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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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(15/f)Well my life is really hectic right now. Some things have happened recently that are really stressful for me...well i just havent been myself lately && my boyfriend has noticed it. Things arent the same like they used to be. Dont get me wrong i love him a lot but idk if i can handle a relationship anymore. All we do is fight now, and im just always moody now and he deserves way better than me. With everything going i just cant handle the whole bg/gf stress. Yes ive tried talking about it to him but he doesnt get it... I told him we were over last night (that was deff. the hardest thing ive ever done)...its just horrible that i had to do that because its like now all i feel is like sh**.. First i was just like "I have to do this" and now i feel like I need him more than anything. Weve been dating for 7 months, and its like i just blew it. He told me that if i did this that he was never gonna take me back && i did it, so i lost him :(. Idk what to do im so confused. And i cant take a break because those things never work out and besides he said he wont take me back anyway. Hes online right now and he nor I have imed each other. he was really hurt when i told him and he was seriously about to cry :(. Now all i can do it cry because i feel like such a low-life loser. I do love him but its just difficult, really really difficult...If anyone can help me out with this i would really appreciate it..xox

Why not talk to him that you made a big mistake when letting him go? That you were having problems and it was the wrong decision, tell him that everyone makes mistakes and you only can wish he can forgive you. If not, then I suppose you can just make conversation with him, if he ignores you then it's his loss, you're the mature one trying to piece it back together.
Good luck!
x Steph x

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Are contacts hard to take out? I'm thinking about getting them. Any advice on what to do lol?

You slide it then pick it, but be careful. Be sure to take it slow and carefully rather than rushing! :)
x Steph x

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I need a poem to memorize for my english class. I`ve been looking online but I haven't been very successfull. It must be atleast 35 lines, I don't want it to be more then like 50 though. If you guys could just give me some good sites I`d really appreciate it!

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/funny/

That could help! :) It has a wide selection!
x Steph x

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alright, so me and two of my friends have this problem, and we've all decided that I should ask here for advice...

The whole story is pretty long, but I'll tell the shortish version. All names have been changed.

I like this guy named Bob. I found out a few nights ago that my friend Pat likes Bob, too. And then I found out that my friend Dory likes him too (me and Pat and Dory are basically best friends). I talked to Bob about the whole situation, since we're friends. And, I found out that he sort of likes Pat. I talked to Pat about the whole thing, and she said that she's not sure if she would go out with him, because she would feel guilty, and the rest of us, me and Dory, would feel sad and/or pissed off at her, and I said that I would feel the same if I was in that sitation. Also, Bob said that he doesn't want to hurt anyone.

So... what should we do? In short, me and two of my friend like the same guy, and he kinda likes one of us.

Sorry if this is really confusing...

Help!?

It's all about your priorities. Are Dory and Pat prepared to be happy for her friend, even though she may be dating someone they also like? Friends should be there for each other and be supportive of one another. I'm not going to tell you what to do but whatever you decide, make sure all your friends are happy with that decision! :)
Hope you make the right one!
x Steph x

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if it kind of smells down there is that normal? would shaving help?

It's nothing unusual, don't worry. The smell isn't coming from the hair, but from your personal hygeine. Ensure you wash that area at least twice a day to prevent smells and infections.
x Steph x

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hi, 13/m
i have hair around my "butt hole". is this normal? should i shave it or something?
all fives.

No worries about the rating - I'm here to help! :)
You're male and 13, meaning you're about to hit puberty. Male hair is usually kept but you can shave it although it isn't recommended. This is perfectly normal and is nothing to be ashamed of! :)
x Steph x

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Whenever my boyfriend fingers me, it feels like I have to fart. I havent actually farted yet, but how can I prevent this feeling?
Please help!

I believe this is due to you tensing too much. Relax more and perhaps tell your boyfriend to try a different position.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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My cell phone fell into the water. And i guess i'm wanting a new one. It was a camera phone. But what are some good ones that are flip-fones and have camera and stuff.

And are Sidekicks good? What do they have?

Also. Is there any possible way to find out my contacts? Because i've tried putting my SIM card into other phones and trying to find out from there but they only give me a few.

Thank you alot. I appreciate it!

A flip phone with a camera would be Motorola's (preferably V600). With your contacts, it could just be that the water has damaged a part of the interior that shows you the rest of your contacts!
x Steph x

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I was reading a bit on dumping in a book called "the teen survivle guide for guys" and it said that if you dump a girl then beg to get back in the relationship, she will hate your guts and it will be nearly impossible to get back in the relationship. I am asking if there is any safe way to brake up. Like telling her we should be just friends for a while.

