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alright so i'm a guy, and i recently met this girl. and well things between us may have started off too fast. but you can't really undo what's been done. so we had a good thing going, we talked as much as we could, saw each other often, and things were blossoming between us quite well. we'd kissed, hugged, all that stuff, and life was going good. and then she leaves for a couple weeks on a cruise for her cousin's wedding (the cousin was the rich side of the family and paid for the whole family to go) and well we talked as much as we could while she was gone, things seemed to be going great between us. and we were fine. she got back from her trip saturday before this last one. and this is where things started getting lame.

it turns out all the text messaging and stuff we'd done got her a $400 phone bill, and all the offers i gave to help her out she would hear none of. so her parents take her cellphone, and we suddenly lose a major means of communication between us. and as last week went we saw each other once, hardly talked and didn't really do much together. well after the suckage that was last week i decided i had to come up with some way to see her more often one and two give her, her christmas present. so i go to her house this morning, no one's home. that's cool, i wait til the evening and call her house and talk for a few moments but she has to go as her mom needs to use the phone. i call back an hour later (it's 10PM by this time) and i get the it's too late to call thing from her. and that's understandable seeing as people go to bed around then. so i go and check her myspace and find that all the comments i've left her have been deleted, and that she hasn't responded to any of the messages i sent her.

so my question stems from this: could a girl i've been with for about two months lose total interest in me after a week of not talking much? could she be mad at me? am i just pushed out of the picture? what do i do? and how can i get her to realize that we're not gone, we're still on? or do i just take this as a breakup and leave it? she's hanging out with some other guy friend of hers tomorrow during which time we'd have normally hung out and quite frankly i'm pretty pissed about all this. it's like she's not even trying anymore. it's like she's given up on me. what do i do? (link)
dude thats alot well females can lose total intrest in a week if she keeps avoiding you than leave her alone dont sweat it chicks come and go let me know what happens


Ok, I really really want to be an actress. And after my friend Claire Lyons got a part in a movie, I want to be an actress even more. But my parents won't let me do auditions and told me to stop dreaming. I am only 13 and I think that kid parts are way more fun than grown up parts. But at this rate, I have to wait till I grow up. So help please...... (link)
well the acting profession is hard but the best thing to do is look for open casting calls and go to them and see where it leads you . as for your parents juust tell them that tis is something that you really want and that you will stick to it . i have been acting for 9 years now and it's worth it when tou see yourself on tv, or a newspaper. that's what makes it special.


you still havent answered me and i cant beleive you did what you did that was fucked up (link)
you thought that you could tell me something like that and expect me not to ask her about anythig any way it doesnt matter. and how could you even lie to me that way i didnt even ask her first i asked landon so what ever i still lubv u i am going to liberty this weekend. i will go stop at ur job.


What is the average penis size for a 13 year old? (link)
there is no spacific size for any person but average size in general is 6 inches


I'm Bi and theres this kid in my school and he said hye thought about having sex with a guy and hes sooo cool but he said its a like thing he went through and like i want to know about him like if he would want to do stuff and like maybe hook up wat do u people think i should do???? (link)
it never hirts to ask


ok so i have a housekeeper, but i always feel so sorry for her..well one because she is a housekeeper, a single mother with 2 kids whose husband left her, and she has a lot of different jobs. and because we are a really annoying family..like i feel bad for her because i'm always having her take me for a smoothie or something after school (but i always pay her back) and i'm picky about dinnner,etc... but i'm really nice to her. she's really nice and i dont know i just feel so bad for her..and she can't speak english that well either so we sometimes have communication problems. but my mom is sometimes sooo mean to her like she would start like yelling at her being like "why didnt you spend 4 hours this week cleaning the bathrooms?! this is our promise when you started working for us!? how are you going to make this up!" and omggg its horrible and the housekeepers like on the verge of tears and says that she'll work an extra day next week,but my moms like "nooo that wont make up for this week waht are you going to do!?" and she just keeps pushing it ! you don't even understand how mean my mom is she was like yelling at her .. ughh idk i wish my mom would stop being so mean i was like "mom ill clean the bathrooms!" because i couldnt stand it anymore and my mom got mad at me. i seriously hate my mom i don't understand why she has to be so mean and pushy to everyone..yeah i know she pays the housekeeper but htat doens't give her a right to be so rude? helppp..? (link)
try talking to your mom tell her that the housekeeper is a human too and she isnt a machine
she can only do one thing at a time ther is only one of her


If you've seen Moulin Rouge, do you know if it was based on a true story. Like was there the "diamond dogs" and the "sparkling diamond"? And a show called "Spectacular Spectular" if you could tell me, that would be great. (link)
complete fiction


Why do you like your girlfriend? (link)
because she has a nice smile and she is thoughtful and i love her


is there any way to make my hair grown longer faster? (link)
as soon as you can put it in a pony tail do it every day it will grow.


