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okay soo i have a couple questions.
i have this guy we have ben on and off since last summer we ended it last summer because college then this summer got more intimate and stuff but the thing is we are so rude to eachother. like we flake on eachother. on the other hand, he has been talking about sex lately. i wouldnt mind doing it. its just its my first time. and im afraid of getting pregnant because im not on birth control. last time i mentioned to my mom she said no.
Basically i feel like we use eachother cause we both havent moved on. What do you think?
What are some good ideas so i can presuade her to let me get it?
ohh and what are some good sex tips? (link)
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If you feel like you are using each other, maybe having sex isn't the right thing, you say it is your first time, if things don't work out you might regret it. So think about this. Remember virginity is like a white piece of paper, once you make a mark , you can erase and erase but there will always be mark there.
If you take this step, make sure that you are ready for it and that he is the right person, make sure you are not being pressured into this.
If you decided to have sex, speak to your GP, he/she may be able to give you some pills. If not use a condom, but remember no method is 100% effective. There is still a chance you might get pregnant, especially if all you use is a condom.
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Ok, i want to have sex with my bf but i dont know how to tell him im ready
can you tell me how to tell him..... (link)
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When the time is right, everything will happen. You might just have to wait a little while longer, he might not be the right one. When you are ready to have sex you will know and so will your boyfriend, it will just happen so don't worry about telling him anything. Just wait a little longer, if he is the one things will happen just right and it will come so easily and naturally that you won't need advice :)
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I am not in 1st grade thats when we first met!
i moved to that town and went to that school
the instant i saw him i was in love with him aha
i know thats first grade love! but i have had feelings
for him for 8years i know pathetic we kinda lost
touch in middle school bc we went to differrent
schools and now i see him every once in a while
should i tell him how i feel or should i just wait
and see what happens in the future?
i am afraid though that he will reject me which he
probally will.
should i tell him and risk being rejected?
please i need advice! (link)
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If you really like him, tell him. You never know he might like you to, you have nothing to lose, in fact you might just gain something, so give it a try.
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okay im female 17
i've been having so much trouble lately with my boyfriend..i need some cute things to do for him to show him that i care and that he means so much to me, like he does sweet things for me all the time like drives 45 minutes to another city just to surprise me with my favorite icecream..i need ideas on sweet little things i could do for him..bc i love doing these kind of things but im out of ideas lol...thanks:)
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Try doing small things, it will mean a lot as long as it come from your heart.
Write I love you with his favourite food/chocolates, leave him little messages in his bag or room. send him one or two word text messages or e-mail, saying love you, or miss you.
Do something small, it will seem like a big thing to him.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 months. Before we started going out, we were really great friends. He was my best friend. And I have a STD, HIV actually. I got it from birth because my mother had to get a blood transplant and back in 1986 they didnt check blood for HIV and such, we've been talking about being intimate with eachother. I am 15 and I need to tell him before we have sex. I need help on the following things:
1.) How to tell him: What should I say? Should I have my sister whos like my best friend be there with us?
2.) When should I tell him?
3.) How do I handle the thoughts of being rejected and trusting him?
He is my best friend and I trust him and I talked to him and have told him that I have something I'd like to discuss with him and I made him guess on what it was and he said "is it a genetically passed STD?" and I did not say anything.
I'm scared that he will tell someone. He's very trusting but I dont know, He would be the only person I told besides one person and the only boyfriend I've told. Please help.
Comfort my thoughts on this so im not such a worried reck
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Hi, having HIV is a hard thing to deal with.
Before telling him you have to decide whether he is the "one" , if you trust him and love him enough to take such a big step it is best you tell him. I would suggest you try to tell him when your alone. This way he will be more honest with you about his feelings, if your sister is there he might not tell you exactly how you feels. If you decide to tell him, wait for the "right moment" you will know when that is. But make sure you tell him before a night together.
Talk to your sister though, ask her what you should do and let her know you are going to tell him. I am sure she will be there to comfort you.
As for rejection, if he rejects you after you have been honest with him, then you have to know he is not worth you or your love. Be strong, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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my fiance wants to speak to me he keeps calling me but whenever he rings i be a right jerk and dont talk to him but i realy do want to i fink what do i do plzzz help my little sister thinks i am a complete whack i mean the guys literally begging the key in any relationship COMMUNICATION hint hint (link)
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Well, I think if you do not want to talk to him, you don't have to. Maybe he is being too clingy and needy. Talk to him for a while, but if it is too much for you then tell him that.
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my boyfriend is a total jerk. he dosnt say hi to me anymore. he hangs up on me swears at me is violent to me says he dosnt care about me nemore as much as he did says he hates seen me gets ppl to tel me hes not were he is so i dont come see him. says he hates seen me and that he dreads it says that im on the bottum of his list of prioirtys. he dumped me and said he was treating me bad so i wud break it of with him but then he wanted me back. hes grabbed my throat and said hel hit me. he tells people he dosnt want to be with me and im annoying and wishes i would dissapear. altho we hav a serious relashionshop and hav dated for about a year hes gettin himself into serious trouble and been arrested and charged and drinking every night. i love him so much and my biggest fear is that he wil cheat on me. i dont think he loves me neither do any of my friends. i just have alot of fun with him on weekends even tho he ignored me and yells at me for anything and everything i dont have the power to break it off PLEASE HELP ME IM DESPEREATE iv talked to him about it so many times and he gets mad and tells me to fuck off! (link)
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You have to be strong, you don't deserve this sort of treatment. You may have feelings for him but you can not let anyone hurt you, this is not love it is abuse. I suggest you stay away from him, tell him you do not deserve to be treated like this and it is over. Be strong, do not confront him alone, take a friend or atleast let someone know where you are and how long you will be. If you are still having trouble you need to talk to some social workers, and even the police if he continues to abuse you.
