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16/f--I have this friend whos mormon. She's really nice & everything, but she's always trying to get me to go to church with her. But the thing is, I'm a proud Christian. I love learning about new religions, cultures, lifestyles, etc. But going to church with her is something I don't really want to do. Also, I've talked to my mom about it, and she doesn't want me to go either. Part of my not wanting to go, is that I've talked with a few people who have gone to church with her (also friends of ours) and they've said that they take down your name, address, number and sometimes take your picture. And thats not something I feel comfortable with. My church on the other hand, won't do that. They'll treat you like a guest and they tell you, you aren't obligated to do anything. But for some reason, everyone has said that the mormons try to talk you into some things. And I'm not disagreeing and bashing on the mormon religion, but its not something I want to be a part of and I've pretty much kept my feelings to myself rather than spreading them or whatever. But I don't know what to tell my friend when she invites me places anymore. Usually I'll say "I'm doing something" or 'I can't wake up that early'. And I feel bad. And now, my other best friend just became mormon...so I'm not sure what to do. And I don't know if my friend's mom would want her to come to church with me, since she's really overprotective (I was thinking mabe we would both experience other churches, but it might be a bad idea).
Tell them that you're uncomfortable with it. They're your friends, they'll understand. Religion is something that's very personal, and they can't force you into anything. They probably just want to share something thats such a big part of their lives with you, but I'm sure if you told them how you feel about it, they would be okay. Hope I helped!
Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh
Well, if you like him you should try to talk to him more, get to be friends. Actually, even if you don't like him, try to talk to him more. If you like him, be flirty about it. The better friends you are, the better it'll work. Just start saying hi to him and smiling when you see him, maybe ask him what's up, etc. Conversation will come. :-) Hope I helped!
1. well i was wondering if a girl that is 15 turning 16 in 2 months is going out with someone that just turned 25, could that someone go to jail?
2. what if the girl is not a virgin and the cops find out and they try to accuse the boy and she denies it could they file charges???
Thank you!
1. the girl could go to juvie, the boy would be going to jail.
2. they could probably file charges, but I'm not the best on this subject. Hope I helped.
Ok this might sound bad, but I want everyone to think about it. I want to become anorexic, and it's not because I want to be skinny. I'm already pretty thin. The problem is my cheeks(yes face cheeks). They are chubby and not cute at all. I think not eating would make them thinner right? I'm not going to make it a big thing and not eat until I die. Once they get thin ill eat regularly again. Theres no other ways to lose weight in your cheeks right? I mean I know it sounds really dumb to do that but I'm kind of desperate here. Is it that bad? Do you think I can get really sick? Will it work if I become anorexic?
Not eating would NOT make your cheeks thinner. I'm sure your cheecks are fine. Well, actually, it will make them thinner, once it has wasted away the rest of your body, and then your stomach will grow so accustomed to not eating that you physically won't be able to eat. You can't just STOP being anorexic. Your cheeks probably aren't even that chubby, anyway. Trust me, anorexia is not the way to go.
ok im 13 female and i cut myself but not as much as i ust to i mean i havent in a week or 2 but my best friend betray me and my ex. bf still likes me and i dont no wat to do cuz his best friend makes me feel bad and i just tell myself not to cut becuz i dont want to but sometimes i have to like its the only thing i can count on to help me but i realli dont want to tell anyone so i dont no wat do can you help me?
Don't cut - honestly, it's really not cool, and it only helps for like a maybe a week, tops, and then you're down again. Whats so good about that? And then you end up with scars that won't go away and people giving you those "knowing" looks where they think they know what you've been through just because of the scars you have. The best things you can do is 1. get a counselor or shrink or something and talk about your problems, it helps, 2. talk to your best friend and try to make up with her 3. if you like your ex, go for it, screw his best friend, he's probably an asshole (pardon the language). I hope I helped some..
WILL RATE HIGH my ex boyfriend is really worrying me. i broke up with him because he started to make me think that all he wanted from me was sex. im 14 hes 15. he was asking me if was a virgin (which i am), if i would leave him a sexy message on his messge maching, and he wasnt actualy talkin to me on the fone, it was all thr txt msgs.when i tried to talk to him he wouldnt pic up. and i cant stand relatiotships where there is no communication and he knew that was important to me. i went out with him once before and he broke up with me "because he thought i didnt like him" which didnt make much sense because i always made the first moves, he seemes like a whole different person now. anyway, i knew he drank occasionally and what i thoguht used to do some drugs. but i dont know, he says he has an anger problem and that he's going to get homeschooled. i think that would be worse for him. i know he has problems at home, but his parents are still marrried. he hurts himself, like he beats himself up and i dont understand. i dont think its anger problems i think he nees counsoling. i still care about him and i dont want him to do this to himself. i dont know what i should do...i dont want him to hurt himself
Tell someone - an adult. It doesn't seem like his parents would be much help, so you could tell your parents or a counselor or something. Hope I helped.
