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hey!! my names kristin! this advineators site is sooo awesome...i love answering peoples questions cuz i feel lyk im helping them.and it makes me feel special (even tho if i didnt help you..IM SORRY!) lol..but if anyone has a question just ask me cuz ill be more then happy to help you!!!!! :)luv, kristin
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ok well 3 weeks ago this realllly hot guy *tai* came came over and hes a senior & im a sophomore. well hes the guy that every girl wants bc hes funny and freakin soo hot its unbelieveable. but so he came over & we had un protected sex and idk i was 2 weeks late for my period then i had it. but i heard that u can be pregnant & still have ur period. the only reason im sooo worried is bc i had been pregnant before (but had a misscarriage) and i had the same feeling that i was like before. im so scared cuz i mean im only 15 and i cant be pregnant again. wut do u think i do???
well no offense but lyk why are u having sex when ur only 15 and lyk especially with no condom....just becasue hes hot and funny you dont just say "o well i think i wanna have sex with him". and no, if you get ur period your not pregnant. but still you need to make wiser choices on sex or before you kno youll have kids before u graduate from hs...dont you want your kid to have a dad? you shouldnt be doing this kind of stuff when your only 15...its just wrong
I'm an 18 year old girl who has had a string of bad relationships. I'm seeing this guy, who I really care about and love spending time with. The only thing is that every time I feel myself getting close to him, I pull away because I'm scared of getting hurt. I've been hurt in the past and used to self harm and was very self-destructive. I want to be as involved in this relationship as my boyfriend is but I hate feeling vulnerable.
hey well if ur afriad of getting hurt in relationships then take a break from them!! ...everyone gets hurt in relationships and that is mostly becasue they fight over stupid reasons....when you guys are in a fight you need to be the stronger and better person and call him up and say sorry to him...or even if you kno ur right in an argument just tell him that you were wrong so that it would make him feel better....arguments are what makes all relationships stronger but the problem with couples these days are that if they have one argument they break up! if you fight way wya to much then that means you guys are spending way to much time together! so also you can cut back on the amount of time/days you are seeing him...couples do get in fights but its the stronger and more forgiving person that makes them better..!
Okay well my ex boyfriend and I were dating for 9 months. Then he dumped me on our 9th month annerversary. I was so depressed. And to top it all off thats the day i sent out invitations to my 13th birthday party and he was invited. But anyways. I was so upset he dumped me cuz he liked another girl. I mean he never has had a chance to go out with her so far but its close. I still really like him, but im not sure if i should tell him or not bcuz he likes this other grl that he dumped me for...((which she has a boyfriend)) he tells me this grl likes him too though. Can u do that? Like someone else when ur already going out with someone? But i guess wut im trying to ask is... should i tell him i like him? cuz if he doesnt like me wouldnt he tell all his lil friends?? idk wut to do plz help me!!!
well i would def. tell him that u still have feeligs for him...i mean since the girl he lyks is goin out with another guy if he knos u still lyk him he might realize that ur the girl for him! also he could have just dumped you becasue he needed a break...9 months is a long time for a couple your age! sit down and talk to him about it...and if he doesnt still have feelings for you...o well...at leats he knows how u feel about him!
Ok, this is going to be kind of long because I need to give you all the details. I haven't always been overweight, but when I was finally aloud to stay home in the summer by myself, I started to get bigger. I couldn't go anywhere when my parents were home, so I sat and watched TV and ate constantly. Well, the big problem is that was about 6 years ago! Every year I say I'm going to finally lose weight, and I still haven't. Now I'm at least 30 pounds over-weight, and even though I love playing sports and being active, I also love to sit at home and eat the "tasty" foods. I am going to be a junior, and it is so hard to be an over-weight teen. I know all the stuff I need to do if I want to lose weight, but I just can't find my motivation to do it. Do any of you have advice to try help me? Please, I would really appreciate it.
you need WILL POWER...diets are always unsuccesful with out it...and if you want to lose weight WHY ARE YOU EATING JUNK FOOD? go to the store and buy healthy foods...fruits and vegies...and just cuz ur on a diet doesnt mean you totally have to give up junk food...buy lyk one container of low fat ice cream that you lyk for the week...a little sweets wont hurt sometimes...and also join a gym.!! instead of eating sweets go and grab yourself a salad..or something..healthy foods are good too...even tho its hard not to eat the junk..healthy foods can almost be as good as the junk foods!
