asking because you were the featured columnist
her older sister who is 22 is in jail for the next year, based on some comments her younger 17 year old sister said I am worried that she might want to "join" her sister or do criminal acts as well. I talked to someone who works at that jail and she said the best thing to do is allow my younger daughter to visit her older sister in jail and maybe if I wanted allow her to be able to see the insides of the jail with her sister and a guard as a way to teach her (my younger daughter asked to visit but I was hesitant in allowing her to). Or allow her to watch her sister reenact the booking process or something. Do you think I should allow this or would it be too traumatizing? When she is with her sister what discussions should they have?
I would say that it would be better to let her see her sister than to not see her at all. I know you want to protect your daughter but imagine if she were you, wouldn't you want to see your older sister no matter what the case was? And it's not like the relative in jail is your aunt's sister's son daughter's grandfather's nephew. It's her own blood sister.
17 is a mature age for your daughter to handle what she might see in a jail as long as the guards are with her, you don't have much to worry about. I think the discussions should be up to your daughters, it's not something you should try to control. I don't think any person wants to be intentionally bad so I wouldn't worry about your younger daughter trying to be like her older sister. I think maybe she's trying to understand her sister and why she did what she did.
Sometimes you just have to let these things run their course.
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My moms boyfriend belittles me almost every chance he gets and comes up with some wild story to make himself sound right.Im to the point of homocidal thoughts and or suicide i hope it doesnt go so far as that but my mom hardly listens to a word i say and like he gives a shit about how i feel... or he wouldnt be comming up with lies to impress if he did. how do i deal with this? or how can I get away with murder? note he has enough brain issues that one punch to the head and it'll cave in but he IS coherant and understands right and wrong or so he thinks
No one will advise you on this site how to get away with murder so I don't see what the point is in asking such a question. Clearly you're upset and the only way to resolve that is to talk to someone about your mom and her boyfriend. If he doesn't concern himself in your life then you shouldn't concern yourself in his. Just don't disrespect him. I will assume you're young, under 18. Why don't you talk to a school counselor and let them know how you feel. They can probably talk to your mom if you feel she doesn't listen to you.
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I've been dating a guy long distance for a few months. We are more or less "talking" because while we have hung out before, it was only as friends. Things became serious after he moved away and we realized just how much we liked each other. Or so I thought. A few months ago, we discussed visiting to see if we want to be in a real relationship or not. Around that time, I lost my job and he brought up the fact that I don't have anything keeping me at home anymore and if I would come stay with him. I was hesitant at first, but he was right. The only worry I had was how to pay for my bills and such. As time went by and I was preparing to move there, I realized just how serious he was about it and that he would not pursue a relationship with me if I didn't do this. We would just stop talking. We started fighting a lot as I didn't feel like this was fair. I asked if he could come see me first, test out the waters, and then if I felt okay with him, I would go back and live there. He said he has stuff to do, he has work, he has class. Which I understand. But why should I MOVE there if he can't make a trip out here? He says how expensive it is. It's going to be expensive to for me too. To make things worse, I found out him and his friends are planning a road-trip in the OPPOSITE direction as me, almost just as far as it would be to come and see me. Is it wrong to be mad about that? I don't know how to feel. Advice?
Hi there. It is a tough situation to be in with the guy being busy with school and his life and whatnot and you and yours. You are in two different places in reality more than mentally and that is a huge factor to consider. The fact that he offered you to stay with him shows that he has interest in you. What I don't understand is how serious his intentions are that you decided to move in with him. I guess he decided to think this through a lot and was worried that if it didn't work out, both of you would have been in lot of issues, even financially. Now that you've asked him to come see you and he's brushing you off, I would take it as a sign that he wants to move on with his life and it might be too hard for him to have a long distance relationship. He might probably feel that with you moving in with him, you'd be more of a burden than an asset because you don't have a job and he would have to provide for the both of you while you hopefully try to find a job. Either way, I don't think it's a good idea to remain strong with this guy. From what you told of me of his latter actions, it seems that he just wants to dedicate this chapter of his life to starting fresh. You should try talking to him and just tell him how you feel and ask if him moving and starting anew is a thought that has crossed his mind. You are not wrong for being mad. I completely understand your feelings but you have to remember it's his life too and he has a decision in whether or not his life in the future will entail you.
