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i was raped. next to a tyranasarus in the natural history musaum. i am pretrified of them ever since. Everyone thinks im crazy but i know that the man is following me. His name is john and from there on thats all i know. He really likes dinosaurs and he touches himself in public and his pubic hair is long enough to braid. It really scares me. How do i go on with my life.? PS. we have a trip to the natural history musaum next week. PLEASE HELP ME DO NOT TURN YOUR BACK ON ME


love,
dinosaur deranged

Wow,i know this is a joke but ummm... but just incase this ever happens to anyone...u should go to the cops or dont go to the museaum.

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im probably not going to have sex for a VERY long time but im just curious - does it hurt?

No matter how old you are or how lubracated you are, yes,it is goin to hurt even just a little bit. If you are a virgin, getting your cherry popped will hurt a little more. You just have relax those muscles down there to make it easier for both of you.
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Alot of my friends and I really want to know what people think would be too young for oral sex not all the way just oral but yea it's still pretty bad i guess it's just there are so many girls at my highschool even lots of freshmen that have been involved with this kind of activity at almost every party we've been too i hate to say there sluts cause that would mean almost our whole school are sluts. Just guesstimating we would say that at least 75% freshmen girls are sexually involved
Is this normal?

A slut,whore,ect... really just means that u have sex with lots of different men.Unless you are having sex with lots of different men/cheat on your boyfriend, then no, you are not a slut. People say that about a lot of girls, but they really dont know what theyre talkin about. Now im not saying that these girls are ACTING sluty. Theyre all just trying to find themselves and are innsecure so they want love from guys to make them feel better,and this is the only way they feel they can get it. I would really advise you not to do it though. There are a lot of deases out there.

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My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex in the near future, and we want to be as safe as possible. We would use a condom, but I'd like to be on the pill too.

My mom asked awhile ago if I thought that this relationship was more intimate...At the time I didn't think it would be and she said "Well I hope you could come to me, because I would want you to be safe, but your not allowed to have sex until you are 18."

I'm confused by what she meant. If I did decide to have sex does this mean she would be okay with it? Or does it mean she would like me to wait until I'm 18 but if I don't she wants to know?

I think what she means is that if you really cant help the erge and feel like youre ready...let her know...but if youre using a condom and are on birth control...you are being very safe. and not to mention SMART!

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hey, i have a fatasy of being tied up and having sex like that, im a 16 year old boy and really want to fulfill this fantasy but Im not sure how to go about doing it? How do I find the right person and make sure im safe an all that? As much info about the whole thing as possible please

thanks everyone

Well, try the girls who are sorta crazy and not afraid to be themselves. Sometimes they can have the wildest fantacies ever! Sometimes you can just tell what a persons fantasy is just by gettin to know them and datin them. But not all the time.
Thats a nice fantasy by-the-way.lol

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im stupid about all this stuff but if you would answer, that would be nice. when you have sex for the first time, is there something in the vagina that like breaks? and im not talking about the wall of the vagina cause i know that stretches

Yes. Its known as "Popping the cherry". Its a layer of skin inside your vagina that breaks and bleeds slightly.It will hurt a little.

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everytime i masturbate [which isn't often], I feel so much shame.

I'm 14 and I just feel like masturbation is wrong - yet I can't help it when I have hormones. What should I do? Should I keep masturbating and keep it a secret from my mom, or just stop because I feel ashamed?

Masturbating is not normally something that a teen would want to tell their mom. Its really not a good idea.Because to be honest,she probalby already knows.Look, there is nothing wrong wit masturbation. It is normal and healthy. Any doctor will tell you that.I understand you feel tons of shame but dont focus on that.Its not like doing drugs or drinking.Not even close.Just dont worry about it.Our parents cant expect us to wait to feel sexual pleasure when all of our hormones are jumping around.=]

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Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help.

NO! TOO YOUNG! You could get pregnant and your whole reputation could be ruined...loook,unless you plan on marrying this guy, which, to be honest,problaby wont happen,dont do it just yet.Wait atleast until your 15 or 16

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What are the best condoms out there?

Ones that feel like you have nothing on?

Thanx

Everyone says Trojan but i would recommend NaturalLamb

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My boyfriend && I have been dating for a while now. And we recently started having sex.

I was wondering how [during sex] to show him that i really care && love him besides making eye contact and telling him. I really love his kid. He means so much too me.


