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hi everyone im katelyn. I love giving advice and taking some too! im a very open person and a very nice person. Well i think im a very nice person but thats up to u to decide wat i am. I think i am a very loving, caring, and honest person. I have my bad days but who doesnt?!?!? I am very trusting and u can tell me anything. I will try to help anyone i can and anyway i can.
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~katelyn~

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okay so im 16/f & im in this driver's ed class & there's this guy i there with me that i like alott. & i started talking to him. & he looks at me sometimes & smiles at me & sometimes he teases me. but like he's really cool. and i asked him for his number & he gave it to me. well driver's ed class ends on saturday but im leaving on friday so should i just tell him on thursday cuz thats my last day that i like him before i leave to go on vacation? im not sure if i should im scared too.

i would tell him because you guys could end up dating and it might turn out really good. But if he doesnt like you as a gf then at least yins could be friends thats better than nothing at all right!?? dont be scared

hi,therez this girl she likes me i like her im going to ask her out..just wondering how 2 be a good boyfriend what do girls like in a boy or boyfriend??..thanks

hi, most girls like a guy thats very romantic and nice and sweer. but every girl is different i know i like a guy that treats me well pays for things and says nice things to me to show that he cares. Also i like a guy to express how he feels if hes mad i want him to tell me and to be open with me. I hate liars so i like a honest guy. Doing little things for a girl is nice i dont want a guy to spend tons of money on me idc if i got just one rose or something as long as i know a guy cares about me im fine really. if you need anymore help write me or heres my sn if you have aim
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Does a guy's virginity mean as much as it does to a girl?

no i dont think so guys dont really care as much as girls do. they have sex and it really doesnt matter to them it matters but they dont have to worry bout gettin pregnant and everytin so they arent as nervous and stuff. But some guys are different they care about wen they have sex and stuff like that.

ok so letz call him chris. he lovez me nd i really do love him. even doe i don't act like it. he'z like my bestfriend. so the other day he got drunk and he fucked 3 gurls. but he told me. atleast i didn't hear it from some1 else. inoe it was supposed 2 be hurt but i wasnt. i was mad but he was drunk. so last night when he said something about this girl he loved and his broken heart it hurt me. i never thought he could hurt me i didn't know i let him get so close and i've known this kid for so long. i love him but i don't know what to do. he really thinks me and him r meant for eachother. he wants 2 be together. i'm scared. i don't know what 2 do.

being drunk is no excuse to cheat. once a cheater always a cheater believe me thats true. I would leave him and give it some time apart and then talk to him about it again and the get back together maybe in the future but i wouldnt stay with someone tht did that to me thats not right at all if he really wants to be with you then if you break up with him then thats the time it will really show. ANd if he seems like he wants to be with you then iwould go back out with him but you should break up with him and see how he reacts.

ive know this guy for about 3 years and 10 days ago he broke up with his girlfriend that hes had for like a couple months. well we had prom last night and he was all over me the whole time. after prom we had prom breakfast, but i had to leave like half an hour into it. as i was walking out, he stopped me and asked me where i was going. when i told him i was going home, he was aw man, i was planning on spending the rest of the night with you. then as i was getting into my car, he called me and asked me to hang out on sunday. im sort of crushing on him and i really do want to see what happens. what should i do?

well if our interested in him then i would def go for it i mean theres nuthin for you to loose. take a chance and see wat happens im a risk taker and i always gofor things esp if i like someone. it is a little to early for him to get in a reltionship esp if he jsut broke up wth someone buti mena wat if he liked you all along. HE sounds really sweet so i would go for it and hnagout iwth him and stuff like that. AT least you knew him for awhile.
i hope i helped if not im soo sry if you hav anymore questions jsut ask me ill tryh to help anyway that i can .
-katelyn

my penis is very small i.e only 4".Actually it was not the same size as earlier. earlier it used to be longer and thicker.But daybyday it is becoming smaller and i ejaculate soon also.please don't gimme any washy-washy answers but please be honest and advice me.If i suffer from any kind of diesease?

i think you should go see a specialist and see wat they say i mean no one on here can give you a perfect answer which i think you need in this case. so thats my advice for you. srry but i cant help anymore than that ok if you have any more questions on somethin else you can write me in my inbox
-katelyn

