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ok well ima a girl and a couple days ago i went to my aunts house and she has a son and he's my cousin.were both 14. well we kinda like each other alot and i guess we just set aside that we were cousins. well we ended up sleeping next to each other and he was touching me, like my boobs and butt and all that stuff. and well the next day we ended up making out like the whole day..and the thing is i liked it alot and i know it's wrong to like your cousin but i can't help it. why does it have to be so wrong? we both love each other and we have ever since we were little kids, we practically grew up together. i just don't know what to do, he kept asking me things like are you a virgin, do you wanna live with me when you grow up? and im just so confused on what to do, i don't want to end up having sex with my cousin, but then again, what if i do?, and what if i like it??! please help me. i need all the advice i can get. (link)
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Since ya'll are 14 you obviously are both just wanting sex so much you are willing to get it from anywhere. (No offense to either of you)With him being such a close cousin, I would not think it to be such a good idea.
--Syd
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Ok so I used to like my ex boyfriend yet he has another girl friend. It used to be that whenever I wanted to I could have him back, but not now. Its been hard but Ive gotten over him. And Im finally happy for him and so forth, yet theres someone else I like. I cant tell my own best friend because well hes praticually a best friend to both me and her and I know that she wouldnt be to happy. Im so confused about him. Someone at work spread a rumour saying that we liked eachother yet she had no idea she is just a drama strater. Yet I dont know how he reacted really. Hs ex girlfriend works with us and I know that she was all worried but I dont know if maybe he was plaing it cool with her. I was playing it off becuase I didnt want any drama to start. I know that he tells our other friend everything yet I dont have the guts to ask her if he likes me. I need any advice I can get as to what I should do. I dont want him to just see me as a frined cus I feel much more. Do I just need to grow some confidence and ask him or just let it go? I knew on New Years Eve he wanted to kiss someone, yet he hung out with our normal crew. I dont know Im so ocnufsed on this. And I always get the short end of the stick everytime. Any advice would be great. Thanx =) (link)
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Well, if he is a clos efriend of yours all I can say is, DONT CONFUSE YOUR FEELINGS FOR HIM! But there is no real way to tell if he really does like you unless you confront him or your mutual friends. Relax, if you don't want to confront him or your friend, go with the flow, he may come around tell you himself. It all depends on how you react to all of it.
--Syd
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ladies... how do you make a guy want you more without actually touching him? i mean, wut are some sexy things to say to him, or things you can do that will make him want you. im not looking to have sex by the way so please dont suggest that. thnx (link)
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Smile at him more, tell a flirty joke, batt your eyelashes. Act confident but not to confident. But also act hard to get, that will make him think about you more, trying to figure out what you meant when you looked at him the way you did, or what you said.
Hope That Helps
--Syd
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i am from australia, im 16. my name is alice.
well, i met this boy a couple of months ago. he works with me.
i went to work one day < i wasnt working > just syaing hi, and he was there and i hadnt normally seen him there before because he works in the day and i work weekend and arfternoons.. i introduced my self and we started hanging out in the arfternoons when i would go there after school. and then i fell for him. a couple weeks later he moved out of home and moved in with a couple of his friends. and he decided to go back to school for a year to finish year 12, ( i am only in year 10 ) so he stopped working for a bit and we kind of lost touch because he didnt have much money so he couldnt call me or anything. that was about 2 montsh ago.. then i saw him again recently because its holidays,, we hung out and had lunch and just caught up. he has these gorgeous blue eyes that i cant stop staring at, and blonde hair. he's the sweetest guy i have ever met and i really love him. we started workign again toegther recently and we flirt alot. things like tickling me all the time! and calling me cute names. but i dont know whether he just wants to me friends with me or he likes me mroe than a friend. i really want to find out before we go back to school beacuse chances are, we will loose touch again. someone please help me out i just dont know how to tell him how i feel. i cant stop thinking aboout him. when i'm with him i feel happy and secure, but when im not with him i miss him so bad and cant stop thinking about him. please could someone help me out here?
Alice. (link)
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Be honest with him, tell him that ou are confused to wether or not he wants to be friends or more... and if he asks why tell him if he wanted to be more than friends that you didnt want to lose touch when school started again.
It's better to be straight forward with most things rather than to beat around the bush.
-Syd
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ok so I have a boyfriend, we'd been talking on the phone for over a year and went through a lot of mental things together and finally met earlier this month. (he used to be friends/go to school with my old bestfriend so he wasn't just some random freak) things have been great since but i hardly ever see him since he lives about 1hr 1/2-2 hrs away. when we're together it's so great, it's like everything else disappears. my question is, how do i deal with this barely seeing him thing? i see him when he can get a day off and has money to take the train down here, and i know things arent easy for him right now. i don't want to be selfish, but i don't know how to just be ok with this. i know things will change eventually when he moves closer but how do i deal with it right now? (link)
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Look to the future. Think about how if you just stick with what you haev the outcome will be much better.