Just remember, you do not deserve to be treated like this, no one does.
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ok, my best friend (we'll call her "mary") asked out my other best friend since 1st grade (lets call him "joe"). but i didn't know that since i go to a different school then they do. so, "joe" said no, because they were friends... then, a couple months later, "joe" asked me out. i said yes because i liked him more than a friend, and because i didn't know that "mary" already asked him out. then i told "mary" and she got all mad at "joe"... not me. but now, there is this awkwardness between them. i donno what to do.
ok, now i have a second problem. "joe" and i have been together for 2 weeks and 1 day. and i asked him the other day, "if i was a flower which would i be and why" and he said, "rose because i was beautiful"... so i was happy with that responce... until i asked him "if i was a color, which would i be" then he said "green because i'm a vegetarian". i didn't think that was the greatest answer. what should he have said???
now i have a third problem. every time i get off the phone with "joe", he says "well, i gotta go, i'll call u later, bye"
then i say bye back... and that's it... he doesn't even say i love you or ne thing... do you think it is too early??? should i make the first move????
i also have a forth question. tomorrow, "joe" is going on his first plane ride to florida... and i wanted to say "before you leave and go on your trip, i wanted to tell you that i love you". do you think i should say that????
plzzz answer quickly cuz i don't have very long until tomorrow. (link)
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Well, your first problem is a tricky one, what should you do? i understand that they are your friends but it is possible that "Mary" is upset with "Joe" for not feeling the same way as she did. You did not know about this from before so you are not to blame, this is something that "joe" and "mary" need to solve on their own. There is very little that you can do.
Your second problem, "Joe" said green because you are a vegetarian, this shows he knows you and thats where he is drawing his answers from. Which means he must say you are a rose because he truly believes you are beautiful. What he said is what he thinks, everyone has different opinions.
Your third problem, it has only been two weeks since you have been together, maybe he is just not at that stage yet. Don't rush him, if he wants to take things slow let him. As for you, if you are at that stage and do love him then yes, tell him how you feel. It could make your relationship stronger.
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okay im 16/f and i met this boy he's 22 on myspace and he lives in the same city where i live katy,tx and i met him and seemed really nice. but i mean he still is nice and i've gotten to know him over the week. and we started dating. but i feel like he doesn't really like me. because like on myspace he'll tell me im beautiful and on the phone he'll tell me that plus i love you. but the first time we met we were dating he just hugged me and kissed me. but he didn't say i love you and that im beautiful. and i sent him a message on myspace that if he really likes me that he needs to start showing it. he just read my message but didn't say anything. oh and i called him like 10 times today but he doesn't pick up. i've noticed that when i call sometimes he won't pick up. and we're suppose to meet at the park today around 3. and i don't want to break-up with him so what should i do? And also and whenever i talk to him he's like uh huh okie dokie or yeahh. i don't feel like i can talk to him or connect with him. what should i do?
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You need to talk to him, tell him how you feel. See what he says and whether or not he takes your thoughts on board. If he doesn't you need to hink long and hard about whether or not he is worth your time.
The key thing in any relationship is communication, you must talk to him, if he doesn't answer your phone calls speak to him face to face.
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So I'm going back to school in september, and I'm going to be a junior, I don't know why I'm so anxoius. But I am, and it makes my stomach hurt. Why do you think I'm so nervous? It was fine freshman and sophmore year. I'm actually considered upperclassmen now, so i don't know why I'm so worried, do you think once school starts I'll be okay?
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Trust me, you will be fine. This happens to everyone, its natural, being a junior is just something knew i am sure you will get used to it, just don't worry.
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kk. im going out with a girl who is nice but im beginiing to lose interest in her. and theres another girl who i loved before and every since i went out with the girl my feelings for the other one have just become stronger
so do i let the relationship dye down so she dumps me, or do i tell her the truth (link)
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I think you should tell her the truth, she deserves that much. Let her down easy and explain your situation to her. There is no point in being unhappy for such a long time.
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OK...so i'll try and make this short...me && this guy named jonathan have liked eachother for about 1 month now. we would talk on myspace and call eachother sometimes. then two days ago we got into a stupid argument that was pointless but, it was VERYY minor. WE GOT OVER IT...so he was suppose to ask me out but, he didn't. and he posted a bulletin on myspace saying that he was taken and loving it. i thought he meant me,,but I found out yesterday he's back with his ex. He didn't even tell me..my best friend did.. and when i found out, i was CRUSHED.. i was in tears and i couldn't believe that i was actually going through this again.[this happened w/ another guy].. and my friend told me that even though he's back with his ex,,he still has feelings for me. AND I'M HIS #1 ON MYSPACE..if that even matters...
so my questions are:
should i still talk to him??!! ..what's the point he has a girlfriend now..right??!!..i'm not even sure if i still like him because it hurt me soo much..should i move on to someone else??!!..what should i do overall..??!!
THNX IN ADVANCE (link)
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My advice to you is that you needed to forget about him, if he liked you he wouldn't get back together with his ex, right. As for talking to him, that is upto you, but I would advise that you should not get your hopes up.
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