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I just dumped my boyfriend of two month's two weeks ago.Why?
Because he told my brother to tell me that we are still together,but he's also dating someone else.I was really hurt.So I broke up with him.I told him to never talk to me,and I gave him all his gifts back.
But the wierd thing is,I miss him,and wish he would talk to me.
I also found out from his best friend that he cheats on alot of girls.
I feel like it's my fault he cheated on me,even though it's not.
He only did it,because I wouldn't kiss him.
I'm just confused as to what I should do.Should I give up,and accept that we were not meant to be?Or should I try to fix things?
Hun, Im sorry but there's nothing to fix. He cheated on you and cheaters dont deserve anyone as good as a nice girl like yourself. Its normal to miss someone who has been a big part of your life for a while. Try to take your mind off of him. Its not your fault he cheated on you because you wouldnt kiss him. It was something you might have not been completely comfortable with him yet to make that move. I find thats a big move in a relationship. Get some of your friends to help you through this, you deserve much better than a lying cheater. Hope this helps! :) Im always here if you need me.
Y is it that having a broken hart can destroy your life ?
Y do we get so close to someone only to let ourselves be hurt ?
Y do we feel as if we are the only ones on this earth to feel this way ?
I myself have gone through this pain of losing someone I love and feeling like there's nothing for me to live for , when I got dumped by my Fiancée she dumped me over a txt message on the phone after being together for almost 3 years she couldn't even say it to my face :(. I was a grate boyfriend and I looked after her a lot she had a lot of issues and she never really loved me the way I loved her she would flirt with other guys in front of me and contact her exs behind my back knowing they wanted to sleep with her. She did a lot of bad things to me that upset me and depressed me , I am 24 and she was 19 turning 20 . She used me because she knew how much I loved her and that I would do anything to make her happy even if that means giving up my happiness . I sold my motor bikes that I loved ,to take her on expensive holidays everything , we brought a new car together and motor bikes heaps , when she left me she took everything the car the bikes , my hart :(. She left me just the engagement ring that was it not even a expiation for y she dumped me . We worked together side by side and that was very hard for me to come to work and see her all happy while I was sick depressed and upset I loved her so much I wanted to have a life with this girl kids and b a family :(. I would try talk to her and she would tell me to "fuck off and get over it you will find better " I was devastated she even come back up to me and said I will give you another chance and I was so happy I when to the shops and brought her flowers and candy as soon as I got back she said "um can we just be friends first" and I was confused ? We were never friends and she said she was giving me another chance ? Then I told her "we were never friends you know that and u told me you was giving me anther chance half hour ago ?" She said " we I am leaving town next week so ........" I said "so what's that mean are we still together are we going work this out ?" She just said she had to go back to work and walked off then txt me and said I am out so there's no you and me . She played game with me and burned me got my hopes up to shoot me down I left work that day and quite I told my friends at work I am leaving now . They were shocked and angry with my ex that because of her I was leaving . She found out and come back to my place after work and told me don't go I love you , but I knew it was just another act she played with me and hurt me so bad , I always told her that "don't ever lose me because when I am gone I am gone for good " and I told her that night as I was leaving my room "good by my love you will never see me again " as I walked away trying to hold my self from crying I left her there crying as she watched me slip away . I left my hole life behind and I had a good job everything but because of that brake up I lost it all . It's been 6 months and I am currently living with family I am unemployed as its hard to find work here in taz and I have no fiends here I do boxing to help with my emotions and I have had a very hard time getting over the past with my ex love . She still try's to contact me and tell me how she loves me and that there's heaps of guys who want her but she only wants me , I know it's all a act to her and that she dosnt really want me but I still love her I don't trust her and I try not to let her hurt me but I still love her I always will . I know. Things are tuff and that it seams like u can't go on without them but you are wrong you can , and we are the better ones here we are the ones that cared so y should we let ourselves suffer for them ?? We may get knocked down but we still have more fight in us and we should use it to help ourselfs . Yes it's going to b hard to get through it but we can do it , killing yourself means nothing to them they might b sad for 3 weeks or so then they back with someone ells like you didn't matter so think about it hurting yourself isn't hurting them ok it's hurting you and your family and friends . If you ever need to talk to someone this is my email beaubo1988@hotmail.com
This broke my heart to read :'( I seriously cried hearing this story. Im so so sorry you lost her and she turned on you like that. Ive been in a similar situation when someone just toyed with my head and one moment told me he loves me and the next said he hates me. I hope things will get better for you. It takes alot of time to recover from something this depressing and sad. Im sorry you had to go through something like that. You shouldnt have to suffer and you deserve much better than her. I know you still have feelings for her, but its best if you try to find someone new or surroud yourself with great friends who will help you through it. As for unemployment, dont worry if you look hard enough, Im sure you will find great job offers. Im not sure what else to say but if you need any more help or just want to express yourself, you can always inbox me :) I really hope this helps and just try to stay strong and get your mind off her.
