Ok, I have a lot of guy friends so if you need friendship with guy help I can easily do that. Sorry but Im not really into the sex topic since im at a young age so I cant really give good advice. Yes I do ask for advice for what im giving advice but thats because its...... I dunno has to do with one main guy and everyones reaction to him. But if you need tips for getting guy friends ask me. I only have tons of girl friends and about 17 guy friends.
I can help with popularity questions too. But for all you people facinated with this topic popularity actually isnt the greatest thing ever and can sometimes be very upsetting.
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Does anyone know of any good Japanese music??
Thanks in advance.
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Theres alot of good Japaneze songs. If you have ever seen the show "Inuyasha" they have really good songs I like
Dearest
My Will
Come
Every Heart
They are all Inuyasha themes....im not sure of the artists sorry
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Do guys usually say yes if u ask them to a dance? Please give me advices so ican feel comfortable about asking this guy to a dance :] Im just scared that he wants to go with someone else. (link)
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If its just like a school dance and you know him and he knows you there is a good chance he'll say yes. At my school the guys say yes to almost anyone unless well they dont know them at all or (this will sound mean) they are ugly or not popular in anyway... but if you know him just go for it
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Hi, that question I wrote was ages ago, and since then I've got more confidence and I don't care about being popular anymore, but, just ut of curiosity, how did you do it~ (link)
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lol. umm ok first I was a looser. But then I got to meet one girl from the popular clique and she introduced me to everyone else. Then at first I was like put under intitiation and they teased me about things and tried to see if I would crack. I didnt I stayed strong and wouldnt let them see any weakness. Then they decided I was ok and we started to hang out. It was alot of fun and they quickly got to meet the real me and I quickly got to meet the real them Many popular girls are not mean but they give off that apperence as a way to stay strong. And you know what, the main reason I got IN was by being nice they said they loved how I wasnt a sterotype. Now, I rule in a way but with kindness instead of being mean. Its fun and really being popular truely is being yourself.
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Ok I've liked this guy for quite some time now maybe 3 months or something like that since the beggining of the school year. Hes my twin brothers friend so thats how I met him. Well I didnt think he even noticed me at all intell today. Ok so the principle called me and my friend up to the office before school started and i was standing right next to him and my friend and the principle said my name wrong and he was like um no isnt it pronounced and then he said my name right. and i didnt even know he knew my name what does this mean? and what should i do anything will help thanx! (link)
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ummm im sorry but I dont think this proves he likes you. Since he's your brothers friend he should know your name. Well, maybe try to flirt with him if you are like 13/14 then just go talk to him and joke around. The social cliques arent that strong so he won't care. I always talk to the guys. He might like you if he gets to know you better.
Good Luck
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hey girls..13/f...canadian...i want to sport a new style when i get back to school after the christmas hoildays..i have black hair and brown eyes and just a bit overweight...i dont want to go goth..or punk....i just want to go to something differant then just sweat-shirts and jeans...maybe preppy but im not sure if any of those clothes will fit me...any ideas? thanks (link)
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well......Garage (its a store) has some really nice clothes and their not baggy. I guess you can say a little preppy. But most of outfits are paired with jeans...
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Well, the other day me and 3 of my girl mates were out in town and had been to the cinema with 4 of the really cool guys at school. I was quite surprised that they liked hanging out with us cos we're not popular. We're not unpopular, we're just sort of ..... normal.
Anyway, it was after the film and we were all just hanging out in town and it was all going well, until tons of the popular girls from school turned up.
3 of the guys ditched us (the other one wanted to stay hanging out with us) and went off with the cool girls.
Its just, how can i be like them?
Like, they're just so ...... effortlessly cool, if you know what I mean?
All the popular girls dont have to do anything, they just seem so casual, and they dont go after the guys or anything.
How can I be like that?
Please dont say be myself cos if i was totally myself then I would act really weird. If you're popular and you do anything strange then everyone laughs with you.
