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I am a very hard worker. I am studing to become a Psychologist . I am very good at giving advice. I specialize in relationships but i will answer just about anything. Do you need advice or help with a problem then i am here to help you. My column is for everyone young and old. It will be a place to express to me what you feel. If i have learned one thing, it is that you can deal better with a problem by telling someone about it and getting their imput. Never be embarrased you have nothin to loose with my column. I hope you all feel comfortable. I am here just to provide help and advice.

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I want men to die... is this normal?

yes many times when a gurl is hurt they usually take revenge against their male counter part

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Hey guys! Sup?! I need to make a new screen name for AIM... any1 got ideas 4 me?

I'm a girl.
I'm 12



Write Back ASAP

well that is a hard one since i don't know the things you like what bout. hottie2009 or cutie2009 or hottamali2009

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i have been sleeping with 5 guys for the last 3 months and they dont know about each other. Recently my best friend and i got into a fight and she told 3 of them about each other. Now i am 1 month pregnant and i dont know who the father is. The guys that know about each other now dont want anything to do with me and i am really hurt. I dont know why they wouldent want a beautifull sexy girl like me in their lives. Please help me in deciding what to do.

Wow! what were you thinking. Were you using protection. Well if i was one of those guys i wouldn't want anyhting to do with a cheating women either. ok now that i have expressed my opinoin down to business. Do you have a roof over your head? How old are you? Try to get a blood test done from all of the fathers you are goin to have to tell the other guys what is goin on. If you were using protection then either there was a mess up with the condom or you forgot with one of them. If you forgot try to remember who all you did when and with protection or not. Try to contact a help line. Do your parents or Gaurdian know. I hope you will respond to me. With somw of these answers,. Good Luck

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Hey im a boy and 13 so theres a girl i like and she likes me. And im tryin to find a way to ask her out, because she doesnt have any messengers i dont think and im to shy to ask her on the phone or in person.What do i do?

-confused

Well i am a gurl and i kno how hard it is to ask a guyout so i think i know what you are goin through. Make some eye contact, then kinda drop some hints. If she has any friends tell them that you like her. all of us girls talk. If you are afraid just think about if you both like each other then never end up goin out.
Good Luck!

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I have a crush on a guy who I call him jerry he doesnt like it what should I do.Should I say hi Should I tell him.

Well, if you have acrush on him then kinda make some gestures to let him now. If he is really stupid and doesn't get the gestures then just flat out tell him. If he doesn't like the name jerry then the next time you call him that and he says that he doesn't like it ask him what he would rather be called
GOOD LUCK!

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I am failing in math I don't want to do grade fourth again!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well if you are failing in math then you have a lot of probs. It is kinda late in the game to bring your grade up now but the best thing is to start doin your best and do any extra credit availible. hope you make it to 5th

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I have been told that I am a very gifted actress, and my drama teacher said that I should get into theatre camp, but I live with my dad, and money is tight. I really want to go to theatre camp, but all the places I looked at are day camps that cost way too much money. (my dad has a tough job and cant drive me to and from camp so it would have to be an overnight camp) any ideas what I should do?


HELP ME!!!

You should look into scholarships that some of these camps give out. Research all the camps and maybe you will find one. GOOD LUCK!

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My Computer will not read the M drive. The Computer will come on but Windows will not come up. I put the recovery disk in and it will still not work. What can i do.

You should get into your software for the computer and call customer service. Tell them what is goin on and then fix it
Hope it works!

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I was in a relationship, and we were having difficulties, I called the police and charged him with assault. Now that i have to go to court he didnt commit assault, all i wanted to do was get my childern back. Can you give me some advice on what i should do

Well that is a though one. The best thing to do is try to convice the court that he was abusing you and then use the reason that you wnated your children back to backup your story. well i hope you are successful.

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I'm a sophmore pretty soon a Jr. and the room i am planning on pushing into is where they put all the band music

Well what if someone were to walk into the room then what would you do
come on keepin the bedroom

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Will ya'll let me know it this is a good idea for spicing up my relationship....Ok Here it is, After school tomorrow I'm going to the band room, and before i walk in the room my boyfriend will be at the time walking towards the room ,so i'm going to look at him and gesture him to come here..and i'm going to go in turn of the lights and i'm am going to go to an empty room and when he walks in i'm going to gesture him to come in there and when he walks in shut the door and push him up against something and startin kissing him and slowly move my hand slowly down and unzip his pants and then give him head... How does that sound???? please let me know before tomorrow!!!!

It is ok but come on not in school... for all you know the room you push him in could be some secret janitors room. I would maybe take it slower too. And exactly how old are you?? Well I hope you don't get caught if you don't take my idea. Have fun with your man.

