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long distance
ok so I have a boyfriend, we'd been talking on the phone for over a year and went through a lot of mental things together and finally met earlier this month. (he used to be friends/go to school with my old bestfriend so he wasn't just some random freak) things have been great since but i hardly ever see him since he lives about 1hr 1/2-2 hrs away. when we're together it's so great, it's like everything else disappears. my question is, how do i deal with this barely seeing him thing? i see him when he can get a day off and has money to take the train down here, and i know things arent easy for him right now. i don't want to be selfish, but i don't know how to just be ok with this. i know things will change eventually when he moves closer but how do i deal with it right now?
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if you really love him , then dont give up. things can work if you want them to work. maybe you could take turns, you visit him then the next time he visits you.. just dont give up on what you have.
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if you love them, then let that be your drive. i have been in a long distance relationship for a little over a year and a half now and it's working fine. love and trust are the things you have to strive on. if you don't have those then it's not going to work. no matter how many people say that long distance realtionships never work, they do if you make them. don't let your fire fade. if you do then your screwed there too. yes, your going to miss them and no, its not going to be easy but anyone can do it. it just takes both of you striving to stay together and if you do it will all be worth it in the end.
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Look to the future. Think about how if you just stick with what you haev the outcome will be much better.
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It`s just something that you`ll have to get used to. It`s a part of growing up, & you aren`t being selfish in the slightest!!
As your relationship goes on, it`ll be easier to deal with. I rarely ever get to see my boyfriend. I only see him a few times a week, and that`s really hard for me to handle. Especially because when I`m at school it`s like, I want him to be THERE so I can hang out with him & what not. But I know that, that`s not even possible.
A good way to handle it, is to set a day for when he`ll come & see you. Like say that you talk to him tonight, and the next vacation you both have is like Easter break or something. Plan to see each other in March, then you`ll have something to look forward to, together.
It`ll be like, when February comes, you`ll grow closer and closer, because you`ll both have something to look forward to, the next month. Think of how amazing your time will be together.
It definitely will be hard for you to handle, but just continue to talk to him everyday & talk about this whole long distance thing. He probably feels the same way & it`ll make you feel a hell of a lot better talking to someone about it! =]
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