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Soo i wore a white pants and i got my period stain on it. How do I GET IT OFF. fast. And its not that fresh. What the best thing that would help. Please hurry and thanks
You really should take soap and warm water. It's the best way to get read of blood stains. When you apply the soap, rub the cloth together vigorously and then wash it. It might not be a perfect solution but it will get a majority of the blood off.
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I am 15 years old. I cannot eat, drink,sleep, or smile with causing more harm than good. I will go days without any of it and that's not my choice. I have anxiety attacks daily and find myself repeating things constantly; whether its counting, checking work, or cracking my body. I just get stuck looping and looping untill I'm in serious pain or tears. School has become impossible and my social life has vanished. My parents treat me like their burden. I am affaird ask for further help because I know they will say I am wasting their money and being over dramatic. I have tired every form of help out their, but have not gotten any closer to finding relief. I feel weak all the time; like i am dying. Every minor task is effort now, even walking up the stairs. I just do not have the strength and energy to keep on going. All I want is the pain to end and I will do anything to make it end if I do not find actual help. Please if you know how to help me do not hesitiate I am barly hanging on here.
My friend went to see a psychiatrist and she was told she had anxiety issues as well. She was put on a medication, not too sure what it is called but it seems to be helping her but it does cause her to become sleepy at times (as she says, not sure if she really is just tired) but maybe since your parents cannot help you and it seems like nothing can, it might be wise to visit a psychiatrist and have them help you. They're specialized to treat these forms of illnesses and there's absolutely nothing wrong in wanting to see one. Sometimes, it's no something we can take on the outside to feel better on in the inside. Anxiety has a lot to do with brain chemistry.
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Just want to know ur opinion cause u have a boyfriend and he live in usa .
Two people have to be committed to a long distance relationship if they really want it to work. Personally, I wouldn't have one because I know I want someone who's also physically there as well as emotionally. It really all depends on you and your boyfriend and whether or not you can handle being physically apart. If you can feel close to him and if you honestly feel happy then I think you should pursue the relationship but if the long distance relationship causes you to constantly have doubts, question him, fight a lot, then it might not be in both of your best interests to continue.
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OWW!!! i just got spacers in yesterday the feel like their digging into my gums i had them before but a long time ago i have a full mouth of braces! with them OUCH!i tryed advil and pain releivers about 30 minutes ago its not helping! plz give me a answer quick! MY MOUTH HURTS SO BADLY i had to pull one out!!
Yeah I know the feeling of spacer pain. Spacers are one of those things where you have to let the pain run its course. Try using oragel or some numbing cream for mouth pain. Wax won't help you because wax is for braces and they stick onto the metal. It's for when you feel part of the braces poking your gums. The spacers feel like they're digging into your gums because your gums are really swollen because of the spacers. Pulling them out won't really help you because when you go back to the orthodontist, they're gonna put it right back in and the pain will start all over again., You honestly just have to bear with it for the time it lasts and ask the orthodontist what he/she recommends for the pain.
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My boyfriend fingers me all the time. And it hurts so bad at first every time. Sometimes it'll start to feel good after a while and sometimes it just feels like he's torturing me. And I just don't know what's wrong because my friends say that even after having sex a few times, it doesn't hurt anymore, and this is just a finger. How will we ever be able to have sex?
Hi there. You don't really need to worry. You need to tell him to be gentle because some girls are more sensitive than others. It's all about loosening the muscles down there and one or two times will not do the trick. It will take some time to get used to physically. Have patience and you will enjoy it.
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I found a portable version of tetris at windowstetris.com,but i always lose after a few minutes once the game starts to pick up speed. Are there any strategies to compensate? or ways to train? and does tetris really improve cognitive ability?
I feel like it does improve cognitive ability a lot. Maybe try to play other games with the same skill other than tetris and then go back to playing tetris. And continue to practice at it, until you see tetris shapes everywhere (it happened to me lol) im somewhat decent at it, but definitely not an expert.
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I am dating my best friends ex she came to know abt it later she told me that she don't av any problem with me dating her ex...she said that she till love me as a friend.
but my guilt is making me feel like broking up with my bf should i do so ?
