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< I am a Christian and I am a mother >Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.
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does an ipill cause delay in periods ??i had anal sex for the first time 4 months back . i got afraid and took emergency contraceptive pill. the next month i got my periods on time . but after that month i dint get periods till now . it has been 3 months since i got my periods . in these 3 months i had anal sex thrice with my bf and we used a lubricant kind of thing to make things easier and bcoz of that his dick slipped a few times and touched my vagina with a little amount of pre ejaculation on it . can the sperms in that pre ejaculatory fluid get into my vagina bcoz of the lubricant ? he dint ejaculate in me . i took home pregnancy tests many times but the result is always negative . are there any chances of me getting pergnant ?? how many days can the sperm live inside a girls body ?? does the pill cause delay in periods ?? plz ans me . i am tensed .
Sperm can live around 5 days inside. The pill can and has caused quite a delay for me in the past. I believe you are speaking of the morning after pill. If so that pill is like taking an incredible amount of regular birth control pill all at once. It is very effective but can throw your cycle way off. While there is a slim chance of pregnancy with what you described it's really unlikely. Especially if you took the morning after pill with in 5 days and having taken it the next day or within 3 days I would feel comfortable in saying you are not pregnant. If you took a pregnancy test 2 weeks after having sex and it was negative then you are good. However, dont get one of those dollar tests they never showed positive for me although I was pregnant. You should look into getting the mirena iud. I have tried the pull out method, pills, condoms, and mirena was the only thing that worked. I have had no periods, no cramps, no problems, and no pregnancy after getting pregnant on the pill. You will feel so much better more s having to stress every time you have sex. Although anal sex would work as you know it's just too easy to slip right out into your vagina. If I were you I would relax because I highly doubt you are pregnant although there is a slight chance.
I live in an apartment complex, and there is a dog in one of the other apartments here who gets very, very angry whenever he sees my dog. He's charged at my dog several times and starts to growl whenever he see him. So far, we've been lucky, there has always been a fence between us when the dog has charged.
The guys who own the dog says he only has a problem with my dog. My neighbours say there are several other dogs he has an issue with, although he's okay with most.
The big problem: This dog is NEVER leashed. He gets to roam the property. So I have to be incredibly vigilant every time I go for a walk, and it's really stressing me out.
I've asked them to keep their dog on a leash, and they've said that wouldn't be 'fair'. They do make a real effort to control him, and I've been able to walk by safely a few times, but that's really not good enough. It only takes one mistake.
So what do I do? Should I speak to the building? Should I call bylaw enforcement? I hate to escalate this, but if it attacks my dog that is way worse than hurting these guys feelings.
I would try contacting animal control at a time you know the dog will be out and about amongst several other neighbors and when you are regularly not there. Then I would have someone who is of opposite gender call and make the complaint. You dont want the neighbor to know you called so the person you have calling in should not mention anything about attacking another dog. See, you dont want mute problems from this neighbor since you dont know how lking you may have to deal with them. You want them to think someone else called. Once animal control comes out he will be fined for not having the dog on a leash and hopefully thats enough to get him to start following the law. You should not live in fear of your or your pets safety. Who cares if it's only your dog he dislikes. Your dog is important and matters just as much as any other pet. Dont allow to continue. This animal has already shown aggressive behavior and like any animal this dog is unpredictable. Who knows if you are his next target. But try your best to lay low as to not let the owner know you had a thing to do about the complaint.
I started a new medication and I am just not feeling it anymore. :( Is there any way to get that drive, that desire back without going off the medicine that is probably keeping me alive?