If you're unpopular and you do anything just slightly strange then everyone looks at you like you're a total weirdo.
I know you're probably thinking that I shouldnt bother with these guys, or being like the cool people cos they dont seem very nice, but i'd just really like to be so effortlessly cool.
So, how can i be like that, effortlessly cool?
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Karen has a really good point. See I know the yearn to be popular because well.....somehow I went from freak to popular. But see we always look so happy and stuff but really life being popular is way harder then just normal. Like Karen says emotional breakdowns happen alot. See, I am the best friend to the most popular girl in school and IN school she looks like a fashion princess, a tease, a flirt, and she looks like the luckiest and happiest person on Earth BUT out of school her parents are split up, she crys all the time, she says how everyone is so lucky that their not her, and she cant stand acting so happy at school. When I was just normal me or any of my friends were like that. See we TRY to make it like there is no effort involved in being popular but seriously this place in life envolves tons of tears and dissapointment. There are some good things but really.......not many. Plus remember the guys you wrote about, well see guys like that are jerks. Trust me! I know them so much its not even funny. And I see what you mean about the doing something strange your either a bag of laughs or a weirdo but there is no clear reason why. I know your going to get mad at this but you are very correct in that like if the guys that are considered popular its soo much fun to watch but I guess when I see someone whos not then it looks like their trying to get attention. I know thats mean but its true. If you want to find out how I became efortlessly cool (though its hard) just drop me a question. Im sorry other advice columist I know you must all hate me right now but you do want a bit of an answer and ive alrady warned her. I think the how to thing should be answered in private.
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I know this may seem stupid. but i cannot stand freaking "popular" people. i have an advice collumn, and everyday i have a different message in my inbox from them like "stop being jelous of the popular people" or "why dont you wear preppy clothes and dress like everyone else? you'll never be popular if you do." and i sware im not jealous, and i wear all the same clothes they do. why do they think there the best? there really not that great. and i know im not a loser, so why do they call me one? they are all extremely mean, and full of themsleves. i dont want to be friends with them, but is there any way i can make them stop this? i really cant take it anymore and its really lowering my self esteem. pleaes i need help as soon as i can get it! thank you so so much!
love always.
oh bye the way if you are one of the popular people at your school, i'm really sorry im not being steriotypical and saying all popular poeple are like that. so please dont take thi the wrong way! (link)
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Ok first of all thanks for adding that last bit because definatly not all popular people are like that. Ok this is my advice and by the way Im popular and not a B***h. But, I know how they can be.
Ok, many popular girls don't think of others as losers. The main problem is usually the Top Girl does and the others are afraid to stand up to her. For this type of clique "loser" is more a phrase saying you are not in our group and we don't want you in it. Its really really mean and please dont let it affect you. In many cases popularity is just luck. I see your trying to get them to stop by wearing the type of clothes they do but if you dont like them dont. There is a very slim chance their gonna be nicer cause of your clothes. If anything it's just another reason for them to think your a looser. (I know its complicated but here me out). Please dont let them lower your self esteem. The main girls in the popular clique love it and thats what your giving them satisfaction. One thing you kinda learn in girl world (or at least I learned this and a little last year) is never show weakness. They will back down if you never show them it's hurting you. Sometimes this is the exact quality which determines your popularity. I know this will also sound shallow but read this: Two years ago I came to a new school where popularity ruled. The first year I always got upset, I cried I gave them what they wanted. I was scared of them and hated them all. Then one day I decided to show them I dont care. They came up one day to bug me and instead of crying I shot it straight back at them. I got to know one of them and she was very very nice. With that working for me they learned to back off and after another year they all decided to look through my brains or my apperence and now im best friends with them all. Popular girls show a hard, evil apperence as if it was like a test, its like a defense wall. But many of them are the nicest people ever. And one last thing they might look very happy at schoool but many of their lives are depressing. Some people say how much theyd want to be popualr but really it is very hard, very stressful, and very annoying trying to stay popular. Other than them your life doesnt sound too bad. You dont need to impress anyone and you can live your life worry free. Please take some of my advice to heart.