If your friend says she's okay with it, and you really like the guy then you don't have anything to worry about. If you think she told you she's okay with it because she doesn't want to upset you, then that's a different story but if you feel that she was honest about it, then you should be fine. And I can understand dating an ex is awkward but if you really like the guy and the guy likes you a lot, then I think you should be together. :)
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I got some cheap eyeshadow for christmas but it doesn't stay on if I touch it or anything. So I don't want to waste it so is there anything I can mix it with to make it stronger or something like that???
You can mix it with a clear primer to make it a little thick but it will be like the wet shadows.
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How can i open old snap chats that i havent deleted buy haveopened
I dont think you can. The app was designed that you can only view it for a max of a certain number of seconds and that's it. Sorry :/
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i know your a little older than i am and i was wondering is it weird that i just want to wear regular panties? all of my friends wear thongs like all the time now and they keep telling me i should to...but thongs look really uncomfortable i dont want anything stuck up my but im totally comfortable wearing my normal bikini panties...shud i try wearing thongs?
No it is definitely not weird to want to wear normal bikini panties. Honestly, I don't know how your friends can manage to wear thongs all the time. I find thongs annoying, honestly. I would only wear it, if it was wearing a dress that would show the edges of underwear underneath or when I felt like it (which is rare). But, don't feel like you're different because you don't want to wear thongs a lot. Maybe it's a feeling you have to get used to, I don't know, but I'd rather not find out lol. Maybe they give you a feeling of being sexy on the inside, knowing that's what you're wearing, or maybe for a boyfriend... But, you don't need to wear a thong to feel sexy nor do you need to wear it for a boyfriend. It should be of choice. And then again, nothing is wrong with trying it. You haven't tried it yet, I'm assuming, and yeah they do look uncomfortable, but you might find out that they're not that bad for you and you can adjust from time to time. You never know, really, until you try. :)
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So I'm in 7th grade and I always see people kissing at my school. It makes me depressed, because I've never had a boyfriend and it makes me feel unwanted. I don't even know if I'll ever get one...
It's making me feel really bad about myself. Any advice? :(
Hun, I never had a bf until I was 18 and I'm not ashamed. I know what it feels like to see people around you, happy and in love, and you want that feeling too. My advice, hang in there and continue to focus on school and making friends. You are not unwanted. You are only in middle school. When you're 18-19, you won't even know 90% of those people anymore. So please don't be worried, look for the best that life has to offer and be happy. Love will come. Love comes to people when they least expect it and when they're at peace with themselves:)
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My friend likes to have sex with his dog! It's so sick! I don't even know what this kind of problem is termed. I have to help him immediately since I know he's not right. What can I do for him? I'm really sorry if this steps on someone's toes, but I just thought someone on this site might be able to help me. Thanks!
This is really a crime. You need to tell your friend to stop, or have someone take the dog away. This is not right and illegal. Or please, take the dog yourself, it shouldn't have to be treated that way.
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I want a guinea pig, but my parents don't like them. Ive had two before but it's been awhile. It hey said I might be able to get one once we move but they won't touch it or hav anything to do with it. But I don't think I'll be able to do EVERYTHING by myself (cuz I'm more of a girly girl, if you know what I mean). I want at least a little help, what should I do.
I don't think it's wise to have a pet in the house that people absolutely don't want, especially the people who provide for you. Having a pet in the house shouldn't only be for you, it should be for the family too. It's the animals' life, not just yours too. And I also don't see what the girly girl thing has anything to do with the situation. A pet is a pet and you wanting to be the owner means you will have to take full reponsibility for it, as it cannot provide for itself. Please think it over carefully. I have 3 cats, and 2 I do not live with, but thankfully I have people who do care for them for me because due to other responsilbilites of myself, I cannot. And the one I do live with, well I cannot look out for him 24/7 but there are people in my house all the time to make sure he's okay. I love all my cats with all my heart and just knowing that there are people around who won't take care of them, doesn't make me feel like my pet is getting the best care it can. So, please, think carefully about this.
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at my daughters schools from 6th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have
it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable
and give boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause
distractions and goofing off among everybdy? Not to mention young boys will be around girls shirtless which I think is inappropriate for young girls to be around of.
