My name is Ashley Laskarin and i am sixteen years old. I have been through many different experiences in my life as many have, but i believe i have a gift for advice most of my friends and family come to me when they have an issue. im a good listener and love to help people. My life is the very essence of drama. I dont like it but ive grown up with it and know how to deal with pressure. ill answer anything with the best of my ability. so ansk me anything! :)
E-mail: nicolelaskarin@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Indianna
Occupation: school
Age: 15
Member Since: November 20, 2006
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Ok so ive been wit my bf for almost 2 years and i recently asked him why he doesnt respond to my cals or texts when he's wit his firends he told me that it is becuase he wants to spend time wit them and he thinks its rude to be texting his gf and stuff and he doesnt talk to his friends or text them when he's wit me so he wants to give both groups the smae respect. I guess i udnerstand that but i feel like at the same time he should be able to atleast let me know he's wit friends so i can know and not assume otherwise..is there a way i can convey this thought to him with out seeing too needy, or am i being irrational? (link)
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you should try to tlake to him and jsut say well i'd atleast like you to tell me why you can't text me when i text you so i will know not to text you anmore until you are able to text me back...wow that sounds confusing...but try it.
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my bf broke up with me on friday. we broke up because we werent allowed o see eachother and it hurt so bad. He said he still had feelings for me and evrything though. I really like him still too. Theres also this other kid that i have liked since the summer. On sunday i saw him and we ended up having sex, and i dont really regret doing it, but my ex found out and he flipped out on me. Now i feel so bad and i dont know what to do. He wont talk to me, and he was making me feel so bad. He said he cant trust girls and now iv just added to the list of girls that made him that way, and he was asking me why i did it, and if it was good, and who i'd rather have a serious relationship with and stuff. I didnt cheat on him, because we werent going out then but it really feels like i did. I still like the kid i had sex with on sunday, but theres no chance of us going out anyways. I dont want my ex to hate me, and i dont want us to stop talking. I honestly dont know what to say to him. Is there anyway i can fix this? was it really that bad what i did? btw im 14 and my ex is 17 (link)
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wow honey your in a mess well in a way you gave in to vunerablilty and you can just explain to your ex that you were so upset and it just happend and tell him how bad you fell and why you reagret it so much. it would be best not to see that guy you had sex wwith for a while to.
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ok theres this guy named jake and hes like one of those popular and hot guys.
im like anormal girl who hangs out with normal fun people and ive never even talked to him before
okay so i was on AIM and he imed me and asked who i was. i told him my name and he said " oh shit ur hot. i saw you on facebook and see u at school sometimes" and we started talking and i felt a little awkward.
and he was like "your picture made me horny, i jacked off".and started asking me like "do you think im hot"
and today im talking to him right NOW. and was like "what have you done sexually. or like yeah
but i dont wanna block him or anything.
and dont worry, im not gonna like fall in love with him or anything.
What do his IMs mean? (link)
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well this is a typical perverted guy who thinks since he is popular he can say anything he wants and get away with it....jsut don't be stupid and say you have done stuff you haven't i had a guy try to do that once and well i got him arrested....ong story he treid to do stuff because i told him i hac\d done thing but i really hadnt any way just be careful he might be using you as a way to get his freinds atention.
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I'm at college level reading. 14 years old, female.
I'm looking for any really good reads that anybody knows of. I like basically anything, just no historical fiction.
Please don't tell me to google or look on the "myspace books section".
Thanks in advance. (link)
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well it really depends on your interests but i like to erad mark twain and howthorn...or how ever you spell it i'm not sure what level thely are but you can look into it,
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this kid, Max, and i are pretty good friends. well he has a girlfriend, Jane. well, there's a dance this weekend that has a reputation of a little of dirty business going on there (that i'm going to). well he was like saying how i'm such a s*** for going to it, and people only go there to have sex with clothes on and he kept calling me a s***. he pretended he was joking but idk if he was. then he was like why are you going to it and i said something like "im just trying to have fun what happens there stays there" or something, and then he radnomly said "omg i wanna make out with my girlfriend soooo bad". it was weird. what could he mean by all this? why is he acting that way? (link)
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this one is a tuffy. it sounds like he was trying to make you mad by calling you that and then he was trying to rub it in your face that he has a g/f.....i'm jsut guessing but that what it sounds like to me.
