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Lyin??
Me and my boyfriend are real serious. We been datin for a year and 2 monthes.
Weve had a lot of problems.
Stuff in the beginning wasnt so great.
(stuff went around that he touched another girl... and about around our 9 months i found a note between him and her,talkin bout her sittn on his lap. etc.)
He used to hang out with a lot of people that smoked weed,and did a bunch of other stuff.
Hes always gotten on me for doing that stuff. And he said he wouldnt do it again.
One day his neighbor, and friend asked me if i wanted a puff (of his ciggarette) and i said no. he asked why. and i said because he (my boyfriend) doesnt want me too.) he said why he does it.
i asked my boyfriend about it and he said he stopped along time ago.
he stopped hanging out with a lot of the other people who smoked.
Thats when he started to hang out with his sister and her friends. (her friends smoke ciggarettes & weed & drink.)
well one day we were riding in the car with his sister,her boyfriend, and two other people. well his sisters boyfriend sat in front of us. he startd smokin a ciggarette and handin the pack back and my bofriend shot a look to his sister like "what the f*** is he doin" like he wasnt supposed to that when i was around or something.
so then he asked me if i minded if he smoked one. i said no when i really didnt mean it.
Then he asked me if i wanted a puff. (because he knew i used to smoke.)
Hes been hanging out with his sister and her friends a lot. i think he might be smoking with them.
i dont think hes been telling the truth. but everytime i bring it up and say something to him he says he wouldnt lie to me and hell say ive told you before i dont do that s***.
Then he gets all pissed at me.
but i think its because he feels guilty.
Im not sure if im just overreacting or something.
I dont know what to do.
should i tell him how i feel and risk fighting with him?
any suggestions on what to do??
Thanks in advance.
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You need to take control. Bring it up and don't let him take lead. Confront him and take it one on one. Make sure he knows that your serious and that he shouldn't have to hide anything even if it's something the other person doesn't like. It's about trust in a relationship. Try not to attack him, let them him know that you both have to have trust and that you do the same to him and he should be able to tell you anything. I wouldn't blame you for thinking that he might be hiding it. If you have to, catch him doing it, that way you can prove that yall need to work on communication and trust issues. You shouldn't have to hide anything in a relationship, no matter how hard it is to. Just talk to him and compromise. Hope I helped and good luck :]
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I'm just going to say from the way he acts, he is lying. He probably does smoke with them. People tend to get angry when they are found out and they don't want people to think that of them.
Either way of course you have to talk to him. If it means a lot to you then tell him he's going to eventually have a choice between smoking and you.
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Always tell him how you feel. It will work out better in the long run. You shouldn't hide things even if you don't want to risk fighting. Be stern but respectful. Don't become angry or upset. Talk to him calmly & in an adult manner. That way he shouldn't feel the need to fight with you back. Relationships should be open & there should be honesty. If you explain your feelings now, there's a better chance things will be easier to talk about in the future.
-hope that helped!♥
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