My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is
this just seems wrong especially at school.You are at school to LEARN. Not to
goof off. Like it or not swimming is a class to workout and learn. Can't really
do that well with young boys and girls together. How can schools be so clueless?
can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who arent known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls? Seems kind of like a naive way of thinking to me
I know it is uncomfortable as a parent or adult or guardian to have their child, who is probably going through puberty, in a swim class among boys who are also doing the same. I wouldn't say that it's humiliating for girls. Both genders have an equal opportunity for being teased. Guys are just as much a target as well as girls.
Swimming class can also a place where kids can interact with one another, and so is school. They tend to do their own share of goofing off whenever they get the time to, inside and outside the classroom. In all honesty, that is one of the reasons why these after school activities exist in the first place...so students can interact with one another while not in the classroom setting.
No child wants to get teased and I'm sure the students themselves know that. Honestly, young boys and girls can concentrate on swimming while being friends with one another as well. Not all young boys are insensitive and it isn't right to generalize them.
You have to also look at the possibility that an all girls or an all guys swimming team can also lead to teasing and harassment. Harassment from the same gender can permanently scar a child's perception of body issues just as much as harassment from the opposite gender.
Thus, is the possibility that something can happen, and a concerned adult should always be aware of that, but that falls into the category between adult-child interaction. Will your child come to you if he/she is being teased?
Also, I'm sure the students would have to wear appropriate clothing for this activity too.
My advice: keep a positive mind but be vigilant about the situation.
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Long story short, my girlfriends brother doesn't like me. I don't like football, I like other things, like reading books, taking a walk, drawing...
He has taken it onto himself to dish out my girlfriends number to his drunken friends, who has for the last week or two called her pretty late at night.
He has been asked to stop his crap, but he goes on. I'm not going to beat him up, he is twice my size, he does plays football and I draw pictures. I did think of accidentally shooting him at a rifle range... but that's too drastic and I've watched CSI.
I'm beyond playing nice with this #$%^, I want revenge.
I have already considered posting his girlfriend in the classified adds, or posting him in the gay classifieds (I have no problem with gay people, my best friend is... Mr. Brother is a stereotypical jock, with bells and whistles attached).
I need some more ideas please!
FEED ME!
Wow sounds like a tough one! I like that you're different from most guys. There are lots of people who don't find fascination in football, typical "guy" stuff, etc.
I find it kind of odd that he would do that to his own sister. Why would he want a guy like that to be with her? If you can't get through to him, maybe your girlfriend should step up to it. She's probably the only one he might listen to. And she should be ignoring any calls she gets from guys she doesn't know. Or if she answers, she should make it clear that she's not interested and she's with someone.
It seems like getting revenge on the guy would make things worse on your part. The best solution, at least for now, is to have your girlfriend tell him to stop! She should understand how you feel about this and if you can't do anything to ease the situation and your feelings, then she should step up to the plate to stop it.
I hope things work out for you on your end.
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So, I started my period last month, January 13, and I am 12. Well, 21 days has come and gone, and I don't have my period. My friend has had her period twice in the time I have only had 1!!! It is very aggravating and I don't know anything about this! Some one help.
Oh and if it helps, I'm and orphan, my foster parents give me everything I need and I stay in my room because they are usually, um, er, baby making. Marissa Lay isn't a mother to me and Joseph barely has time for me between his job and his baby making. But I can tell he loves me very much. My email is suhailashewolf@gmail.com go ahead and email you're answer, please!
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear about the family situation you have going on since you can't talk to anyone.
You really should tell your foster mother that you've had it. I know it seems like a big deal but you really don't have to make it one when you tell her you've had it.
About the period. If it's your first period then chances are it will be irregular for a while. As long as you're in good health, then you should be fine where your irregularity is concerned. Not all girls' period is 21 days apart. Mine aren't.
If your friend has been having her period for a while now, then chances are she's developed a regular cycle so you don't need to worry.
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When you do a payment plan with a college, do you have to pay fir anything or do they take it out of your financial aid?
Yeah pretty much, whatever financial aid you're going to get, they usually take the money from that and if you have money left over, they mail you a check with that extra. Or if you need to pay more, you will see that they updated your award status letting you know if you owe them more money.
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