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How do you turn off the wii exactly? I just got it and don't understand. When I hit the power button on the wii remote the little light on the wii goes yellow instead of green. Is that right? Or should it be red? :/

actually you and the other guy are WRONG lmao ...just leave the power button pressed for longer til it turns red, i dont remember if you can do this from the remote but try it directly....red means that its off, yellow its like its on stand by and actually uses more power energy its like leaving a computer hibernating, its not exactly turning it off. ;)!

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So since i'm in Middle School , my friends talk about sex and i am so fed up with it , so one day my friend mary came over and since my mom and dad were gone i thought i would watch a scary movie with her , so after the movie ended we were bored so she said do i want to try something and i said yes . In a couple of minutes i had her on my stomach and she was going up and down until i just came and next thing we were doing anal sex but out of nowhere she started crying and said she loved me but im not ready

if you do not have feelings for her u shouldnt be getting physical with her cause it sends her the wrong message, as a girl i can say that sometimes we try to make the guy like us and you by responding to whatever she did bj and anal sex might've given her the wrong idea that you might be into her but then she might've been crying cause she felt kinda 'used' even if that wasn't ur intention but she must've been confused wondering like 'did we just did this because he feels something for me or just because i agree on it ?' trust me girls go crazy over that kind of stuff and she might've not realised on time hence why she started crying and telling you the truth, also this might be an attempt for her to make you not get the wrong idea that she just did that with you cause she's a slut or whatever, more like , hey this happened because i love you dont get the wrong idea about me,
but thats just my guess , this sounds like she was trying to make a move on you but tbh sex and bj wasn't the answer cause tbh most guys just answer to this kind of things, but that doesnt mean they feel something for the girl, if you do not have feelings for her , dont agree on doing stuff with her like this, treat her as a friend if thats all she is to you.
IF you do have feelings for her but you're just not ready to jump into something, take it slow, tell her that you like her aswell (if thats the case) and try to date her not just get this kind of 'benefits' from her , that's the right thing to do for her.
if you do not have feelings for her and if she asks like then why you agree on that, apologise to her and explain that you care more about her friendship or something that makes her get the idea that ure not interested without being mean and without saying ' hey im not into you but i used you for a bj and sex' cause that's like one of the worst things for a girl to get from a guy they love

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i am currently taking oracea for a scist on my face and i searched online & it says that it is used in birth control pills to control hormones and that it is difficult to get pregnant while using oracea? is this true? could it be true?

no, and its not meant to be used as some kind of contraception, and actually all the hormon levels being altered by this and the birth control pills could actually turn out in pregnancy, and if it ends that way (you being pregnant ) it could cause complications for the baby that's why pregnant women have to be veyr careful about taking medicines complications such as losing the baby, or having a baby with some sorf ot problem mental or physical.

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ok i need to find an 8th grade graduation dress QUICK!!!! i have a normal figure an normal butt and normal boobs plz help me!!!

what about forever 21? if you're in 8th grade i think it would be ok :)

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http://i166.photobucket.com/albums/u87/briannamuffin/statement_dress.jpg?t=1271875743


I like that dress a lot.

It doesn't have to be that exact one, and I've looked on websites like forever21, charlotte ruse, etc places like that.

I'm just wondering where people find these kind of dresses?

Open back and front completely covered?
It doesnt have to be lacey either
it can be stretchy or whatever.. clubing style or any style i guess.


I just really want a dress with an open back and closed front.

:)

Thanks!

marciano! :) by guess

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allllllright. so i answer a lot of questions about pregnancy on here, so i know how irritating these kinds are. but its just a question. if it bothers you, don't answer :) thats what i do, anyway.

the last time i had sex was two weeks ago. we used a condom at first, and then it was slipping because of the lube, so we took it off. he didn't finish, but he was close. and we did it for about ten-15 minutes without the condom on.

what is the percentage of a chance that i could be pregnant, even if he didnt come? (i dont know if he pre-came or not. he says he didnt, but i cant be too sure)

thanks.

there's always precum even if the guy wasn't close to comming, so theres always a chance one the penis is inside the vagina, it doesn't matter if its for 1 second, as long as there's precum thats enough chance