--Syd
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Ok..i play for a travel volleyball team and our first tournament is next weekend. Well..im the only new girl on the team..the rest of the players played last year and im really nervous that im gonna do bad in the game. I dont want the other girls to think im a bad player. How do i handle this?
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Relax! I play travel softball And I had first Year Jitters. If you are closer to one of the girls than the others talk to her about it she may be able to chill you out a little bit!
-_Syd
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Everytime my boyfriend comes over we just watch movies and makeout. Its getting kind of old, is there anything else we can do? (Not anything sexual I mean) Were both 15 so we can't drive yet either. Thanks. (link)
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Find a board game you both like to play. Maybe you could start a nice pillow fight, thats unexpected. Maybe you could make a nice little snack for the two of you. Maybe you could Go for a Walk around your neighbor hood, walk down to the nearest restaurant somethign like that.
Hope that helps.
--Syd
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I really don't know where else to turn right now but here. Okay, I know that I really shouldn't cut myself, but It's addicting. The teachers, my parents, they can't help! They don't get it. My parents say 'Pray'. I am Christian, but what do you do when Faith isn't enough? My teachers tell me I just need to want to stop. HELLO! I've wanted to stop! I can't! Someone please, If you know how to get unaddicted to the pain, please help me! (link)
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Find another way to relieve yourself! I know exactly what you mean, and i've been there. The way I stopped was indulging myself into other things, but I needed more than that, I got myself into a program where I guess you could call her/him a therapist, and helped me vent in other ways. I still do it every now and again but thats just because I was stressed and needed a fix.
Get with friends when you have free time...
Find a video game, book, or sport that interests you and stay with that... If all else fails... There are clinics, and people talk to to help. Depending on where you are there is a line to call and it's anonymous and they could help to.
--Syd
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Whats the different between lust and love? How do you know if youre just "lusting" someone? (link)
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Lust is only about one thing... And you only think about that one thing being the best thing abotu them for example someones looks, if you couldnt stand soemone if they didnt look the way they do thats not love. Love is you like everything about them!
Hope that helps
--Syd
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15/f
I was decorating the Christmas tree last year when suddenly it fell over. All of my ornaments (from generations and generations.. and the ones I had been collecting since I was born) were suddenly broken.
Just now I was decorating the tree this year thinking I have so much good in my life but I am not happy and I should try harder (I am constantly trying to improve my life.) But then I dropped an ornament and it reminded me of last year.
I work so hard for everything, but I know how easily it all falls apart and how disappointed I am. Should I see the omen of the falling ornament and stop trying to avoid disappointment? Or do I keep trying to improve my life and self?
I fear disappointment and know it will happen eventually, no matter how hard I try. Maybe I should just give up.
Any words of advice would make a huge difference in my decision.
Thanks so much (link)
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No don't try avoiding disappointment, there is no way to totaly avoid it, plus the more you have dealt with the stronger you become to disapointment and it may not effect you as much. Never quit trying for self improvment. Just don't push as much as you already are. Let somethings loose and take care of them later (Your little flaws may be someone else's fancy).
--Syd
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15/f
For Christmas I was planning on making my parents a clay bowl in my art class at school and giving it to them as a gift. Now we had a school closure for a few days (due to a storm) and I wasn't able to finish the bowl in time even though I've been working on it for weeks.
All I have to give to my parents on Christmas morning is a set of wine glasses (which I got them last year as well but they all broke).
I don't have a job or any money to buy them something else. What can I do? My friends are all giving their parents tons of gifts and things. I feel like I should have tried harder and gotten them more.
What can I do? And should I feel this way?
Thank you (link)
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Parents don't care what they get, but if you tell them that you are still working on theirs, they will know you really do care and were working hard on their gift. Just because your friends are able to or doing so much for their parents doesn't change how much they will care or lov eyou gift!
--Syd
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Alright well me and this girl were in a relashionship for about a year and a half.we were great together,well a few months ago she left me for this guy i hated to begin with and omg he treated her like shit.well lately ive bearaly been able to get over her and try to move on well i found this girl i absolutely adore.well guess what i find out,the girl he broke up with to be with my ex is this girl and shes not over him and to tell you the truth i dunno if im fully over my ex.shes sooo great though and sweet to me,and we have soo much in common.she knows the way i feel about her,im soo confused though,what should i do,i really want to be with her.and let me restate...i hate him lol.