Unfortunately there are several medications which cause a decrease in sex drive. I myself take a medication that has affected me in the same way and I found medical marijuana in small amounts to help out tremendously. I do not advocate illegal use of any substance but if medically prescribed or legal in your state you may want to look into that. Another thing I found helpful was having sex on a near full bladder. I do not know the science behind this but several people both men and women as well as myself have noticed an increase in arousal when their bladder is full and a noticable decrease after going to the rest room. I'm not sure how often or what time of day you take your medication but you may want to time your dosage in a way in which the least amount of active medication is in your system during the most optimal opportunities you foresee wanting an increased sex drive. Lastly but perhaps the first suggestion you may want to ask your doctor and do research on your own of a possible substitution to your current medication or perhaps ask if there is something you can add to counteract the problem. I wonder if the medication you are taking is blocking normal blood flow to the area which I imagine could be the problem. If so, I would gather it is affecting blood flow to other areas that could cause other issues. You might want to bring it to your doctors attention if for no other reason to be sure it is simply a side affect with no health risks associated. If blood flow is the cause perhaps you could try applying heat or doing stretches to get the blood flowing. Hang in their and I wish you the best.
I fucked up my high school carrier so bad all from pot, i am a clean cut 16 year old who is active and rides dirt bikes i have everything i could ever want, i constantly get yelled at everyday for my fuckin up in school, i just wanted to make my parents proud , but obviously thats not workin, they wont even let my transfer to a continuation school to earn credits and get my diploma there , im in a fucked up situation, i cant live for this shit, my whole fam would be so pissed if they knew how many credits i was missin, i need advice quick
Honestly I dont see any other choice but to tell your family how far behind you are so you can take the steps towards completing school as soon as possible. As a mother of 3 sons I can tell you I would be extremely upset and disappointed to hear the news but to find out later would be even worse. As a mother I want my sons to know that I am here for them no matter what. I can't help them if they are not open and honest about what is going on. The last thing your family wants is to hear from someone else what you could have told them. If I were you I would work up some tears go to your mom and say, "mom, I need you". Tell her you messed up but have a plan to make things right. Try to work with your family from here on out. No matter how upset they may be the sooner the better to come out with it and make some changes. You need to graduate to make it in this world. Its not too late but time is over for playing around. Settle down, focus and work harder than ever to complete what you need to get done. Dont make excuses, or let friends talk you into any direction but to finish your education. You have the rest of your life and so much to experience. Please dont continue down this non productive path. I know you care about your family and yourself. They want to see you excel as much as you want to make them proud. It will probably be unpleasant having to distance yourself from friends and activities for awhile but do it. No matter what it takes. No matter how much time or extra work, getting up early staying late adding to your course load, you must do it. If you dont you will disappoint your family, and fail yourself making life so incredibly difficult. I know you can do it. I can hear in your written words your sense of urgency, desperation, and concern for your future in addition to your self and family. So, go ahead and make that first unpleasant step by telling your family. Of course they will be upset but that is because they love you. Just think how much better you will feel once the truth is out in the open. At least that bit of worry and stress will be over. Then focus on making things right from here on out. You got this, now it's time to do it.
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The guy I'm talking to is 22. We've gone on a few dates and he kissed me on our last date.
We went on another date today and things went really well and after we ate, we watched movies at his place. Well after awhile we ended up making out and it escalated. I stopped before we went too far because I'm not ready to mess around. He was cool with it. That was one thing that bothered me but since he didn't pressure me or anything, it was fine.
Besides that, he compliments me and talks about his family, work, ect. So he seems to actually be into me.
The thing is, I'm never good at telling when someone is just seeing me to get in my pants or to genuinely get to know me. I've had some bad experiences so I want advice before I jump in. So what do you think?
Some other information is that we do text a lot. After tonight he texted me and told me he respects my decision and all that. He told me he wants to date and see if it can go long term and that he can see that with me. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Is that weird or normal? It threw me off. I just told him eventually yeah, we'll see where it takes us or something like that. Now my first thought was that he wants to be with me because I told him I don't mess around with someone who I'm not in a relationship with. But he told me it makes him like me more since I have self respect or something.
Honestly, I might be over thinking all this but he seems really nice and I'm really starting to like him. I'm just paranoid. Probably because of my past but I won't get into it. I am getting professional help for some pieces of it though.
