident.That's really all you can do.Trust yourself and be fun.When you end up in a arguement.Never end it with a fight.Violence will not solve your problems.If you have to.. walk away.That's one of the smartest thing you can do.Don't let them talk down to you and don't you ever go down to their level.Be the better person and walk away.See a counsleor if you must.Make sure you OUT of trouble, rather than in it.Hope I helped and good luck!If you have anymore questions, ask pleasee! :]
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I've answered alot of questions on love and relationships but for once, i don't know what to do.
I've been with this guy for a little over 9 months. We've known each other for a year and that whole time we've had our fights, our moments but always been inlove.
Now, it's changed. What happened was one weekend i wasn't able to see him or talk to him on the phone or computer at all because of my circumstances. After the weekend, i was able to see him again but something was different. I kept asking him what was wrong and he kept saying nothing but it was like he didn't care for me anymore. I asked him if he still loved me and he said he didn't know. It broke my heart.
This continued for about a week and i was bracing myself for the breakup. Then, i decided i couldn't take him anymore and told him it was over but i still wanted to stay friends. He called me the next day crying telling me he couldn't live without me and he loved me still and he was sorry and i was still soo inlove with him that i took him back (we have been through alot of stuff before so i thought it was just one of those days).
Anyways, after about 2 days he was still the same but it was like he was trying to care about me. I asked him what happened and he told me that he missed flirting and being single that he had met some girls the weekend i wasn't able to see him and that he was flirting with them and just wanted to be able to be single again. That totally tore my heart apart. Then he continued that he didn't get that same warm feeling inside that he used to get when he saw me or talked to me.
He said he wanted to be inlove with me again so we gave it a shot. After a week we started to go back to normal but everytime i thought about how he had felt before i could feel my heart breaking over and over again.
Now, he is sort of half how he used to me. He is like he used to be but he always goes out with his guy friends alot and tells me when a girl tries hitting on him and constantly asking me if im jealous like he WANTS me to get jealous but it just makes me soooo sad.
I know the obvious thing to do here is to break up because then i can heal and get better and he won't be hurting anymore but i just love him to much. I tell people all the time it will hurt but they will get better as i have had my heart broken before but this time it's different.
We WERE soul mates. We were different in our ways but we just seemed soo perfect for each other and i had never met anyone like him before.
I know im still young and if we do break up i'll find someone else and probably end up dating alot of guys before i find "the one" but i don't want anyone else.. i want him.
I really do not want to dump him but i have to. I need help. it's never ever been like this before i dont know if its normal for couples to go through this stage and if they get out of it or not im just so confused and hurt and betrayed.
I dont want people to say "u should dump him" or "u shouldnt" because i want to make that decision on my own. I need advice on how to deal if we do breakup and how other people have gotten over ex's they thought they were inlove with and how i can still be friends with him. And if any advice on people who have been through this and its worked out. Thankyou. (link)
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Well, one thing you HAVE to be is strong.Being in this situation is probaly very difficult for you, But you know and as well as everyone else knows you have to move on.Although, you thought this was your love, your soulmate, your everything.As we all know, there is an end to everything.We make mistakes that you learn from.You go through things that only make you stronger.Bad things happen to good people.Love can be your friend , then again can be your worst enemy.Obviously, alot of people go through heartbreak and bad situations.You just have to deal with it.Keep going, don't burden yourself.As you know, you WILL find someone else and you won't be fighting against fate and love.Your not suppose to put yourself through this.I do know how hard it is to let go though.It's really hard.It takes time though.You have to keep yourself occupied and have fun.Guys don't revovle around you.If a guy comes along then take that chance.Don't let past relationships bring you down.Well hope everything turns out okayy , which I'm sure it is.And hope I helped. :]
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