Im not exactly sure how to answer your question for the question itself isnt clear but please please please if you have any more questions about these "popular" girls drop a question in my inbox ill answer it straight away!
Lots of Love
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I reallyy need your help...
this is a huge mix of friendship & love life.
Read this, if you can help me on those two things.
I can't deal with this alone, help.
This is the last year in my school, & then I go to highschool. I go to a catholic school, so therefore, I've been friends with the same people since basically kindergarten. & the 8 of us, have been unceperable. [sp? i know. lol] Anyways, this year, has been sooo weird. I feel so lost, like I lost everyone. All my friends basically, started all new friends. I don't get it, did I miss something? Some memo where you ditch your old friends, & make all new ones? These two girls, who have kinda always in my group, but like more popularer, all of a sudden keep talking to me & calling me. & inviting me to things. I don't return their phone calls much, because I'm so shy. Okay, wait stop.. now were gonna go like back in time for a second,,,, [lol that sounded gay, but i didn't know how else to word it.]
If this would have been a couple months ago, & they would have called me & stuff, I would have called them back INSTANTLY. & stuff, but that time, was when i had MAJOR confidence, & basically ruled the grade. But, that was only because of two boys. The one, james, he was there for me all the time, he helped me with every love problem, every friend problem, & everything. He would always be there for me, he was practically my life line. I depened on him. He ended up like falling inlove with me, seriouslyy. Like, to the point where he wanted to do things.. where I wasn't ready for. I really believe I loved him too, I still believe I do. The only thing is, he wanted to do things.. I didn't want to. He got mad at me, & hasn't talked to me since. That dropped a percentage of my confidence. Because of him being gone, I didn't have anyone to tell my really personal stuff, that only he could help with.
Now, at the time I still had my other guy friend, Nick. Hes nowhere near the serious type, so he couldn't help me with that stuff. But, he was my like, person who kept my head up high, basically. He like always told me, how great I was & always had reasons for every time I said, how? & stuff like that. He ended up getting cancer, & becoming very sick.. & dieing.
There went him.
Hold up, another thing, to put me down.
Now I'm up to 3 things, to have my head looking at the ground.
But, of course theres more.
Now that all my friends that are girls, that are spliting up, it sucks even more. I have no one to turn to. & nobody understands. In school I'm always happy, & always smiling. But, i'm more then just your average 14 year old girl. I have alot of problems, not like mental or something.. just, I can't deal with all this alone. Its only been like 4 months. Thats alot to go through, in 4 months. Alot of friendships to lose. I keep telling myself to move on, but its so hard.
please help me, please. (link)
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ok, this is exactly what's happening to me. Like im going to high school next year and last year I had like 3 best girl friends and 2 best guy friends. This year the girls are all spliting up like one of them rules the school and has turned into a total B***h. And I had a crush on my best guy friend and he doesnt talk to me now that he found out.
Ok my advice is to make one solid friend you can trust with this. I actually learned this tonight. At school I laugh everything off but at home im like all upset and worried and stuff. The easiest way to learn who to talk to on MSN. Tell everyone a tiny peice about what you are going through and then see what they say. People do understand even though it seems like they dont. I understand and people at your school will two. In my opinion if you are going to trust anyone let it be a guy. Girls have the tendency to gossip and say stuff they dont mean while many guys are more sincere and dont really like to gossip. They also see girls faults much more. Once you feel you can talk to someone you will feel so much better. At school stay happy and all but lets say people bug you and you get upset dont be afraid to tell them off. Like the guy I trust is actually my best friends boyfriend (i know weird) and I get bugged alot like jokingly and he says that people will continue to bug,make fun, or try to hurt you if they think your weak. You have to show them you can fight back, like verbally. Also try hanging out with the other groups and evemn try getting your friends together so we relize the good old days. Please leave me a comment and drop a question in my inbox anytime we are going through alot of the same things so id really like to help you out.
