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this is a MUST read.
I reallyy need your help...
this is a huge mix of friendship & love life.
Read this, if you can help me on those two things.
I can't deal with this alone, help.
This is the last year in my school, & then I go to highschool. I go to a catholic school, so therefore, I've been friends with the same people since basically kindergarten. & the 8 of us, have been unceperable. [sp? i know. lol] Anyways, this year, has been sooo weird. I feel so lost, like I lost everyone. All my friends basically, started all new friends. I don't get it, did I miss something? Some memo where you ditch your old friends, & make all new ones? These two girls, who have kinda always in my group, but like more popularer, all of a sudden keep talking to me & calling me. & inviting me to things. I don't return their phone calls much, because I'm so shy. Okay, wait stop.. now were gonna go like back in time for a second,,,, [lol that sounded gay, but i didn't know how else to word it.]
If this would have been a couple months ago, & they would have called me & stuff, I would have called them back INSTANTLY. & stuff, but that time, was when i had MAJOR confidence, & basically ruled the grade. But, that was only because of two boys. The one, james, he was there for me all the time, he helped me with every love problem, every friend problem, & everything. He would always be there for me, he was practically my life line. I depened on him. He ended up like falling inlove with me, seriouslyy. Like, to the point where he wanted to do things.. where I wasn't ready for. I really believe I loved him too, I still believe I do. The only thing is, he wanted to do things.. I didn't want to. He got mad at me, & hasn't talked to me since. That dropped a percentage of my confidence. Because of him being gone, I didn't have anyone to tell my really personal stuff, that only he could help with.
Now, at the time I still had my other guy friend, Nick. Hes nowhere near the serious type, so he couldn't help me with that stuff. But, he was my like, person who kept my head up high, basically. He like always told me, how great I was & always had reasons for every time I said, how? & stuff like that. He ended up getting cancer, & becoming very sick.. & dieing.
There went him.
Hold up, another thing, to put me down.
Now I'm up to 3 things, to have my head looking at the ground.
But, of course theres more.
Now that all my friends that are girls, that are spliting up, it sucks even more. I have no one to turn to. & nobody understands. In school I'm always happy, & always smiling. But, i'm more then just your average 14 year old girl. I have alot of problems, not like mental or something.. just, I can't deal with all this alone. Its only been like 4 months. Thats alot to go through, in 4 months. Alot of friendships to lose. I keep telling myself to move on, but its so hard.
please help me, please.
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ive been here before.
haha catholic grammer school
is freakin awesome =D nine years
with the same people, its sad to
split up and go different ways =[
ima frehsmen so this happened
last year. go hang out with
those girls that keep calling you!
something like that happened to me
i was shy, but i had so much fun
and now they're my best friends.
you have nothing to loose if you
hang out with them. you might just gain
some new friends :]
as for james, you should talk to
him about it. be like
i still love you; i miss being able to
talk to you. but make sure he knows you're
still not ready to do the stuff he wanted
you to do before. i think
if he really loved you, he would have not
gotten mad and accepted the fact that you
didnt wanna do that stuff with him. you
love someone for them, not for what they
can do with you.
i'm sorry about your
friend nick =[ i cant even imagine how hard
it is too loose a friend.
if you hang out with these girls that
keep calling you, you could find the
person to share your problems with and
tell your secrets too. if you talk things
out with james, you could have him back :]
i hope everything goes well. i really do.
eighth grade was such a hard year for me.
hard but fun. i miss it so much. make the
rest of your eighth grade year fun =D
it only happens onceeee. make the most of it.
inbox me if you have anymore questions =]
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ok, this is exactly what's happening to me. Like im going to high school next year and last year I had like 3 best girl friends and 2 best guy friends. This year the girls are all spliting up like one of them rules the school and has turned into a total B***h. And I had a crush on my best guy friend and he doesnt talk to me now that he found out.
Ok my advice is to make one solid friend you can trust with this. I actually learned this tonight. At school I laugh everything off but at home im like all upset and worried and stuff. The easiest way to learn who to talk to on MSN. Tell everyone a tiny peice about what you are going through and then see what they say. People do understand even though it seems like they dont. I understand and people at your school will two. In my opinion if you are going to trust anyone let it be a guy. Girls have the tendency to gossip and say stuff they dont mean while many guys are more sincere and dont really like to gossip. They also see girls faults much more. Once you feel you can talk to someone you will feel so much better. At school stay happy and all but lets say people bug you and you get upset dont be afraid to tell them off. Like the guy I trust is actually my best friends boyfriend (i know weird) and I get bugged alot like jokingly and he says that people will continue to bug,make fun, or try to hurt you if they think your weak. You have to show them you can fight back, like verbally. Also try hanging out with the other groups and evemn try getting your friends together so we relize the good old days. Please leave me a comment and drop a question in my inbox anytime we are going through alot of the same things so id really like to help you out.
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