Also, I just want to know if it's normal for guys to move that fast with a potential girlfriend? Like obviously I'll see it on TV shows. But we barely know each other so is it weird or is it just me?
Pretty much any advice on relationships would be awesome. Or any experiences that you've had. Thank you and sorry that it was long!
It really seems like he genuinely cares for you and not out for one thing. It's very common for a guy to rush into sex and the fact that he was leaning in that direction proves hes s normal guy. However, the fact that he is sticking around shows he respects you and values more than just a physical relationship. Although this is a great sign continue to hold strong to your values and beliefs. There are those guys who pursue a challenge with one goal in mind to conquer what others could not and then they move on. Continue getting to know him, his family and friends and enjoy life with him outside of sex. I think over time it will become more obvious as to his true intentions and you will either distance yourself and move on or learn to trust and feel confortable and at ease with him. There is nothing wrong with waiting for marriage to go all the way. He will understand and respect you if he is the one for you. But for now enjoy your time with him. So far so good, he sounds like an okay guy.
Ok, so don't laugh please? I have always been small chested with only a B and I feel ugly because other girls have larger breasts than me. Are there any drawbacks to going and getting breast implants? Things I need to know before I go for the appointment? Anything? I want them, but I am scared of surgery at the same time. :(
As a woman and mother of three I want you to keep in mind that your breasts will change sizes during and after pregnancy if you think you may ever want to have children. While you can still breast feed with implants you will most likely need additional surgeries after having children because they will change sizes. There are also medical health risks. I believe Kanye West's mother had complications and they had money for the best of the best. I would goggle what happened to her. Heres another thing to think about with elective surgery. Being put to sleep also has risks. My aunt went in for a routine procedure was put to sleep and never woke up. After having my children I desperately need and want implants myself but as you I am just too afraid of the unknown. Is it really worth all the risks? You should just wear push up padded bras and love yourself. Your beauty is not defined by breast size and I think you know that. You sound rather young and if so you have more time for development. Give it more time, more thought and surround yourself with people who love you for you. I promise the older you get the less importance your appearance will be. A man who truly loves a girl and wants a real relationship is not concerned about breast size.
I did a roller set on my hair & now my curl pattern is gone. How do I get it back?
I did a roller set on my hair a couple of days ago. I also used a blowdryer for like 30 seconds, it was on warm setting. Then I washed my hair and I had a lot of straight ends and my curl pattern is loose. My hair also feels weak and it breaks easily. Do I need to do a protein treatment?
How do I get my curl pattern back and stop my hair from breaking?
What you put in your body is more important than what you put on your hair. As for your demaged hair you need a karatin treatment and start using Mizani or Biolage (may be spelled differently) shampoo and conditioner. The cheaper shampoos and conditioners are very demaging to your hair so although you may spend more trust me it's worth it. Also use styling products that leave your hair soft not hard. Stay away from any chemical treatments such as coloring your hair, as well as blow dryers, flat irons, or curlers. Heat is your hairs enemy. Let it dry naturally. Try tying it up to dry to help lock in the curl. Now it's extremely important that you find a good daily vitamin with high biotin content. Look for a vitamin with the name hair, nails, and skin. This will make your hair grow healthier, thicker, and faster. Drink lots of water each day, eat healthy, and get plenty of sun during the winter months, but be careful when it's really hot. Too much sun is demaging to your hair. If you follow these instructions I guarantee positive results with immediate results using the products especially after the karotine treatment. However, if you suffer from an illness which is causing hair issues you should see a doctor before trying anything new. Good luck
i am scared whether im pregnant or not..i gave my bf a blowjob and then he fingered me.. i dont remember whether he washed his hands or not..but he is very sure that hes hands were dry. that time i was scared whether im pregnant or not! i gave him a blowjob on 24th dec.. my periods were supposed to come on 28th dec but they came on 1st jan as i was taking pills to delay my periods cause i had a function to visit. i got my next periods on 6th of feb.. i dont have any pregnancy symptoms the only thing is that i have pain in upper stomach and i get a quick pain during passing stools..i have this pain while eating anything.. or it comes suddenly. im having this from past few days. it started with a problem in passing stools. what could be the reason. i cant take a pregnancy test.. i am very scared! please help me. i want a sure answer.. because im scared to death.. im 17! and if im pregnant then give me some solutions. i did google on this topic and they said that it is possible to be pregnant without missing periods or even without having any symptoms of pregnancy.. please help and reply.. i need help
It is true you can be pregnant and still have what seems to be a period however based on what you described you are not pregnant. The pain sounds like you need to eat more fiber. You may just have constipation which may be caused from the stress of constantly worrying. I recommend you go see a doctor just in case theres something serious going on here. However, you can not get pregnant from the things you described.