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I know what you mean. But the more you linger around and try to get over her, the harder it will be, once you finally convince yourself of being over her, you will be able to love this new girl even more. And the guy.. Well... Keep hating him there is nothing you can do about him. Give the new girl time.
--Syd
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im a small girl like physically....as in short
im 19 years old and me and my boyfriend want to have sex but the thing is we tried to before and his penis wouldnt go in. hes fingured me alot! but wen we tried to do it it wouldnt go in. and am also wondering if it would hurt when we do it because ive already been fingured.plz help (link)
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Since it his penis wouldnt go in. Yes it probly will hurt, becasue that means you vagina is fairly small. Fingering, would help but depending on how many fingers are being used. It may take a little more to get his penis in and it wil hurt, but the moreyou do it the less pressure it will take to get it in and the pain will start to subside.
--Syd
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I`m 15/f. I like this guy, his name is Nate. Well I told Nate that I liked him, and all he said was ok. After that, I got a stronger feeling for him, but decided to let it go because nothing was bound to happen. Two weeks ago, I was playing hackey sack and fell on my butt right in front of him. He was the only one who didn`t laugh. I was laughing at myself along with the others. He just looked at me and when I looked at him he looked away. Well I told Nate today on myspace that I liked him still, and he said he didn`t wanna date anyone because of what happened in the past, and that dating at this time is pointless. Nate is 16. I like him A LOT. I asked him if he could tell me if he`d give me a chances or not, he still hasn`t responded. My friend asked me how much I liked him and I told her exactly this :
" Tim`s amazing. I haven`t liked anyone as much as him, well beside Jon... I don`t fall for a guy so easily, but with him it was different. I was like, " Wow, this guy is amazingly gorgeous..." Breathtaking...It`s...unusua. You know the feeling you get when you`re about to open a
X-mass present, and you have no idea what it is.Kinda like that but times 10. He makes me wanna rip my heart out and hand it to him in a silver platter, just for his liking. I swear if he could understand that, it would mean the world and a half to me. but I don`t know what he`s afraid of. I just wanna cry in front of him and wish he`d hold me and tell me I mean the world to him, that`s how much I`ve fallen for this kid. " I don`t know what to do. I like him a whole lot, but he apparantly doesn`t want me. Any suggestions on how to make the feeling go away, or how to explain to him that I wouldn`t hurt him, and how much I like him. I don`t want to tell him what I told my friend, he`d think I was insane. Thanks in advance, sorry for the lenght. (link)
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I know exactly how both of you feel. He is afraid of getting hurt. And you like him soo much you want him to risk to risk that for you. But his insecurity is stonger than that. He may feel that he wants to wait. Give him time and let him know you ar enot trying to push him into no matter how much you want to be with hold back your feelings. I knwo it is hard, but it may help. If he knows that you may be willing to wait he may open his own heart to being able to love again and the wall he put up to block himself from loving may be broken down once more.
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I just got put on birth control. I have yet to finish the first cycle I have a week or so left. But I have a few questions.
1.) As soon as I start that first pill of the 2nd package, does that mean im completely protected against pregnancies?
2.) Whats the chance of becoming pregnant when on the pill?
3.) Do you get a more increased hunger.. & then a feeling of bloatedness?
Thanks for reading. (link)
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All i can say There is no full proof way of being protected from getting pregenant. But that is all i know.
-Syd
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(bare with me, be prepared for a long question but god bless you if you answer)
i dont know whether i want a lot
of "not so close friends" or 2 or
3 really close friends that i could
tell my deepest darkest secrets with
and to borrow clothes with & stuff.
i want a lot of friends and i have
like 40 friends, but im not really
close with any of them. we talk in
school but outside of school i dont
know their s/n and i dont hang out
with most of them.
i kinda want like 2 or 3 REALLY close
friends that would be like sisters to
me. but im afraid if i cut down and
half less friends than they might turn
their backs on me and i could be friendless.
im not good at explaining things but
you know how everyone has one "best"
friend. like for example "jessica"
is best friends with "stacy" (made up
names) and they do everything together
and they cant be seperated. i want
maybe 2 or 3 really close friends
because right now i have like 40 not-
so-close friends.
but the problem is i get bored with
people. if i hang out with the same
person for more than 10 times i get
sick of them and stop calling them.
all of my friends have best friends
that they have known since age 2.
i just get bored easily. =/
and besides, everyone already has
their one "best" friend and if
"jessica" and "stacy" were best
friends and i wanted to be best
friends with "jessica" i couldnt
just take her away from stacy
right? because that would be rude.