Hi I'm 19 years old and me and my boyfriend had sex on oct 2nd I had what seemed like a period on the 31st. That lasted a day or two and than in nov I had really bad cramps and I thought it was my period but I'm not for sure cause it only lasted a day than I had brown discharge and I skiped the whole month of bec but I did have brown discharge and cramping now its jan and I had a one day thing that seemed like my period I only needed one pad and whin I wip I had brown discharge and blood in it now I'm having pressuer on my lower abdomen and bubble guts I don't really have regular periods I don't know what's going on whit me
I would say that if you had protected sex that its very unlikely that you are pregnant. Just in case though, I would take a pregnancy test. WHat I think is happening is that your period has become irregular, its perfectly normal. Just keep calm and dont worry about it.
there is this girl i have a huge crush and i cant stop thinking about her even if i try i think im in love with her. im 13 and shes 14. my issue is my parents wont allow me to date and i think she has a boy friend what do i do
Thats so sweet. I have had the same problem but opposite in gender. I know many people have been saying u dont know what love is and u need to slow down but screw them, your entitled to your own opinion and i believe in young love. What you need to do is talk to her, in person would be better but online is okay if its your first time talking to her. If your parents dont let you date then i suggest only flirting with her and you should ask her if she actually does have a bf before flirting with her. I hope this helps
I don't want stuff really sexual and private but I want suggestions tht r flirty ( I really like this guy )
-Who do u like?
-Best kiss?
-Ever dreamt about me?
-Funniest memory?
-Prettiest girls that you know?
-Farthest youve gone?
-Farthest you would go with me?
-If I were with you right now what would you say/do?
-If I were to kiss you would you kiss me back?
-What is my name in your phone?
-Things you look for in girls?
-Rank me on a scale of 1-10 in looks, and personality
Hope these give you some good ideas =)
I know that the average size for a 12 year old is smaller and its hard to hide this giant thing when i erect is this normal?
Its alright, everyone has different growing speeds. you probably just hit puperty a little harder than the rest. Completely normal
okay so i know this is stupid of me to ask but i feel like when i ask people i know i don't get an honest answer. im 5'2 i have light blonde hair that ends right at my boobs its usually curled or in beach waves im a 34DD in a bra i have light blue eyes i usually half to get like a size 8 in dresses since my boobs are so big and have the dress made smaller in the waist i definitely have curves and a butt my waist is smaller and i have big thighs i get really nervous and awkward when i half to get in a bathing suit because i have 2 scars on my stomach. i get told im pretty all the time but i just can't bring myself to believe it i also hate going places because i feel like everywhere i go im being judged
You sound gorgeous. Dont let anyone bring you down! Your human! Everyone has flaws! It doesnt matter about your body shape, because honestly, people with curves is alot prettier than someone who is a stick and doesnt eat to be skinny. Everyone is beautiful!
12, Female
Hello, i'm Melanie. My bestfriend's name is Lily. Ok so she had a boyfriend named Jake. Well, I've liked Jake for a long long time.. Now I think I love him. I'm serious, here. I can't ever get him out of my mind, i've written SO many songs about him, I listen to songs about him, ect. Well, Lily still likes him. At least I think she does. Anyways, I think Jake And Lily will get back together!! If they do, i'll cry so much.. What do I do? I feel so bad for loving him when she likes him. What do I do?!