My best friend's brother just got out of a four year relationship on Friday. He immediatley jetted off with his buds for the weekend to clear his head because -she- dumped him.
I've been friends with his sister for about four years too and I've been attracted to him but I've told myself to leave it alone because he seemed so happy with his girl friend.
Now he's alone for the first time and I was wondering whether it was a good idea if I gave him a go? He's a genuinely nice guy and he's a girls dream because he's so sweet and dedicated.
One problem is his sister. She shares all her feelings about him with me (i.e. she was mad at him because he was a tight a-- or she was sick of him and she wanted him to move out) and she loves him but would it be too weird for her if we hooked up.
Secondly, I need to actually figure out if he's interested or not but I can't because I've treated him as a brother. I've never actually made a transition from friend to something else before. Usually, men are either platonic friends or hot male friends I want to get with, never both. So how can I start changing the way act around him without freaking his entire family out?
I don't want to approach the sister and ask for her permission if I don't even know if he's interested because she likes to hold on to things. At the same time, I don't want to get him interested and then have to ask her in case she rejects the idea of him and me.
Help? (link)
wow thats a handful okay you hve to understand that it will be weird for your friend to see her best friend and her brother together now if she kinda doesnt like him now it would me even more hard because he is your bf try to let her know whats going on without freaking her out. just think things through before you act on it.


i sweat A LOT under the arms. what can i do to pervent this? (link)
powder and degree deodorant very effective.


I started cutting when I was about 12. Then I stoped when I was 13 and half. Im 14 1/2 now and havent cut in over a year but I always feel like I need to or want too. I know theyres other ways to releave stress and stuff but I feel like this is the way I want to.. I dnt know what to do.. Im not getting help because Its been a year and I dont need to but I dk. What can I do (link)
first cutting is soooooooooooooo not cool but do that i used to do wear a rubberband and snap it when u feel like cutting


From my question: what are the deadly sins, I commited 6/7. Does that mean I'm a very bad person and will go to hell? I'm only a teen and I try so hard not to commit those sins but it seems every day I'm envious and jealous and angry but I never yell I only keep them in my head but I have head aches all the time from keeping it all in. And does anyone know the words to Hail Mary? I beleive it's a prayer to ask god to forgive me.. (link)
the words to hail mary the prayer is

hail mary full of grace the lord is with me. blessed art thow amungst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb jesus. holy mary mother of god pray for our sinners, now and at the hour of our death amen.


I had sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago, and I've no idea when, but im guessing on withdrawal, the condom slipped up just under half way. It was still on fairly tight only it had slipped up a few centimeters. Shes due to have her period about this time, shes had stomach cramps and sore breasts (but neither very serious) which are both signs of pre-menstruation and pregnancy. Is it possible that she could be pregnant? (link)
just because the condome slipped alittle that doesnt mean that she is pregnant but always be careful i would get a home pregnancy test and wait a week before taking it.


ok so i want to get a digital camera for christmas, and i don't know which one i should get- the sony cyber-shot or an olympus camera *i don't know what it's called* if you have either of these cameras or know of any good digital cameras that cost less than 200 dollars that would be great

thnks (link)
sony is better


so i have been going out with my girlfrined for about 3 months now, and i wanted to know if anyone knew what kind of questions i can ask her to get to know her better and vise versa...like whats your favorite color to personal ones like whats your dirtyest dream (link)
well take it easy start with color than number ,goals, dreams love expirences sex and so on


my name is katie. i am writing for advice because i found a glass pipe with weed in it in my moms purse about 6 months ago. we got into a huge fight about it and she promised me she would get rid of it.; i never saw after that. but the other day i was looking in my moms purse for my library card and it was in there. i am so sick of smelling that smell on her clothes. it makes me really depressed and today i couldnt take the pain anymore and i cut my arm with a pair of scissors. i am so sad. i am lost and confused as to why she lied to me and about something so horrible to lie about. she could get in huge trouble for this. and i dont want to lose her over something like drugs. i am just really depressed and i havent talked since i cut myself. my arm is still bleeding and i did it in the early afternoon. i dont want my special ed teachers or therapist to find out. i am terrified of going back to the hospital because last time i went there i was put in restraints for trying to hurt myself. please help me. i am so scared. (link)
wow harsh i know what you feel the same shit happend /w my mom weird huh any way your mom is an adult she knows what se is doing but it is still wrong talk to her (no yelling ,cursing or attitude) tell her how you really feel tell her that you dont want to loose her for something stupid. as for your arm the bleeding depends on what way you cut and when it heals put neosporin so it doesnt scar untill then wear long sleeves and try not to be so emo. let me know what happens i want to help.


Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
okay i have to say that you are very thin and that may not be healthy but there are things that you can do you should go to a doctor and let them talk to you (dont hold any info that might be needed)if anything let me know what happens and i will try to help you through this all the world needs is another nicole richie stuck in the hospital for not eating (i am not saying that you dont eat ) but i want to help.


sooo
i wash my face almost everyday
and i use biore
the green scrub one
and my face has gotten greasier and its really gross
and idk what to do/use!
whats a good product for it so i dont have a greasy face!!
help! (link)
use a coca butter soap tat works good


Okay I do have many skills with acting I have always wanted to goto disney,nick,cartoon network. But I am currently in Houston tx. So if I want this career will hiring a agent get me any where? (link)
yes get an agent right now they can help get you where you want to be make sure when a person tells you to pay for anything dont do it it's a scam.




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