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Ok, i am thirteeen and inthe seventh grade. I am most of the tme the average good girl. I have only had two boyfriends ever. Ok, im going to ship to the point. This boy really likes me and i like him to i guess. I mean i used to like love him but then i forced myself to move on. I mean there are a few reasons why i am questioning going with him. One, i went out with his cousin, and he lied to his cousin and broke us up because he really wanted to be with me. Two, he is my best friends brother. Three, he just broke up with this gurl that i used to be kind ok cool with. Three, a lot of gurls like him. We really used to be in love yo could say but now i am stuck. Everyone thinks we should go together including me at times.Oh, and i am really shy so it is really scary for me. My first boyfriend lasted for two days and i was twelve. True mistake. Then my second boyfriend (the boy's cousin) we went out for like three weeks and i was just starting to actually fall head over heels then we broke up. Should i go with him please help

you should not go out with him just because everyone thinks you should, obviously i dont know this situation but also i think that if i really liked him you woudlnt' even doubt it and just go out with him, but theres a reason why youre asking me this...you're not sure probably becuase you don't like him enough, the situation is complicated enough already by him being your bffs brother, and your not even sure about it and u don't like him thaaat much, so id say not to risk it,i think that when you really like someone and you're so sure about it you wont even care what others think. think about it , besides you're only thirteen like you're about to start in this age when you're gonna be able to choose from lots other guys who you should be dating, id say just wait and see if it grows on you, and if you still feel like you want to date him then go ahead, just wait and see what happens , and see if he's really worth taking that chance .

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I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was a little upset at what I did, but said he still loved me, and if I 'work with him a little bit' by showing him more pics of my real self & maybe getting a webcam, then we could get back together.

We both have strong feelings for eachother, & I (stupidly) ended the relationship because I knew I could never meet him since I sent fake pics. But now, he knows what I really look like, and accepted me, so a relationship is possible again.

This is my only problem. I've only showed him shoulders up pics of me. I'm not fat..but curvy. He's a tall, lanky guy, VERY skinny, he only weighs 120 lbs! But, I weigh more than that, & I'm scared to show him pics of my whole body. He's been asking for 'bikini'/full body pics & for me to get a webcam, but I honestly don't have any bikini pics, because I hate my body. I think it's too curvy, and it's my #1 insecurity.

Anyway, I do love him, & I realize if he can get over me faking pics, & he does like my face..then can my body really be a cause for him to stop loving me? I'm just scared he'll be unattracted to me, and won't want to tell me because he's too nice.

Basically what I'm asking is: 1. How should I go about showing him pics of my full body? Just send him a bunch then say I have to leave quickly? (I don't want to be there when he sees them, hahah) 2. Should I get a webcam if he accepts the pics the way they are? It's not really like I'd be showing my body on there anyway, he'd really only see my face. Thank you.

id say send pictures, you could take em wearing a bikini but like from the side , if you know what i mean, not like frontal pictures, i understand you're insecure about your body soooo having your hand on your waist will make your upper part of the arm look a bit slimer, and just like curving yourself so he'll focus on something else ! haha trust me it works, guys are veeery visual , like they usualyl don't notice other stuff if your butt looks good and stuff haha trust me girls worry more about this stuff than guys actually seing the picture of something they like, i'd do that, besides taking a picture with you standing like on a side it will make you look a little slimmer ,plus accentuate your curves if you have a nice butt :) and boobs which are the main things showing in this kind of picture haha ! so he won't focuse on something else hahaha if you put a frontal picture, he will most likely get a picture of your belly and stuff and don't know how you feel about it , but in my case that im not slim but im not fat, id do that definately :P good luck ! oh and btw if you want this to wrok you have to do it , or so i think, put yourself in his position, how would you feel....exactly .

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I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend's also 17.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months (4 when we first had sex). We were going to wait to have sex until we were 18 (for practicality but also for privacy reasons), but that didn't work out so well, lol. We had sex once (we were each other's firsts) and were completely safe about it. We both agreed it was amazing and a week later when we were alone again, we had sex for the second time and it was even better. I didn't see him the next week because he went on a family trip so, you know, I missed him a lot! When he got home this past weekend, we started getting really intimate. Right when we were about to have sex, he announced that he didn't want to have sex anymore and that he wanted to wait until we graduated. I thought this was really weird, but he wouldn't say anything more about it. The week has gone on and he's been the same old guy. He's sweet, and thoughtful, and amazing... and guys, I really love him. He just won't talk to me about it. To tell you the truth, I really like sex. I don't want to wait a year. However, he mans a lot to me and I don't want to ruin this. Any advice on why he's doing this or how to get him to talk? Thanks so much!