Dont let a guy come between your friendship with Lily. Your 12, there will be more opportunities and you cannot love someone of the opposite gender when you are that age. If you like Jake then you will need to tell Lily that you do. She will understand.
So I'm taking this art class at school (I'm in ninth grade) and I absolutely hate it. I'm really worried that this class is going to ruin my GPA. The thing is about our teacher is that she only wants us to draw her way and not our way. It literally sucks all of the creativity out of you. She's never given anyone an A on anything because she criticizes everything. Everything is always wrong. She would probably give Picasso a C because his work was too abstract. She recently marked down my last drawing because " there were too many lines showing." What's even worse is that she never tells us how she's grading something or what she expects out of us. When we ask her, she ignores us completely. I've never done anything wrong in her class and I'm a straight-A student. The class only lasts one quarter, so I only have to survive another month of this. Can you give me any advice on how to deal with her? Thanks!
Listen, no one can critisize your art. Art is the subject I am good in and the best at in my class. Every artist has a different interpertation of art. Art is everything around you, everything has been created by someone so it is considered an art. I think you better talk to your art teacher and tell her that art is not a skill because anyone can create art. Pablo Picasso is an amazing artist. His work is very original and everyone has their own way of creating it. Look at this site: 744autumn.weebly.com
What if I stick a highlighter in my front end? Will I get pregnant?
You cannot get pregnant from sticking a highligher in your front end. To get pregnant you must have sperm to fetilize your eggs. ALthough, the only dammage a high lighter could do is if u push it in with enough force and far enough, it could possibly pop your cheery. I think you should be fine as long as you keep the highlighter capped and dont force it into you far and hard enough then you are safe. Hope this helped!
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(im a girl and Im 13. My boyfriends 14)
So Im dating this guy and he dumped his ex for me. Which is kinda cute yet kinda mean and scary. So its only been one day weve been dating and I want to trust him. His ex keeps telling me (and a whole lot of people) oh dont date him he's a player and he dumped ____ for me and dumped me for you and now who will be next? and all this non sence. But, I have only known him for 2 weeks. He said I was cute the first day we met while he was dting his ex and I said arnt you dating ____ and he said yes but, its not cheating. Im just calling you cute. and we passed notes all the time and payed 21 questions or would you rather. He said I seemed like a really nice person. He also told me he was gonna break up with his ex due to shes so emotinal and getting her friends to ask him questions. Than like on a thursday his ex came up to me and said people are saying your flirting with my bf. THAN right after that he broke up with her and I didnt even know until the next day. I saw him later that other day out of school but, never spoke to him. Than in 2nd period (the only class we have together)
He asked me if I liked him. course I said yes and he asked me out after class. We hugged than went seprate ways to classes. We sat together at lunch and him and his buddy were making fun of his ex's name (it is kinda... weird) but, I was like *is he going to do that to me?* but I didn't say anything. Than after school we met up & I waited for him at his locker and once he was finished we started walking together.
he was so sweet and asked me, "Hey can i carry your books for you?" and I said yes. Than some 6th graders were in front of us (were in 8th) and he was like " move dammit" than the girl was like asshole and of course I laughed. It was funny. I think he was just trying to make me laugh. But, after I was still laughing and I was like, "your mean." and he just smiled back, "kinda ahaha." so were walking still just chatting and he asked, "so wheres your bus?" I poined and said right there."
He walked me and slowed down about 10 feet away from the bus and leaned over and kinda whispered, "do you mind if I kiss you goodbye?" and of course this is like the most sweetest thing ever that he would ask me that. So I said yes and we kissed. Just a long like 5 second kiss. No tounge just lip. I said bye and smiled my whole way home.
I got dressed up on friday for him but, forgot he wasn't going to be here. He was going to be in court. yes, court. For family issues I believe but, before we started dating he told me he went to court on monday for being caught with alchohl. and No that doesn't scare me or anything because I have had plenty of friends like that who under age drink but, i dont. I said okay and we went on. He sounded kinda shy like he didn't want to tak about it so I said okay and respected his privacy.
