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how long are they supposed to last .
minute wise !?!? (link)
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If you do it good, it could be pretty quick, like 2 minutes. It could also take 5 minutes. If he hasn't came in 5 minutes, i would talk to him.
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ok well i have been talking to this guy for about a month, we have hung out about 4-5 times (my work schedule is crazy) and i stayed with him the other night, he has been sick and we usually text each other a lot but lately he hasnt texted me, is it because he is sick? he said he would date someone like me but he doesnt wanna jump into anything too soon, so i dont really know what to think. i mean hes sooo sweet....when his pit bull bit me he kissed my finger,,,,he tells me he loves kissing my sweet soft lips...and stuff like that...so what is going through his mind? (link)
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He's probably shy or actually nervous to get into a relationship with you. It sounds like he likes you. I would just keep being friends with him, and try to hang out with him more often. Eventually he will ask you out. Or else just tell him that you've missed talking to him the last few days. He'll get the picture. I'm a guy and a lot of times I'm just scared to move too fast. I dont know why, I think I'm just afraid i'm gonna freak the girl out so I wanna do stuff more at her pace (which ironically in your situation isn't fast enough). You should just tell him that you would like to go out with him. Guys like a girl who is in control too. Hope I've given you a few ideas.
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hey,
i wasn't really sure where to put this one. okay, here's my problem. i have this feeling all the time where it feels like i'm in a dream, or in a memory, or i'm just not here. it's extremely hard to explain. i've talked to my doctor about it as well, but she hasn't heard of it. my friend is the only person i know that has it too. i'm actually kind of scared, because i dont' know what could happen to me next. please help! (link)
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I've had some weird stuff like that happen to me too. Like I have a couple of bad experiences as a kid, and I think I might have zoned out when I was leaving or something because my only memory of it now is watching MYSELF walk away. Like my memory is looking through someone else's eyes looking at ME. So its really weird, but I dont think it's anything to be afraid of. I would zone out or whatever but come back fine. Maybe we have some weird sixth sense or something ;). Anyway, I'm not really bothered by it, it's just something that happens to us.
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I simply do not like my life.
I am only 15 years old and i am aready going through the stupid shit. Smoking weed, drinking, Getting terrible grades [STRAIGHT F's] i cant talk to my family neither can i talk to my friends they give me the same shit. EVER since i liked this boy name Jordan my whole life came crashing down. Not afraid to hurt my body, doing drugs, not caring about my education. Just because hes a pot smoking hottie. I am stressed and also i have depression because of all this, i just need advice, someone to talk to and no one will!!! i thought of going on many different websites but no one helps me. I really do hope you help me, trust me i need it.
thankyou.
Always Kenzi. (link)
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You are already on track because you have identified that you have a problem. 15 is pretty young to begin all of that stuff, such as drugs and alcohol. Even though you really like this Jordan guy, and even though some of your friends are doing the same thing, you really need to ditch them if you want something productive in your life. If you can at all, just stop drinking and doing drugs. If you can't do it cold turkey, try to cycle off of it so you aren't doing it all the time. I can just about guarantee that once you quit and get new friend, your depression will almost disappear. It will also shoot your grades up. I think you already can tell the path of distruction that this lifestyle is sending you on. That's all I have for now, but feel free to put stuff in my inbox if you ever just want to talk. I can just listen, give you advice, or whatever. I wish you well.
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Ever since I got my first tattoo 3 years ago, I have bee dying to get another. I know basically what I want and where I want it at.. but I'm having problems coming up with a design for it?
Basically, I want it to be in pink and black. I want a pink heart, and either inside it, around it, or next to it I want the words 'Everything Happens For A Reason."
So my question is, does anyone know of any websites that have really good examples of pics of tattoos, or maybe a website that will help you design them? I'm really bad at drawing things up & I want this tattoo to look awesome.. since I'm obviously going to have it for the rest of my life.
Any help would be appreciated, thank you! (link)
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If you've ever seen Miami Ink on TLC, a lot of people go into the parlor with just an idea like you have. And a few specifics about it. Then the artist can draw it up and you can see if you like it. THey might come up with something totally different than what you were imagining, but still totally cool. Dont be afraid to tell them you dont like it though, cuz as you say, you are going to have it for the rest of your life.
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is it bad if im 14 that is 5ft 10???? tell hte truth (link)
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I'm assuming you are a girl. Either way it is not bad at all. In fact, you are very lucky. Girls like guys that are TALL, dark and handsome. Look at the Victoria secret models. I'd be willing to bet that none of them are under 5ft 10. There's something about a tall girl that guys really like. It might be the long legs, I dont know. But either way you are in great shape!