15/m

i always see these questions about people making out and feeling each other up and such. . . .

my question is how would one go about this without seeming too aggressive or, even worse, looking like a sleazebag?

i'm just asking because i want something to make making out a little bit more interesting, and i've read all these things about "oh, you should feel her up while you make out," but i don't exactly know how to go about doing that . . .

i know it's kind of a weird question but i just don't want to seem like a jerk to my girlfriend. i mean, we love each other a lot and i don't want to jeopardize it. . . .

thanks in advance

hey well just kiss her and start by puttin your hand on her waist. SHe might move your hand herself like tellin you thats ok to do because you really dont want to feel her boobs and such if she doesnt want that. Talking it out is good because wen your in a relationship communication is key. Always have communication. Ask her questions and see if she would mind or not and tell her you didnt want to see like a sleaze. But feeling up usually happens in the moment its just the passion thas goin on wen it happens. Be romantic girls love that i kno i do. i like bein passionate and everything so just be like that and im sure everythin will be fine. Ok well i hope i helped?!? if you need anythin else then you can write me in my inbox!
-katelyn

I dated this guy for a month.
He's a nice guy, but have bad temper. There're so much differences between us. HOwever, we also have the same option on the overall view of life. We fighted a lot (2 out of 3 times when we went out)considered the period of time we dated.

Now, he doesn't talk to me at all. No emails, no txt, no calls. I know we couldn't work out as couple, but I'd like still be friend, but he obviously doesn't want to...what do I do?

well theres nuthin you can really do you have to wait til he comes around and starts talkin to you. But if you guys fought all the time why would u want to be his friend im sure he will fight with you now too. thats not good to be friends with someone that has a bad temper because taht leads to violence and thats not a good relationship. eVen if u were friends he will stil have hes temper and if you guys get into a fight which friends do that leads to big trouble. i think you shoudl just stay away from him for awhile because i had a friend and her bf had a bad temper then they became friends but he started to hurt her and threaten her and she had to gobak outwith him because she was scared. But after awhile she realized that she had to leave him and she did. But i just dont wnat that for you because thats where it leads too. okk well hope i helped if you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox!
-kateylnd

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i get so jealous when i see skinny girls who can wear cute dresses and look amazing ... or just anyone pretty in general. i know i'd be a ton prettier if i lost weight, but how can i be patient and motivate myself to stay with my diet? any tips to not crave junk?

i just hav one thing to say to you. Everyone is pretty in their own way. Noone is ugly. What makes a person ugly i think is the way they act not by wat they look like or how much they weigh. Im sure your pretty and by losing weight wont make you any prettier. Your pretty already. ITs good to lose weight but dont think that your not pretty the way you are.

Ok well dont buy junk food to begin with. That will stop you from eating it. Once you get started with the diet your body gets used to that so after awhile you wont want any junk food. I made a daily chart for myself that told me wat to eat each day for each meal and how much. drink lots of water that helps because i knwo wen i drank lots of water i lost weight and i didn crave junk food because i wasnt hungry. Your supposed to drink the percent of body fat you have in water. Tell your mom or i dont know how old you are but who ever you live with tell them to buy the foods your allowed to eat and tell them not to buy junk try to get other people involved. this way everyone is doing it and that will motivate you. I know wen me and my mom were n a diet we helped eachother and she kept me on task with the diet foods and working out. Once the diet starts to work you wont want to eat junk because on how good your doing and everything. After awhile i could sit a party and not eat the junk that was sitting in front of me and the same with restaurants. here and there its nice to eat a little bit of something like cake but only a little bit because if you take that completely out then you will want it more. So after awhile in my diet i started to eat a little junk here and there but not alot. Well i hope i helped out and if you need anymore help yopu can write me in my inbox.
Goodluck with the diet! Hope it works out!
-katelyn

How do you get a guy to fall head over heels in love with you?

well i think that you really cant make someone fall in love with you because that would be like your being fake. Which i dont think thats a good idea because if your not yourself then the guy really isnt in love with you. Jsut be yourself thats all you can be and if he doesnt love you then theres really nothing you can do about it. If the guy likes you and thinks your a great person and have a great personality then thats great but you cant make someone like your personality. every person is different and likes different kinds of people. thats how i look at it. Just dont be fake. Be yourself!!! thers no reason to try to be something your not it usually ends up being bad if oyu do that. ok wel i hope i helped?!? if you need any more help you can write me in my inbox!
-katelyn