But, is he a player or not? His ex said he had a note about me that he said something about how he just wanted to hurt her and date me to do so cause she would care but than my friend kept a note from him that said why he broke up with his ex and because she was really emotinal and thats why (I explained more in the beggining)
So is he? I wanna believe he isn't but I dont know. And he has this best friend where he acts kinda diffrent around me when hes alone. And not by much but he kinda acts like all guyish. (you know, "hey ______ you have a big butt.) Thy said that to me but than i was like thats kinda insulting and he said no its a compliment. Its good. and I was all like sure whatever. and really didn't care. i was suprised cause i really dont have a big butt but whatever.
So please tell me if hes either or and explain why. thanks for reading all of this.
Ok well first off, dont appologize for the length of your question because I do the same thing all the time. Ive had a similar boyfriend before and he was the player type and I didnt belieeve my friends or his ex's because everyone kept telling me he would hurt me and he did. All he liked me for was my boobs and my looks and butt.
Having a big butt to a guy is a compliment but to a girl saying it to another girl it is not. I dont know why that works that way but it does. I think he is a player and eventually once he gets what he wants from you (your heart, boobs, butt, lips, and possibly sex), he will hurt you. Im not saying to break up with him right away but just think, is this the type of guy you really wanna be with? I mean of course he is funny and nice and calls you cute but soon I think that he will only want you for the stuff I listed above.
Sorry, I dont want to be the one to break the bad news to you but its true that he is the player type. You cant expect him to change either, he will say cute things to you then hurt you (known from personal experience). Just be careful with this guy, make sure you know everything about him and his past girl friends before you do anything with him or break up with him. I know you dont wanna be called mean names by him and his friends if you guys break up but it will eventually go away. If I were you, I would kinda wanna know why he was going to court.
If he acts differently around you than with his friends, then that practically means he's two faced. What you need to do is find out which face is real and which is a lie.
Hope this helps!
i think i may be seeing ghost or hallucinating or whatever.i told my mom,and she told me it does run in my family.its like this woman has been following me my entire life.she is always the same and fairly ageless-always a white female,long brown hair,about 30 or so,bony but not in a gross disgusing way,and always wears a forest green track suuit.it started at a very younge age where i just saw her walking.then one day i asked her wat shes doing in my yard.she was only about 10 feet away but she sounded like she was miles away and had a peice of paper between un to muffle her voice.i tried to get closer but she was gone.it happens at random times and and isnt just at one place or house.it happens every 2 or 3 months or so.the most recent and when she was the closest and most vivid was 2 weeks ago.i told my parents to see if they knew her.i was looking out the window in my dads dining room at the garden.she appearded to be squatting and turneed her head and looked in my eyes.she got up and started briskly walking toward me.i called my sister to come see her and see if it was one of her friends moms.but even tho she was right at the window facing me,her face sweating(it was hot) she said she saw noone,even tho she was right there.i got scared.shes been everywhere latly,just on the street and i say there she is a gain but no one else sees her.im scared becouse shes gotten closer as ive aged.im 13 now.and the strangest thing,im her in all of my dreams.im never me.i look like her,im weasring green,and i dont like any of the same things.i feel like i am her but remember that im me.shes scares me.am i hallucinating?who is she?why am i her in my dreams?i often draw and most of the people end up looking like her.am i seeing a ghost and am i haunted??Help.
It sounds like you hallucinating and if by knowing your doing this and it isnt going away, then I would tell your parents again and see if you can go to a doctor or see a phsychiatrist.
Hope it helps!
I am a 14 year old girl born in may and i am a freshman. i am about "5.2 or "5.3 and i am probably 115 lbs. i am all muscle and im lean. i have A32 breasts and i started my period when i was 12 in February of 7th grade. my dad is "6 ft. and my mom is about "5.2 i was wondering when i will most likely stop growing according to all of that info? and how tall will i most likely be?? my feet have stopped growing and i am a 7.5 shoe size.thanks!
Unfortunatly, there is really no way to tell. Its not just your mom and dad's height you might get, you could possibly get any relatives or aunts and uncles or anyone's in your family! You carry all of their genes which means they are blood related. I would look at everyone's height in your family and find the average in all of them.