but im sick of seeing girls walking
by and they hang out every day and
borrow eachothers clothes and have
sleepovers all the time. by best
best best best friend in the wholee
world moved away last year and i havent
replaced anyone with her. i dont
necessarily want to "replace" her but
i want a new best friend that i could
be just as close with.
my old best friend and i were soo close.
we would go on vacation with eachother
across the country, our familys would go
out to eat, we would always do homework
together and we were never seperated. i
knew her for 9 years. but now im not as
close with anyone and i miss having that
one person that you can tell anything to.
i want a new bestfriend but i cant just
go up to one of my friends and be like
"hey lets be best friends." i cant do
that because they already have their
best friends. my friends we hang out
sometimes but we arent that close.
theres one girl that when i first talked
to her i knew we would be friends. we are
alike and we dont fight alot and shes so
fun to be with but we havent opened up
together and we are shy. ive only hung
out with her 3 times so we cant be "best
friends" shes always busy so i cant see
her alot and i never see her in school.
she already has a best friend like i used
to but i want to be her best friend and
be invited in her clique but i dont know
how. should i tell her i want to be best
friends? will that be weird? i dont know.
i want 2 or 3 close friends not 40 dont-
talk-to-out-of-school-friends....
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You dont have to cut all your friends in half! you can have 2 or 3 best friend and at the same time have a ton of other not so close friends. Its just finding those cloe friends... You will have to be selective. Because some girls will act liek they are your best friend and run their mouth about everything you tell them. May not be what you want to hear but its the truth. You will find best friends and I think they are more important than not so close friends. And dont worry about "stealing" other peoples best friends... it is bound to hapen some time.
-_Syd
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I need help.badly.Im a female age 15 from New Jersey and im in highschool.I knew this boy for about a year and a half.I've always liked him and still do.We have been best friends and still are.I need advice see this is why.We both have the same classes and we are always together.We make each other laugh and everything.One day we were walking home from school and we went to my friends pool party.It was really big.When i changed into my bathing suit he said that i looked nice and gave me a kiss in the cheek and then dronk his juice.well then when we went inside aftre the pool party cuz some people slept over we were going to play truth or dare.My best friend knew i liked him so she did it on purpose.she dared him to kiss me.i was shocked.obviously he was playing but when he gave me that kiss it felt like i was in heaven.He is the most popular and hottest guy in school and im the second most popular and hottest girl in school(says the yearbook)and sorry if it sounds conceited but im not).Now i feel shy to sit next to him or talk to him.what should i do.Now he looks at me like in a way he never looked at me before.He flirts with me and holds my hand and i dont know what to do.does he like me.does he not like me.should i flirt back should i not.What should i do.PLEASE HELP ME.I NEED ADVICE.ASAP. (link)
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Go for it girl lol, flirt back! It couldnt hurt! You obviously have a way to tell that he likes you and since you like him you too will probly end up hooking up sometime.
--Syd
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td on the bus, my one friend jackie was sitting in front of my other friend natalie. i was sitting in the seat next to natalie but then krista moved me in. so, krista told me that like jackie whispered something to natalie about me and she knows for fact it was my name and that it might have been something bad. i dont want to make a big deal out of it since it might not even be true, but this isnt the first time i've heard about them saying rude stuff about me. i dont want to jump to conclusions when it might be a misunderstanding. what should i do? (link)
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ask them about it. No big deal when you are alone just be straight forward adn ask about it.
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Okay, so I have a friend I met over the internet. Her name is Mary, and we've been talking for almost two years.
She seems like a real kid, but I'm not really sure of what I can trust.
I dont know how to tell, and I'm not sure if there's anything I can do to know for sure.
So, she just asked for my address, to be able to exchange presents. I've talked to her on the phone before, but I've always thought there's SOMETHING you can do to fake that... (I get this from my mom). So I dont know whether I should actually give the address or anything. My dad knows I'm still talking to her, but my mom dosen't.
Ahh, please help!!
Jessie =D (link)
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Ask her if she has a webcam i know it sounds stupid but live webcam is one way to tell who you are talking to! and Tell her why you asked about it, if she asks why you wanted to know. Tel her your parents' paranoya is rubbing off on you.
--Syd
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okay so every year me and my friends do a gift exchange. idk what to get them! i wanna be cheap b/c there is alot of them like around 20 25 $ we are in 8th grade. i asked one of them how much money she spent on me and the said she doesn't know and that its not a good gift but its touchingso yeha what should i get her (link)
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If you want it to be cheap find a sweet christmas card, and find something small and cute to go with it like a little bracelet, it doesnt have to be expensive but something she would like!
--Syd
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