So first of all im a shy 17 year old girl and it takes me some time to become comfortable around strangers enough to talk to them. Well my boyfriends mom and dad are divorced so he has 2 familys kinda. I feel uncomfortable around them both. They are complete opposites of my family and what im used to being around. My family is a christian family who are strict and will do anything they can to help someone in need. They make anyone feel accepted and comforatble. But his family is the opposite. His dads house is where he lives mostly and he hates it. He has that evil step mom. i mean shes evil. She would be rude to me and talk crap about me when i wasnt there and my mom and dad found out and im not allowed back in that house. His dad has talked to me once which is the day i met him. Thats it. His mom lives about an hour away and we go there every weekend. His mom has a gf and they live together. Well i hate it there. His mom makes me feel stupid and like she judges everything that i do. I feel like they always talk about me while im not there. and she looks at me like im stupid sometimes and when she talks to me my boyfriend has to tell me she has something to say to me. And her gf isnt bad i like her a lot better. But i still dont feel comfortable. Usually by now i would have already opened up to them and talk but im still as shy as the day that i met them. When we get to his house i stay back in his room unless we ride his 4 wheeler. i stay back there by myself a lot while hes in there talking to them. The other day we were in the car and she told me when i come over the next time instead of standing there to say hi or something. i started crying because i have social anxiety and i got soo nervous thinking about having to do that.. idk why. but when we were parking his mom said something about how she forgot i was back there because i was so damn quiet. and she yelled it and it embarrassed me and hurt my feelings tbh. i hate being around them. i HATE it. One time i was in his rooma and he came in there and told me to tell his mom thank you. i have no idea for what. So i went in there and he said mom candice has something to tell you and i said thank you and she said youre welcome! it was confusing and embarrassing becuase they all knew except me. Now my boyfriend is absolutely amazing and i know if i tell him how i feel he will listen. He may get a little aggitated or something but he will try to understand. Tbh im very jealous that hes so accepted and loves being at my house and i hate going to his and feel the way that i do. Now its getting close to saturday and im trying to think of excuses of not to go to their house! Should i say something to my boyfriend? Weve been together for 3 months. Ive tried telling him but i got too nervous and didnt know what to say. So what should i do?
It sounds to me that his family has some major issues that have nothing to do with you. You should just tell your boyfriend how uncomfortable you are and let him know you would rather not go with him to visit any more. I'm sure he will understand especially if you explain it the way you have here. I too had extreme social anxiety up until I was about 30 married with my own children. I too would stay off to the side and never really carried on conversions with anyone I didn't know. His family should be welcoming of you and make you feel more comfortable. But, clearly they aren't interested in that and you can't make them change their ways. Try to spend your time with your boyfriend out and about or at your families house as much as possible. Limit your visits with his family to holidays and special occasions. You shouldn't have to feel this way, be upset, afraid, nor should you end up in tears. You deserve better than this and your boyfriend should agree. Your relationship should be fun not uptight and uncomfortable. Thats no way to live. Just be open and honest with your boyfriend and ask him to keep your feelings private. I have a feeling if his family finds out how you feel they will just make things worse. It would be nice if they would just try being nicer but based on what you described it doesn't sound like they are willing to get to know you. Just remember this is not your problem. They had issues long before you were in the picture. Dont let their negativity break your spirit. You have a loving caring family so just try bringing your boyfriend more into your family while staying away.from his.