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does anyone know where to get those shell necklaces? as in a drugstore or anywhere. (link)
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Claires
my best friend got one looks so nice
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im really popular now
but im so scared that im not gonna be throughout highschool.
Ive been pretty popular for a few years, im just scared
and i know its not all about being popular
but once you get used to it, then its hard to not be it.
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I know exactly how you feel. At this moment I am really popular but im going into high school next year and the other popular girls already know the popular group in high school except me. I am also worried about it alot but still just remember to try and keep your friends. Dont backstab people or gossip or else it could ruin it forever. Only a few girls (hopefilly npot you) reach popularity by being a bitch. Id you keep your friends and dont butt into peoples buisness youll be fine....
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I have 3 friends, REALLLY good friends, and we all go to the same skool and in the same class. were besties. anyway, those 3 friends live pretty close to each other, and i live a little farther away, so they r always doing things without me (shopping, movies, hanging out ect.) and leaving me out. I know theyre not doing it on purpouse, but it still REALLY hurts becuase they talk about it infront of my face. Ive tried to talk to them about it, but they just get REALLY mad. what should i do? (link)
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I know what you mean. I also have three best friends and I live in a different town. Just try telling them again. What I have done is whenever they plan to hang out or go to the movies they will call me to tell me them we arrange for someone to give me a drive so I dont feel left out. It really helps and makes you feel more included. I know it hurts but just try out my way and mayve theyll agree and itll stop hurting.
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i really like the hollister, abercrombie, and ae styles but they are too expensive for my budget. do you know if these stores ever have any big sales? if they do when?
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well ae has a website where they have tons of deals. I wish i saw this question earliet because they have like huge discouints and sales. I love to get my clothes there and since my friends dont know about it loose the risk of having the exact same shirt or jeans as someone else. The site is ae.com and since it is getting closer to christmas they will probally have more deals.
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So, I've bought items off eBay, but I'm thinking of selling stuff off of it too. How does that work? What do you have to do to sell something/send it to the person/recieve their payment? (link)
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Im only 13 but my dad does this all the time and I do alot of the work so for your shipping and handling it is mainly just the amount that it would take you to send the item. Like some things like game systems are heavy and cost quite a bit to ship to make sure you make a profit you make a shipping price of that amount. Some peopl also just add a few dollars for labour into that amount. You need to set up a paypal account to recieve payment mainly. You also just use the mailing address givenm to you to send it.
Hope that helps
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My boyfriend and I went to breakfast today and he kissed the waitress on the lips and she had a nickname for her. He insists she is is like a sis to him. They have known each other before I even met him. Am I too jealous, how should I react? (link)
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U are so not too jealous. My brother doesnt kiss me on the lips and hes going out with YOU. You have all the right to be jealous and you should tell him to stop in my opinion. My best friend gets jealous when her boyfriend hugs anopther girl. You have perfect reason to be jealous.
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Why are so many teenagers these days (particularly girls) obsessed with losing weight while they are like 100 lb?? Seriously, a girl who is like 12, 5 feet and 2 inches, and then complains she is overweight is actually underweight!
I don't get why girls want to get to be like 75 lb. Does anybody agree with me here? (link)
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I agree. I am 13, 5 foot 2 inches and 95 pounds and I believe im too skinny. Alot of girls I know read those fasion magazines and want to be like the models. Not me, but my best friend is 5 foot 3 inches and is only 105 pounds and says she is a chubby monster. Its just a trend at the moment.