mmmh actually that same thing happened to me just that i was like your guy lol maybe he does feel guilty about it or maybe he just really doesn't want things to go wrong and start with all those things sex brings to a relationship among them pregnancy scares lol! thats why i wanted to wait til graduating. but talk to him about it, try being comprehensive and not too pushy about wanting to have sex. good luck

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Ok me and my boyfriend just had sex 2 weeks ago and I don't get my period till next week. We didn't use protection and he cummed inside of me. When he told me he did I ran to the bathroom and tried to clean it out because I got scared. Can I end up pregnant? Please help me because I am really scared!

yes , everytime cum gets into your vagina you have a risk of getting pregnant , you can get pregnant from precum as well. so u might wanna take a test. good luck!

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You said your dad gave you dalacil T. Is that with or without prescription?

im so late with this haven't used this in ages lol but i hope it worked for u ..i think dalacil is available without presctiption just in case.... im so sorry for the ridiculously late reply...

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15/f
how do i break up with my boyfriend if he never answers his phone OR calls me back? its a long distance relationship and thats our only way of communication. but i really need to break up with him. it IS NOT working out.
(hes my first bf)
UGH WHAT SHOULD I DOOO?
should i just forget about him and stop calling him? because i have guys coming at me left and right. so if something happens between me and a guy would that be considered cheating on him because i never actually said it was over cause he never answered!
help??

seems like its over for him if hes not answering ...or calling you back...stop calling and if you want to star dating smoeone else then do it , eventually he'll call you and you can explain to him that its defntly not workin

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I wanna know everyones' opinions on age differences in relationships. Mind you, this is out of total curiosity, as a friend of mine and I were discussing this the other day. So I just want to know what you think, like, how big of a difference is too much, and what not.

i agree the older you get the less it matters, cause of course it would totally look wrong for a 20 year old to date mm idk a 15 or 14 year old .. but but what about a 26 year old and a 20 year old its not bad after all...it depends on maturity level though, but i doo think that it matters when the guy is older above 18 and gilrs are underage and really young..cause it makes em grow faster . but thats just my opinion :)

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Well I dated this guy for a year & 3 months. Things just did'nt work out , I was heart broken . He broke up with in June . I fount out JUST 2 weeks ago he had been having " flings " with my BESTFRiEND from that January till the break up , he cheated on me & everything . I went through hell for 6 months trying to get over him . I started hanging with this guy Jason , we became BESTFRiENDS August . We did'nt have feelings for each other for a while , we were seriously bestfriends . Well as the months went by , we did start liking each other & started " talking " . Well my ex [ Justin ] - was my first love . Me and Jason date now , since November . It's great ; He treats me WAY better than Justin did . but after I fount out Justin cheated I really didn't want ANYTHiNG to do with him ... ain't talked to him since I fount out . but I feel bad & guilty because I think about him , I would'nt say it's alot , but more than I should . I know he's my first love & all and that's normal . but I just really want this to TRULEY be over , I feel bad because I feel as if i'm not giving my [ ALL ] to Jason . I'm in love with Jason though , I fell really fast because we knew each other so well & automaticly " clicked "... what do I do ... anyways to just NOT think about him ? ugh

the same thing happened to me and i felt guilty for thinking bout my ex while dating a new great way better guy, but this is just how things are , and what finally let me stop thinking about my ex was thinking that he just didn't care about me enough casue he cheated on me, why should i even risk ruining things with this new guy fro someone who isnt worhty at all, and who..if he would have loved me like he said he did..he woudlnt have done several things like cheating . good luck :D and you'll just froget it as time goes by..also..its not like your thinking about your ex in that way..its just that you're realizing that this new guy does things you'r ex didnt and treats you better,, your mind is starting to really realize he was not the one for you and that this new guy is, by ..kind of .."comparing" them.. : )