Okay, i've been having weird period cycle's.. at the beginning of the year i was having periods around the end of the month the 25th or 27th then they started earlier like the 15th every month for a few months well.. just last month and the month before i had my period around the 6th.. well today is the 10th and i haven't started my period yet! I don't understand this. I'm 17 and i feel like a dork. I have had sex before just to let you know.. last month about a week after my period well i'm pretty sure i'm not pregnant because i took a test and i'm not. But, i still don't understand why my period hasn't come yet..? I know this is probably weird but i'm having all my normal symptoms as usual.. i'm eating a lot more like i always do before my period and i'm eating chocolate "alot" and that's always before my period.. but i haven't started yet? This has been going on for like a week now. Everysense i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months my like has been stressed with so much stuff.. do you think thats whats causing it? Stress? Or is my body just not normal..? Could someone help me please..!?
i dont kno i sounds lyk it could be either or...and to find out just lyk do some more things that you lyk to do that will releave the stress and if that doesnt work then i think you should see a docter...my friend had wierd period cycles to and she let it go so long that when she did end up getting her period she had so much bleeding that she had to be taken to the hospital for 5 or 6 days...i think there is pills to help it..but i would go to your doctor DEFINITLY..because if you keep on avoiding the problem you mat end up in the hospital
hey i just ordered contacts.. im gettin them the 23rd =)) but n e ways.. i need some info on what and what not to do with them in ur eyes that the docter doesnt tell me.. please help.. =)
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well form my own personal experience with contacts...make sure your not putting them in inside out! cuz that hurts lyk hell...and make sure u always keep it clean and whatnot...and when you get them..dont try and keep on putting them in and out when you get them...cuz your eyes will hurt and youll get frusturated if you have trouble getting them in and out...contacts are awesome...once you get the hang of putting them in and out!
I have a lot of cool sayings in my profile. Most in whick I made up. Every time I look at me friends profile, she has all my same sayings in mine. I get so frusterated! Now, she just IMed me witrh her advice colum user name and it is almost the same as mine! Should I tell her how I feel? Please, I need help fast!
yes, definitly tell her. just talk to her in a nice calm and kind voice. dont lyk scream at her ...just act real nice about it. and just lyk ask her if she would stop following you and doing everything the same as you. tell her that shes her OWN person and that she should be happy with that! dont be afriad to tell a friend their faults...sometimes it actually HELPS them in realizing that they are their own person!
Ok this might sound so waird but....All my friends have done weed that i basically know or wanna try it theyre not pushing me into it but i wanna try it to like REALLY badly but i have second thoughts all the time like what if my parents found out and i dont wanna be llike that i wanna be a good kid well atleast i try to i dont know what to do!!!!
dont smoke weed...that stuff really messes with ur head...if u smoke weed ...youll wanna start taking other drugs and crap and it will just get worse and worse form there....dont let peer pressure over power you! and believe me, your parents will find out after awhile...and youll get in major trouble...trust me on this one, just dont do it!
im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this?
hey im 14 and i havnt hooked up with a guy either..somi have had e boyfriends but still none were long term relationships or anything...even though many guys lyk the girls who look pretty on the outside....and sorta use the less pretty girls as a "back up"....they shouldnt! if u have a friend thats a girl and she has a friend thats a guy...you should get to kno that guy...if a nice,responsible and reasonable guy got to kno you im sure they would lyk you! remember, all guys dont judge girls by looks, its by whats inside ur heart that counts! if ur a nice funny and cool person then a good guy well definitly lyk you...just dont be scared to approach guys, have confidence in yourself!...theres a guy out there for you somewhere...you just need to find him!
