hey im jess im 15 im from coventry/england im a good listener and so my friends have told me im good at giving advice im here to help anyone that is just looking for some advice,i love helping people out and i try and do so the best i can and i hope my advice will help those in need of some help i have msn if people want to add me and ask me things then thats fine all the best to everyone jessxx
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I'm going to a movie with my best friend, her boyfriend, and his friend who I like tomorrow. The boy I like and I are good friends but I want to know if there are any hints I can give him tomorrow at the movies, maybe to lead him on. People say he likes me and he's been giving hints but how should I act tomorrow. Any tips?
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flirt with him thats the best way dont bore him show him that your a nice girl and up for a laff start chating to him about stuff your interested in put your head on his shoulder if there is a funny bit in the film laff and then look at him make eye contact and show him you know how to have a good time make him laff and show that your confident and little thing dont get you down
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Hey omg i absolutly love your advice column...ok well i really need some help, how do u make a guy want to kiss you?(im pretty positive that he wants to but im not sure)! please help me! (link)
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erm lol im not really good at these things but just put your head on his shoulder and hug him or something youve gota find the right moment so if you feel it is then go for it give him a little kiss first and then build up 2 a snog dont make him feel nervous or put off and if he really doesnt want to then your gonna have to wait till hes ready im afraid if you cant wait then get rid of him and find someone that aint as stiff as an ironing board lol sori i dont think he will pull away though cause uasually its the guys that make the first move but if he is shy make him feel relaxed hoped ive helped
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My name is Jack and I'm 22. Sorry if this is long but I really need the help. I recently found out that I have a 15 year old half sister named sarah. I've been searching for her for a long time and I finally found her. Well when I first saw her I noticed that she had scars on her arms that I think were from cutting herself. The more I talked to her the more I noticed something was wrong. At first she wasn't saying much I figured that was normal I mean she had never met me before and she had just found out that I was her half brother. I've been seeing her everyday for about 2 weeks now and she still seems really nervous like she's almost afriad to get to know me. I've also been trying to meet my father but evertime I go to see him she comes to the door and says he's not home even though his car is there. I asked to meet her mom and she said that she wasn't home either. This goes everynight. Well this afternoon I stopped by without calling first so sarah didn't know I was coming I wanted to surprise her. I heard yelling so I tried to see what was going on but the door was locked. I stood there for 5 minutes before my sarah came to the door. She looked like she was limping and seemed to be in pain. She said that she was going to a friends house so she couldn't go with me today. I asked about her parents again and again they weren't home. Well after she left I went in the house I saw that my father was drunk and her mother was too. I think they could be abusing but I just don't understand why she would hide it. I'm really worried about her. She's a really nice kid and I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to form a relationship with my sister and I don't want to ruin that. Getting to know my father isn't that important to me right now because I've found something better. What should I do to make sure that suspicions are correct? and don't say talk to her because she won't tell me. Also if she is being abused would it be a good idea to turn her parents in even if she doesn't want me to? I'm thinking about asking her to come live with me but I don't know much about 15 year old girls. Would having her move in with me be a good idear or are there other options that will be better for her?
Thank you in advance
Jack (link)
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i say follow your instincts and let her move in with you youve got nothink to loose in fact your gaining a little sister and dont worry if you have problems with bonding with her there are some bonding classes you and your sister can go to im not saying that she is or isnt being abbused because i dont know her i dont know whats been going on and your dont really either so remember to be sure on what you think before you do anything that could turn out to be nothing but im not saying just leave it you need to find out whats been going on becuase if she is being abbused then it needs to be stopped dont go asking her all questions straight off your a stranger to her she hardly knows you she needs to be able to trust you before she says anything so dont put any presure on her she is only young and is probly scared of being on her own so you need to ensure her that she isnt alone and your always there if she wants to talk say you will do your best to help her and if her parents are abbusing her then you can end it but all she needs to do is speak up hope ive helped and if you want to ask me any questions then go ahead and i hope everything works out
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This girl is flirting with my boyfriend and she is trying to break us up and I really like him and don't want him to cheat on me like my last boyfriends. HELP! I don't know what to do. I am confused. (link)
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tell your bf how you feel and say you dont really like him and her making contact say you trust him but you cant trust her and she could take advantage of him or somethink tell this girl to piss off but in a nice way a mean when you and your bf are together and she is there be all over him make her jelous and make sure that she knows hes yours and not hers if that doesnt work then get nasty about it tel her to stay away and if she doesnt then you will have to do something to her tell her to go and find some other lad to anoy
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i have a strange feling of the urge to do it but don't have a boy friend what do i do? (link)
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go out to a few places and get a bf i dont think its right to go out and find any boy you think will do it its not showing yourself respect you will get a name for yourself and its giving lads the example to take advantage
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Well this morning i woke up and my boob was hurting. what could this mean?? 14/f. thanks (link)
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not to worry ya by this but there probly just growing most girls your age go through this i am but if it carrys on hurting and you really dont think its cause your growing then perhaps you can go to your doctor or clinic and get checked out or sumfink its always better to be sure but im sure its nothing serious to worry about