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heres the problem this may sound crazy but ive had a freindship with this guy who lives in a diff. state and we never met before, and we almost talked on the phone before. hes my age 13 and i talk to him alot i fully trust him dont tell me hes some rapist hes real hes given me proof and ive talked to his sister. but like i said i have alot of trust in him i tell him everything all my secrets and he tells me his too and i feel so stupid when i tell him "your a really great friend i love you and care for you so much, and so on but when i tell him he just types "aw thank you" and...what do i get??
just that i dont get the same thing back.
i would like alittle credit i mean ive known him for a year now but..i never once get any credit he worries me so much bc he gets beat up and teased for the way he dresses (tight pants ext.) and god i think bout him more than anything.
so can anyone tell me the problem why he wont give me any credit? and when he tell each other stuff he just types "but we tell each everything we cant secrets from each other blah blah"
WHY WONT HE GIVE ME CREDIT?!
and i need to hear something positive :( (link)
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okay honey well the thing about guys is that they don't show thier emotions the same ways as we do.....girls say stuff like you did and guys appreciated it but they don't want to get all mushy gushy back.....it has something to do with pride and they fell uncomfortabvle openein up to much if you aren't in a realtionship. i have told guys beforethat and they say jsut about the same thing don't worrie just try not to make him to uncomfortable and even though you tell each other everything he may want to express that in a different way....like telling you everything....you know what i mean.
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umm i know this might be gross but i need help. on some clothing i wear i sweat sometimes..and i get stains under the armpit area. but what i dont get is i use deoderant and i keep trying to use more and more to prevent it but on some fabrics it just doesnt work. this stinks because im embarrassed to wear my favorite clothing because of this. can anybody help? (link)
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my freind is the same way and well she uses baby powder. she sy it works really well to clog up your poors. you have to be careful though it couldget irritated very easily and like the person said above me there is a disrder but i'm not sure wht it is call.....so try the baby powder before you look into anything.
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I have this friend hes like my best buddy we have the greatest time together(well that how i feel it) umm i feel great around him, when he hugs me i just dont wanna let go of him... I think i like him..but i think its wrong to like him because he has a gf which is my friend also (well we talk sometimes)..but yeah i feel bad...oh yeah and i get jeaulous when i see them together but i know its wrong to feel that way...but i cant help it.. he once told me he felt attracted to me (like 2 weeks ago actually).. but i dont know if he was being serious...i dont know what to do.. should I keep liking him,tell him about my feelings, forget about him or what should I do??? please help me!! (link)
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well this is kind of tough it is a 50 50 shot. i would wait a bit maybe flirt with him nd see how he acts if he takes it like he likes y ou back then make your move and if he doesn't then just back off and wasit for another chance it sound like it to me that he does have a little crush on you.
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ok so i really want to loose weight. im nto that fat. but im chubby. but i suck in my stomach.. so i look fat. people say thats good this way it builds up stomach muscle but i dont know. its jsut a habit now i automatically suck in but not when im sitting. only when im standing or walking. well im 14/f and i weigh 120 pounds and are about 5 foot 4 i guess. aroudn there. ok you guys wil lsyaim the perfect weight its good. but i have a st omach. and i want to loose it. so dont say you dont need to. well what do i have to do? i dont go running but im going to try? so probably since i have school i might go on saturdays or sundays. in the summer i will run more. or try too. but what foods should i eat or avoid? and what are some snacks that are good for you? that liek arnt only fruit? liek ome junk food that arent bad for you? liek is chex mix good or? and when i get bored. i eat. so what can i do? thanksss soo much. sorry this is long. my schedule is basically school then friends then home. i do a sport but thats not that much exercise its colorguard. and thats from august to like thanksgiving. so then im good at maintaing my weight. but now i cant. and ifeel soo fat around my friends becuase there so skinny. and i want to loose wieght. thanks. (link)
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well i am 5'1 and 118 pound and i have the same problem my stomach is shubby well what i do is do stomach work outs and watch what i eat....but you can't get to obsessed i did that once and that is how i lost 20 pound in 2 months and i lookd horrible. about your friends well you ahve to remeber everyone has different body shapes and builds and to you you may seem fat but it may be a whole different story to them.....i used to feel the same way tehn one day my friends all asked my how i stayed so skinnny and i thought it was really weird because like you i felt fat around them......jsut remeber what you feel may not always be true.
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okay,i need help on makeing friends..kind of. im already in a "group" but, i don't think im much like them. there all really close and then im just there. its like i dont exist sometimes. its just because,im kind of quiet. and im not exactly like, them. but i'm still with them,some how. i mean,i have NO sense of humor,and there very humorous. how do i make things funnier? how can i speak up? and, if you must label us, we would be the random,skater,whatever, group. i just,have no close friends what so ever. and i dont know how to make them! this has been going on for probably 2 years. and i'm starting to get really sad that no one cares that much for me. how do i make them care for me more? thanks so much,i really need help on this one. oh and i dont remember things,i suck at it. also,i find myself so lost,i dont know how that might help,but yeah. (link)
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well if you don't know any of them very well i say start out by getting some one on one time with each of them. ask questions and justtak to them BUT if you don't fell like you fit in with them then you might want to seach for some new freinds that is what happend to me last year i s reall quiet and kind of a outcast in my group of friends but this year i have a whole new set of freinds and i talk alot more than last year because i actually feel like i fit in. try it it might help.
