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Q: Hey! Ok: so I have hundreds of pictures in my a box in my room. I take a roll at every other week. My question is: How can I display them in my room (without frames) I have some along my mirror. But what is a cool way of hahging them up? Thanks so much!

I think it would be cool if you got one of those cork boards, cuz it won't leave holes in your walls or anything. you can find them at a store like walmart or target.

.:+*MyStEry GIrL*+:.

Q: im in love with this guy. weve been going out for almost 9 months. its real love, not just your average 14 year old junk. anyway.. i just totally dont feel like i deserve him. hes way too good for me. he loves me and he wants to be with me, but i just want the best for him. last night i broke up with him because i think he can do so much better. i want him to be with someone that does deserve him. i cant stop crying and i stole his cape (dont ask) and im attached to it. i miss him so much. but weve broken up and gotten back together so many times, it wouldnt be fair if i got back with him now. what should i do? please help me!

Never think that you don't deserve a guy!! A lot of girls i know would kill for what you have, and you just threw it away! If he wants to be with you, that should definately be enough. It seems to me like you guys really care about each other. You have to tell him how you feel, but im not sure surpirsing him at church is a good idea. He could be pretty angry at you right now..Maybe you should call him up instead.

Good Luck!

Q: well heres the deal, my parents have been divorced since a was like 3 (im 13 now). ive always lived with my mom and my dad lives over 300 miles away. i can only see my dad every-other weekend and i really don't like that. i miss my dad a lot when im not over there and im thinking about maybe moving over to his house. but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings or leave all my friends here (but i don't think that making new friends will be a problem). ive also been having lots of problems with my mom lately...
what do you think i should do?
i'll rate high

You have to be honest with your mom, or else things will never get better. Tell her gently, and say that you think you're missing out on having a dad, and you want to get to know him better. Say you love her a lot and that will never change, it's just that you have another parent too that you want to spend time with.
Still, you should realize that you're always going to miss one parent, and im guessing that feeling won't go away. Also make sure you work out the problems you're having with your mom!

I hope this helped!!
Mystery*Girl

Q: I'm in eighth grade, I've never had a boyfriend, and life's confusing. I just got back from a school dance, and once again, I didn't dance with ANYBODY. I have never ever had a boyfriend or danced with anybody :( I really want to..It's not that I NEED a boyfriend, but I just want someone to dance with at the dances sometimes. No one ever asks me or anything. That's because I'm too ugly so they won't ask me (at least I think so). I am being myself, and I just hang out with my friends there. But I just think that it's weird that I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm almost in highschool. I know I don't need a boyfriend but I want one..one of the guys I like, at least. My friends are always dancing with guys at the dances and I'm just sitting there, being bored. I don't want to ask the guys to dance either, because I know they'll say 'no'. I KNOW they will, because I'm ugly. I am not popular, I'm not a geek/nerd. I'm in the middle. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I DEFINATELY know I'm not the prettiest. I don't know how to deal with this. Please..any advice?

A LOT of people I know have never had a boyfriend or slow dance, and im in the 8th grade, too. You just can't push so hard, just enjoy the dance with your friends. I know it would probably get lonely sometimes, but guys get just as scared to ask girls to dance as we are. There could be a guy at your school who is totally crushing on you and you dont even know it. When you relax, things just happen, believe me. Or you could just ask a really good guy friend to dance, no pressure. Don't ever think you're ugly, or you'll never get a guy! They love confidence! Have you ever seen a really quiet girl in the corner with a boyfriend? No! Besides, you'll never be the prettiest girl in the world, no one is! Just work with what you've got and be happy for it!

Keep me posted!
MySTeRyGiRL

Q: my boyfriend seems like hes my life i cant stop ever thinking about him and i always talkt o him on the phone and on AIM but now my grades are failing and my mom and dad says that if i dont get my grades up my life will be a living hell!!! there really strict on my grades! i dont know what i should do how do i jugle my boyfriend and school? also my friends?!!! also my boyfriend lives right next door thats why i see him so much!! thank you~!

All you have to do is work out a schedule. Like when you get home, first make sure that you finish all of your homework and studying. Don't rush, either. Then you can spend the rest of your day hanging with your bf and friends.

MySTeRy*GiRL

Q: ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST

bball player,

Just pretend the boys aren't there. All you have to do is focus on the game. If you mess up, just laugh about it, who cares? Most importantly, have fun!

