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My name is Erin.
I'm almost 16 [17 days!]
I love this site so much, I always ask a billion questions on advicenators and I do my best to answer as many as I can too.
Most of the time when answering questions
I give you my opinion,
then I go through different senarios [2 or 3] that are on each side of the issue
So ask away :)

advice

How do I know whether I have been blocked on myspace?

its a possibility
or she might have accidentaly deleted you
both would explain that

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hey,
so this guy and i we are close and like each other loads but i recentley heard that he slept with 2 other girls and i ignored it for a few days. But this morning we were talking and then something made me mad and i just flipped and told him about it. He was soo upset because i was like 'am i just another girl to you?' and then i left his house. He texted back saying 'he could not believe the rumours that were not true and how i could believe that i was just another girl'...he then texted back defending himself against the accusations. i left him a message apologising and then a text, but he won't pick up, i rang him once and my best friend rang him once. What should i do if he doesn't ring back??

go back to his house, say sorry and that you really care about him and you don't want him to hurt you, also say that if you hear another stupid thing you'll ask him about it before you assume its true,

if he won't talk to you at his house, go to the places he normally goes and try to talk to him there ex: the pizza place, a 711, the drug store etc.

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I kissed my best friend's crush. She doesn't know we like made out and he was in my shirt. She thinks I kissed him on the cheek whiich I do every day cus we are good friends. But I feel awful and he and I know to keep our relationship on the down low till she get over him. Am I a bad friend for not waiting? Please be honest

something like that happen with a good friend of mine, except she was the one liking the guy and her other friend kissed him, she found out and cannot/will not trust the girl again and i don't blame her,

you wanted us to be honest so here is it:
chicks before dicks
and besties before testies

end it with the guy and start up when she gets over him, that would be what a true friend would do when they've messed up

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so im 16 and my diet used to be very bad. lots of junkfood and soda. recently however i started eating very healthy. I have fruit for breakfast, lots of veggies for lunch and dinner, i get protein in my diet too. i completely cut out soda and only drink water, its been great. except that ever since ive been on this healthy diet i CANT poop. ive been so bloated and constipated. i dont know why. i dont think its normal at all. i mean i get everything they say you should. i have fruit throughout the day and get a lot of fiber. why is this happening!?

for a question like this you need to talk to a doctor,
yeah it will be embarrising but doctors have to deal with alot worse and its their job, besides when you figure out the problem you'll feel much better

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Ok, so I'm starting to think about working out for the summer. The only problem is, I have a terrible procrastination problem and I don't commit to things very easily at all. I also want to start dieting but those problems still apply. How do I make it easier to wake up and actually enjoy running?

go online, find a deli a mile or so from your home, and walk there, when you get there have a heathy breakfast and then walk back

or promis your self things.
"I will not buy new clothes unless i work out X times this week"

i'm trying to lose wieght myself and i knowwwww it sucks, but you just have to eat veggies alot more with meals and wieghtdrops fast, esecially with exercise behind it

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My bf and I have been together for a bit over 2 years. We are both 20 years old. We have had a really good and healthy sex drive up until about 6 months ago. He used to be able to have sex multiple times in one night, even after he orgasmed. Now he can go once, maybe, and then that is it. And when we do have sex, sometimes he has trouble keeping his erection.

Also, recently he tore his frenulum (the skin that goes from the shaft of the penis to the head - he is uncircumsized) during sex. So now it is even more difficult to have sex, if we have it at all because it is not fully healed yet.

I am a very sexual person and this is very frustrating. We have been doing other things but it is getting old and I don't know what to do. I want to bring it up but I can tell it bothers him a lot when I do. Our sex lives just aren't the same and I feel I am too young to be so bored in my sex life already. I have only had sex with him and am not interested in just breaking up with him and going out just for sex. Any advice on what we can do? I just don't know how long I can put up with this.

ask him to go to a doctor, if he loves you he'll do it, tell him to explain to the doctor whats been going on and maybe he can help

and in the mean time get some sex toys for both of you, you can order them online as to not deal with the humiliation of getting them in person,
you are totally right though, u shoulsdn't be bord this early on with sex

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15f

I have not had my first kiss yet and I'm already a sophomore
it sunlcks alottt
but what are some tecniques you use for kissing I have no idea how to kiss someone
how can I practice?
what do I do???