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/bl10thingsbreakingup.htm

That will hopefully answer your question! :)
x Steph x

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i haven't had my period for 2 months and i know i'm pregnant because i'm a virgin. relatives and stuff think that i have a problem with reproductive system or something and wants me to see a gyno, but i really don't want to do that and i'll make that my last resort. they think it's because i always drink cold stuff and don't eat. my weight is the same as before and idk. help? i'm 14/f by the way

Periods are mainly focused on patterns. My diagnosis is that your body hasn't fully adapted to this pattern. I know some who have have their period for 2 years and still have irregular patterns, it isn't abnormal! :)
x Steph x

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I have this boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for a year and I'm currently six months pregnant. The problem is that I'm starting to get kind of tired of his ways and his situation. He have this bestfriend, and recently he and his girlfriend is always over my boyfriend house and that is starting to get on my nerves because I really don't like them. It's times that I might want to go somewhere and my boyfriend acts like he don't want to take me but when one of his friends asks, it seems like he always could find a way to take them to where they got to go. I just don't feel comfortable at his house anymore because his best friend and his girlfriend is always there. I feel like I can't even spend time with him anymore because I don't want to be around them. He always want me to come over but he knows how I feel about them being there and he never say anything about it. Another thing is that he always dis me to play the game. He is a grown ass man and if he always have to hang up the phone with me to play a game then he needs to grow up cause I barely talk to him. A part of me is getting kind of tired of this, but it's hard because I'm pregnant with his child. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO!!!!!!!

Talk to him. Relationships are mainly based on communication. If this situation is affecting you this badly, you must tell him and get his input on it. Being pregnant puts stress on you and the last thing you need is this, tell him that.
Best of luck with talking to him and the pregnancy!
x Steph x

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Anyone now any good songs to play on the guitar.(Acoustic)
We have semester finals,in about 4 weeks.
And we have to play,a song so any ideas?

http://www.azchords.com/

That might help you come up with a few ideas!!
Best of luck on your semester finals!
x Steph x

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Hey guys,
Me and my older sis just got our noses pierced today, and we were wondering how the hell we're supposed to blow our noses. Wouldn't stuff get stuck on our nose rings? We both have nose screws in right now, their really little diamonds. My sister's is clear and mine is a really light blue. We're wondering when it would be okay to blow our noses. If anyone has their nose pierced, can you please let me know what you did when you first got it done? That'd be great. Thank you so much! I'm going back to the place in about a week or two with my sis to get our nose rings tightened. Thanks in advance!

It is possible but you must be VERY gentle and be sure to wash your nose more than you would normally or it could become infected.
x Steph x

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ok so there is this guy in my class that i really want to get to know. I like him but i havnt really done anything to show it. Anyways, whenver we pass in the hall both of us look away really quickly. lol. i cant help it. he usually only says one word to me and thats bye, but he acts figgidy and stumbles on his words. its really cute! lol. I put this little note on his locker on valentines day last year from a secret admierer and i dont think he had any clue it was me. Anyways, we are both shy, but how can i know if he likes me?

If you really like this guy, then why not show it? Everyone has one shot at this life but many people are being held back because of shyness which will all overcome as you become older. Why not try to overcome this shyness and smile at him, see what his reaction is. I know my advice is easier said than done but it's well worth it in the end.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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hi!
im 13/f
and ive been begging my parents since the 5th grade to get a second ear peircing. i am now in the 7th grade and just turned 13 and i asked my mom again and she said yes i can get one. the problem is my dad .He said NO because hes afraid that after i would want more piercings and come home with them all over the place. I told him that everyone has their second hole but he doesnt care. What should i do to convince him to agree on me getting one ?

Why not promise him that you won't have any other piercings until you're out of the house (i.e. an adult)? That might stop him panicing slightly. Try it! :)
x Steph x

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OK at my school theres this dude. and of corese i like him i have for 3 years but anyways, he knows it and do im just tring to be his friend and he says i need to talk to hiim more. WHAT!!!??? I talk to him all the time and he just walks away. so me and him got in this fight and the next day (like he forgot the whole thing) waves at me like 3 times in the halls *WHATS HIS ISSUSE .......... i just wanted to know if any guy could translate what he's doing. PLEASE *~*Karlie*~*

I'm not a guy but perhaps he is confused with his feelings. He may like you but there might be something holding him back..
G'luck though!!
x Steph x

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14/female

okay this boy likes me but he doesnt want to ask me out yet because he thinks im prude and well i only had one other boyfriend before and we only kissed like once but it was like a second. and i dont want a reputation as prude! so i would like to know some tips for kissing someone like much longer than a second ! like making out ! =)

so please leave tips pleasee !! or just anything about kissing that could help me
thanks !

http://www.thekiss.com/

This website includes everything you need/want to know about kissing, includes quizzes and step-by-step guides on how to deliver the perfect smooch!
x Steph x

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i have wavy and curly hair.
when i want to wear it down wavy/curly i cant because it poofs up and becomes frizzy
i used moosue (sp?) and it does not work still makes it frizzy and poofy.
what can i use so it wont make my hair dry?

Gel and/or hair spray could help solve this problem! :)
x Steph x

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does any1 know the name of eminem's new song i think its like "what i got" but everytime i put that it nothing comes up?

i'll rate all 5's

It's called "When I'm gone" :)
x Steph x

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Last night, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. While we were doing it, it started to feel good (but it still hurt), and sometimes when he was like going inside of me and the back out it started to feel like it was too much. It felt like I was having an orgasm, but it felt like I was going to like throw up. This happened like 5 times during a period of like 45 minutes. Is this normal and has it happened to anyone else?

Sex would feel like this for the first time. Perhaps this pain that you were feeling was your hymen breaking, in which case, you could see some blood discharge even if it isn't anywhere near your period. It's perfectly normal so don't worry. Next time, it might feel like it again, but not as painful!
x Steph x

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