What would be a good first job for a 16 year old male?
Think about a job in a field you are interested in pursuing a career. Many good paying jobs require education as well as science. So, you will be ahead of the game. For example, if you are interested in being a chef you could look into working for a high end restaurant that might pay for schooling and offer you chef position when you graduate. You could be a host, busser, or dish washer and work your way up. You could work in the mail room of a business you may be interested in working for after you graduate college. Doing so you can net work and get to know the hiring staff. Retail is always a good place for a teenager. You could work at one of your favorite clothing stores so you could get the latest fashions first at a discount. Plus, you could be promoted if you stick with it. You may be interested in working at the zoo or amusement park. I think it's great you want to get out there and earn your own money. Good luck.
We have to ask some questions about a chosen Shakespearean villain, and then answer them in any format. But there will be an exhibition, so there has to be some presentation element. People will have to interact and stuff with my presentation. My teacher says no powerpoints, and he wants us to be creative, to the extent of making vines etc. Any ideas? I'm doing Aaron from Titus Andronicus, by the way.
You should do an outdoors scavenger hunt. I always loved outdoor projects in school. Food is always a winner. Is there a way to incorporate snacks? You could also do like a saturday night live skit of one of the main scenes. How about doing a wheel of fortune type game or hang man. Take some of the main ideas or phrases and have teams guess letters. Win lose or draw could be fun as well.
Weird scenario where I disn't actually intend to send break up text. He got it though. I saw his profile on free dating site we had met on. I panicked and texted him. I explained I didn't really wanna break up and why had he jumped back to dating so fast? He said was just looking around and had no pics so noone knew who he was. Talked about taking some time and meet again later. Two hours later his profile was full of pics, including ones I had asked him to take for me and send me. Ugh. Why lie? Should I call him on it? I am hurt he lied.
There is really no reason to call him on it. Hes well aware you can see his profile and what he posts so clearly he doesn't care. If you sent him a break up text rather you meant to actually send it or not you did write it. How is he suppose to feel about this? Then you told him you didn't mean to send it, then what is going on? He probably wants a relationship with someone who isn't playing these type of games. Or perhaps he doesn't want to be tied down to one person. Hes within his rights to date whom ever he wishes if hes not in a vomited relationship just as you are. Just because he posted pics and is active on the dating site only proves hes looking to meet new people. If you are serious about pursuing a relationship with him it makes no sense that you would write such a text to begin with. You have to remembe you aren't the only one with feelings.
What can I say except I feel weird? Sometimes my heart feels like it is going to beat out of my chest and other times it is fine. Can a young person even have a heart attack at all? Please tell me what you know because I am scared of dying. Please?
A heart attack can have radiating pain down the left arm and tightness in the chest with varying amount of pain which is different for everyone. I've seen people have heart attacks and they kinda jerk backwards. Some don't even realize they had an attack. Although it's not common young people certainly can have a heart attack and any number of other serious heart conditions. Please go see a doctor right away. While hopefully it may not be anything serious you wont know without getting it checked out. If you don't have insurance go to the emergency room. They have to help you if you are in the United States. I'm not sure about other countries. But as I said get checked out right away just to be on the safe side.
is it safe to feed your dog this food now? the recall thing was a while ago and my dog really loves the nutro or innova food we used to feed her, but if it is still risky i don't want to hurt her. how do you know when it is safe to go back after a recall or do you just never use them again?