hey katie!
im so glad i meet u this year, your such an aweosme freind! remeber we are emo lovers and we should hold hands haha
lots of love
sean xoxo
haha I'm glad we met too! Emo lovers 4evr! Don't make my emo heart cry;-) lol..
love ya!
i love music but i dont always have to money to buy cds. can you give me some good FREE sites that i can download off of? also can you give me any that wont have spyware? thanks muchly.
Limewire is good.. just go to www.limewire.com
I'm going to camp in the summer for the first time in my life. (I'm 14) I've known my friends for 3 years and they've never known me without makeout. I don't use alot but a little bit of eyeliner makes a hugeee difference! Anyways, I don't know what I should do because I don't want my friends to see me makeup-less...I mean, with makeup, I look "decent" but without, you won't even recognize me on the street. I look horrible! Please don't say..your friends should love you for you..I'm very self concious about myself and I really want to know what to do. Thanks in advance-I rate!
Bring your makeup to camp, have fun, if it comes off, it comes off, and you can re-apply it. It's no big deal, makeup is makeup. I never go anywhere without it, but someday, someones gonna see you without it, so you might want to get used to it.
I am a tennis player and i play everyday except friday(sometimes) and I am on my school tennis team.. but my shoulder has been killing me!.. If I hit hard it pops.. and when I put my hand on it and move it I can feel my bones rubbing together!.. what is it?.. Is it serious?.. Are there anythings that may help the pain?
You need to tell your coach, and stop playing for a while. It may be because you play so often, it's hurting the joint, sort of like tennis elbow, only with your shoulder. You also might want to go to the doctor and see if they have something that could help with the pain.
ok sry this is long but i really need help. ok im in 7th grade and this year i met my best friend ever hes likt the best person you will ever meet. his name is james and he is in 8th grade. we have been so close since the begining of the year and like we would call eachother evry day and talk for like an hour. and liek he is a realy hott guy so yeah he has had gf's like only 3 this year so far bc they r long relationships but recently he asked out one of my friends and like now if they get in a fight they blame it on me and all this other junk and like now he hardly calls me nemore liek maybe once a week if even that and liek if they r together then he like barley talks to me he ignores me and he never did that with any of his other gf's and like i dont noe wat to do bc im losing my best friend and i honeslty can live without him. so pls help me what do i do. thnks
Tell him what you just told me. He might not realise how much he's alienating you. Call him up, tell him to listen, no interruptions, and tell him everything you're feeling. It should fix the problem, but even if it doesn't, at least it won't be your fault that it doesn't, because you tried. Hope I helped.
I've heard everyone say bleach is really bad for your hair. But there is a brand I found, that I'm not sure if it's good. It's the "Punky Color Bleach Kit" if anyone can tell me if this works good that would help a lot. By the way I have dark brown hair so.. I sorta need the bleach, because I'm going to be using a neon orangish color.
Pretty much ALL bleach is bad for your hair. So you're screwed either way, but I think you'll be fine. In fact, I think if you leave the bleach in for a certain amount of time, it turns a neon orangish color.. Probably not the one you want, though. Hope I helped!
ok well my bf and i have been going out for about 2 mounths. well a couple days ago i found out that about a day after we were going out he made out w/ my best friend(brigitte) at my other friends house(austin). well b4 i knew this my bf and i were at a party and we made out and stuff and it made my friend(brigitte) that had madeout w/ him a couple weeks b4 really mad at me and i had no clue wut was going on! and so i found out wut had happened and i was mad too for a while but i got over it but my other freind kinda hasnt and she is like my best friend!!!!! i dont kno wut to do... dump my boyfriend or dump my best freind? HELP!
Friends last longer than boyfriends. You two would end up breaking up anyway - but friends are for life.
I was looking for an estimate height calculator, and I found one, but on Ask.com, like on the side, there's a link for "excersises to grow taller". I'm nearly 5'2, but does anyone know if anything actually works? Thanks!
There isn't a way, as far as I know.. Sorry!