you cannot pratice
i know people hate to hear it but when you have your first kiss you Havee to just go with the flow

normal kiss: count to three in your head before you pull away
pucker your lips just a little,
DON'T FREAK OUT
its one of a million more kisses

french: spell out your name with your tounge, i know werid but thats a trick i've herd,
stop for a few sconds to breath but stay very close to there face
and DON'T be afraide to make the first move
guys hate making the first move so we always have to for themm lol

good luck

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Hello. if you could identify this statue for me, I would greatly appreciate it! :] thanks. byebye


http://s251.photobucket.com/albums/gg289/ellissoj902/?action=view¤t=1201036673132.jpg

it looks like photoshop, not an acctual statue. photobucket has alot of those things

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Well me and my x have been talking latley and i am getting back old feelings that we used to have.
we just got back form a cheerleading comp and we flirted the whole time we both have feelings for each other but she has a boyfriend and it's been really hard for me because it's like everything that me and her used to share it's with them now and it's really hard to wacth that.she has not cheated. we have not done anything psyically we are just really good friends but i dont no if i can do that anymore because of me and her loving each other still. please i need HELP!!!

ask her: do you still like me?

if she says no: ok i was just wondering and bring up something else fast

and if she says yes:"thats not fair to me or her currrent b/f"

see how it goes from there, she'll have somethinking to do but it might go in your favor.
don't stop being her friend just because u like her, be there when she needs a sholder to cry on, all girls need an amazing guy in there life so be that for her

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14/f im not sexually active firstly. today i was sittin on my coach and i felt somethin weird so i went to the bathroom to check it out. i got some tissue paper and grabbed at the spot and pulled, what came up was a knot of my pubic hair and this small red bug, which was dead...i think. what is this red bug and is it dangerous to my health?

it sounds like crabs, and you don't have to be sexualy active to get them
crabs are like lice except on the rest of your body, go to your mom and ask her to make a doctor's appointment, it might be nothing but don't take that chance

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ok so im hooking up with my ex boyfriend tomorrow and i was wondering if you knew any tips that i could tease him with...like im wearing a low cut top lol
...i just mean like how could i sugestivly touch him and things i could say that would be suggestive...
i just want to know how to keep him wanting more.
sorry about the brief essay im just really excited =D

touch the hips, upper legs, lower back, put your arm up his shirt and run one finger slowly down the middle and stop just befor his penis, kiss his neck, if your talking to him, don't talk as loudly so he has to lean into you, wear sweet smelling perfume that IS NOT STRONG, but, when hes leaving spray a little on something he has so he'll be thinking about it afterwords

hope i helped

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So today my bf tried to finger me but it didn't work! aand it was possibly the most embaressing thing ever lol cause like his finger wouldn't fit in and it hurt like hell trying to. how do i fix this!?

ah, i'm sorry that is embarrising and i could definitly see how that would hurt,
try having him just slide his hand slowly down theree [make sure your legs are open wider and if your not turned on because your nervous etc. that might also be why] and if that doesn't work then gide his hand down

hope i helped!
i was trying to give advice with out making this wayy to graphic!!!!

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well i am an overweight kid but not really overweight im about 35-40 pounds overweight for my height and age. I want to lose this weight by the time we go on vacation in february but i want to lose it healthy. over the summer i lost 20 pounds of it and was doing really well but i unfortunatley gained it back. i lost those pounds in the summer by eating healthy and doing the eliptical about once or twice a day and i would sometiems do sprints or stuff. does anyone have any tips or helpful ideas to help me lose my weight??

ok here are sometips for losing wieght the heathly way
1. eat a small breakfast within a 1/2 hour of getting up, it starts your motablizim so you burn more fat

2. have a big lunch but make sure its all heathly, low fat pita bread is good with 3 slices of meat [cold cuts] and two of cheese or anything else you like on you snadwich

3. at lunch make sure you have an apple or carrots or a 100 cal. snack so your not super hungry later on

4. when you get home for the day a 100 cal snack is good to have, if you get the popcorn you put in the microwave, they have 100 cal ones that taste the same and it fills you up so you don\'t feel as hungry

5. dinner plate should be 1/2 veggi\'s, 1/4 pasta or carb, and 1/4 meat

6. a small dessert is ok 2x a week

7. drink alot of water, it helps alot, and if water gets boring get the crystal light to go packs, they have all dif flavorss of ice tea and lemonaid and there only 5 cal. per drink[no soda, juice, energy drinks etc.]

