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My best friend and I have known each other for a few years. Since we started high school, however, she has become really needy. She will "like" a guy but she won't do anything about it..then she'll blame them for not asking her out. It becomes the focus of her life and she gets really depressed if the guy doesn't 'pay her enough attention'. I've tried telling her that guys aren't the only thing in life and that her friends love her, etc..but she wont believe it and just uses it to show how 'unloved' and 'unlistened to' she is. What do I do? I don't want to end the friendship, but I'm tired of feeling used.

Ok you sound like a really great friend and i think this chic is lucky that you care so much about her! I think that you need to stop babyin her because she likes the attention! Guys arent always worried about girls, i know i cant believe that either but its true, they do think about other stuff, just tell her that its her fault and tell her to be a little more outgoing and if she wants this boy bad enough then she could at least attempt to real him in! Good luck- :*:SaRa:*:

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whenever i walk my left ankle always seems to click! its really loud and people say i should get it checked out, but the thing is it doesnt hurt at all!! what do you think i should do?

Well mine does the same thing when i move it like in a circle, im not really sure, my jaw pops alot too and it doesnt hurt but the doctor said that it could develop into TMJ(lock jaw) and so maybe you should...just incase..
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dumb question... tomorrow is the first day of skool and i dont no what to wear lol. im going into 9th grade. should i wear a skirt, should i wear capris, should i wear jeans? uh help! srry its so dumb but going into high skool ive been stressing out soooooo much. just give me ur opinion

Ok first day of school is not a big thing....trust me ive been doin it for 11 years now!Its the same ppl youve gone to kindergarten with....practically family! Jeans are always good! no matter what the mood they are perfect...just dress really cute like maybe a dressy shirt and some boots, some cute accesories. Remember you make the clothes, the clothes dont make you, im sure you can handle this! Good luck Freshman:) :*:SaRa:*:

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okay, well i am very blessed that i am not overweight, BUT the only problem is that my legs are huge! this might sound cheesy, but i'm serious! it's as if my legs dont match my body! i want to lose the weight but i dont exactly have time to exercise. i wear a skirt to school because the pants are awkward. what can i do to lose the weight? Or make them look thinner?

Ok heres what we can do! A)wear a belt, like a belly chain, something to accent the waist and draw attention instead of it being focused on your legs!B)Same thing, capris and good if you dont like pants, and roll your jeans up at the bottom that will help! Do squants and run you dont necessarily have to "work out" to exercise, just go out of your way to do more things daily and im sure its not even that bad! have confidence! being thick is a good thing! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok so my mom found out something i did with my bf long story but i got in trouble and got this whole thing about how i broke my trust with her. so tommroow i am going to my friends n my bf will be there i really wana go and idk how to ask cuz she said i wouldnt be doen anything for a while cuz of what i did. please help i want her to trust me i wish i could just talk to her more all i want is to have fun and to be pushed aside a little. im just a teenager...i make mistakes. please help me soon

Instead of asking me you should be telling your mom this! Your right as long as the mistakes arent made on purpose and you learn from them, then your growing up and its gonna happen, maybe you should talk to your mom and actions speak louder than words, prove to her that your responsible and trustworthy and im sure shell listen, shes your mom, shes just worried about you thats all! *:*SaRa:*:

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hey sweetie..question!:) my boyfriends birthday is coming up on sep. 3rd..and the same day is our 6 month ann. my first varsity soccer game and his 17th birthday. i already got him gifts, but i wanted to know what else can i get him..or surprise him with. i was going to hang out with him that night and do stuff with him like normal - but make it all about him..but i have my game..are there any little things you can think of? thanks!!

x0x-dani

Aww DaNi you sound like a really sweet girlfriend and its great that you wanna do all these nice things for your hunny and also congrats about the 6 months! Guys arent like girls, they dont have to/need attention 24/7 and cry when we forget anniversarys!I recently started playin soccer,thats hard work lol! Ok back to your question!You have good ideas, what about if you rent a limo? That would be awesome! Or think of things that yall usually do together and just let him know that you wanted everything to be awesome! Surprise party? When were talkin about love, anything is possible! Good Luck, keep me updated! :*:SaRa:*:

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hi i got my carltidge peirced like a little over a month ago and its kinda sore and theres a bump over the hole. is that normal?

That happened to my sister, its normal, anytime you pierce something your body is gonna try to heal itself cause it thinks something awful is goin on, so tell your body to settle down, its ok the bump might be there for awhile but hopefully your ear will be too! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok..i really like this song and ive tried to search it but i dont really know what its called or who sings it...could u help me out please? the corus kinda goess:
shoo shoo shakin'...shoo shakin up
shoo shoo shakin'...shoo shakin up
and its pretty recent bc i saw it on MTV couple of months ago...please helppp! :)

Good Music choice "I'm Shakin'" sung by Rooney.One of my favorites....good choice!love that song! :*:SaRa:*:

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Hello! I was wondering if any of you know any good home remedies to get rid of pimples, besides toothpaste. Thanks!

toothpaste? hmm...lemme get back to you on that one! Alchohol does work!!! Just wash your face with DOVE soap and remember always wash your makeup off and i would get some Clearisil Vanishing cream or something it works too! :*:SaRa:*:

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Ok..Well...About 5 months ago me and my "BFF" stoppped being friends because, well, im not sure, i think it was because her other friends didnt want her to be friends with me, so the other night i said some stuff to her, since she wouldnt leave me alone ((talking to me online)) and saying she was just friends with me outta pity, blah blah. And now she is posting our conversations in her public diary, and getting my other ex-friends all against me. Its like...one little bitch, but shes so powerful! I literaly want to like..RYhwehgfwejlvf Haha i get pissed at her!! And she is teling poeple i lie about my personal problems, byut then w(hy)tf would i lie about having depression. Help me!! AND IM NOT APOLOGIZING I ALREADY DID LIKE 10 TIMES BEFORE AND SHE WAS GAY! x0x0x, me.

