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'Ello, the name's Chloe, and I've always been the advice giver among my friends. If you ask me a question or if I answer your question, I'll do the best I can to help. I'm a teenager, I'm a ballet dancer (yes, I can "go on my toes") I'm also an actress, musician, writer, artist...pretty much an artist all around. If you have questions related to any of these things, I guarantee I'll be able to answer them! Well, thanks for visiting my column stop by again sometime! I'd love to meet you!
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OKay, i wanna kno if there is something wrong with me. All guys i like pass me over for my friends. I'm just as pretty as them but i get ignored, or labed "friend only" and iono y. Is it because i give advice? Is it that i give off the friend only vibe? (and if i do, how do i stop?)I like to become friends with the guys before i decide whether to pursue a relationship or not, but the at that point, it seems to be too late. What can i do to change and get guys to notice me? Thanks in advance!
OK, the first thing you gotta kno is that you don't have to change WHO U ARE just for guys. But it sounds like what you might need are flirting tips. (NOte: you don't have to become a "flirt, slut, etc" to flirt). You could try talking to them and being their friends, but try to flip your hair occasionally. Lower your head and look up at them through your eye lashes. cover your mouth with your hand when you're embarrassed or laughing. This is very flirty. If you don't feel comfortable with any of this, you could just put the thought that you like someone into the gossip chains. Eventually it might reach him. But remember it's cool to be friends with guys too. These are just suggestions, and the reason they probably think of you as a friend is because they're comfortable with you and not flirting with you. So there are several different tactics you can take here, I hope I have helped. (and by the way, I'm sure one day you will meet someone as mature as you are, and then you will have a great relationship.)
is anyone creative? i need a slogan for the country Ecuador & i'm not creative so i'm not sure what to put. i've been trying to figure out one for a bit.
thanks!
some thoughts:
"equality in the equator: Ecuador"
"Adore Ecuador"
"Ecuador's excellent"
sorry if these sound stupid, but I think something catchy would probably be best, and to do that you've gotta either have it rhyme, use alliteration, or be humorous in a few words. Try to keep it under 15 syllables if u don't use any of these. Hope this helps, best of luck gettting an A on ur assignment!
I'm sixteen and I've never made out with a guy (or anything above that...and I only kissed once) is that a huge turnoff for a guy? I havent really had any boyfriends, but now I'm interested and I'm wondering will this scare guys off?
Well, if you're interested now and it's OK with your family, then I say go for it. As long as you're not eplanning to do something as extreme as lose your virginity to this new guy, then he will probably not think much of it. A certain thing comes with deflowering you, but if you just want to make out I bet you'd be surprised at how many other girls waited as long as you have. If this guy seems pretty "experienced" though, he may figure it out. The key is to just stay in control, and let things happen. It may sound sappy, but trust me it's the truth.
I am so confused as of what i should do. My friend ("best friend") is sooo annoying. She hardly hangs out with me anymore, shes too busy hanging out with the 2 popular kids in our class,,its so obvious to tell shes trying to be cool. the 2 popular kids were talking about celeberty poker and how they love it. and shes like OMG I LOVE CELEBRTY POKER! haha!" and this is so untrue cuz, 1. she doesnt no how to play it,,or at least i think. When i told her about my camp stories and how we played poker she was like YEAH UMM FUN.
2. her tv doesnt even work.
and yeah, stuff like that keeps happening and its really starting to get annoying, and i let it go everytime but im soo anoyed...what should i do? be friends with her, tell her i dont want to be friends, what? we have been best friends for 2 years and this stuff hasnt been much of a problem till this year. it happened like once a couple years ago, and sometimes last year, but its getting bad this year. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!
btw i rate 5's for good help, and non-stupid answers
Well, I don't know her, but from your tint on things it sounds like this person is a bit of a fairweather friend, meaning she comes and goes like weather. But if she is in some respect considered your best friend you must have plaeced some sort of respect in her at one time or another. If you feel you are not comfortable enough to talk this out with her, then you may have to question the integrity of the bond you two share. One thing you could do if you don't feel comfortable talking it out is try to get in with her new crowd. Bring a couple of your buds to hang out with her and the new crew. See if you can find out what caused her to "leave" you. It may just be that she's insecure about herself and finding the right crowd, and in that case she would probably welcome you as a new addandem to her group. HOWEVER, if she shows any signs that she might have gotten the impression that she finds you were a needy friend or soemthing like that, then you need to find out if she really feels like that. See how she reacts if you invite her over to your house. I know this has been long but I hope it helped.
what the virtue of modesty?
