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should I allow my daughter to visit a jail?
asking because you were the featured columnist
her older sister who is 22 is in jail for the next year, based on some comments her younger 17 year old sister said I am worried that she might want to "join" her sister or do criminal acts as well. I talked to someone who works at that jail and she said the best thing to do is allow my younger daughter to visit her older sister in jail and maybe if I wanted allow her to be able to see the insides of the jail with her sister and a guard as a way to teach her (my younger daughter asked to visit but I was hesitant in allowing her to). Or allow her to watch her sister reenact the booking process or something. Do you think I should allow this or would it be too traumatizing? When she is with her sister what discussions should they have?
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I would say that it would be better to let her see her sister than to not see her at all. I know you want to protect your daughter but imagine if she were you, wouldn't you want to see your older sister no matter what the case was? And it's not like the relative in jail is your aunt's sister's son daughter's grandfather's nephew. It's her own blood sister.
17 is a mature age for your daughter to handle what she might see in a jail as long as the guards are with her, you don't have much to worry about. I think the discussions should be up to your daughters, it's not something you should try to control. I don't think any person wants to be intentionally bad so I wouldn't worry about your younger daughter trying to be like her older sister. I think maybe she's trying to understand her sister and why she did what she did.
Sometimes you just have to let these things run their course.
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