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hey yall! whats up! well my name is haley, i am 13, i go to ctms, which is a pretty awesome school bc i have really awesome friends to help me through everything! my best friend moved tho, waAaAaAaAa, and i miss her like no other, but we still hang out all the time and are still like sisters! i am pretty tall, '5''6, brunnett hair, dark brown eyes, and i'm pretty much everyones friend, at least thats what i think, but you know i could be wrong! i have a boyfriend that i love more than anything in the world! and well yah, i hope that you'll let me help you with your problems bc thats why i'm here!
love yall bunches!
xoxoxoxoxo
Haley
p.s.- please please PLEASE rate me, whether its good or bad, i would love to know if i helped or not! thanks if ya do! if you dont, well ok i guess thats fine too, lol! thanks yall!

advice

ok ive always thought i was fat no matter what and i recently started makeing myself throw up i think im becomeing belimic idk what to do please help

ok. idk if i know you or not, but it doesnt really matter! hunnie i am sure that you are not fat! dont make yourself throw up, thats just really bad! and you can end up hurting yourself way worse than you would think. when you dont have food in your system your bodey bruns on sugar, but when nothings left for it to run on then it can do major damage. just do something to give you a confedense booster! do something that will make you think that your not fat and that you are beautiful jsut the way you are! i used to think i was fat but after listening to my friends, i'm about to start modeling! i mean sure i'm not a size 2 but that doesnt matter, what matters is that your confident with yourself, nothing is more important than that!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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haley i need ur help and ualways give it to me

he wont answer my calls he ont call me he wont look or talk or talk to me but i really like him and i dont really know y so do i break up with him or not?

wow, hard thing. well what i would do is make him talk to you, and by seeing how much he really loves you. what you do is call him and if he doesnt pick up then leave a message saying that if he doesnt call you back in 10 min. then its over. if he calls, he calls and you ask him what his problem is and talk things over. and if he doesnt, well thats kinda self explanitory. if you just arnt going to break it off because you still love him then uh uh, no. if the feeling isnt mutual then it doesnt matter at all.
love ya lots!
~Haley~

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well ya see...i like this girl and like im not sure whether just to go for it or not because i mean like it seems everytime i go for it, it seems to not go my way, and this person i have liked for a long time and she has been kinda on and off but now she is like more on than ever. and then to top it all off, since her friend is like so nice to me, i think i like her too. so i mean like what should i do or not do?

well i think that first you need to figure out who you like. i mean yah, its normal to like more than one person, but if your this serious about it then i think you need to sort out your feeling first, and then decide what to do. write me back when you COMPLETLY know what you feel!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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hey babe! i just wanted to know how should i decorate my stool?!

lol!!! i want to help!!! haha! wow, ok, i think it shuld say.... omg ok i got it! WILL THA REAL LIL SHORTY PLEeze STAND UP!!!! haha! and it should be painted pink! yah....PINK!lol! i'm so talented huh! love ya raych!
~Haley~

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OMG HALEY! you're gonna be suchhh an awesome model! remember me when your famous! luv ya!
-xox- michelle

lol awww! your so sweet shelly! thanks so much and i will never forget anyone, becuase i doubt i will be famous lol, but hey, if for some crazy reason it happens then i promise i wont! lol! love ya!
~Haley~

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What is the best way to break up with a boy if you are going to. Should I call him, write him a note, E-mail him, or IM him?! :-/

-Worried

i always say face to face or note. with the note then i think that its like the seconed best thing bc you have to give it to him in person, idk why but i have a thing with breaking up when its not face to face. one of the worst things that you can do, in my opinion, is im bc i think, idk that its more sencere in person. i've tried the phone thing, and i've tried friends doing it for me, but that makes me feel even worse about it! so idk! theres my advice!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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ok i like this guy and he knows i like him and ive heard that he likes me bak. and so that made me really excited but hes not doing anything about it. its like hes afraid or something. but i really like him and like when he gives me hugs and stuff it makes me feel good what do i do to kind of give him a shuv to do something?

hmmm.... well, what i would do, is just go up to him and be like HEY!!! DO YOU LIKE ME OR NOT!!!! lol! well thats what i would do! bc i'm not a very shy person so thats my best answer! and then i would be like, if he says yes, then be like so what are you going to do about it! lol! i'm kinda hyper right now so sorry if this isnt my best advice!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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hey.. my parents r super protective like they wont let me "date" 1 on 1 till im 16 and they have to meet him and all that crap..althou im dating now and its really hard to go out w. him kas i need to have my friends go w. me so my parents dont explode.. what can i do so i can go out w. him but not get in trouble.?

you dont tell; they dont know! :)