Thanks

ask him what he wants while having sex. Maybe before sex, but a little bit more intimate. Do something different but still be telling him to love him the entire time.

good luck =]

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Ok me and my girlfriend plan to have sex soon, the thing is that it is both of are first time and i know that sometimes it can be painful or uncomfortable for the girl. so i need some tips and advice on how to make it less painful/uncomfortable for her so she can enjoy it to the full. i dont like the idea of hurting her

Well the trick is to make her feel loved and make her very "horny" so that she is well lubracated and wont hurt as much. No matter what it is going to be a little bit painful to her. Just go slow until you both feel comortable. Or better yet.Just wait.

good luck =]

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Why are guys so embarassed to admit their virgins in like, highschool?

because men like to know that they are the leader and are in control.They dont want to admitt that they want to make sex "special" to their friends, they dont want to be known as the guy whos "deep". They want to just say it felt good.

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My best friend is Bi, she smokes weed, she cuts, and is into the whole "Emo, scene, be yourself type of phase"

She thinks I'm fake because I love to dress up nicely, wear "preppy style" clothes, and I like country music. She thinks everyone is really bi, and if you don't admit it youre fake. I'm sick of her and her other bi friends ragging on me cause I'm not like them! They're all like "hardcore" and they hate it that I'm friends with all sorts of people. I just relate to everyone a little bit, I'm just the type of person that will talk to anyone, they think I'm after popularity and I'm all fake for not sticking to one "type" How do I get them to stop ragging on me about this, and show them that this is the real me!

I understand that she is your best friend but is it really worth it? I mean, going around just dropping your best friends is never a good thing,but she odviously doesnt like you enough to respect you. I know that sounds harsh but anyone that cuts and smokes weed has a serious problem. You NEVER have to stick to just one group of people! I wear preppy style clothing and i love country music,but i also like Hot Topic and emo music. Being yourself is never wrong. Odviously people like you more because you talk to everyone like you said and im guessing not tons of people talk to her? She might be jealous. Dont worry about it and maybe just tell her how you feel. If that doesnt work just go on doing what you do and dont let her or anyone else hold you back because then you might end up just like them with all that low self esteem.

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well as i was saying school starts in about 1 week and i'm really nervous because i like this guy there. and last semester we kinda had i fight and never talked since than. so i apologized and everything was fine but still we never really talked that much though. soo now i wanna be friends again and talk like we used to. can u give me some advice how to talk to him and make him less angry at me cause it seems to me like he does like me but is just upset so please help his friendship is really important to me!
thx

Well,it was all in the past. Sounds to me like hes the one who cant forget the fight. If you just be yourself and try to not make it akward around him, i think he would like that much better and would get his mind off everything that happened between you guys.Just try and start fresh. And never bring up the fight unless nesscary. =]

good luck

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i got a problem the guy i like is going to a different school this year than me cause i'm in 9th grade and he is in 10th. we've talked this summer but not much he asked me if i'd come a see him cause i do track at his new school i said yeah. the problem is i miss him so much and i'm scared he'll get another chick. How do i keep him?

I know how you feel. Because i feel the same way.haha. I know it hurts a lot to think about but if he really likes you, everything will be fine. If you are really in love with this guy maybe you should tell him just so that he knows and can think about it. Dont act too clingy,[ i know its hard not to sometimes]but still try and let him know that he really is special to you.
try that.

good luck =]

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I would like to know what the difference is between using a tampon and using a pad for girls when they have their periods.

Pads i would recommend if you feel uncomfortable putting things inside of you. Although pads are rather annoying and you always feel wet down there, they are better to wear at night and just lay a towel under you so you wont have to worry about ruining your sheets. Tampons are inserted into your vaginia and you dont have to worry about the blood,but you really should not wear tampons at night to prevent infection.Tampons should be changed about every 4 hours depending on your monthly flow. If your sleeping, you can not change your tampon.

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I have been sexually active for around 3 months, and ever since then I've had a yeast infection before/during my period every time. The first time I was diagnosed and my doctor wrote me a perscription, but these past few times I just go to Rite Aid and buy whatever to get rid of the itch. Recently, I've been having a severe sharp pain when having sex. This isn't due to lack of lubrication, either. It's not really a tightening pain it's almost as if it were burning. It's completely unbearable. I've bled a little a few times as well. Is this serious? What should I do to get rid of the pain?

I think that you really need to stop having sex until this is gone. It is not safe for you or your partner. Yoy might have the wrong perscription and should see a doctor.

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i started 2 bleed a very light like light pink and not enough to even cover a corner of a tampon and it lasted about three days and i had my period about 12 days ago why is this happening

If you just started getting your period, it will take a few months for your body to reach its normal flow. a little blood now and then is not a big issue.But if this keeps occuring, it would be smart to see a doctor.

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after i get an orgasm 10 sec. later it dosnt feel good anymore ... is this normal?

An orgasm only lasts anywhere between 3sec. to up to a minaute for girls. But 10 seconds with an orgasm is pretty long.Sounds to me like youre normal.:-)

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after an orgasm my vigina hurts. Is this normal?

A little pain after masturbation is fine. But tons of pain for a long period of time can be something serious.

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