This is a rather controversial and debatable question, but I suppose you were asking for opinions so here's mine: I think that modesty is in the eye of the beholder for the most part, but there are certain commonly accepted ideals. Modesty is really, not flaunting oneself, and remaining humble to a politically accepted degree while in public be it in appearence, personality, or behavior.
I am a girl by the way... Anyways i wear jeans, sweatpants, cacki pants, and cargo pants. I wear basic tees with cute sayings on them and sometimes i wear youth group tshirts or a camp tshirt. Now its startin to get cold and i have no idea what to wear... any ideas for some cute outfits blending in w/ what i already have?
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There are lots of really cool long sleeve vintage shirts available nowadays, and those can go wit pretty mcuh anything aaaannnndddd make your arms look thinner aaaannnnddd keep you warm! Also little bandanas or even sweatbands worn around teh back of the head are in style right now if you accessorise properly and balance them out, and those would keep your ears warm. Some say uggs are dead, but that's debatable and those will always keep your feet warm. Another thing would be to get into zip ups. If you want to stay perfectly balanced between cold and warm and still meet the dress code all you have to do is pair a cami with a zip up over it, just don't take the zip up off! Depending on how heavy the jacket is, this could go on any cold or just moderately breezy day. I hope I have helped, i'm a caligirl so this is what I would do, but I don't know the weather conditions where you live, so it might be different there.
Ok .. fer global ( history) i have to define and give an example with 5 characteristics of a Golden Age in history.. well he said we could look it up online but i cant find anything .. and so what would a good definiton to put in a paragraph be and whats an example i could google.. i dont want you to DO my homework for me .. but i dont have my book so i cant find anything i just need a definition and an example of a golden age in history (oh.. it cant be in the US .. other countries only )
Every country has had a Golden Age, my friend. Usually they make a point of writing about it in the chapter about that country, but one of the most famous ones is Rome. Because of the famous Empire's status, I'm sure you could find jsut about anything and you could try "The Golden Age of Rome" for a google type-in. A definition? As long as you don't have to site where it came from, I guess I'm pretty good at using big words, so let's see, for Golden Age you could put: "An era in which the highpoint or peak of a country or timeperiod is acheived and realized." That should do nicely. Hope i helped! Best of luck!
Hi I've been doing this workout routine and so far I have 4 things I've been doing, crunches, squats, and lifting weights to work my arms to diff. ways. But I want to vary it up some time so what are six other workouts that work generally any part of the body? Thanks for advice!
If you want more professional workouts without a class, you might want to opt for workout tapes, but without using those or the ever cle shay "bowflex" and things of the like, there are several things you can do. (six, since you requested)
1.)(for your back and abdominals) Lie flat on your stomach on the ground with your body aligned and your hands clasped on your back. Lift your torso as high as you can without using your hands and keeping your feet together and on the ground, hold for three seconds and release. Next lift your legs (while keeping them together and keeping your torso on the ground) as high as you can, hold for three seconds and release. Alternate five times. Do two to three reps.
2.)(for your inner thighs) turn in your feet. bend one leg until you can touch the ground with one hand. Lift the other leg, keeping it turned in, and bob it quickly up and down 20 times. alternate twice. I reccomend only 1 rep.
3.) (for flexibility) sit with the bottoms of your feet together and touching the ground. Pull your feet closer to yourself and try to gently force your knees to the ground. Apply pressure for 30 secs and release. Do 3 reps.
4.)(very good for obliques and back muscles) Lie on your back with your knees drawn toward you and your feet on the ground, and put your hands at your sides. Lift your hips up and hold for 3 secs then bring them down without letting them touch the floor. Do this 20 times. Do 2 or 3 reps.
5.) (good for abs and obliques) Lie on your back and bring your legs up so they are in a 90 degree angle with your torso, then bend them so your calves are at a 90 degree angle. Lift your neck and the top of your back slightly and bring your arms straight out in front of you. Push down your arms rapidly exhaling and counting every time. The counts are " 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10, 2 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10..." etc until you finish. Do 1 or 2 reps.
6.) ( good for arch and foot strength) Stand with your feet parallel, (you'll probably have to hold onto something.) rise up on your toes and lower quickly, but don't slam down, try to roll through your feet in a controlled manner. Do this 10 times then do five slowly. Do 3 reps.
Well, I've certainly left you quite a novel here, please enjoy, and I hope I have been of assistance!
There's this guy from work, and I'm pretty sure he likes me and/or is somewhat attracted to me... we're going to go and see The Corpse Bride about two weeks from now.. and he kissed me.. I just want to know how I can make this not just a 'friends with benefits' type of thing. How do I get him to officially ask me out, or tell me his feelings for me (whatever the heck they are..)?
15/f. (He's 16.. if that matters..)