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Do you HAVE to be pretty to get a boyfriend? Because in my school, some guys act like they NEED to find the prettiest girl in the world and they be calling almost evry girl ugly... (link)
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no you dont every lad have differnt tasts n opinions in girls every lad is differnt they dont all go for the same girls they have different intrests
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Is it ok to still think you pretty even though, some people think you ugly, or if they call you ugly then you should go ahead and say your ugly. I'm having that kind of problem. My whole entire family says I'm pretty and cute but I don't know if they're just saying that. My aunt told me that she wasn't saying that just to make me feel good, she said that she SERIOUSLY thinks that im pretty. Even my friend says every body should think their pretty because that was called self confidence. But i just don't know... (link)
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everyone is pretty in there own way exept me of course lol but this isnt about me anyway i think you should stop hating yourself for all the bad things youve got n start to look at all the good things i mean not everyone is perfect im certainly not but i dont get down about it and i dont say im the uglest person in the world and im not the prettyest either but im sure you will find that you like more things about yourself then the stuf you hate and you dont need to be told your pretty just stay positive and these things wont get you down dont hate yourself cause you wished you looked like someone else youve got people that love you and respect you for who you are dont take it for granted show your family and friends the respect there showing you so when the next time they give you a compliment smile and thank them for it
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were can i find music for free besides launch.com? (link)
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www.limewire.com its free just download limewire and you can get any song you want just get the basic 1 cause the pro one you do have to pay for it hope ive helped
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I*ve been going out with this guy for a little over 2 months now, and i really like him...but we dont ever see each other. We go to different schools, and we live one & a half hours away from each other. I see him when i go to my moms, every other weekend..but i dont think thats enough! Summers almost here and i*m gonna be at my moms house all summer, so i*ll be able to see him but people tell me that hes cheating on me and lying to me. I dont know what to do!!...... (link)
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for one thing you have no proof that hes cheating on you and you have no proof hes not either who are these people that are telling you this maybe you should check things out perhaps look at his phone or ask his mates dont go over the top and dont jump to conclusion in my eyes hes inacent until proven guilty but its not up 2 me du what you think is right if you honistly think that hes cheating then be sure your right first cause you could end up ruenin ur relationship
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my dad broke my coller bone da ova day but he says it was an accident which it was. but now when we have an argument he will say he break something else of mine but i dont know if hes joking cause he looks seriouse ive told my mom and she says hes just joking but she ent der when he says it because he dont say it round her. what should i do is he joking or what can any one help. (link)
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hes broke your coller bone once he can hurt you again if he was messing around or not and if it was an accident you need to tell someone for this accident never to happen again your dad should have never done something that serious to you in the first place what caused this so called accident to happen and you need to be sure that it was an accident hes been thretening you with nasty coments about what he did so it seems like he is prowd of what he done and he isnt sorry at all and if he says he will break something else of yours then hes probly right he probly will so to stop this from happening you need to confind in someone else not just your mum perhaps other family members and only be around your dad when there is someone there
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can you please help. me and my boyfriend were in a 3 year relationship but he was really nasty to me he hit me and i use to sell drugs for him i know im stupid but i was so scared of him any way i sucked up the courage to break up with him and i did but now he rings me and follows me i told him i was gona ring the police and he sed he would tell them i used to sel drugs unless i go back to him should i go back i dont want no trouble with the police and also ive already bin in trouble with them once because of it. (link)
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no dont go back to him that will make him think hes won and hes in control of your life you need to find the corrage again and say no you need to proove to him that he cant rule you and he doesnt own you tell him its up 2 you what you do and your not going to be black mailed or forced anymore you need to show him that hes lost if he rings the police tell them the truth that you were forced into selling them say you were terrified of loosing your life and you just want to be rid of this man explain to them that he used to beat you so you got out of the relationship but he was stalking you and black mailing you tel them you no you need the wrong thing by selling the drugs but you thought at the time it was the only way you can stay alive explain you were terrified of him but now all you want to see is him paying for what he did to you im sure they will understand hope ive help good luck jess xx
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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do (link)
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in my eyes i would say you was raped as you told him you wernt ready and you didnt wana do it he stil ignored you and done it without your consent even if use didnt have sex but he done something sexual to you without you wanting him to could be classed as rape i say tell someone and get out of that relationship he thinks he has power over you and he is in control but show him hes wrong
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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me (link)
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you dont have to think of anything great to say i mean just be there for her you dont even have to give her advice just support her and comfort her she has lost someone close to her she needs all the support she can get at this moment just tel her your there to listen if she ever needs to talk and your there if she ever needs a shoulder to cry on
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For the past 3 years I have been walking home its al been safe and no one ever got hurt, untill today....