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I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm responsible and respectful. I don't drink, smoke, have sex, do drugs, or anything of the sort. I haven't had a boyfriend in almost 4 years and have no interest in having one, I get exceptional grades, and I'm extremely focused on my schoolwork and acting career. The problem is with my father. This past winter, I met a guy in my drama class. I'm a freshman and he's a senior, I'm white and he's black. We have no interest in a relationship, but we are very good friends. I have alot of guy friends, and this was no different. I'm friends with this guy because I can relate to him. We both struggle with depression, have a love of acting, and we just get along great. He gets good grades and has a future. He's respectful to authority and gets along with everyone. We started talking on the phone. It was just general stuff-cooking, acting, music, that kind of thing. My father is kind of racist, which is stupid, i know. He thinks that a person shouldn't associate with a black person outside of work or school. He's being a hypocrite, since I know that he's had plenty of african-american friends. Anyways, my father (whom I have no respect for for several reasons and who doesn't live with me and hasn't since before i was in kindergarten) found out and now I'm not allowed to talk to any guys on the phone whatsoever unless its my boss or a male relative. He said he'd reconsider when I'm 16, but he's already said that he probably won't allow it until I'm 18. This is ridiculous-I've already told 3 guys this year that I wouldn't go out with them, and I dont want a boyfriend at all. I'm a responsible teenager and I simply want a little freedom. I never go anywhere with my friends, and I've never done anything to make them not trust me. My father gets mad if I say anything about my friends, or anything at all besides my grades and schoolwork.He constantly puts me down about my grades and schoolwork and makes fun of me, but i'm required to call him once a week and endure the rude remarks. I just want to be able to talk to my guy friends on the phone, and i think this is extremely unfair. He won't listen to my point of view at all. How can I get him to see things my way?

Maybe you could invite this guy over to have dinner with your family or hqave him just spend some time with you and your father. It will be really hard, but if this guy is a good guy and shows that around your father then maybe you dad will start to see your way. GOOD LUCK
P.S. I kno what you are going through my dad is the same way LOL

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I havae never had a boyfriend. Every time i ask someone out they say no. Does God want me to have one. I don't know how to flirt? What am I doing wrong?

Most the time you are never the reason. You just haven't found that special someone. You just have to start a friendship with a guy really start to know him and then maybe after a while go to a movie, skating, or bowling. Just as friends though you each could have 1 or 2 friends to keep the conversation fun, flowing, and lively. Then after a while you can work some magic and go out. I wish you luck in finding a guy.

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I was at a friends house and I was playing on her brothers skateboard. Stupidly I was wearing sandals and I fell. I hurt my toe and it looks fine but it hurts when I walk and it looks a bit swollen. I'm not sure if I broke it, fractured it, or just stubbed it really bad but I would appreciate any suggestions that would make the healing process faster!

Take some ice and hold on there. Or you can take an ace bandage( you can find them at a local drugstore) and wrap it around your foot keeping your toe securely against your foot. If that still doesn't take the pain away wait about 1 to 2 days and then go to the hospital to get it looked at. Try not to put presure on it unless you absalutly have to. Hope you feel better.

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I found a Supra on Ebay for a price that i could afford in the near future....should i beg my parents for it???

Well first you nrrd to research the car alittle so you can back up your postion. Then you need to ask them if they say no or we will think about it present your case to them with all the info at their fingertips. If they still say no then you need to try to persuade them. But what ever you do donot beg or whine that only turns down the thought that you are mature enough to handle the car. I hope you ge the car and come back to me for any other advice.

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what should I do if i wanna wear a skirt but my legs aren't the prettiest things to look at?

Who cares if you wanna wear a skirt then go for it. You should only care about what you think not what others think. So go for it show off them legs.

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I need help in finding a career that's risky, adventurous, enjoyable and never boring.
Any suggestions

rty researcking it on line. There are many different kinds of jobs out there. So just try your best and work for it. GOOD LUCK

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What do you do when all you think about is dying?

maybe instead of thinking about dying write down in a notebook all the reasons you want to die. Then find a solution to all of those problems. Who knows along the way you may find what your reason for living is. If you think there is nothing yo live for then you are crazy. There is always something to live for maybe your reason has just not been found yet. I hope you think about what your death would mean to the people around you before you do it. Everyone has a place!

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I have liked this guy for a really long time and i really want to go out with him. He really likes me too. The problem is neither one of us is brave enough to ask the other one out. So do you think i should make the first move or wait for him. I hear him talking about me all the time. What should i do?

I think you should wait alittle longer and see what happens in the next week or so. If he is still really flirty then go for it. And if he says no then maybe that is the reason he didn't ask you out in the first place. He maybe insecure with you right now. or he just wants to be friends...and that is ok maybe you will go out later. I wish you luck in whatever you decide.

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okay, my boyfriend heard me say to another person " No you cant tell anyone", and so now he wants to know, what should i do¿
signed,
confused about it

If he trusts you and believes that you would not have anyhting to hide then he should not be asking. But unfortunatly it is the human instinct to be curious. If you feel that by telling him he will be sad or maybe break up with you then it could be for the better. If you have to hide stuff from him to keep your relationship going then it is not a truthful relationship. Now if it something really stupid then you can keep it to yurself. That is your dicision. But just make sure whatever it is you think the response he will give you over first. Hope you can accomplish this task! Good Luck!

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