Hope this helps!
Alexa/13
I was talking with my best friend about my boyfriend and told her that I had sex with him and that the condom broke. She then said I was becoming a slut and that she was gonna ask my mom to get me help. I was so upset and dont kno why she would say that she made me cry. Why would she say that? It really hurt my feelings and now she wont talk to me.
Um you say your only 13, trust me, you dont wanna be called a slut. It can start a chain reaction and others could call you it too. And also, you had sex when your 13? What are you thinking? You dont want to do that because you do not wanna risk the chances or becoming pregnant! Even though you used a condom, you say it broke and thats not good at all. I would try a pregnancy test just to make sure.
In regards to your friend calling you a slut, you just talk to her about it. I know it hurt your feelings that she said that, but maybe you shouldnt talk about your sexual life in front of her... Does she have a boyfriend? If not, then I think she might be jealous.
Dont ruin your life by having sex at this age, it can cause a bad reputation for you in high school saying you lost your virginity at this age. But, just talk it out with your friend and try to get along with her. And also, if your ever in a position where you have to choose between your best friend and boyfriend, choose your best friend. Friends stay together, guys are whatever :) Hope this helps!
i want to kiss my lover but when i see her i can't do that please help me i have 17 years old
Thats really sweet :) I think that when your about to kiss your true love, even for the first time, it can become nerve racking. Just keep calm and when the time is right then you should just lean in, close your eyes and let the magic happen :)
Kissing comes naturally so let your lips do the work and just relax and make sure not to tense up. You should know when you have the perfect opportunity to kiss your lover. Hope this helps :)
http://www.wikihow.com/Kiss
can you get pregnant by fingering your self & making out a lot?!?!?!?
No, of course not. You can only become pregnant if sperm from a boy's penis enters your vagina.
Making out and fingering yourself do NOT make you pregnant.
I always get cracks on my thumb nails. LIke on the outside about a forth of the way from the tip of my nail, there are horizontal cracks that go through my entire nail. This is constantly happening and if they break, they are really short and really hurt. So I was wondering if there's any way to patch these up so it can grow out without breaking. I've tried putting cheap drugstore fake nails over them to protect them, but I have really long nail beds so drugstore fake nails are too short. I've also tried super glue and a tiny bit of toilet paper as a makeshift patch but this is unsightly and doesn't hold very well. I'm looking for an actual product that was meant for this purpose. I tried searching "nail patches" on google but just found nail art patches which is not really what I'm looking for. Thanks
Sorry, but there is no way to really patch up your nail. If there was I'd try it by now :p Just try getting a manicure or paint them yourself to stop thinking about it, I constantly have nail polish on so I do not bite them. But the thing with having polish on 24/7 is make sure youve got a good base coat. Back to your situation, just try buying a nail strenthener so your nails do not become britle and chip alot. Mine ALWAYS chip where the tip is :/ Anyways, hope this helps!
I just started my period I was dark red it was brownish what does it mean
It doesnt really mean anything, it is perfectly normal. My first 6 period cycles were brown and a dark red and never changed until my 7th when it turned bright red. Dont worry, you may have an irregular period and its nothing to worry about.
Well, I had this friend last year in middle school and I thought I heard him call me a b*tch. I went up to him and asked him if he called me a b*tch and he yelled and said no and we started yell, but a teacher told us to stop and go onto class. I've been trying since after that day to be his friend again, but now we're in the next grade and aren't in any classes together. My younger brother and his younger brother are in a sport together too. What is the BEST way to get my friend back as fast as possible?
(P.S I am not a boy.)
Ive had a similar problem, not fun =/ Just play it cool like that never happened and walk up to him at lunch or something and just try to small talk, asking 'long time no talk' and stuff like that. Even try messaging him on facebook, even though its not very good to express yourself over the internet, its the easiest way. Sometimes taking the easy way out can be fine aswell. Just try talking to him on facebook and if things go bad you can always just log off, hope this helps! Inbox me on here how it goes =)
sex makes your boobs grow bigger
This is incorrect. Sexual intercourse does not make your boobs grow any bigger and who ever told you this is not right in the head ;P