Hey there, sorry about your psyco friend, ppl dont realize how bad the things they do and say affect other ppl, i think you should kick her skanky butt! But anyways, im glad she has new friends and all and she thinks that shes wonderful but you need tell her that what shes doin to you is wrong and that you were there when her other friends werent, ive been through this and even though it hurts your feelings you have to realize that she is just doin it be cool but i think shes a loser neway! So just forget about it if youve dont all you can do and for godsakes just stay mature about it! Good luck! "*"SaRa"*"

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heyy does anybody know any good sites with quotes. Not just lovepoetry.com but quote sites that teenagers have made? Thanks!!!

Sure, heres some of my favs. Hope i helped! :*:SaRa:*:

http://firehotquotes.bolt.com/
http://www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net/

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I have a horrible problem with my face getting red anytime i read in front of the class or do a speach. TOmorrow, i have to give a speach in english & I was wondering, if anyone had any ideas to yhelp me stop that... i odnt want stuff like " just be confident".. things like, is there anything you can take or if makeup or things like that would work. pleeease answer.. anyone who answer, i`ll give a 5

Hmm first of all im not look for you to rate me unless you feel the need, ill give you my advice, thats what im here for! Do you wear powder? I would def. try that! Just try to stay calm and act like its blush or something, im sure noone will even notice! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok......i'm 16 and theres this guy who's 20 that i like alot. he has been wanting to go out with me but my dad wont let me bcuz he says hes to old for me. well my friends keep tellin me i should just dont let my dad find out. what should i do? is there a way to get my dad to let? please help

Ok the first thing i must tell you is that parents know EVERYTHING! You may not think so now, but oh yea they will find out! Its only a 4 year difference i mean its not really that bad, why dont you talk to your parents and let them meet this guy and then talk about it! Good luck :*:SaRa:*:

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ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

Well it depends on alot of things really, your age, his age, i personally wouldnt do it, but how well do you really know this guy? You cant trust ppl like you used to able to, i wouldnt meet some internet guy if i only "sorta liked him". Use your head dawl! Good luck in your decision!:*:SaRa:*:

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i used to drink alot and i mean alot of pop and now im stopping to lose weight but lately ive been getting really bad headaches my mom said its because of the lack of caffine are there any other
ways to get caffine but are healthy too
i rate ! --thanks

Oh my gosh your mom is no Doctor sweetheart! Caffeine is a bad, addictive drug, you should drink water to lose weight and your headaches have nothin to do with lack of caffeine i promise! Do some research on the net about this! :*:SaRa:*:

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does ne1 one the formula n units for density!?! plz help major test comin up!!

Umm not very smart but heres all you have to do..density= mass/volume...and also look up the periodic table on like yahoo or ask. com
Hope i helped..:*:SaRa:*:

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I have this friends and I really like her like more than a friend. A couple of months after we became friends I asked her out but she thought that it would be better if we stayed friends. After that was said, we became much closer and im kinda getting signals. what should I do, I really like her?

I believe you like her, i love it when that happened, its always better to start off as friends, even though my relationships wouldnt work very well i dont think..what if yall did go out and broke up? Then you would lose and good friend and it would be awkward to be around eachother...talk to her about it, maybe she realized that your more than friends, good luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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whats the best way to scrunch thick hair?

Ok im your girl on this one, pick through your hair and use any kind of gel that you like, get like a washcloth and put it in the palm of your hand, you know like flat and scrunch away! It works great and i do it everday! it helps to use a blowdryer...happy scrunching! :*:SaRa:*:

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okay i just got a new computer, and all the sites i had saved under favorites were lost, so my question is...does anybody kno websites where all those HTML codes are for buddy4u's, etc? like scrollbars, transitions, fonts, marquess, etc. any help is good..i`ll rate you good

Ok i have a really good website for you!This is everything you need to know to make an awesome webpage!Happy designing!:*:SaRa:*:
http://www.coloryourprofyle.com/webpage/coolpage.html

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(14/f) i have a hard time getting along with girls. i only have 3 really close friends that are girls and 2 of them are changing alot and i'm begining not to like how they are acting lately. the majority of my friends are boys. i really can't stand being friends with girls! they always find a way to piss me off and with my guy friends... they are so much more easy going! my friend amanda she's been my best friend for about 3 years and she's the same way as me so i guess that's why we get along. but is there something wrong with me that i don't like being around girls and i just like being around guys??

Ok finally someone to relate too! Ive had the same problem since i can remember and it doesnt go away! I was always a Tom boy and wanting to go have fun and not worry about make up and stuff like that, but of course i was a little kid and i didnt know ne better..Girls are jealous, sneaky, 2 faced and very rarely do i find ppl that live around here that are deacent! Guys are fun, go places, they can relate and give you advice just like girls only they usually dont try to steal your boyfriend! I think its normal, how many girlfriends do you need? Just be nice and talk to them but i wouldnt trust em! :*:SaRa:*:

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