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im not really a happy person somethings
can really make my day but others let
me down. very low. like i always think
negative about things so i wont get
my hopes up.
i really want a boyfriend
im kinda fat. am in 8th grade and weigh 130 but pretty-ish and not to be concieted or anything but im pretty cool and stuff like that
and i am IN LOVE with
this guy. i mean its been 2 years now
that i liked him. what do i do.
my friend asked him who he liked and said noone
but i think thats a lie because everyone
knows who they like. im one of those people who like them for years and stuff. i just want to be with them every second of the day. and i don't wanna tell them i like him he will ingore me for
ever .. n i think about dealth alot too because its just the thought of me never gonna get him (link)
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I think you should try to be more positive around him. Im in grade 8 and I havent had a boyfriend. (Ive had a few people ask to be but no) Try to be more happy around people and dont loose your hopes so quickly. Sometimes people really dont like anyone at the time though usually guys may like someone else. Talk to him, make him want to confide in you and stuff. Flirt a little but not that much at first and dont forget to smile. Dont act too obsessed or it will creep him out ok. First build a friendship and one day he might love you back.
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ok last year i was a complete dork. i mean it. i did the stupedist things and was a complete nerd. i embarrassed myself when i didnt even know it. this year, i am totally different and im not like that anymore. i dont want people to see me as that way anymore. how can i change peoples opinion of me?
and dont tell me i should be happy with who i am because that wont help me at all. (link)
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LOL ur exactly the same as me. Last year everyone hated me, I was a total looser, dork all that but I changed it around and am ultra popular.
If you want people to see youve changed then just change. Do what you didnt do last year, hang at parties and slowly become friends with people that you want to know uve changed. People will ALWAYS remember how you were before thats just how it is. You cant erase a whole year from peoples mind. Joke around about it like go "Remeber when I did this! How could I have been so blind lol?"
Like on my first day of school last year I wore a pokemon shirt lmao. Total social suicide. I still get bugged about it but now its just friendly. Get people to know this you and the old you will be just a funny thing to relate to.
Hope I helped without sounding heartless..
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hey,
I am having this awsome birthday party with a friend of mine. I had joined this play early on and i just found out they changed the date to the same day as my party!!!! My mom says I can't quit!!!!!! But the party really means alot to me and the play is causing too much conflict. What should I do?
help me please but i also don't want to be mean to the director
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reschedule the party. My friend was having a biggish party (only 25 people but still) and on the day of the party something happened where he was needed so the party was postponed untill next week and everyone was cool with it. Just do the same poeple should understand. And if you really want the party host it after the play so you can also be showered in compliments of how well you did lol.
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Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……
For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”
And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”
Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,
And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.
I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.
It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.
What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.
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ok, im 13 and the guys used to always bug me lol. But when they start saying stuff about you and its little like how good you are at athletics laugh along. I used to get bugged alot for my lack of sportyness. I dont think I can run a mile. But once I started oing along with their jokes they stopped. Guys (at least for me) love a girl whos not ultra emotional and really cares about teasing. Sometimes theyll go too far but all you have to do is paste on a smile and show them you dont care. Try doing something they never thought you could do like I made the volleyball team, now i only get lightly teased about athletics and I dont care really. Theyll start wanting to talk and be friends more if you dont give them exactly what they want.
Guys used to all hate me. But I learned to play along and I have 17 or so guys as good friends.
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yeah yeah yeah another one of those questions..
okay so theres this boy in one of my classes and i think he's really cute and i want to get to know him more..but how do you like "get to know someone" ...like if i just randomly went up to him and started talking he'd be like "um?" ..because we've never talked before..so how can i become his friend without being too weird about meeting him? if that makes sense?
today i added him as a friend on myspace though...(he hasnt been on though so he didnt accept me yet.) (link)
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Ok umm I have a large amount of guy friends and heres my tips:
If you know any of his friends get to know them then let them introduce you two. A good way to get a guy to open up to you is by his friends. Im only 13 but all except 4 of my friends are guys.
Maybe start doing homework together, if he plays sports talk to him about it. Then slowly build a relationship with him. It pays off. If you see some of my questions ull see how me and my guy friend act. Anyway, when you meet him DONT complain about your day or tell him hes really cute or anything like that. You don't want to creep him out.
Say hi to him in the hall and stuff and then one day when he at least knows your name go talk to him its not that hard.
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