My sister (Shes 12 and in 5th grade) was walking hom with her boyfriend (same age as kate) like any other day and the light was green but no cars were comming so as kate waited for the light to turn red her boyfrined darted acoross the road for no cars were comming, it that short of time someone turned out of a parking lot a couple yards away and turned and hit the little boy, My little sister saw the accident and heard the band of the TRUCK hit the little boy flinging him and then stoped a couple feet away from where his body layed. He was life flighted to a hospital because he was bleeding and complaning about his back hurting. My sister has calmed down after being REALLLY upset and crying none stop for an hour shes not home right now shes with my dad and i want to know. Is he going to be okay? Hes little ., Whats the chance of his surviving? IT SCARES ME SOO MUCH BECAUSE IF SHE WOULD OF FOLLOWED HIM SHE WOULD BE IN MY SHOES,
also my best friend and sister always say that i am a "mother hen" and make fun of me because if a car isnt slowing down fast enough evne during a red light or if i even think a car is going to be too close i will hold them bakc with my arms ... and then today.. I am sick to my stomich!
PLEASE ANWER!!!
THANKS SOO MUCH (link)
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i think he will be alright and i just think your a good person to be looking so much you never no what could come flying round the corner but maybe you should let it go abit when its on a red light im sure u will be safe and i hope that boy is fine soon
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my name is *Cassy*
I like this one boy that sits acrossed from me in class and every day we look into each others eyes for like 10 minutes and he always has a satisfied look on his face, can you tell me some ways to see if he likes me????? I RATE HIGH!!! please give me some advice...:-( (link)
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just be yourself dont be shy or nervous if your the type of person that likes a lad to no dat u like him and your not shy to tel him then go for it tel him how you feel and dont try to impress him if he likes you then he wil like you for who u are if he stares at you and looks satisfied that i say go for it hes obviously intrested and hes probley to shy to say anything go for it and dont let us gals down lol you say he says that he hates you then i think u should talk to him straight about it , its only a lad hes stil human so dont be scared just ask him whats going on tel him you like him and ask him if he likes you or is he just messing you about tel him that if he is then he needs to tel you cause you dont deserve to be treated that way good luck :0)
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I am a 20 years old horny virgin lives in toronto.
You know any girl wants a one night stand thing in toronto area?
Give them my msn
torontoguy_8@hotmail.com (link)
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no sorry
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okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do? (link)
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well to be honist your walking into your own coffin im not tryna be nasty but you say you dont no what to do and that you dont wana break up i can see where your coming from you just think oh its a miss understanding he wont do that again its was a mistake and he loves me well just to say if it is all the things you think it is then why did he put a knife to your throat your aloud to say your own opinion and just think what was the argument about in the first place what did you say that made him act like that im sure it couldnt have been that bad and if he can threten you like that once he can do it again and perhaps next time he wont be so willing it could end up serious and you could get hurt personley i think you should get out of there , there is no reason for a man to treat a women that way or behave in that kind of anger, but if you dont take my advice and you decide to stay with him and that he wont do anything like that ever again cause he loves you so much then its up to you but if you do, do that and he ends up geting vilant with you and he ends up hiting you or even something worse then i suggest u take my advice at that time that would be the time to get out if he can hit you once then HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN!!!
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Well I met this guy. He is a year younger than me but he really likes me. He is my cousins best friend. I like him just not a whole lot I hate it when he calls me b/c he gets on my nerves alot. He only gets on my nerves because he acts shy around me and he doesn't what to talk about. Do you think that I should give him a chance or what? (link)
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i think you should give it a go , because he is shy so much i just think you need to give him that little push that he needs once u to go out i think he will open up and show you who he really is he sounds eager to give it a shot but its all up to you and who knows you could end up really liking him you only have one chance to make it right so take the chance it could be just what your looking for
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my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be. (link)
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no there is nothing wrong with it, with some people it just doesnt hit them till later on that there never coming back people deal with death differently and some people just dont take it in they think it hasnt happend and when they finaly realize it has happend then then get upset my dad died when i was 5 and i didnt really understand, but now i do and ive grown up abit somtimes its hard and i do have a little cry like when i see things that just trigers it all off but its good to have a cry and to get out all what your feeling maybe you should go to rd4u its a group where you can go to and talk to someone about the loss of your dad u dont have to but its a choice i suggest u make
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