OK, so there is this really nice/cute guy in one of my classes and I can always feel him staring at me. How do.. i guess... "make a move" on him, or get him to notice me or to talk to me. I'm not really an outgoing person, so its not like i would just go up to him.

its hard to go up to someone for the first time to talk to them. But dont be scared or anything. i learned that not going up to people or being a little bit outgoing put me in a not so good place because i didnt know alot of people and i never really got to enjoy time with people and have fun. meeting new people and talking to different people is fun. Just go up to him and be like ''hey'' and ask him wat he likes doing and stuff like that. Or you can start simple ask him for a pencil or someting even though you dont need it and then start talkin to him that way because you started by asking a question. If you dont go up to him you might loose a good opportunity to meet a nice guy. Then later on you might find out that he was interested but was afraid to come up to you or he might think that you really didnt want anyhtin to do with him. So i would try to get over that and go talk to him i mean theres nothing you can really do wrong and if you say somehting totally off the wall just laugh at it together that makes things wayyy better believe me. well i hope i helped out a little bit if i didnt sorry! good luck wth everythin adn i hope things work out the way you want them too!
-katelyn

in the movie clueless, with alicia silverstone, can someone tell me what she is saying, word for word, near the end when chers walking by herself and shes like "im in love with josh."

What does she want with Josh, anyway? He dresses funny, he listens to complaint rock, he's not even cute... in a conventional way. I mean, he's just like this slug who hangs around the house all the time. And he's a hideous dancer, I couldn't take him anywhere. Wait a second, what am I stressing about? This is like, Josh! OK, OK, so he's kind of a baldwin, but what would he want with Tai? She couldn't make him happy. Josh needed someone with imagination, someone to take care of him, someone to laugh at his jokes... in case he ever makes any. Then suddenly...

CHER

Oh, my God. I love Josh.

theres word for word what she says about the josh thing. :]
-katelyn

okay. so im 15. nd my boyfriend wants us to go farther than what we have.. and so do i. but i know like your gonna orgasm and stuff. but i dont know if i'll sound stupid. what do i sayy like when im about to have an orgasm? yeah i know i sound dumb. but i just want to be aware. oh and what are some "techniques" i guess to giving head. does anyone have any suggestions. i'm an only child soo i kinda need advice with this stuff from someone other than my mom. cause i think we could all agree that would be awkward. thanks guys.

well usually you just end up making a noise. Every person has a different sounding noise so no one can really tell you wat noise to make because it comes down to when your having sex. Dont worrying about sounding stupid because hes the only one hearing you and im sure he will enjoy the noises you make. I usually just say anything that i think of that moment. lol

about giving head, every guy likes different things if you have given him head already then ask him what he likes. Do different things and ask him if he likes it and if he likes a certain way you do something then do it. Its really all about communication. If you guys tell eachother wat you guys each like then if will be more enjoyable for the both of yins. I mean i dont think anyone wants something done to them that they dont like. That wouldnt be any fun. So just communicate with him and talk to eachother and remember dont be worried about sounding stupid because if you get all worried then you wont be able to enjoy the moment. Ok well i hope i helped if you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox.
-katelyn

ok so what are some ways for me to open up to my boyfriend more. im not really shy but it comes of that way to him and i want to prove to him that im not like that. we kind of got into a fight about it. we then talked it out and hes like well lets talk about this in person. im like ok. its his first relationshipa and its my first relationship where the guy isnt an asshole. im just looking for ways to talk to him without putting him on his defense

well can you talk to him about anything? do you talk to him about everything? If you are open to him then i dont know why he would think that you were shy. Unless hes talking about doing things with him my boyfriend thought i was shy because i didnt have sex with him or wouldnt do anything. So im not sure wat hes thinking but did you ask him why he thinks that i mean there has to be something your doing to make him think your shy. I would just tlak to him more and stuff like that. Kiss him in public and stuff so he wont think your shy do things that you havent done yet so he doenst think that. i would open up more to him if you guys havent really talked about eachother then i think you should and tell him things. Tell him that your not shy and that you want to talk but you dont want to fight with him just talk normal to eachother because if one of you guys start having an attitude than that leads to a big fight. Ok well i hope i helped?!?!? let me know how everything goes if ya wnat to.
-katelyn

so theres this guy names tony and i really like him and i have had my best friend talk to him and he was thinking about asking me out. well i ended up asking him out and he hasent answered and its been about 4 day. should i ask him again or leave him alone!