Corpse Bride is the perfect movie to get the solution to your dilemma in motion. I shouldn't tell you the plot so I won't ruin it for you, but let's jsut say it deals with relationships (in a weird way), so you could probably bring the topic up pretty easily after just talking about the movie. It may not sound like it now, but after you see the movie you may get what i mean.
my ears stick out soooooooo far i feel like dumbo.. what am i supposed to do .. should i staple them back? my dad just got a new nail gun , i think that woould work. suggestins PUH LEASE!!!
I'm sure it's not quite as bad as you think, but if you're feeling insecure about your ears there are two ways to deal with it.
1.) The psychologist "learn to love your little flaws that make you who you are"
or 2.) Make it work with your style and face. Key word? Hair, hair, hair! Wearing it tightly pulled back won't help much, so if you ever want to put it up, go for the kind of messy peices falling out look, or put it in a low ponytail and don't tuck the hair behind your ears. Also, you could get into wearing the kind of cloth headbands that go all the way around the back of your head, and bandanas. Ears peeking out of these look dorky anyway, so just put them over. (Even hiding half your ear would help.)
Want to wear your hair down? I hear you. You can side part your hair which will help the one side of it drape over that ear, AND give your face more dimension so things won't feel/look so rigid or disproportionate.
For a different tact, you could try balancing things out with dangly earrrings. if you wear ones that have basically long skinny chains coming down from them, they will make your ears appear thinner. I hope I have helped you, best of luck!
can you tell me some really good hip-hop music.. i want some thats not popular and everyone is listening to it now-a-days. Something original.. Like Screens falling by SPM.. its not huge but its a good song. Like that. thanks
hip hop isn't usually my thing, but I don indulge in some. if you want something original you could go for a contemporary artist like Jem. She's a Welsh singer, and her stuff's pretty trippy. I dunno about stores, but ebay and Amazon probably have her CD (she only has one out). It's called "Finally Woken". I think her stuff's good souled plus she writes it herself!
Well today was kind of weird (obviously). I was at a certain rehearsal for something and there was this one girl. She's older than me but i'm not sure how much. I'm 15/f and bi. Well i thought she was looking at me several times and i just got this weird impression. It was almost like she was looking at me in that certain way, ya know??? I swear i could just be paranoid because we didnt' even say a word to each other. But whenever i looked at her i had shivers running all down my back. I couldn't even focus. I have no clue what to do or anything. I must be paranoid but what do y'all think?!?!?! Please give me helpful answers you guys. I rate!! Thanks
do u have her im name? GET IT!! if you're not sure if she's bi, work the gossip chains until you can find out. call friends who would know if you need it tonight. get her im name, or even phone # from a bud. Say that you have a question about a line in the play you're rehearsing or something. Or, get her number, call, and ask if a friend of yours is there.
ex.
girl you like: hello?
you: is christie (insert friend's name) there?
girl: umm no this is my (insert girl's name) house.
you: oh, well, this is (insert your name)
girl: ookkk, you have the wrong number.
you: well do you know what time blahblahblah rehearsal is?
and get to talking. chat her up. If you CAN't get her number, try to rerun the rehearsal in your head. Write it down if you have to. List all the times she looked at you, how, and when. I think if you think on it you just may come to a reasonable answer with your own good sense, if you can't talk to HER.
where can i get a dooney and bourke purse? thanks xoxo
overstock.com is the cheapest place to go. it's like ebay in that you have to bid onthings, but the things you buy are new, just "overstocked" from stores.
I'm in a high school production of a popular classic play and we open on Wednesday. We haven't even had a full run though of the show yet, and did I mention that one of the acts isn't even completely blocked?...
I think we'll pull it together, but do you think we are screwed?
how many more rehearsals have you got? who's directing it? If it's professionally done (teacher) then you have to trust that thte directors know what they're doing, and maybe get together with your friends to run lines. Get to know the rehearsal schedule so you can plan things around it and get to every one. Most importantly, if you have any questions, ask them now!!!
If it is done by a student however, then it all depends on how relieable this person is. If you're worried that your bud's production might not come out right, offer to stay a ltitle after school one day and assist. You could even call impromptu rehearsals during lunch. If you're reeeaaallly worried try to get involved.
hey i have a question 4 u! i'm 14 n i'm a freshman in hs, there is dis cute guy in ma class and i have a crush on him. I THINKK he likes me too but i'm not sure, do u kno any signs dat i should look out 4 if he likes me? and if he doesnt like wat could i do 2 make him like me?