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MJy stepdad is a real jerk, and my mom always chooses him over me, is that right:?

that is totally not right!!!! tell your mom how you feel! i mean it wont be the easiest thing, but it needs to be done!
lots of love
~Haley~

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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!!

i would try and go along with it. i mean my sister died in a carwreck when she was 5, and i was 6; i would jump for the chance to know her better, i mean we were so young. just think, if she died tomorrow, think about how much you wouldnt have said to her, and wouldnt have gotten to do with her. take the chance, you never know when your going to loose someone you love.
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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i dont know what to put this under but oh well, i like reading alot... and i have 8 or so new books upstairs in my bedroom i havent read. To you that might sound like a lot of books but beleive me they go by fast... and so recently my family has been broke... i mean like dead broke $5.00 broke! and when i finish all those books i think instead of buying books im just gonna go to the library... but i want to know some names of REALLY good books!!
Thanks! I rate
Amber
(shanberca)

i love mystery books, gosh that sounds dorky, lol! well, if your into that kind of stuff then stephen king has good books, their kinda creepy but good! ummm....yah i havent actully read a book by choice in a long time so honestly i dont even know why i'm answering this but yah! theres my advice!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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Hi,

i have just bought my daughter a guitar for her 8th birthday. I never had a chance as a kid so dont want my kids to miss out,. the only problem is that i dont know anything with regards to tuition on guitar so wondered if any1 knows best course of action for my daughter to learn.
If anyone has any advice that would be great

simple answer this time! get her lessons for christmas!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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I have extremley bad cramps... only the problem is i dont know how to swallow a pill. The advice I want is NOT how to swallow a pill but if you know of any really good chewable types of medicine to realive the pain (I'm 15 years old if that helps). Thanks!

try crushing up the pill and just downing it. drink water AFTER, and yah it will taste pretty bad! or you could crush up 2 pills and put them in water, but not alot or it will just weaken them to much to even help! i dont know of any chewable ones so sorry on that one!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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Sorry it's long, but please try to help.
This might be confusing, so if it is, sorry. But this girl I've known since 6th grade,(I'm now a freshman, grade 9) Brittany, and have had classes with since 7th, and became friends with this year, well her mom had a tumor in her eye. And Brittany's mom had it removed about a week ago. And she had to have her head shaved because they were doing surgery going through her head. Well, lately Brittany has been getting upset a lot in class, and I want to try to cheer her up, and make her happy, but her mom might be dying because the surgery didn't go to well, she's recovering, but not the best way possible, so I have a few questions.

1.) What can I say to her to comfort her, she knows I give advice, and a lot of times she asks me, but when it comes to a personal friend, it's hard

2.) This really weird teacher that none of us like who is a lesbian (not saying that's bad, but... it's weird w/ what she's been doing) Well, she, w/o Britt's permission, told the whole class about Britt's mom, and Britt ran out crying, and we didn't know how to comfort her. And then that teacher gave Britt her cell phone number, and was like call me, and don't leave a message, keep calling until you reach me, so I was wondering, is that okay for a teacher to do that? None of us like her, and Britt said she asked 2 teachers about it, and they said it wasn't normal, but Britt does tend to over exaggerate, or lie about things (she's really popular, and does whatever she can to boost the popularity, I didn't like her until this year b/c I always thought she had a perfect life and was concieted, b/c she's really rich and stuff, but now that I've gotten to know her, I've realized why she acts that way.)

3.) We're only 14, and freshman in high school. I don't associate with her that much outside of school, unless it's at a game, or if we see each other at the mall, like I don't invite her to the mall with me and my friends, but if we see each other, we talk, and/or walk around w/ each other. So please, help me try to comfort her, and is it right for that teacher to be doing what she's doing? What can I do to help, or what can I say. Also are there any gifts I could give her for x-mas that might make her feel better, or might make her laugh, or smile? I'm not trying to be weird, or act gay, but it's been so long since I've seen her smile, and it's been so long since I've heard her laugh. She's cut her wrists in the past, and I don't want her to use self-harm again, and I'm afraid about with what's going on with her mom, she might go farther than just cutting her wrists.

