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not my friend but...
There is this boy in my class, he is not really my friend but I don't really know him. Then there are these other two really immature guys who ALWAYS make fun of him. Like they never shutup. Its really annoying to me and Im sure to him too. Like they always talk about how "small" he is and like the boys mom own a restaraunt so the two stupid kids always say "oh that place is disgusting." and then one time we weren;t supposed to do something in class and we had a sub and there was a sign that said "do not use the computers" so the two boys got on them and were messing around and as soon as the sub walked in they were like "What the hell Jimmy why did you take the sign off? and the sub got really mad at him when he really didnt do anything. They are just really mean to him and I feel bad cause noone sticks up for him not even his friends. These mean guys are really popular so you would get like beat up if you ever stood up to them. I just wish i didnt have to sit back and watch someone get stepped all over. Have any advice?
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i've been in your exact situation in elementary school. i ended up standing up to the bully to defend the boy he was bothering, and he pushed me over and gave me a concussion - i had to stay at home for two weeks. i talked to the bully ten years later, and he said "oh yea, i remember that..." i asked him why he did it and all he said was "well because, he was such a loser!" so as you can see, people who do things like that are practically hopeless, don't try getting anything through their thick sculls, especially since it may endanger your safety and social status, apparently. instead, try being friendly to the boy. after they do something ask him "hey, are you okay? don't listen to anything they say/ they're such jerks/ just ignore them." maybe offer/ask for help with homework, ask him how his day was... nothing special, just show him that at least you don't like the fact that he's getting hurt, it'll matter more than you know.
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Bullying is a big problem in schools anywhere in the world. I've been through it myself for many years and eventually got tired of sitting back playing the helpless victim. It may also be why I have zero tolerance for anyone who is a bully.
"You're the voice, try and understand it
Make a noise and make it clear
We're not gonna sit in silence
We're not gonna live with fear."
-John Farnham.
I have a lot of respect for you for being the one who doesn't want to sit in silence while this is happening and for that I applaud you. It is a shame that others don't do the same in your class because strength comes in numbers and unity. These bullies and their friends would not have a chance against a school that stands up to bullies, no matter how strong they think they are.
As for what you can do, the best option I think would be to talk to a teacher (someone higher up maybe than just a normal teacher) and explain the situation to them. Tell them what you have seen and that you think it's wrong for it to go on and nothing be done about it. Over here in the UK such things are taken very seriously so I would hope (if you are not in the UK) they are over there too. For now it is at least the best option in my view. Do let us know how it goes and good luck.
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Try befriending the kid. I went through a lot of that during middle school, and ironically a girl just told me not to listen to those guys, but we never talked about it again. But we became friends (nothing really more, just friends), and after that it really never bothered me anymore. Enough so that the bullys eventually quit. I think they do it because they know that it bothers him or something. It could be something that isn't a big deal for you to do but could mean the world to this kid. Plus, you already have something in common, you both hate these guys.
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