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There is this guy, he's older than me by maybe 10 years or more, And I really like him. We get along great and he's kind of flirty with me... Sometimes I catch him looking at me and when I look at him he smiles at me and then winks, When he talks to me he always puts his arm around me.. Or when i'm alone, he comes to me and starts up conversations. When he wants me to do something simple, he grabs my hands and talks smoothly.. I really have fallen for him and with him acting this way, I've gotten comfortable enough to act the same way around him and it's great... He's great... But the other day I overheard a conversation he was having with someone and found out that he's married... SO why is he treating me like this?? Does he like me? Or is it all in my head? I've talked to him a lot and i've gotten to know him a lot and he's never mentioned that he was married....
Oh and i'm 19, he's about 29 or 30... I've always gotten along with older people better... so it's nothing sick or weird! Don't judge me! haha jk (link)
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There are a lot of people that are just plain friendly, touchy, and nice. I'm a guy, and I have a neighbor who does the same thing (he is married also). But he's just doing it in a really friendly way, not a gay way or whatever. I guess he doesn't flash me smiles, but he's always putting his arm around me, I just see him as a friend. If he only really acts like this around you, it could mean he likes you, but it could be kind of embarrassing if you confront him about it. But he could like you and want to have an affair or something too. That would be a moral decision for you to make. Maybe try dropping hints sometime, like asking him if he would like to go out to eat sometime with his wife and you. Or see if he's wearing a ring. Try and find him in a place that he wouldn't normally see you and see if he's wearing his wedding ring. If he takes it off to see you, that probably means he wants something more.
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i like two boys. and so, i was wondering, is it okay to say the same things to both of them? they dont hang out together, they go to different schools. so is it a bad idea to say "i miss you" to both of them, and blah blah? or should i say different things to both?!
xo (link)
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I also think you should choose one. If you end up saying stuff like "i miss you" to the one you dont choose, odds are he is going to get mixed signals and think that you like him in ways more than friends. You could end up breaking one of their hearts. It is fine however for you to choose one and still remain friends with the other one. Good luck, I know that's a tough situation to be in.
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so there's a guy i like, he's hard to read, i don't show my emotions... he might have a girlfriend... there's another guy that is waiting on my reply to go out with him... the guy i really like doesn't get along with almost any of my friends... and with all of these complications i don't know what to do. do i make a move on the guy i really like? do i go out with the guy i don't really like, but really likes me? do i just hook-up with the guy i like? what do i do?!?!? (link)
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I would go after the guy you really like. We're talking about you here, you should do what makes YOU happy. Fairly quickly, I would strike up a conversation with this guy who you dont really know. Find out if he has a girlfriend or if he's interested in you. If he's taken, then you can go for the guy who is asking you out. But if you end up in a miserable relationship without talking to this guy, you are gonna regret it. Flash him a smile, that will make him easier to read. Or just plain go up and talk to him.
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In school I sit next to this boy and he flirts with me all the time (and everyone says he likes me) and I never know how to act around him because I really like him too and I don't want him to think I don't like him because I act akward what do I do? (link)
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I know it's tough for that not to be awkward. After a day of heavy flirting or whatever, maybe ask him if he'd like to continue with you outside of school. Be it a movie, coffee, whatever. It would probably be less awkward if you two are alone together. Then you can just be yourselves!
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How can I e-mail a song to someone from a CD I own? (link)
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Yeah, be careful of the copyright. If you're good with it, just rip the CD onto your computer and send the music file as an attachment. It may not work though because a lot of email programs have a maximum size of an email that can be sent. I think hotmail is 5MB, which is the average size of a song, so It might not work. Good luck
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There is this boy in my class, he is not really my friend but I don't really know him. Then there are these other two really immature guys who ALWAYS make fun of him. Like they never shutup. Its really annoying to me and Im sure to him too. Like they always talk about how "small" he is and like the boys mom own a restaraunt so the two stupid kids always say "oh that place is disgusting." and then one time we weren;t supposed to do something in class and we had a sub and there was a sign that said "do not use the computers" so the two boys got on them and were messing around and as soon as the sub walked in they were like "What the hell Jimmy why did you take the sign off? and the sub got really mad at him when he really didnt do anything. They are just really mean to him and I feel bad cause noone sticks up for him not even his friends. These mean guys are really popular so you would get like beat up if you ever stood up to them. I just wish i didnt have to sit back and watch someone get stepped all over. Have any advice? (link)
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Try befriending the kid. I went through a lot of that during middle school, and ironically a girl just told me not to listen to those guys, but we never talked about it again. But we became friends (nothing really more, just friends), and after that it really never bothered me anymore. Enough so that the bullys eventually quit. I think they do it because they know that it bothers him or something. It could be something that isn't a big deal for you to do but could mean the world to this kid. Plus, you already have something in common, you both hate these guys.