The store you purchased the food from should be aware of the recall. I would call them and ask if the product was purchased after the recall. However, if I were you I would not use it for awhile to be on the safe side. You also need to look on the shelves. If there is a lot on the shelves I would be leary. You may also want to go to a pet supply store rather than a grocery store or Walmart. A pet supply store is more likely to rectify situations sd this because pet supplies are their whole business. They aren't going to want a bad reputation on the very thing they sale where as a grocery store is less likely because their business is groceries. I hope this helps. Be careful and good luck.
How to break up with a guy you really care about. We have been dating 3 months. He shows up to my kids sporting events I am not even divorced yet although paper work is filed. I was married 4 years separated in July. I want to focus on me getting more in shape. It's a constant battle inside my head do I want to be with him I do its just not the right time. He is a sweet man. He tells me how much he cares about me how he wants us to work. Although he is looking.
You are exactly correct in your feelings and desires at this point. I'm sure you are a wonderful person which is why this other man so desperately wants to pursue a relationship with you. He can not help how he feels and his tenacity is sweet but he needs to understand and respect your need for time and space to get your own life in order first. If you haven't already told him and even if you have tell him again that although you care a great deal for him you have a lot on your plate and you are not emotionally available to put 100% into this relationship at this time. Tell him you are happy to have him as a great friend but right now you just can not move forward in the relationship he wants. Remember, you are important. Your feelings and desires matter and if he rely cares about you he will give you time. Of course you can't expect him to wait forever and thats the chance you have to take. You also must think about whats best for your children and thats a mother who has her head in the game feeling complete and satisfied with her self first. Remember, you are a person all by yourself. You don't need another guy or serious relationship. That is something that is an added bonus that will come in time. Like I already said, you are doing the right thing by getting yourself together first. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you are not ready for. I'm sure your last marriage was quite an eye opening experience that taught you many lessons about life and the world of compromise. Use that experience to make better choices in the future. Good luck and continue being true to yourself.
i've suffered anxiety like this for a while, but it's been gone for a year and i think it may be coming back.. or i actually have a health problem. usually, (with my anxiety), when i feel an ache or pain i google it and psyche myself out. i am a hypochondriac, (or at least i used to be), and idk if i'm forming it again. I've been feeling great pressure in my chest (i'm 18 years old so i have no idea if a heart condition should be a concern), and i keep belching. the belching relieves the pressure for a minute and then it all comes back. i can feel the air or "pressure" release for a few seconds when i belch. yesterday, i made myself vomit because i was nauseous. does that have to do with this? i read a lot about this belching sensation with pressure having to do with acid reflex but i'm unsure. i am scared that this is something serious and i'm just "assuming" it is anxiety. but on the other hand, if it was thattt serious wouldn't i not have the energy to worry or go on advicenators? help me!
I too often google symptoms of mine or my children and can usually find a horrible illness that fits. I think most of us can and the more we do it the more worried we become. Honestly, it sounds like your constant stress and worry are causing your gastric issues. You might find that your problem will subside if you stay off the internet googling symptoms and just relax. You are getting yourself all worked up. I would suggest seeing a doctor very soon. You may have an illness that needs addressing. However, it really doesnt sound heart related as much as more a gastric issue. Gas can feel like a heart attack I've been told. I know when I was pregnant I had horrible chest pain due to heart burn and it was awful. Also, do you ever recall for example being crazy in love with someone who broke your heart? I know for me when that happened I couldnt sleep or eat and had terrible chest pain from the constant stress. I think you may be feeling something similar. But like I said, see a doctor and stop googling. Get out doors soak in some sun even if it's cold. Take a walk for some fresh air. Do some stretches, drink lots of water, talk with friends who make you laugh. I think you will feel better in a matter of hours. Your mind and body just need some rest and relaxation. Oh, and one more thing; if I didn't say it before STOP googling symptoms!
relationship question. I am desperate for advice. I am 22, my boyfriend is almost 23. we have been dating on and off since we were in 8th grade, so for over 8 years now. we do not live together, we each still live at home with parents. i am 8 weeks away from graduating from college with a 4 yr degree, i also work part time. he has not had a single job in his life, and also dropped out of high school senior year. does not have his GED. our relationship is extremely strained because of this. we cannot go out to movies or out to eat because he is literally broke. his parents are enablers and give him money once or twice a week. he spends the money (usually 10 bucks is given) on beer and lottery tickets.
