hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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Alrighty, so here's my confusion.
There's this guy in my class and I've known him since 7th grade. In 7th grade I liked him, and somehow it became a rumor that "I stalked him" which was totally a lie. Obviously he was somewhat "put off" Anyways we pretty much avoided each other until this year, 9th grade.
My parents are good friends with his best buddies parents and we went boating together. We never really had much of a conversation, but he asked me to play football. My step-dad also said everytime when I wasn't looking at John he would be looking at me.
So that was the beginning, but then we ended up having a class together in school. Now we have started talking, cracking jokes, he even stole my shoes from me the other day. But the coolest thing is that I sit right next to the window and I'll stare out of it, but when I look the other way, towards him, I'll catch his eyes for a moment and then he will look away suddenly.
The weirdest thing about this though is that he didn't liek me at all in 7th grade...and he's the MOST POPULAR GUY IN OUR SCHOOL!So i don't know weither I'm getting mixed signals or if one of us has changed for the better and now he likes me. PLEASE HELP!
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sounds like he is trying to get to know you, i would just go with that for now, playful flirting and having real conversations is the best way to start. just try not to come off as desperate or that right now you have anything elese in mind other than friends.he will pick up on all that and then since he may have had crazy things said to him in the past about i would definatly let him lead this one, so he can see how untrue it all was. just remeber you cant rush a good thing.
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I have a friend who is verbally and physically abusive. She called me and my other friend a**holes for stupid reasons, and she just us both (hard!). She's been doing little things like that forever, like calling me an idiot or stupid, and maybe hitting me a few times. I could deal with that, but now she's gone way too far. I know that's not how a friend is supposed to act. She doesn't seem to know that her behavior is mean and immature.
I'm avoiding her, but I know I can't do that forever. What should I do? (link)
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wow sounds like she needs some serious help. maybe you could talk to a couucelor at school and if you feel comfertable with it have her come to. if she was a true friend she should be the one trying to help you stay away from people like her. it sounds like it is a good idea to stay away from her, that just sounds like to much drama,and if she asks why you are avoiding her tell her, if it hurts her feelings, maybe that is a good thing, sometimes reality has to hit someone really hard in the face before they realise what is going on.
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this is my fourth year of playing volleyball. this happens to be the WORST coach i've had to deal with yet.. we're gonna call her BA. she is my sophomore volleyball coach. she acts like we're playing the world championships, ya know? our team is really good.. we've won conference for three years consectively. BA makes us all feel like crap. if we make ONE little mistake.. like hit the ball out, she makes us do like 3 suicides. and i have really bad asthma so it's hard for me. when i mess up, she picks on me the most. everyone knows im really sensitive, plus i have a horrible attitude. today, i was having an off day and she kept putting the blame for EVERYTHING on me, when something wasn't even my fault. she made us run like 15 sprints because of me. i know all of the running is conditioning, but running doesn't help you in volleyball. it just makes you more tired, you know? the first 20 mins i was really off, but the rest of practice i was doing really good. i was blocking everything that came my way and my hitting was awesome. she didn't say "good job" or "way to go" at all to me.. not once. she really makes me feel like crap, like i don't deserve to be on this team. i come home and cry bc she really makes me feel bad. this has been going on since the summer, and i dont think i can take it anymore. i only play like half a game out of two games anyway.. she doesn't even use me. i really want to quit. i know it's the wrong thing to do, but i cannot stand my coach anymore. she never acknowledges me for everything. i need to talk to one of my parents about it, but they don't understand. they think im not trying hard enough, when i really am. when i can't breathe, i still bust my butt. so i have two questions for you
1) if i don't quit, how can i handle my fear against my coach, or how can i stop being so sensitive about what she says to me?
2) how could i get to my parents to make them see what i have to deal with?
