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yeah so this is it from the begining the names are changed tho! okay i started to go out with this boy josh ithought everything was great.i would call just to here his voice.he also went out with my close friend jessi. jessi like the thought of us together.almost a week later she had told me that he was going out with a girl name sara i told her no he just forgets my name sometimes thats all. then a week later i brought it up and he said ooh i didnt think we were to serious and hes the one who ask me out!! one of my other friends introduced us on aim.i felt hurt about it but i ignored it.then he broke up with sara and a day later dumped me he said i wanna date you some other time i was shocked.He would talk about us being sexual i liked it but i didnt want to get hurt.2 weeks later he went out with sara again. again the relationship ended.now i still have feelings for him what should i do? (link)
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Hi, this guy doesn't seem to know what he really wants. He is putting you on hold for another time. It doesn't look as though he really loves you. I reccomend you talk to him about things one more last time or simply forget it. It's not good to have a boyfriend who goes on and off the relationship. He doesn't sound to sure of what he's doing. Daniel.
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What the hell is wrong with boys? I don't understand them. When I don't talk to them, they say that I'm being unfriendly. And when I try to tell them and talk to them bout emotional stuff, they run away thinking that I'm in love with them. And when I try to tell them bout more emotional and philosophical stuff, they tell me that they dun understand wat I'm talking bout. Can someone please freaking tell me what wrong am I doing? I freaking pissed with boys! UGH! I hate them. (link)
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Hi, boys can sometimes seem a little weird. Maybe they are just trying to get used to the idea that your a girl and just find it difficult to talk to you because they find themselves more comfortable around the same sex as them. It would be worth asking them. Daniel.
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okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice, (link)
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Hi, the best thing to do is tell him how you feel. Don't string him along because that can make it worser. Daniel.
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My boyfriend and i recently got into a huge fight (again). It started because he was joking about buying cars, then said he would by me a hummer. He completely ignored the fact that my cousin was killed by one only 2 years ago. He claimed that he didnt know about it, but we've been together for almost 14months now, its almost impossible that i never told him. anyway, from there he got really pissed off at me and everything hes been mad at me for started coming out. He told me that he hates that im working full time, going to summer school, and preparing for my moms wedding that is in 8 days. His biggest complaint about them was that i have no time for him. He also told me that he doesnt want me hanging out with people from work. (we worked till 3 am one night then went out to denny's for food) He kept saying things like "i do so much for you, i always make time for you, i try to please you so much and i get nothing back" which is a total exaggeration. At that point i asked him, do you want me to quit my job? drop out of summer school? im not asking you to please me, i just hoped you'd love me. Then he said the big line, "I dont know how to love you"
What do i say to that? how am i suppose to react to him now?
we havnt talked for a week. he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, but ive been crying every night. I realize that we are both at fault for this, but i dont know how im supposed to feel about hearing that after he told me he loves me so many times before.. (link)
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Hi, I think at first he should have gived what he said about the car a bit more thought before he opened his mouth. He was probaly keeping in all these thoughts to himself for a while until you said something and he sort of exploded out with all his inner feelings and things that he really had to get off his chest. This will need to be discussed over fast because otherwise your relationship with him is most likely going to be ruined. Ask him why he feels the way he does and think of a solution to solve it. Daniel.
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so i've just gotten closer with this guy this year [friend wise] he's praticly the closest friend i got. What sucks is that i liked him at first, just kept quiet about it since he "rejected me" last year. [long story. not as literate as u think] anyhow, there are times when were going out, get close and it just gives me that feeling that i know i do like him, but he wouldn't ever feel the same way back cause to him were just really good friends. [i think] sometimes we have these weird conversations thats make me wonder if he does like me. but anyway, we'v both dated other people throughout the year, he goes on and on bout some girl and it kinda gets annoying [i've delt with it for a year, so im pretyy gd :P] so now we're both going to different new school, our plans to stay close til another year so i can register at his. although i doubt it'll work out. its just, i kind of want to let him go, so i wont have to look at him and know that i like him but at the same time, i want him there! [cause hes my best friend.. and i do like] does that even make sence? it feels like the crushes i use to have in middle school! i feel pretty lame but its the way things grew to. our conversations have changed in someways, were more open, but i have to wonder if its just a friendship thing. so u see how messed up im getting? does anyone have any advice for the siuation im in? [[[do not suggest i tell him, that is out of the question ]]] but maybe how to learn to just not love him, how to let go, i dont know but something cause im dieing here!! xxx thanks (link)
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Hi, the only way to let go of someone is to just drop him and never see him again. This may take some time to get used to but eventually or sometime later you should hopefully have forgotten him. You may see another guy you llike and fall in love with him. Crushes usually don't last long if it is a crush. It will happen in time. Daniel.