MysteryGirl

Q:
I've lost my voice, and I was wondering if anybody knew any useful remedies to help me to a speedy recovery, as I'm supposed to be singing in a carol concert on Sunday and in the coming week. I've heard honey and lemon is good for throats, and obviously not trying to strain my voice any more. Any additional ideas?

I've heard that a humidifier is really good for the voice, cause it keeps your throat moist. A lot of famous singers use them.

I hope this helped!
MyStErY gIrL

Q: my guy friend came over a little while ago. i like him alot. but he is still getting over a past love and wants to go out with her again when her and her new b/f break up. only thing is i know he likes me. should i make a move or wait for his thing for this other girl to blow over?

If he likes you, why does he want to go out with someone else? Either this guy is extremely confused, or he likes more than one girl at once. This is not good! He should pick one or the other, so he isn't playing with anyone's feelings. If he truly likes you, go for it! If not, maybe you should just let him get this other girl out of his system and see how things go from there.

~*~mYSTERYgIRL~*~

Q: ok here it is me and my x bf(now) we were together 4 like a few months and we broke up because im moving over the summer but the thing is that i still have feelings 4 him and he told me the same thing i dont know if i should go back out with him even though i know he still likes me and he said so himself...im 14 and live in fla by the way

Confused,
I think that you guys should keep your relationship going long distance, to see how things go. It seems like you guys really care about each other, so this might work. Still, a long distance relationship is one of the hardest to keep going...you'd have to send a lot of letters, talk on the phone, computer, ect, and possibly visit each other during vacas. Just give it a shot and see how things go..

Goood Luck!
MysteryGirl

Q: Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

Let me just tell you to make sure you don't want to go out with him, cause he could turn out really sweet...Idk him tho, so if he really is weird, here's some suggestion on how to tell him:
~Tell him the classic: you just wanna be friends
~Say that you don't really want a bf right now
~You don't like him that way, but he's really nice or some sort of compliment like that
~Tell him that you don't really know him that well, and maybe you guys should be friends for awhile and see what happens

Q: me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate

You should never do something that you really don't want to do! If your bf truly loves you, I think he would understand that. I think you should sit him down and tell him that you don't want to take the relationship to that level yet, and that you just want to take things slower. You're only 14, so make sure you don't do something that you're gonna regret later!

Good Luck!
MysteryGirl

Q: hey! well me and this girl have been friends since i could remember! im a girl too and i am 13. it use to be that i could talk to her about ANYTHING! but lately i have found that i cant talk to her the same way. now whenever i have some secret to tell her i feel embaressed and usually i just dont tell her at all! she has no idea about how i feel with anything thats going on in my life right now. and i feel like i need to talk to someone....but not her! i start crying a lot lately because of all the stuff thats going on in my life and i feel that if i could talk to someone i would feel muchhhh better. but i cant talk to her. what should i do? its just not the same as before! thanks

I think you and your friend are starting to take different paths....Things are never going to be like they used to be, but maybe you should have a long talk with her. Even if you guys have changed, she could surprise you and be a lot of help. If you're still hesitant to talk to her, maybe you should give another one of your friends a chance.

I hope this helped!!
**MysteryGirl

Q: one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation?

You have to get her some help RIGHT AWAY! Don't let her stop you, no matter how mad she is at you. Believe me, she'll thank you in the long run. Tell a counselor, teacher, or another trusted adult about her problems, or call a local hotline. If you have a health teacher, ask him/her for more suggestions.

Good Luck!!
.:+*MysteryGirl*+:.

Q: my crush says that he can't get a gf right now because he is busy with other stuff! I heard he likes me from my other classmates. does that mean he is not that into

Your crush could just be saying this to the girl because he doen't want to hurt her feelings. If this is really what he did, than he is definatelty worth crushing on! The only way to really find out how he feels about you is to ask him if he likes you, and then if he says yes ask him if he really isn't ready for a gf.

I hope this helped!!
~MysteryGirl

Q: ok, here's the scoop, i asked one of my friends to talk to the guy that i like....she said that he hates me and thinx i'm ugly and stuff. i don't know whether or not to believe her and i don't know what to do. i don't really think he'd say that, but should i ask him or what? please help if you can. thanx
~ArL0*

Arlo,
First you have to ask yourself how much you trust this friend. She could have lied to you, especially if she was jealous or didn't want to see you happy. Me and many other people I know have the problem of asking other friends to confront people about our issues for us, because we are afraid or embarassed. Believe me, you dont want that problem. I think you should just ask him yourself.

I hope this helped!!
~MysteryGirl