8. keep a small notebook next to your bed at night and write down everything you ate [be honest your the only one looking at it] it helps to see what you ate and when your not eatting well

9. when your hungry eat an apple or carrots or any other fruit you like

10. when you get a craving brush your teeth

11. make sure you do some type of cardo work out everyother day so u lose inches and not just pounds

hope i helped
-esoccer1717

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kay so this kid who i like and he likes me is ganna get me a christmas gift. and im ganna get him one. like. the maz. were ganna spend on eachother is 15 dollars. and like i have no idea what he would want. he likes family. hes tottalllly into sports. has shaggyyy hair and always wears axe. i really cant think of any ideas. like. i know its ealy to think about christmas gifts but im ganna go to the mall and start shopping next weekend. so. i wanna know what im ganna get him.
any ideas.

you should get him one of those pooka shell [splling??] necklasses, there really popular and boys with shaggy hairalways look like surfers in them, not to mention there inexpensive!!
hope i helped

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i'm 17 years old.. and i've never had cavities my whole life.
i never had any work done at the dentist's office. At my last check up i found out that i needed a couple of fillings done. and when i went to get them filled, i freaked out and wouldn't let them near my mouth. i've heard that fillings are not a big deal but i can't help it. it's been awhile since i found out i had cavities and i'm worried they might've gotten worse. Please dont give me any scary facts i just suppose i need a pep talk. haha.
thank you so much.

you can't feel it at all
i loveeeee candy
so i get cavities from time to time
you sit in the chair and give you a little shot that feels like someone pinched you so u don't feel a thing after it
and then your just hanging out looking at the celing, its nothing
pinky swear!!

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i'm kinda tired of hearing "Bubbly" and over-played songs haha.
anyone have any suggestions of good indie songs, like songs not everyone has heard of? specifically acoustic songs or alternative. thanks xx.

love song by Sara Bareilles is a really good song

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Hey guys, I need your help =/

In a few weeks I'm getting a wisdom tooth pulled and they're going to put me under anesthesia. One of the questions on the paper when my mom filled it out was 'are you on birth control' and she put no, but i am .. and she can't find out. Will being on birth control effect my surgery in any way? I'm going to call the office once i find the number, but for now I'm starting to get nervous, i can't get off the pill because i see my boyfriend soon xD

HELP!

if i was you i'd get off the pill
your heath is more important then sex
i don't think its that big of a deal
but the hormones from the pill might affect the anesthesia and how it works so i'd get off the pill and definitly call the doctor

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(question for females)

does it really hurt the first time you have sex or do people jsut over exaggerate????

ok from expereance, it hurts a little and it might be a little unfomfortable because your so nervous and not "all the way there" but its not like horrible pain, its over quick but at first its uncomfortable and just hurts a little

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there's a guy @ my school and i like him alot. we got together but after 2 days he broke up with me by telling his friend to text me. his friend told me that he still wanted to be friends. before we got together i went out with 2 of his friends. and they made rumors that i was a slut(but to tell you the truth im not [pinky swear])
i wanted to know if he was playing around to see if i would get with him......
i just want your advice to see if he really liked me or if he wanted to see if i was a slut.....

ya know what, if a guy gets his friends to text you, thats some one you shouldn't waste your time thinking about, honestly, does it matter why you guys broke up? he soundslike a jerk but if you really want to know get him alone and say you know that really wasn't cool you owe me an explination

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What should you do when you have a first kiss? hwo do you kiss?? i know its a stupid question because no one can tell you how to kiss but how can you sort of walk me through it. I dont want to mess up on the first time.

got with the flow, i know its the worst answer because you want to know what happens but thats really what you have to do,
if you want to kiss play with the person's hair or hands look at there face alot scoot toawrds them lean in, and if they don't lean in too then give them a hug to make it not akward, make comments like your lips are so nice and little things like that, it will happen and if not, then another day or another person

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