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okay i am the worst person in the world right now...
me and my best friend met a group of guys that one guy she knew because he used to work with her. i liked that guy from the minute i saw him. when i told her about how hes cool whatever, i wanted to ask if she liked him to be courteous. never in 100000 years did i expect her to say yes, i like him...so i didn't tell her i liked him too! i dont know why but i tried to hook them up, even tho i liked him. i was being a good friend i guess. one time i could have hooked up with him but made her do it instead and she was so happy after. anyway then i pretty much went ahead and asked him how he felt about her and he asked y i tried hooking them up and i said i dont know, i thought you liked her. and he said...nooo i like u! then we hung out all night and hooked up. and i feel like shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! should i tell my best friend or not? he doesnt think so but i really dont know!!!!!!!! is it really that horrible what i did?

ok well...i'd say talk to her but dont expect her to be happy my best friend did the exact same thing to me only that they didn't hung out by htemselves but always that i invited her she would flirt with the guy A LOT eventhough i first introduce them because i wanted her to meet the guy im dating and he likes me but she just keeps flirting with him .anyway id say that the guy should tell her that hes not interested in more than being friends and you should tell her that you two hang out its the best you can do , thought sucks too . sorry

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Well I've only had it a few times so far and I was wondering, Does my period start a month after the previous period's start date or finish? My last one started December 7th and finished 7 days later(the 14th) so im not sure if I was supposed to start Jan 7th or if im supposed to start on the 14th.

usually 28 to 32 days after you got it so i'd say around january 7th. hope i helped

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Can you reccomend a song that is easy for my guitar exam?

across the universe by the beatles its really easy...and i bet you can get the tab at almost any website

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for xmas my mom got me a new book to write down my piano music in, but the problem is, is that it is really small and doesn't stay open when i'm playing, so i was wondering if anyone has any ideas on a place to write down my piano music, wether it is making one, or buying one, i just need some suggestions, thanks :D

you oculd write it using "guitar pro" then just print it out :D its an easy to use program to write music

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ok so the other morning I was texting my boyfriend. this was our convo.
me:hey
him:hey
me:can I ask a question.nd u gota be honest
him:ya.
me:are you going to or thought about breaking up with me?
him:no. y?
me:im just askng cuz I don't want you to.and it always seems like im making you mad and I just want to make you happy like you make me.
him: ..I thnk that's just called a lil love.

my question.. wat dus he mean by that last line? my friend sed maybe its his way of sayng he loves me. bt it kinda dusnt sound lke it. but I don't know. please help. thankyou in advance

means you're overreacting cause you like him so much you're affraid of something bad happening

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I'm absolutely crazy inlove with my boyfriend.
I'm 15, he's 18. I recently posted a post about prom tiaras.
Well, this year is his prom, I want to make it extra special. We've been dating for 11 months and 1 day. He isnt my first love, & thats how I know that I love him. I've dated alot of guys, so I know what I have to choose from.
We've had sex. & I really just want to know how to make his prom special. I know we probably wont go to "After Prom" & if we do, we wont stay the whole time. & I'm sure we wont go home afterwards. So, just give me a few ideas, on what I can do to make his prom special..


BTW. I'm going dress shopping in the first few weeks of January, & I'm strictly forbidden to let him even see a glimpse of my dress until the day of prom when he comes to pick me up.

Thanks in advance!

k so honestly i think the best way to make his prom special would be to be all time with him and friends not just the two of you, cause i've been through all this and prom is something to spend of course with your date and most of all your friends cause its a very special moment you'll cherish so i think you should not just be focuse on beign the two of you all time, talk to his friends too , you should go to "after prom" cause eventhough you both dont feel like it , in that day you wont regreat going i know many people that just focus on being with his her partner and missed after prom and spent most of the night with their dates had sex blabla but then when this couples brake up they regreat missing this important day instead of spending it with their dates + their friends , i know maybe its not the kind of advice you're looking for but trust me. at least something really important for me at my prom was that my bf was also with my firends so it wasnt awkward and we where all together went to after prom and we just had a great time , or you could just make a small get together wih his friends and dates oh and about the dress i think is a great idea to forbid him to see it! is there any possibility you could spend the night together? cause that would be in my opinion like a great plan for prom, oh remmeber to take lots of pics go dance with him and his friends maybe just an hour or 2 to after prom so he wont regreat missing it (i think he'll really appreciate it ) and then spend the night together and if you two are having sex or something buy some sexy lingerie ;) so in my opinion making the perfect combination between being iwth friends and your girlfriend would be enough for a memorable prom he'll appreciate just make sure he dances a lot hahah even if he doesnt like it too much but he'll have a great time ) hope i helped

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