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hmmm
(bare with me, be prepared for a long question but god bless you if you answer)
i dont know whether i want a lot
of "not so close friends" or 2 or
3 really close friends that i could
tell my deepest darkest secrets with
and to borrow clothes with & stuff.
i want a lot of friends and i have
like 40 friends, but im not really
close with any of them. we talk in
school but outside of school i dont
know their s/n and i dont hang out
with most of them.
i kinda want like 2 or 3 REALLY close
friends that would be like sisters to
me. but im afraid if i cut down and
half less friends than they might turn
their backs on me and i could be friendless.
im not good at explaining things but
you know how everyone has one "best"
friend. like for example "jessica"
is best friends with "stacy" (made up
names) and they do everything together
and they cant be seperated. i want
maybe 2 or 3 really close friends
because right now i have like 40 not-
so-close friends.
but the problem is i get bored with
people. if i hang out with the same
person for more than 10 times i get
sick of them and stop calling them.
all of my friends have best friends
that they have known since age 2.
i just get bored easily. =/
and besides, everyone already has
their one "best" friend and if
"jessica" and "stacy" were best
friends and i wanted to be best
friends with "jessica" i couldnt
just take her away from stacy
right? because that would be rude.
but im sick of seeing girls walking
by and they hang out every day and
borrow eachothers clothes and have
sleepovers all the time. by best
best best best friend in the wholee
world moved away last year and i havent
replaced anyone with her. i dont
necessarily want to "replace" her but
i want a new best friend that i could
be just as close with.
my old best friend and i were soo close.
we would go on vacation with eachother
across the country, our familys would go
out to eat, we would always do homework
together and we were never seperated. i
knew her for 9 years. but now im not as
close with anyone and i miss having that
one person that you can tell anything to.
i want a new bestfriend but i cant just
go up to one of my friends and be like
"hey lets be best friends." i cant do
that because they already have their
best friends. my friends we hang out
sometimes but we arent that close.
theres one girl that when i first talked
to her i knew we would be friends. we are
alike and we dont fight alot and shes so
fun to be with but we havent opened up
together and we are shy. ive only hung
out with her 3 times so we cant be "best
friends" shes always busy so i cant see
her alot and i never see her in school.
she already has a best friend like i used
to but i want to be her best friend and
be invited in her clique but i dont know
how. should i tell her i want to be best
friends? will that be weird? i dont know.
i want 2 or 3 close friends not 40 dont-
talk-to-out-of-school-friends....
help??? suggestions and advice are needed
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You dont have to cut all your friends in half! you can have 2 or 3 best friend and at the same time have a ton of other not so close friends. Its just finding those cloe friends... You will have to be selective. Because some girls will act liek they are your best friend and run their mouth about everything you tell them. May not be what you want to hear but its the truth. You will find best friends and I think they are more important than not so close friends. And dont worry about "stealing" other peoples best friends... it is bound to hapen some time.
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hang out with those girls until you find someone tha tyou want to be close with. i have 4 best friends who mean everything to me, and we met two years ago. You just have to wait until you find those certain people tha tyou can't live without. having less friends wont change anything, you can still be friends with everyone else and just be closer with your best friends. that way you have the option to hang out wiht whoever you want. best friends shouldn't be a restriction.
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