This is the second time i have posted this.. maybe someone will remember me from the first time. I am not 16 years old and i would say that i have felt insecure for as long as i can remember but it has worsened over the past year. I dont feel im a "normal" teenager, my mother has even said so a couple times. I dont like to go out, i actually dont like to do anything. I hate the way i look and im very insecure about my body. (actually im insecure about everything about myself) I no that its "normal" for a girl to be insecure about her looks but theres more. I have so much doubt and regret that im drowning in it. For the past couple of months ive been thinking that its possible im depressed, like clinically. Im not suicidal but i feel so sad all the time and spend alot of the time crying and begging God to take away all this pain. So far my prayers have not been answered. I havent told my parents for a number of reasons. I know that i can tell them anything but im scared. Im afraid they wont take me seriously and im embarrased. I also dont want them to feel like its their fault or anything because i do have a pretty good life, which actually causes me to feel really guilty. Im just really scared and its been sooo long that i have felt this way and havent told them i dont want them to be mad and i just dont know what it will be like afterwards. Im also scared to see a doctor but i also really want to stop feeling like this way. Tonight, after having a good cry i thought about telling them again but i dont think i can get through it without crying like a baby. So i decided to write a letter and give it to them but im afraid im not brave enough. I did start the letter though. Please someone tell me what i should do. I mean.. what if im just being dramtic and looking for attention and i tell them and they take me to a doctor and its nothing, i will feel so embarrassed. I dont want people to feel bad for meand if i tell my parents i wont be able to take it back. But i just dont no and im sick of wishing i could run away and start over with a new life. I sick of wanting more. Everyday is just like the one before it and i cant handle it. I feel like im going to fall apart. Ok i think this is long enough.. what im asking of you is that u tell me if u think this is depression or am i just being overly dramatic and also do i tell my parents and if so how.. was the letter a good idea?? PLEASE HELP!!!
Hun, I'm sorry - you need to get help. If you're having a hard time trying to tell your parents, go to the school counselor. I know that sounds dumb, but then they can tell your parents. You could also write them a letter, if you don't want to tell them in person. But you HAVE to tell them. You sound like you are depressed, but don't worry, it can be fixed. You just have to let it happen. Hope I helped and I hope you feel better soon!
Ok I used to be really good friends with this girl and recently she has been saying she's suicidal and crap. I know it's not true because she lies about EVERYTHING. She has no cuts at all on her wrists or ankles and I know you're thinking she wouldn't fake it but believe she would. All she wants is attention. She lied to me saying that her she went out with a guy I was like in love with (we went to VT together) And she always says BS about how she has sex all the time with older men and I know she's never had sex in her life. How do I tell her to stop lying to me?
Well, to answer your question - Tell her you're sick of her lying to you, and it's making it so you can't trust her, and if she wants to stay friends, shes going to have to tell you the truth. But on what you're saying about her - Maybe she doesn't get enough attention at home. Honestly - every suicidal threat should be taken seriously. In my opinion, you should go to the counselor. If she isn't lying, she'll get the help she needs. If she is, she's in for some deep shit (pardon my language). Anyway, I hope I helped at least a little.
hey there how are ya! well anyways I really feel like I hate people these days I mean its like they are too caught up in their own life drama to notice that I'm there its kinda hard to explian but I cant stand it! I feel so ignored because I'm not expireiced when it comes to drama and crap...misplaced you might call it? I dunno but should I just get over it?
Oh, wow, I feel like this a lot. Sucks, doesn't it? Like where people just ignore you, or even worse, create drama about you. You need to confront them - Don't be all "in your face" sort of, to them, but explain how you feel. Chances are, if they're your friends they don't even realise it, and probably feel bad about it. Just remember, don't sink so low as to create drama yourself - all it causes is worries and broken friendships, and noone wants that. hope I helped!
Theres a girl at my school (not my friend but i talk to her) and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. She's heart broken and feels that she isn't good enough. Now she wont eat..shes refusing to eat and its scaring everyone. She is dropping pounds by the second and is always depressed. I really want to help her, but I don't know her family personally enough to tell them. Should I let her suffer? i would feel wrong not telling anyone.
Tell someone! A counselor, a parent, anyone! Don't let her die - because she will. Trust me, later on, she'll thank you.
im not talking about the movie "the notebook" im talking about the actually BOOK "the notebook"... where do i buy it? is it at any bookstore or do i have to order it? thanks.
Barnes & Nobles probably has it.
my dad is always so mean and curses alot he is an alchoholic what can i do to make him be a normal dad?
Go to AlaTeen (it's for kids who have alcholic parents/relatives). They can help you decide how to handle things.