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boyfriend issues
ok, my best friend (we'll call her "mary") asked out my other best friend since 1st grade (lets call him "joe"). but i didn't know that since i go to a different school then they do. so, "joe" said no, because they were friends... then, a couple months later, "joe" asked me out. i said yes because i liked him more than a friend, and because i didn't know that "mary" already asked him out. then i told "mary" and she got all mad at "joe"... not me. but now, there is this awkwardness between them. i donno what to do.
ok, now i have a second problem. "joe" and i have been together for 2 weeks and 1 day. and i asked him the other day, "if i was a flower which would i be and why" and he said, "rose because i was beautiful"... so i was happy with that responce... until i asked him "if i was a color, which would i be" then he said "green because i'm a vegetarian". i didn't think that was the greatest answer. what should he have said???
now i have a third problem. every time i get off the phone with "joe", he says "well, i gotta go, i'll call u later, bye"
then i say bye back... and that's it... he doesn't even say i love you or ne thing... do you think it is too early??? should i make the first move????
i also have a forth question. tomorrow, "joe" is going on his first plane ride to florida... and i wanted to say "before you leave and go on your trip, i wanted to tell you that i love you". do you think i should say that????
plzzz answer quickly cuz i don't have very long until tomorrow.
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Well, your first problem is a tricky one, what should you do? i understand that they are your friends but it is possible that "Mary" is upset with "Joe" for not feeling the same way as she did. You did not know about this from before so you are not to blame, this is something that "joe" and "mary" need to solve on their own. There is very little that you can do.
Your second problem, "Joe" said green because you are a vegetarian, this shows he knows you and thats where he is drawing his answers from. Which means he must say you are a rose because he truly believes you are beautiful. What he said is what he thinks, everyone has different opinions.
Your third problem, it has only been two weeks since you have been together, maybe he is just not at that stage yet. Don't rush him, if he wants to take things slow let him. As for you, if you are at that stage and do love him then yes, tell him how you feel. It could make your relationship stronger.
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First off, talk to Mary about the whole situation. Obviously since you don't go to their school, you didn't know what was going on between them. Appologize & ask her if she's mad at you & what not. Hopefully Joe and Mary can work problems out between themselves, but that's between them & there isn't much you can do. You should not feel guilty though, since you didn't know her feelings for Joe.
I think the 'green because you're a vegetarian' comment was meant to be funny. Vegetables are green. He was probably just trying to be cute. There are no 'right answers'. Don't let it bother you. It really isn't a big deal whatsoever.
You have only been dating for approximately 2 weeks right?? Most people do not love each other that quickly. True love that is. Just because you're dating, doesn't mean you need to say that because it may not be true. Don't take it offensively. Maybe after time he'll feel love but right now he probably just likes you as his girlfriend. Try asking him how he feels about you. If you truly feel as if you love him for sure, then you can tell him. If not, don't because you would just be leading him on. You have to make sure of your feelings before you let him know what they are.
Basically, sort out your problems with Mary and Joe seperately. Let her know that you had no idea she felt that way & you obviously wouldn't mean to hurt her since you guys are best friends. Talk to Joe about his feelings & let him know yours. Ignore the vegetarian comment. It isn't a big deal.
-hope that helped!♥
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