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Hey how can you tell when a guy likes you?? (link)
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If he smiles at you at all, it's a pretty good sign he either likes you or is interested. Not sure if he has tried talking to you yet or anything, but he may just be a shy guy who is really interested in you! Be a little more specific in your situation and maybe we all can help you out a bit better.
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Okay well me & this guy are best friends and we really love each other a lot {but just as friends not bf gf}. and he told me today that i make him feel like shit. So 2nite on the fone he said its the way i always turn everything good in his life negative, and i think im just telling the truth. We both know that i don't have the will to try for anything, I have never had the will to try, so he won't believe me when I said I'm gonna rly try not to be so negative. Also tonight on the phone i asked him if I was a horrible person for doing this to him and he said I'm not gonna lie and didnt answer... and when he finally did answer he said im rly tired and I need to go to bed. So i dont kno if he was jus ttoo tired or if im a horrible person! Please please help me!!! he's my wprld and idk how to get him to trust that i'll try!!! help this heartache is killing me!!! (link)
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I dont think you are a horrible person, he went a bit overboard about that. But it is obviously bothering him. I'm not really sure what exactly you are saying to him to make him feel like this, but I'll give you an example. If he says something like he is going away for the summer. Although it would be crappy for you, make it sound like you are excited and happy for him. That's just a vague example. Try to think of him more. That's not horrible, its actually human nature. But it does get annoying. Sometimes people need to give white lies to make people feel better or whatever. You say that you think you are just telling the truth, but sometimes the truth hurts, and you might have to pick your battles. Sorry to be kind of blunt, but i hope i gave you a couple ideas on how to help.
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Okay to start of me and my boyfriend broke up last night we've been together for almost 2 years and i love him so much but hes such an asshole and i dont want to be with him anymore. I promised my mom i wouldnt get back with him. But he keeps calling. I dont know what to do why is he calling me. (link)
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If he's really being an asshole and not being nice to you, just seriously end it. Did he not understand that you guys broke up last night or something? Maybe reiterate some of the points that were made when you broke up. Or just say "i thought we broke up last night." You will probably have to be blunt about it. He has no right to be an asshole to you, or even to keep harrassing you by calling. Finally, if your mom doesn't like him (which i take it is the case) you shouldn't go out with him. She's had a lot more experience than you, and she has your best interest in mind.
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16f. so ya, i've had my eye on him for a long time. we were "boyfriend & girlfriend" in 6th grade haha, but then my best friend told me he didnt like me anymore (which was a lie), so i ended that little fling & we just kinda stopped talking. then she started telling him that i liked him and wanted to go back out w/ him like everyday, because she liked him and wanted to make me look completely stupid. now me and her are best friends & those days are over. now i like that guy, not for like the reasons in the past and stuff because c'mon that was 6th grade. but i like him now and idk where to go from here. (link)
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Just take it slow. Say hi to him sometime when you are walking by or just go up to him and start talking to him (for maybe a minute). Nothing big. Once he sees that you guys are talking again, and maybe even becoming friends again, he will be more open to the idea of you guys getting back together. If you want to be blunt about it, just say, "remember in 6th grade when I broke up with you, well i was young and I made a mistake. You wanna give it another shot." I think if even my worst experience with a girl, if she would come up to me and say that I would probably forgive her and want to go out with her. And you didn't even do anything bad, you were like 12 years old.
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Whats the average size of a penis? (link)
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No matter what girls wanna hear, its about 6 inches long. Most guys lie between 5 and 6 inches, a few above that and a few below.
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Im 14. Female.
Virgin (thank god...)
And im wondering-
Whats the average 'Size' for a guys manhood?
Smallest, largest...lengths...something?
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No matter what girls want, truth is the average size is about 6 inches long. Probably the average range falls between 4 and 8 inches, but both 4 or 8 would be pretty rare.
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heyy im 15/f
theres a kid in my class that has my attention a little bit but i dont want him to know that yet.
how can i be cute and sweet? (link)
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One thing I have noticed is that if a teacher calls on someone to talk, a lot of time most of the class looks at that person to see what they are going to say. If you can smile a lot during your answer or laugh or anything, that will get some attention. A girl does it in one of my classes right now and it drives me wild because she has the most beautiful smile. Also, every day that you have that class with him, dress up, shower, and do whatever you might do if you were going out on a date with him (even though he doesn't notice you). That alone will give you some confidence, and then you'll be ready if you happen to talk to him someday :)
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okay so i have upper abs, but what are ways to get lower abs? cardio & running which i'll do when its warmer but what else? crunches don't work so don't say them haha.. thanks (link)
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I've actually heard that everybody has almost perfect abs under all of their stomach fat (even if it doesnt' look like you are fat). I started eating pretty sensibly last year but not exercising at all, and all of a sudden my abs started showing up. So that thing must be right. Adding that to your exercise regimine should give you some sick toned abs. Good luck
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