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15/f ok so i have been dating this one guy on and off for about a yr and a half...none of our relationships ever last long like i think a month and a half was the longest and thats now and he has kissed other girls and made out with them but he has never kissed me. im not one to make the first move usually ever i just get to shy. alot of ppl think im prude but its not that i wouldnt want to makeout w a guy or whatever i really do!! but i just dont want to make a move. this guy i dont think i might be wrong has never made a first move...im pretty sure hes made a move but never the first one... some of his other girlfriends were pretty much sluts so yea. any suggestions? ik he isnt like scared to makeout with some1 cause he has alot of times so its not like he doesnt want to or isnt ready but idk what it is with him like should i just work stop being so shy and just do it? but im always scared that something terrible i like him alot more then ive ever liked any1 and i dont want to mess things up... im just scared that he will break up w me if i dont and i have madeout w other guys before so that isnt the issue im not really this nervous when making out w some1 i dont like this much sorry if this question is really confusing but please help! the more advice the better! (link)
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okay well in away this is very simple just start out with a regular kiss on the lips then kiss him a gain and maybe antoher time staying real close to him and then just star making out with him....and if you don't like him like you say just picture the guy you do like or a really hot singer or actor.
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Okay so I always get these like really low self-essteem problems every once in a while. Like I dont feel smart at all. Im not good at any sports, which is why i do cross country. The only things I care about is how i look,clothes,money,make-up,fashion you know the material things in life. Im not the best at anything..IM SERIOUS..im not smart,im not athletic,i used to dance but i wasnt amazing. I just feel so dumb. I want to be intelligent and i dont want people to look at me like im some dumb pretty girl. What can i do to become smarter? I study hard for my tests and i still get C's on them and im not even taking advanced courses. Im 15 by the way. Please help me thankyou (link)
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well i know this may sound rally wierd but have you thought that maybe you were trying a little to hard...i know i'm the same way i am not ggod at anything but when i try to hardto be good at something i always end up worse than i already am just don't try as hard and relax and take a look at what you could fix and work from there
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how can you determin what size of a tampon should you get?
It's my first time and I only have enough money to buy one box..what if it's too small or big? (link)
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It really dpends on how much you flow....if you flow a little everytime ry the small ones....if you flow a lot use the large or if u really flow A LOT LOT then you use the super plus and i would reconmend to by the varity box so you can step down becasue every day your period leaks less and less.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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okay honey look i know how you feel i have been put in the same situation and have thought of commiting sucide a few times but i can tell you from experience that it is the wrong thing to do. you may seem like everything is falling apart but if you just sit back and take a look at what is bothering you one by one you might be able to fix it up a little that is what i did. i know that it may seem impossible and yes there is those long periods of time in your life that aren't going well at all but that is just life and you have to deal with them. you can just push them out and take the rest. life may not seem fair but that is just the way it happens and commiting sucide isn't going to help any. just take your time and try to wrk things out and if you need to just get away from it all and take a vacation somewhere give your mind a rest. just DON"T commit suicide it is the last thing you should everdo even then you shouldn't do it.
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*= name changed
Intro:
Ten years ago my favorite aunt on my mom's side died in a car crash with her son. My mom had a really hard time dealing with this. Then almost 3-4 years ago my uncle was caught dealing drugs. He was arrested in front of my young cousin and his daughter Trina*. That upset Trina really bad because she has never even been close to much of anything like that. That destroyed my family on my dad's side because then my aunt's husband started to talk crap on my uncle Steve*. My uncle Brett* was a real jerk and he was so mean to his kids. His daughter Kary* became a real slut and started dating my dad's live in working hand Trace*. Kary was 14 at the time and Trace was 24. It was disgusting because they kept it from her parents. Then two years late my brother Scott* died tragicaly. Then on my mom's side my grandpa died of cancer. Then my family was really going down the drain. On my mom's side not so much except my mom. On my dad's side their were so many fueds it was ridiculous. My uncle Brett was ruining Kary's life. She became an alcholic at the age of 16 and was constantly moping around. My dad's working hand Trace was really the only sane one in the family and he wasn't even in the family. So here is my question...
1) How do I get over all this?
2) How do I tell my family to get over all this and start acting sane?
3) And what do I do about my cousin Kary? I need to talk to her about her dad really bad.
4) And as for my mom she is constantly crying. It gets me down bad and I can't stand to here it every night how do I help her?
5) And lastly my dad is really getting rude and he won't talk to me about it when I bring anything up. He is constanly not letting me talk and is always griping. How do I talk to him.