I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks
well, first of all there NOT true frieds if the only reason they hang out with you is becasue you drink and smoke...it sounds lyk they could be using you to "look cool" or something...i dont kno...but anyways people lyk that arnt worth your time...find other friends that are true...friends shouldnt drink and smoke WITH you...they should be trying to get you to stop!find other friends that are girls...maybe ask one of the other over-sized girls to start a diet with you ....if you want to lose weight. just be friendly , kind and welcoming to others and you will make friends! and remember people who wanna change you or dont lyk you because you stop doing something "cool" are def. not worht your time!
im not in any of my friends classes and i feel depressed ive had such a bad day.. and im really starting too get back at the "im ugly" stage
[its not really about advicenators]
God made you not be in all of your friends classes for a reason...and no the reason isnt to ruin ur life...i kno it can be diffulcult to understand but he wants you to make new friends and meet dofferent people...sometimes change is good..just make the best of it and be friendly to all the new people in your classes and you'll be sure to make new friends!
i have liked this guy for about a year now and we hung out alot when my best friend and his started to date and i herd that he liked me well now his best friend moved away and i have talked to him all summer and i hed he likes this other girl what should i do im so cofused
Well, since it sounds lyk you and him are pretty good friends...just tell him you've lyked him all this year. and ask himif he likes the other girl. dont bve scared or nervous. its all about your confidence level. be confident...and have faith that you can talk to him on this sublect...if hes the friend you think he is he'll be sensitive and understanding on the subject
im starting 8th grade soon and im sooo stressed. i have to get all a's as always...i have to get into this privite school next year which means i have to apply and do well this year. i also have to do ballet..pointe..guitar..the play..and more..how do i take the stress off?
my 8th grade year was soo stressfull too!!! worrying about a social life, grades, homework, and other activities....it gets sooo tough...if ur soo stressed out then put one of ur activities on hold...its impossible to do everything at once and NOT go crazy...so yes i do suggest quiting one of your activities...at least until schools over.
This started a few years ago. When im in a public bathroom with people I don't know, I have problems urinating. Like my whole body tenses up and I just can't. If it's with my buds or something I don't have a problem, but rest areas and fast food bathrooms are horrible, but lately it's gotten worse, like if theres some kind of weird music, or if the bathrooms really dirty, I don't know, I just know that at school I usually slip into the faculty bathroom or use one on the other side of the school that no one really ever uses. Also I had to start doing things like dehydrating myself before long car trips so that i would only have to go like once or never the whole trip. Is there anything I can do without seeing a doctor, and is this some kind of infection, or do I just get nervous sometimes?
well no i dont think its a serious illness problem, but if you keep this up thats what it could turn into. just tell yourself "the bathroom is clean"...even if it isnt....also..maybe you could carry a little bottle of toilet cleaning solution and a paper towel and wipe the seat down or something...when your in a public bathroom just close your eyes and pretend lyk ur at your house....and yes if u keep this up it will turn into a VERY serious problem...fluids must exit your body..!!! i recommend seeing a psychiatrist...or counselor...they may help and if they dont GO TO THE DOCTOR!!
OKay guys! On the first day I have narrowed it down to two diffrent choices:
1. blue jeans, a halter top w/ a cute shirt (the kind that have the buttons at the top that u leave undone (i know complicated to explain), black flip-flops, and a pink and black purse and pink and black back-pack!
2. blue jeans, a dark pink and blue shirt (the polo kind) with pink flip flops and a pink and a pink and black purse and pink flip flops!!
3. other.
okay please choose one!!!!! :D Keep in mind I am starting a new school and I'm confused about the style!! Thanks guys!
i say the second one