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so ive turned 18 most of my friends are in relationships and im not i feel really low sometimes because im not like ugly or anything or fat i keep thinking why do i not have a bf! Ive just never found anyone i could say yeh ive been in love with him,all i keep thinking about is my x and he was very mean to me im still a virgin and im getting old now someone please help! i mean also there was a x i still kind of like but i duno if he still likes me. (link)
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Hi, I wouldn't say you were getting old. In fact your quite young and it is quite normal not to have a boyfriend. The only way to get a boyfriend is to go up and talk to guys and flirt. Show your face a bit more and let them know using body language or by hanging around that your single and are ready for a boyfriend and a relationship. I know what you mean, when some teenagers havn't been in a relationship or havn't had sex they can tend to feel depressed, ugly, unwanted and old. Don't show a guy that your desperate because if they find that out they could mess about with you. Make sure that your ready though. Disco's and clubs are great places to meet guys. Just think of places were guys go and be there. Flirt around, have fun. Your still a young teenage girl and have alot going for you. Daniel.
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My boyfriend tends to lie to me about stupid things..like money. If he has 100 bucks he tells me he only has 50 and such. And I have caught him in his lies so many times. He told me that he woul d stop because he didn't know that i cared that he lied about stupid stuff like that.But in my opinion if he lies to me about small things than he's lied to me about more important things.What should I do to get it through his head that I don't appreciate him lying to me all the time. (link)
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Hi, the only thing you can do is sit down with him and talk it over. If he still doesn't follow you after then he isn't being a good boyfriend. Daniel.
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what are the bases in relationships? ive got a pretty good idea but im not exactly sure...thanks (link)
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Hi, it should really go in this order:
1. Dating
2. Kissing
3. Cuddling and kissing
4. Making out
5. Sex
have you noticed it gets alot bigger as the relationship grows? Of course you don't have to do any of these things if you don't want to. But a relationship is something you usually build on. Daniel.
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Hey! I'm 20/f if it matters...
Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, and he recently joined the army. We don't get to see each other much right now because he is stationed on the other side of the country. :( He is leaving for Iraq in a few months, and he is coming home next weekend and will be here for about 3 weeks. It is the last time I will get to see him for a while... he's not coming back home until after spending 6 months in Iraq. While he is home, he is also turning 21! Do you guys have any ideas of what kinds of things I can do for him to make his stay special? we've made plans to go to an amusement park and gambling and of course the usual dinners and movies... but I can't think of more things! HELP!
It doesn't even have to be something that we can do... anything nice, any small surprises, ANYTHING you guys can think of! I'll leave feedback! Thanks soooooooo much!! :) (link)
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Hi, you could go to the beach, walk in the park or go on a picnic in the country side. For gifts you could get him some chocolate or maybe a necklace. But most of all whatever you do, just be yourself and enjoy each others company. It will be a while until you see each other again. Daniel.
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16/f
tomarrow im supposed to hang out with a boy i really like. but i dont know what to talk about with him. i know he likes me too, and we are on the verge of going out..but i dont want there to be an awkward silence or anything..i know his favorite sports and everything..so idk.. what strikes up a good conversation and how can i get him to ask me out soon??
thanks in advance (link)
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Hi, what usually strikes up a conversation is an introduction. Something like "hi, hows your day?" or "hey, how are things?". You can't make someone ask you out, but you can encourage their thoughts by showing signs of flirting or basically interest. He should then be able to pick up if your interested and if he's interested too he should make the first move. Daniel.
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i am a girl 14 and i like my neighbor who is 15 and i told him how i felt but he never said anything bac from then on it was really awkward between us but now i have been seein him more and he has become so much nicer he even IM's me now he go's to all my softball games and all that but i still don't know if he likes me or not he never told me what should i do? (link)
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Hi, the next time you see him perhaps ask him if he would like to go out sometime. Then you can get to know eachother better and once you build a bit of a connection with him, tell him how you feel. Daniel.
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My boyfriend and I have been going through a "rough patch", and we both want our relationship to work but both are confused as to how to make it survive. I really like him and I'm so happy when im with him, I just dont know the best way to deal with the worst that might happen for example; If we split up. Any suggestions? And how can i let/show him that this relationship means the world to me? (link)
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Hi, don't think about you spliting up or anything. Just show that you love him by supporting him and just by basically showing him love and how much he means to you. It is excellent that you both want to make this relationship work. The relationship will survive if you love, respect, have confidence and be determined for it to work. Daniel.
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ok i really like this girl. i don't know what to do though, since she sometimes acts like she likes me, and yet others she doesn't. i also have trouble asking her out (because i am somewhat shy and/or a coward when it comes to that), but i really want to.
what should i do?
14/m (link)
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Hi, simply ask her out. I know your shy and that, but by asking her out you can get to know eachother better and perhaps build on things from there. If you don't ask you will never know properly unless she tells you. Daniel.