~lost n confused!
well, there is the direct approach of trying to become closer to him and getting to know him and then eventually asking if he likes you, or you could go the sneaky route and get your friends to ask him or his friends. If you're not sure and you want to "make" him like you, you could just do a little active flirting, if you're that kind of person. If you're not into that kind of thing, just start kind of hanging around him, and show yourself. He may catch on.
If you need flirting tips though, you could always go with teh classics: flip your hair when you talk to him, tell jokes but don't laugh TOO loudly, and try to asssociate yourself to him through friends. Talk to him in a group, start bringing friends of yours to hang out with his posse. You have time to get in with his crowd, and integrate yourself, it's freshman year. And the start of it too.
okay this is kinda of long but i need advice and your willing to help i would love it and i wil show it by rating high
so i liked this kid and he knew and we only talked online ....never when i saw him which was liek wed. sun. and fri. anyways so tonight which is friday i saw him and we were all in a group it was like 2 girls me and my friend and like 3 boys and we were just talking and stuff and since he knows i like hiim he started braggin about the size of his dick and stuff and idk if he is just like that or hes trying to impress me ...so next time i dont wanna look like an idiot and give a fake laugh i wanna say something good..any tips on what i should do and ...why is he acting this way...?plzz help asap! i love you all who help me
it sounds to me like this guy it just, well, being a guy. They like to TALK about their *ahems* almost as much as they like using them. so this is normal (trust me!) And try to see him a little more than online, because written text can hide emotions and subtle nuances to speech which might clue you in on if he likes you back. Right now it sounds like you're getting mixed signals, so you might have to find out a little yourself this time.
My dogs are so cute! But they are 2 yrs old and they are still not pottytrained! one poops in my room the other pees in my room!! I am sick and tired of it! But I still love them to pieces! But like I have another dog but h is 15 yrs. old and is pottytrained! yay anyways please try to answer my question !! thanx
one thing you could do is try to get your new dogs to follow the older oen's example, although im sure you've already tried that. it sounds like you're at your wits end, and if you've tried all the basics, (treats for peeing in the right places, punishment for not, etc.) then there is a product that may help. There are many different brands but it is generally referred to as "puppy drops". When you spray it in a spot, the scent inspires dogs to pee there. petco or petsmart have a wide selection. I hope this helps, because I have BEEN there, and this is what worked for me. Just show the sprayed spot to the dogs, put their noses against it.
ok iv been going out w/ this guy for a month and a few weeks ill call him jim well my neighbor ill call him bob comes over sometimes not very much now that im going out w/ jim bob comes over like 1 or twice a month me and bob have done stuff in the past cuz he kept on preasuring me until i say yes i make up excuses but they never work we had like a no strings attatched thing going on though and im afraid im gonna cheat on jim w/ bob cuz like its hard for me to say no and bob is always preasuring me to do stuff w/ him what r some good ways to say no to bob!!
Sounds like "bob" is either
1.) very intimidating
2.) very appealing
and probably
3.) very controlling
yikes! there are a couple of things you can do if you feel like you don't have the will to say no to bob. If you're certain you want to be with jim and not bob don't let bob over to your house unless someone else is there. Say your parents, or even jim! And introduce jim to bob. make sure bob knows jim's your guy, and your alllll his! And worst case scenario, if bob ends up at your house or somewhere else where he could pressure you, try to avoid being alone with him. If he makes a pass, just say you're hungry and get something to eat, suggest something else, even like a board game or something, just so long as you guys aren't alone. I hope I have helped you. :)
hey is von dutch still in style? because i have a hoodie but i dont know if i should still wear it even tho its brand new ... and oh how about uggs? because i read in a magazine they totally arent but a lot of people in school wear them!
well, if u keep up with this kind of thing, most say uggs are dead, but von dutch depends on your personal style. I'm not a hoodie person, but I do wear uggs with flirty little skirts. You could do that if you don't want to give up your snuggly wugglies completely.
i think this kid likes me he is year older then me and hes really cute! well one day we were outside and him and a couple of friends came up to me and said " hey you wanna play some knockout (which is a basketball game you try and get people out)" then i was like "yeah" so we played and it got down to me and him and i let him win because i didnt want his friends to be like "oh you got beat by a girl" and he like always looks at me in a weird way and stuff and i am not the kind of person that can just go up to some one and start a conversation. i talk to him online sometimes but hes like hardly ever on. hope u can help!! ill rate 5's for really helpful answers!! ~*confused lover*~
aaahh, a classic dilemma. What you need to do is send him clear "I like you" signals. I know exactly how you feel with being kind of shy around cute guys, but a smile doesn't hurt. Maybe talk to him WITH a neutral friend so that you feel more comfortable. Try to become close to him in this way. Once you're friends, you'll be able to find out how he feels.