sorry this is sooo long.. but please.. i need any advice i can get. (link)
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well first off let me start by telling you when i was in school i went through a very similar thing, i hated my basketball coach with a passion, i mean i really hated her. i thought she was put on this earth to make my life a living hell, and for 2 years she did. by my senior year i was finally so fed up i went to her office and told her i really needed to talk to her, and strangly enough when everyone else wasent around she wasent so hateful.anyway i told her i really need to talk to you, i told her im not coming in your office trying to be a whiney brat, but i wanted to know if there is something that you feel im not doing right on your team, i said you seem to always single me out, and im beginning to feel like it is personal. her response to me was, i dont have anything personal against you infact you are one of the best players on the team. she said sometimes us coaches show it in a diffrent way then we should but the people we are the hardest on are the ones that we know are the best, and get disappointed when we feel like they are not giving there all. and strangely enough things did change a little, not alot but i was ok with that because i finally figured it out and it made sense to me and when she was a little hard on me i just tryed harder and things went very well. i also learned it in the millitary when i was in basic training and getting my ass chewed out, that they give the ones with the most potential the hardest time, because they want to see if they are strong enough to deal with critisism, if you can you can deal with anything. so i think you should hang in there, and maybe if it is that bad you should talk to your coach, before quiting, otherwise what her greatest fesr for you will come true, you will become a quitter and she will be right, now do you really want that...lol...good luck.
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Opinions, please!
I'm looking for a cologne (hopefully under $50) that my boyfriend would like. I know he's into mild stuff - like stuff you can spray and not choke yourself and other people with - and kind of oceany-breezy-type-smells...Light stuff.
Anyone have any ideas for me?
I'm new to the world of scents...my mother has allergies to like, everything and I'm finally in college - I want to be SCENTED! Lol...So yeah.
Any suggestions are helpful =). (link)
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some of the colognes i have gotten for my husband are: ralf lauren romance...smells sooo good, joop, lucky for him, curve for men, good luck
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If you read this, Id like you to respond. And Id like you to post your age. Consider it a survey. Respond as briefly or as long-winded-ly as youd like, but please respond.
What is love to you? How do you define love? How do you tell when you are in love with someone?
Answer me these questions three and then we'll see what love means to thee! (link)
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i am 25/f
love to me is unconditional bond between two people, who are there for oneanother in good and bad times, who would sacrifice something of thereself in hopes of helping the other. i think you are in love when you get that kind of dizzy, silly almost uncontrollable feeling when the one you love is around.
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I basically wear jeans and a tshirt every day. The only other type of pants i wear are cackis and one pair of camo pants.
How can i make a tshirt and jeans look cuter and more fashionable. Like, is there any cute/cheap jewelry or purses.. something to that extent THANKS! (link)
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accessories are a great way to look cute. you can get some pretty cheap stuff at claires and goodies. also hair accessories can cuteify an outfit. there are also some cute iron on patches you can get for your jeans to dress them up a bit.
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I've have a really close guy friend who I just found out is moving to another province.. We've been friends for almost 3 years and I know that he cares a lot about me. I'm 27 and feel that he may be the love of my life.
I'll be seeing him next week before he leaves, he's giving me his computer so we can still email each other.
What would be a good way to let him know that I am interested in him as more than a friend? I don't want to get too emotional or freak him out. But I feel like I am in love with him.
He's moving becuase he got a job in the Alberta Oil rigs and the money is too good to pass up.
Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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if he is going to such great lenghts as to give you his comp to stay in contact then he probley feels the same way you do. i would plan a special "friend" evening before he goes and tell him just what you said, that you are in love with him and you will really miss him. then you can find out where the both of you stand. good luck.
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Ok there is this guy I like and his name is Cody. Me and my friend met him at an assembly and ever since he has been talking to me. Everytime I see him in the hall me and him talk and stuff. But my friend is always there when i talk to him. Sometimes he will kinda poke me and go " ewwww " but in a joking way. And he comes and sits with us sometimes at lunch when his guys leave. There was this boy bothering me today and he goes up and tells him " You better not be bothering her! " So What? Does he like me? Please no smart ass answers. Thanks In Advance (link)
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sounds like he is ga ga over you, who cares what everyone else thinks, you should probley just ask him in private if he was kidding when he said you guys were going out that way you yourself knows for sure, i know it sucks just wondering.
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f/14. October 1st is my boyfriend and my four month anniversary. for stupid reasons, we never celebrated other anniversaries. so this is our first. i wanna do something specail for him. any ideas will help. i don't care how cheesy or lame it seems. we like doing that kind of stuff for each other.
i'd prefer ideas that didn't involve using money because we both come from poverty stricken backgrounds so we decided not to do anything like that. (link)
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go to a park and have a private picnic, or you can have a special movie night in really as long as you are together it will be special, i hope you have a great time.