Oh, and about the whole teacher thing, we don't know how that teacher found out, Brittany didn't say anything to her, we figure she must've overheard Britt telling one of us. Please, any help would be appreciated! And if you're one of those people that like to leave sarcastic, or rude advice, I could do with a good laugh, so make it funny. Thanks in advance for all the help. And again, sorry it's so long.

getting her something just to cheer her up might not be the right thing. i know that your trying to be an awesome friend, but what she probly just wants is like to be normal again. presents dotn help always, but maybe what she needs is just a little time with a few of yalls friends on a friday night just hanging out and talking! totally stress free! and i agree, that teacher is a total bitch and it was totally not right that she told the whole class that. i know that we all tend to get a little caught up in the moment but COME ON! ugh, sorry i just had to say that! ok but yah, back to the question, if you really want to see her smile then just act normal around her, no special treatment. even if you dont mean to i'm sure you do, i have before and i'm sure everyone else too! i hope her mom gets better; she'll be in my prayers!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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ok, i really like to sing, im ok i guess... but id really like to get better on my own w/o voice lessons or w/e. r there ne good methods for strengthining my voice and making it sound better?
*~*thanx a ton*~*

try this. if you want to like see what your voice sounds like not just like to you, then record yourself. it doesnt matter like how you do it, tape recoreder, video camara, call and leave yourself a message, it just really doesnt matter. you would be surprised about how different you sound to other ppl! then just listen to it and figure out your strenghs and weaknesses and work from there! i'm sure that there are a bunch of websites for online voice instructing or something that could help you to!
hope it helps!
~Haley~

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I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?

The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?

just plain out ask her how old she is! i mean if you really like her, and it seems like she likes you too or at least thats my guess, then age shouldnt really matter unless she's like under 16 bc that would be a lil to much. about the scares thing, i wouldnt just ask her about it as like a random thing. after you find out how old she is, and get to know her a lil more, then maybe she would be comfertable telling you. i mean it could be from like something funni and simple, and you never know it could've been an accident, or it could be something serious like she's a cutter or used to cut. but yah, dont bring it up in simple conversation, something tells me the outcome wouldnt be that great!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad?

wow thats kinda weird because one of my really good friends almost had to move to chicago from texas bc of her dads job and it was so sad when she found out and we found out that she was going to be gone! it sucked! but anyways, i would try and live with your dad! i mean what the heck! you never know, you might be better off with him here then you would with your mom there. if your a strong person, then i bet that you can work through anything with your dad! good luck!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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For like the past 4 months I have been having stabbing pains in my knee when I walk up or down the stairs, kneal down, stand up from sitting down, anything that includes bending the knee. Do you know of anything that I could have done to it or things that I can do to make it better? I went to my doctor before and he just told me there is nothing he can do and it made me really mad cause I am sure there is something he could have done but i don't know. Do u know of anything I can do to make it feel better at least? thanks alot for any help, and if you need more info just post it and I will reply again, thanks again.

well i had the same problem and it ended up that its something really common that some ppl just dont notice because theirs isnt that bad! see, you have scare tissue in your nee, and for some people their born with like extra. all they do is go in for arthroscopic surgry, which is where they just look in with a camara, and if thats the problem then they can just basicly cut it out. the surgry thing kinda freaked me out but its really not bad at all. sure, it hurt afterwards a lil bit, but i walked 2 hours afterwards, and went to church that night! if its not that then maybe you just have like debre or something, like bone chips, just like floating around in your nee, i dont know anything else though! i hope your nee feels better!
much love!
~Haley~

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i just went to the doctor because i was having this problem at night where i cant do anything but breathe (kinda long story)and the doctors said i have someting called absence seizures or something and they said i have to get a "brain scan" or "mri" done..whats an MRI?? i heard that its a big black thing, and im really scared..i feel really uncomfortable with the problem to and i hate it... i dont wanna go to the hospital and stick my head into something...this is really bad, and im 14 and STILL somewhat frightened of the dark!! does anyone know anything to help me?? someone just please say something anything will help! thanks

omg well i really hope that everythings ok! but yah, an mri isnt that bad at all! i've had 2 because i used to have nee problems! just see if you can have an 'open' mri and its not dark at all! the open ones are just like along skinny table that you lay down on and you go into this maching, and you can see through it and its not dark! when i had mine they even let me turn their radio on! i was scared too but its no big deal at all! a regular mri is different though; its like a tube that you lay in, it is kinda dark and way more noisy, but i think that you'll be fine! i hope that everything works out!
much love!
~Haley~

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At the school dance the other night, i danced with one of my good friends who i found out liked me..and he's going to ask me out. I like him a lot as a friend and i think that I would like to give dating him a shot. Trouble is, my best friend really likes him. He doesn't like her in that way, and my best friend is a great friend to me and everybody else...now people are telling me that i shouldn't have danced with him because it was a mean thing to do to my best friend.What do i do about this whole situation?

short answer this time! FRIENDS FIRST! dont feel bad about the past, and if she's not mad about it then just leave it alone! friends will be there forever! guys wont! gf/bf's break up all the time, but best friends dont! i mean sure you get in fights but you almost always work it out!
hope it helps!
~Haley~

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