he is on medication for anxiety, has many social issues and is basically afraid of people. he is really overweight and hates himself for it and always talks about how much he hates life. I love him but it is getting really depressing never being able to do much and i work so hard all the time while he literally sleeps all day and for fun gets drunk with his friends.
whenever i try to talk to him about any of this seriously his temper flares and he immediately shuts down. he has lots of anger issues and has yelled, and i mean yelled at me before and curses at me when he is angry even over something little. i know he loves me, and i feel selfish for saying that isn't enough, but it isn't anymore. i don't know what to do. the obvious thing is to leave but i am trying to do anything in my power to fix things before giving up. i have offered to help him study for his GED but he never brings it up. Thanks for reading.
Please! Get away and quickly. He is going to drain your spirit as well as your bank account if you stick around. You are doing things with your life and have an incredible future ahead of you but I promise this guy will only bring you down. It's not that hes too depressed to progress in life because clearly he does the things he wants which consist of getting drunk with friends. If you stay with him his verbal abuse will become more frequent and more intense. These are the best years of your life. You are too special and worth so much more than this guy is giving you. You need someone with the same goals, drive, and determination as you have.Someone who will work with you, not against you. You are not responsible for looking yafter him, nor trying to help or fix his problems.
Hi! So I'm 18 & my boyfriend is 19, we've been dating for about 9 months now & we've started talking about having sex! I'm a little nervous because we are both virgins, but I really want to expierience this with him. He has a genetic disease called cystic fibrosis & because of this he is infertile. Even though I know this, I'm still scared about getting pregnant. We talked about it & he suggested that he just pulls out before...you know. But I'm still unsure... Any advice?
I suggest you definitely use a condom unless you are positive he is not having sex with anyone else not only for pregnancy reasons but also std risks. If you choose not to use a condom then you should use another form of birth control if for no other reason peace of mind for yourself. You wont be able to fully relax and enjoy the experience with worry and stress the whole time. Please dont rely on the word of anyone when it comes to your own safety and wellbeing. You must protect yourself because know one else has to walk in your shoes. Remember you are important and your life matters. Dont jump into anything you are unsure of. Trust me, as a mother of 3 young children sex is not all it's cracked up to be. There is so much more enjoyment that can be shared with your boyfriend. You guys can plan trips and travel, you two have a wonderful life ahead and sex is just one special activity that will always be there. So, listen to your head and love with your heart and be smart about it. Children are a lifetime commitment that you can enjoy later after you experience life.
I wasnt sure how else to send you a personal message but I just wanted to let you know that the paternity test was positive!! Thank Heavens!!! I appreciate your advice so much. I was really worried people would be rude about the situation but your advice was so kind and helpful and just what I needed and I appreciate it so much. I have to delete the question because I somehow added my full name and dont want anyone to find it. haha. Thanks again.
This is great news! Thank you so much for getting back to me, I'm so happy for you and glad I was able to be a positive outlet to vent to as well as ease your stress and worry even if only a little bit. Take care of yourself as well as your baby blessing.
13/m
So how can I make some money? Im 13 so obviously i cant get a job and i dont get paid for doing chores. Also when i want somthing at the store i ask my mom and she tells me to buy it with my own money but i dont have any way to make money. So yeah i was just wondering how i could make some money.
You could sell some of the items you no longer want.
You could sell some of your old clothes at a second hand shop.
Scrapping/recycling can make a nice amount. If you can get someone to drive the things you find to a recycling center you can collect heavy metals as well as small soda cans.
You could also help people load their groceries into their car and usually they will tip a dollar.
If you can bake you can try selling some baked cookies, cupcakes, muffins at places like a conner hair salon/barber shop or laundry mat.