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I have two best friends. One (shelby) has her sweet sixteen coming up in december. She has planned on just spending time with her mom, but my other best friend ( christa) and i know thats not what she wants to do. Its just something that her mom made her feel guilty about. Well we decided we are going to throw her a surprize sleepover in my basement, somewhere around her birthday. My question is, I dont know exactly where to start. I also need ideas for what to do. This party is coming totally out of christa and my pocket (with a little help from out moms) so It cant be expensive. Any help would be appreciated! (link)
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wow, that is really sweet. just because you are doing it for her i know shell be so happy no matter how flashy it is or how much you spend. i know you can get really cheap decorations at say like the dollar store. just simple snacks, like chips,pop, cake(you could make a really special one yourself). you can just bring music from your own cd's and just have a girls night in. just make her feel special, give her a makeover or you know truth or dare, most of it really shouldnt cost you to much money. you can even make invitations on the computer. hope you have a blast.
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i grew my hair out to my shoulders(that is the longest ive ever had it) and i got my hair cut REALLY short. so today at school the popular girls keep looking at me then laugh. I just feel really weird...please help!! (link)
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sounds like they might just be a little jealous. you probley look better than they do, and they want to make you feel bad for it. ive learned the most rude people the ones who make fun of everyone, are the most insecure people of all. my mom always told me, kill em with kindness.
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I'm 21 just findout that I'm pregnant but they can't tell the month or weeks is it possible? problem the father I'm no longer dating him and I dont love him we used protection I dont know how did it happen I haven'nt even dating him for more than 3months I realized the relation would'nt work but we din't discuss verbaly, the main question is shall I tell him and the biggest problem he is already got a baby of 10months thats why I could'nt continue in with a relationshirp, and he said to me he regrets his child if there was a way he could have suggested abortion so now its me I really dont know what to do, and I've grown without knowing my father so I dont'wnt the same for my child tell what to do pls (link)
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wow that is sad that you dont get a chance to be happy about your first child when you should be. i dont think you and the father have to be together for your child to hae a father in their life. i think your best bet is to be honest from the very beginning, i know that you are scared but he does have the right to know he is about to be the father again, and that way you can find out in the beginning how he is going to take it. if he is going to be negative, you dont need that, your body will be going through enough carring his child. so if he wants to be an ass, that just gives you more of a reason to work hard on being the very best mother you can be. i know plenty of people who are great, and have done very well for themselves and there is no father to speak of. if things would be negative and upsetting when he is around sometimes children are better off not being around their fathers when they are that way. i know from experence, i have a father like that.
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Hey. First off im 14/f, Freshman.
My size..is not what one would say..average, im about 16 in pants..but i dress kinda "punk" you know where most of my wardrobe is black. Im not punk though, but i want to be more girly, right now my favorite color is pink and my hair, i straighten it and stuff, and i wear eyeliner, More then black though lol i wear colored eyeliner too..any tips on how to be more girly, without looking stupid.? Remember im overweight.. (link)
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accessories, they are the best way to play up any outfit and make it appear more femanine. like cute bracelets or earings. also a little glittery make up everyonce in a while will be cute. lipgloss is the way to go if your just starting out with make up its natural, but still feminin. it dosent matter what youre size is, its if you know you look good others will respond to it. im guessing you are maybe doing this for a hottie you have your eye on????? good luck.
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i've liked this guy for a long time and hes really nice and one day i went to his house and at the end he kissed me twice ...well later on in school he didnt really say anything about it but we were still talking and all and then i wrote him this note and i was all so what are we just friends of what plaease write me back... so then i gave it 2 him and he like ignors me and now (today) he came up to me and is likeim so sorry for hurting you , you have been so good to me and i've treated you so bad and im so sorry .....i mean it made me feel kinda bad but he still didnt answer my question lol and i do know what to do i dont know if i should ask again cuz maybe he just wants to be my friend and not be mean about it...its just i dont know what to do im so confused but i like him so much
please help me i rate rlly high
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sounds like he is embarassed, sometimes we do things and dont think about them, not saying he didnt want to kiss you. but us as woman, i am the same way, if something physical happens between us and a man, we automatically think there needs to be a relationship title to us. well i know guys have told me that the title thing is not a big deal to them . like maybe he just wanted to kiss you and may want to again but might not of been prepared for you to ask him what it all ment. i think if you all just keep hanging out and you dont pressure him to make anything offical then things will just fall into place. as long as he isnt running around kissing everyone he sees or dosent dis you infront of other woman i think if you want to possibly have a chance to have more with this guy give him time to not feel like you are trying to get him to say something hes not ready to.when you guys are spend more time together and are more comfertable around each other, meaning you wouldnt feel awkward asking him a question like who am i to you, then i think that will be the right time to ask.