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Ok i'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend is 16!
I don't know what i should do about that cuz he's 3 years older then me. And he's never kissed a girl... so should i stay with him or should i dump him cuz he might do something with me?? (link)
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Hi, I would keep him. As long as you both like eachother and get on then thats all that matters. So what if he hasn't kissed a girl before, you could show him. Daniel.
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I still love my ex boyfriend Dean. he wants to go back out with me maybe but i hardly ever talk to him so its kinda hard. my friend Cody i think likes me. i like him too and i would go out with him but i still love dean. and another guy named Cody (we'll call him Cody2) that i work with, i like him ALOT! and i would really REALLY like to go out with him. and I would go out with him in a heartbeat but I dont know if he likes me. we talk alot at work but were not exactlly real good friends. I like all three of these guys and I know Dean wants me back, Cody i think likes me, and the Cody2 might like me. out of all these guys i like Dean the most. i like Cody2 the second most, and Cody i do really like him but not as much as the other two. I talk to Cody more than either of them. i see Cody2 more than eitehr of them too. (Dean lives in Polo and Cody lives in Oak Grove (I live in Kansas City (all the citys are in missouri))) Cody2 calls me alot Cody talks to me all the time at work but I hardly ever see or talk to Dean. I dont know which guy to go out with. but keep in mind that I really like all these guys but i still love Dean. (link)
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Hi, personally I think you should go out with Dean and give it another try. You say you love him and that is a huge part in a relationship. If you both feel the same towards each other then thats all that you need to know. Your not sure if the other two actually feel the same way, were as with Dean it looks good. I would go out with Dean. Daniel.
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Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends? (link)
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Hi, you are most likely to be attracted to her because you've found someone who takes an interest in you. Maybe you've seen her for what she really is rather than how she looks. It would be a great idea to ask her out maybe for dinner somewhere or the movies. You could then from there build a relationship with her slowly and when it comes to the right time tell her that you really like her. It doesn't matter about what your friends think or do. It's all your choice. I would first ask her out on a date and build things from there. Daniel.
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So a while ago, a few years now, I really liked this guy and I was sure that he liked me. We saw very little of each other through these past few years (we went to different schools). But I always saw him at camp. Now, I see him everyday for like 2 hours but we haven't really talked in a long time. And for some reason, I really like him. I don't know why. I am completely honest with my boyfriend (well, now ex) and so one night, I just told him. And because we are best friends and have dated on and off for a while, he told me to go for it, even if that just means just talking to this kid.
So ok. 1 question cuz i know this is getting long. How do you think I should talk to him--- like randomally go up and talk to him? and how will i know if he still likes me?! (link)
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Hi, the only way to know is to ask him. Maybe you could ask him out on a date and take it from there. Look out for signs that he's interested. It could be the way he smiles or looks at you. See how it goes. Daniel.
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i have never thought id be asking a question like this, because i am a girl. but i asked a question the other day about me and this boy likeing eachother,and hanging out alot. he is like really good friends with this girl and im friends with her too. i dont think she knows we like eachother. i didnt really think they liked eachother, even though she always comments sayin she misses him with (link)
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Hi, your better off just leaving things for now and seeing how things go. Don't fight over him or try to split them up. If you wanted to let this guy know your interested in him though you could of course flirt and tell him that you like him. Your friend wouldn't have to know and it will give him a choice. Daniel.
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my boyfriend and i have gone out for a LONG time.. well, lately things have just sucked. idk like our phone conversations are boring (neither of us ever has anything to say) we ALWAYS argue and our conversations just SUCk... what can i do to spark up the relationship or keep things fun???
thanks! (link)
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Hi, just go out with him to places that you would both like to go. Maybe you have nothing to say because your not doing much. Hang out with your friends and stuff like that. By going out more and doing more it gives you the chance to talk about stuff. Daniel.
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16/f
i dont know how to cope with the loss of this guy who i almost could have said i loved. hes not dead but he might as well be. he doesnt treat me how he used to, infact we dont talk at all really anymore. i know he doesnt have any feelings for me anymore but that doesnt mean i still dont have them for him. no one has ever made me feel the way he did. i dont want him back though because it wouldnt be the same. i just want to get over him. i try but it always fails. i dont want to hang out with my friends and when i do i always think about him and when im on the raod to a softball tourny, all i can think about is him and im always depressed.im never happy or excited for anything anymore.
anyone have any ideas on how to get him out of my mind for good?
thank you much
xo (link)
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Hi, usually a way to get a guy out of your mind is to start to know other guys. There might be other guys out there you will go for. It sound as though you had a crush on this guy and find it hard to get him out of your mind. You will never forget him, but you can move on with life by simply mixing with other guys. This can be through clubs, hobbies or nights out with your friends. You will find someone, just keep your options open. Daniel.
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