hey i would just let it go for a little bit and if he doesnt answer in a week then i would ask him again. But i woulda waited for him to ask me out so maybe he wasnt really ready for that. That might be the reason he is taking so long to answer. Im sure he will answer soon he probably needs some time to think it over and see if thats wat he wants. Just give it sometime im sure he will say yes! well goodluck with that and i hope he says yes let me know if he does. lol
-katelyn

Everytime and Every guy I meet... ends up liking me. It's really annoying. I'm serious like whenever I want to be friends with a guy I just met he starts liking me when I found out the next day my friend just told me that. So how can I have guy friends without them liking me more?

well you cant really stop a guy from liking you but try finding guys that have girlfriends but that may cause problems with tht girl because seh might think your tryin to steal him away from her so that might not be a good idea. Well if your flirting with them that may cause the guy to like you because the way your acting so try not to do that too much if you are. Just let them know that you wnat to be friends tahts it. Dont lead them on that you like them because that may cause a guy to like you because hes thinking that you like him too. I would try to find guys that have girlfriends but just be careful about that and how you act around them so that doesnt cause any conflict between you and the guys girlfriends because alot of girls tend to get jealous wen their boyfriends have girls that are just friends. So try that and i hope i helped?!!? its easier to just tell the guys that you like them as friends and yo could try to get those guys that like you girlfriends so they can still be your friend but not like you in that kind of way. That may work but that could be hard if they really like you but i would just talk to them and put it out there that you dont like them in that way. Ok well goodluck with taht and if you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox!
-katelyn

my boyfriend and i were doing it one ngiht and i didnt know he taped it. and he showed it to all his friends they write whore on my locker and my desks and they always stare at me. i yelled at my boyfriend for it but he said i have a nice body and should show it some more. what should i do?

Im sooooooo sorry that happened to you! thats just so terrible. I would dump his fucking ass!!!! Thats sooo wrong to do that to a girl. Thats sooooo embarrassing. I would press charges right away. i wouldnt care that he said you have a nice body if you wanted to show it to the whole world you would be a pornstar! he had no right to video tape that without asking you. Im sorry again and i hope everything turns out better for you! Try to ignore those immature boys. its hard to do that i know but if they say soemthing to you kick their ass's haha!
ok well if you need anymore help wih anythin or need someone to talk too you can wrtie me in my inbox :]
-katelyn

whats the difference between a blowjob and a handjob?
and do you think that 13 is to young to give either?

thanks

The difference between a bj and a hj is a bj is when you suck on a guys penis you basically use our mouth. A hj is when you use your hand and rub a guys penis its basically how a guy masturbates but your doing it for him. I think that 13 is too young to be doing that kind of stuff. 14/15 i think isnt a bad age to be doing that kind of stuff. But if you feel tha your ready to do sexual things like that then go for it. But if you have doubts about anything then i wouldnt try to do anything right now. Im 15 and i havent even done anything yet so its really up to you and how you feel about doing that kind of stuff. Ok well i hope i helped out and if you have anymore questions you can write me in my inbox!
-katelyn

Say you had so called friends mybe one real one and one accompliance with that person you d not like so much and they were talking about girls they thought were pretty and you weren't included but they all were would you still consider these people your friends?

i think that they arent your real friends. Friends dont do that to eachother. Friends are supposed to say good things bout eachother but sometimes have their disagreements. My friends always say they think im pretty but i dont think so. They are there to tell you good things to make you feel good and be there for you. SO i think that i woudlnt be friends with them anymore and forget bout wat they say if they say anytrhing bad bout you. I had so called friends like that before adn i finally learned that they arent worth my time. So i would find some true friends that will stick by you. Ok well i hope i helped?!?! if ou need anymore help you can write me in my inbox.
-katelyn

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