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When a guy says maybe does it usually mean yes? Like my one friend asked the guy I liked if he'd ever go out with me and he said I don't know maybe. So do you think that means yea since to guys maybe usually means yes? (link)
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i think it depends on the person. when i say maybe, it means just that. i wouldnt try and read in to much to what his answer of maybe it could mean a million diffrent things. at least he didnt say no, but would you really want to go out with a guy who cant give a straight answer, i think i would want a yes or a no.
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Ok, my IPC class was doing an experiment today to separate ethyl alcohol and water by boiling it. It started to boil, but our teacher said if we made it too hot, the water would evaporate too (I'm smart, I already knew all that, but I had a little brain lapse). It looked like normal steam coming out, so I (stupidly) figured it was water. I accidentally took a kind of big breath of it while I was checking to make sure. After that my lungs were burning for a while and still are. It makes me run out of breath real quick. Does anyone know how long it'll take this to go away? It wasn't too much, because we weren't allowed to use very much ethyl, but it still burnt pretty bad.
By the way, I do realize that was idiotic. (link)
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i think in a couple of days if it dosent go away, i would go see my doc, youu know just to be on the safe side
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well there is this boy and he always stares at me and i mean ALWAYS but in a good way but too much and he makes me laugh and is really nice to me..well today was picture day and there were 3 sections you can get your picture taken there were 3 girls taking their pic at the same time in different corners of the room ..well he watched me get my picture taken..and in spanish class our seats are in rows and we got to choose our seats and he chooses the the next to mine but ONE Down ...im suspecting he has a crush on me...what do you think.. im so0o confused (link)
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ask him, if you really want to know that is the best way to find out. then youll know, and you can flirt back.lol, good luck
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Hey guys...do you have any good websites that would have a shirt for my homecoming dance? I want to get something online because I want to have something different and cuter than everybody else's!! I could get away with just about anything...it's a mix between casual and dressy. I've already tried like, American Eagle and Abercrombie...so if you have any different, cute sites...let me know!
Thanks!
*SARA* (link)
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delias, and famous bar have some really cute things
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(warning, long)Okay - I've fairly recently had to go through two deaths of one close family friend and a friend of mine. I am now very, very scared to have to undergo another funeral, and also, when the family friend died, my mother took it very hard even though she wasn't even all that close to him. A couple of my relatives are in failing health, and not to sound like a downer, but they will be passing on soon. Does anybody have any ideas as to how I could prepare myself for this, cope, and try to help my mom along as well? (the not-so-healthy family members are on my mom's side..) (link)
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wow that will be very hard for your mom, and i am sorry for your losses as well. i would suggest just letting your mom know that you are there for her, and actually do it. when she cries hold her and talk about it with her,all she really needs now is to know that you will be there no matter what. i wish you and your family well.
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ok...so me and this boy have been friends for like...ever, and we hug and tease each other and hang out all the time, and my other friend (amanda) has liked him for a really long time. Heres the problem part...so me and the boy ended up going out to dinner alone (we were suposed to go with other people but everyone couldnt go) and this was like one of teh first times we really hung out alone together and wellwhen we got into his car we started kissing and it felt so so so right and great, and then he pulled away for a second and said r you sure you want to and I nodded my head and then we started making out, and we have like talked on the phone everyday after that and we have been out alone together a few more times and kissed and everything,but none of our friends know so, when ever we are with them its really akward (mostly with amanda) So how should we brake ti to them, and should i tell amanda sepratly? i really want to keep teh friendship
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i would for sure tell her seperatly. if she is a true friend she will be happy for you. you cant help the fact of who you like. you definatly cant help the fact that it happens to be someone a friend also likes. if they have had no previous realationship other than friends i dont think you are doing anything wrong. just being honest with her will let her know you value your friendship. she may be upset but i think she will feel better with you being honest than keeping it behind her back. generally people come to the conclusion if you are hiding something then you feel guilty and are doing something wrong. if you guys are serious about being together and doing it only because you actually like each other and not treying to get back at anyone, then there is no reason to hide it. i dont think it is a credible or should i say real relationship until you can share it with the world, and be able to say now that is my man.
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