Sorry this is so long guys but I've got a lot of problems right now. Anything will help (link)
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well my life was falling apart to.....but no offense not as bad as you. well you need to express your feelings more to your family and as for your cousin i really don't know what to say she needs to be put somewhere that can get her help and that would be the best advice i can give your right now i mean i know it's really rough cuz my mom went crazy and so did like6 of my othe family members but it all worked out.
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Well so I have this problem with two guys. one i really really like but i'm not sure he knows this and i wanna be with him really bad so my first question is how should i tell him this?
and here comes the hard part. i slept with my boyfriend (at the time) well we broke up and it got all around school but i don't know what to do because i've always liked the other kid but my boyfriend at the time did not know this. so I want to tell my guy that i really like that i slept with my ex boyfriend before he finds out from my ex. so how do i tell him i like hime and then how do i tell him that i slept with my ex when i was drunk? this guy is going to think i'm crazy so help me out here! (link)
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wow that's a tizzy well first ofall you have to know the guy really well and then just be like one day get into a really long conversation and just be like i have to tell you something. then tell him you like him and once he says something back just be like i did something really stupid while i was drunk and i fell so bad and ashamed and tell him that you slept with you ex.....and just keep putting your self down until he says something encouraging and just ast like you are really reggreating the whole thing. it should work but i'm not sure.
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I was raised agnostic, which my family is. My dad was raised a conservative catholic, but now is totally against religion and so is my mom. I was always very distant from religion & actually disliked it. Now, being a senior in highschool I've suddenly become interested. How do I go about furthering this interest and finding information about it? My family already doesn't support this and I wouldn't even know what to do if I stepped inside a church. (link)
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well first of all you need to firgure out which way you think you believe the most there is so many religions but most of them you can look up my internet or by books i'm a christian and i believe in jesus and all that good stuff but you need to find what you believe in first by examining all the religions and find out which one seems to catch you the most if it's hinduiszm or is it's catholic it's your choice....good luck.
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Okay so I like a boy I hardly know. Problem? Not sure. But I haven't had an actual conversation with him for literally months. It's just been "hey" in the halls since then. He's a grade above me, his name is Dave. Well my guy friend knows him from a sports team and one time he was on the phone. According to my guy friend, Dave said, "Who is that, (my name)? She's pretty hot eh?" And then recently another guy friend of mine has been trying to help me out. He thinks Dave is a really awesome guy and he knew him once, which is comforting since I seem to always go for the wrong dude. But anyway, my friend talked to him about a week ago randomly and asked if he knew me, because he saw us say hi in the hallway a lot. Dave said yes, then my friend asked what Dave thought of me. Dave's response was something like "What do you mean?" So my friend asked him if Dave thought I looked good, and the response was yes (and my friend adds that it was in a "duh!" tone of voice, haha). And apparently Dave had a little smile going on there. My friend thinks he got the hint, and since they had that conversation, instead of just "hey" in the hall it's something different. He'll just give me a funny look to make me laugh or like stick his tongue out at me. I have another guy friend who is good friends with Dave and he knows I like Dave. He's been trying to get us to all hang out but things keep coming up. I think I want to wait a little longer to see if that will happen since I don't have to do too much in that case.
Anyway, what I'm asking is, I guess he likes my looks if nothing else, but like I said, I haven't talked to him in a longgg time. He was so cool the last time I talked to him, but I miss it, it's been so long. He's very easy to talk to, which is unusual for me because I'm a pretty bad conversationalist. But I only see him for like a few seconds a day when we pass each other in the hall. What can I say or do to maybe have a quick conversation on the off chance I see him for more than 3 seconds? And another thing I'm scared of is that if he is interested, I'm afraid I won't be much of a challenge, which in my experience guys like. Haha, I've liked him for so long that playing hard to get sounds painful for me. But any input here would help. Thanks! (link)
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well id he likes you then it should be easier to talk to him right? well anyway just ask your freinds that know him really well what he is interested in and if he has any special temas maybe mention something about the game you saw them play in or somethinf or just ask him a question about something when you getm ore information about him or compliment him on his shirt that day or somthing.
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Ok when I'm mad I say OH MY GOD or JESUS CHRIST or when I'm surprised or something and people always say, don't say that! Is it because they hate God or something else? (link)
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no they don't hate god alot of people take that as useing god's name in vain.
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the guy i like is really confusing me. I know he likes me back but he acts kind of weird.
like i'll IM him and he'll barely even talk but then like 2 days later he'll IM me and we talk for a while. I dont really see him in school alot becuz hes a grade above me and its a vocational school. Does it sound like hes just being shy? (link)
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yeah i have a guy like that that i like to well he does the samed thing and the truth is that most guy don't im someone everynight just for small talk they really don't do that knd of stuff if you really wnat to talk to him just im him first
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