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Can someone define the diffrence between love and being in love...anything corny is fine! Or could you define love itself.

Oh and is it possible to find love at any age? 15?

Love is just like saying 'i love you!' to your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Being IN LOVE is like really meaning 'i love you', like an intimate and soulful thing that you say to your soulmate, your lover. the person you want to be with for the rest of your live. it has a lot more meaning than just 'love'.

it IS possible to find love at 15 years, but it is difficult to know if you are in love. if you are in love, then the person you are in love with would say the same to you. if you do have a boyfriend, then try finding out if they feel the same way about you. you dont want to say that you are 'IN LOVE' if the other person isnt. i dont want to insult you in ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM, but they may get eeked out. dont be afraid to ask if he feels the same. everyone can make mistakes.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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well there is this guy...he tells me that he likes me but he always uses the excuse "i dont want a girlfriend right now" i really like him and i have for 2 years now...am i suppose to just forget about him? i dont know what to do i could really use some help...thanks

that is pathetic!!! if he likes you then he OBVIOUSLY would want you as his girlfriend!!! talk to him. ask him why he dosent want a girlfried, and yet he LIKES YOU. be flattered that he likes you, but keep your options open. look for new guys, and if one shows up...dont feel guilty about this other boy liking you. Its HIS FAULT that he missed his shot. =D

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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ok well there's this guy and he likes me and 3 of my other friends and he's obsessed w/ me and i don't mean to sound conceited but its so annoying and all he talks to me about is how hot i am and one of his favorite lines to say online is "you love me wut?" and he always does this and he's always like "i want you hardcore on the bathroom in the shower" and stuff like that and its really sickening and i want him to stop..but i mean he's one of my friends..and i hate when he does that..and he's just the most annoying person ever..and i'm sick of him saying that stuff..but i don't know how to say it..how should i tell him that he's so annoying and i want him to stop saying that kind of stuff to me..?

thats disgusting. even if he is your friend, i suggest that you do something about his way of speaking to you. HE IS TOTALLY DISRESPECTING YOU!!! if he liked you he wouldnt make you feel uncomfortable like this. tell him that. tell him that if he cared about you that he would respect you and what you want for yourself. if you DONT want to even be his friend, then really give it to him. just push him away if you need to, he shouldnt be like that.

hope this helped!!! good luck ;-D

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ok. theres this boy in my 2nd block class and i have never talked to him before, although i think hes waay hott. sometimes whenever the teacher says something funny or they play some weird music on the bulletin, we always turn around and look at each other and laugh. its like we have known each other for a long time and we're friends...but we have never talked before! The other night I dreamt that he talked to me and the next day he actually did talk to me for the first time! i joined in on the conversation he was having with my friend. he didn't say much to me, because I hadn't said very much, but it was a start. i don't know why though me and him look at each other a lot! and we laugh too! we don't even know each other, hes a complete stranger to me, but when he do that and look n laugh, i feel like i've known him forever! my friends think he likes me...is that even possible? i'm terribly sorry this is soo long! i'll rate VERY good i promise! sorry again!

~ Wondering if there's a "connection" ~

thats really cute!!! that has actually happened to me before also. I dont want to get your hopes up, because he may just want to be your friend...but if your friend says she/he thinks he likes you...then i'd say he probably does!!! Just try talking to him more, like you are doing. Try making it possible for you to sit near him in class(es), and find out his AIM sn or email. Thats always a good way to talk because you can say anything you want online. Its a LOT easier! I DO think it is possible that he likes you. Maybe he is thinking the same thing...'does she like me???' he may just be shy and not want to look like a fool. if you make the first move, then he may get more comfortable with you =D.

hope i helped!!! good luck ;-D

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well me and my g/g have been goin out 4 bout 3 weeks now and she wants to hold hands with me and i see seniors and ppl like that holding hands but my one friend thats a girl doesnt want me 2 hold hands with my g/f and im confused bout wat to do hold hands or listen to my friend????


signed
confused

Confused,
I think you should hold your girlfriends hand. It is romantic, and you should please your girlfriend...rather than your friend. Your friend may be jelious or something like that, but I think you shouldnt listen to her.

Hope I helped!!! thanks for the question.

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okay the other night my friend (who moved to the total other end of the u.s like a year ago) well her ex came to my bedroom window and opened it, climbed in, woke me up and was liek i like you alot and i was like half asleep and he all of a sudden took my clothes off and well basically raped me and then when he was done he jumped out my window and i havent seen him since..what should i do..he like raped me and took my virginity(hes 17 and im only 15)..idk what to do..now i cant save my virginity for like the right person or nehting...i need some help quikly..



no matter ur answers ill rate 5's cuz i need the help!!

thats horrible!! call the police, thats a crime and he should be punished for it. you dont want to hurt your friend!!! and about your virginity, it is sad that you lost it to some bastard that didnt deserve you...but forget about it. when you are with the one you really love that wont matter. give your love all of you, and dont let the bitch that raped you come to your mind. hes pathetic and needs help. if u dont want anything to do with him then call the police. i dont care. call the police. he violated you and he shouldnt have.

hope this helped!! if u need anything else please feel free to ask me =D

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Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do?

DO NOT BE SCARED TO SHOW YOUR FAITH!!! :-D Be proud in your faith in the Lord!!! God wants you to be intimidated by those who do not follow him, it encourages you to keep pushing forward...and spreading the Lords word. I am currently reading a book called 'Jesus Freaks' and it is about martyrs (people who are pursecuted and die in the name of Jesus Christ) and it reminds me over and over again, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!!! The Christian religion is the most wide spread religion in the world, so just think that EVERYWHERE there are Christans pursecuted for their religion, and still DIE in Gods name. When someone makes fun of you, just piss them off by saying 'God Loves You!!!' or something that you KNOW will just tick them off. Dont be uncomfortable about your love for Jesus...your friends should understand that you follow Jesus with pride and strength. If you want, preach to your friends about the Lord...tell them to listen to you. There are so many wonderful rewards for living for God...in Heaven. Notice that over 40 people answered this question?? SEE?!?! You are NEVER alone, so never think that you are a freak just for loving God. My friends pursecute me sometimes about having a strong faith in God, but I push it out of my mind and continue to live for the Lord. If they are really your friends, they wont reject you. And if they do...use this (i have and it worked) For example, lets say one of your friends like movies a lot. Well you love Jesus, so if they make fun of you for loving Jesus...make fun of her for liking to see movies. Put some sence into their heads about the whole thing, and they will see that they were persecuting you for no reason. MAke sure to include the people being martyred around the world, and any other details. If you want, you can pick up that book i mentioned. Its brillaint and i think you will like it. :-D its called 'Jesus Freaks...and the Voice of the Martyrs' (there are a few books in the series, so make sure you pick up that one)

Hope i helped!!! PLEASE feel free to ask me ANYTHING!!!

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Ok so here is the deal i wanna tell people about god. and i know that it is a good thing andi have planned to sing at this years talent show. like a gossple song i dunno what i am gunna sing but i do know i am gunna do it but what i don't know to do is
how to show people that i am a strong christian.

how do i approach people into asking god into there lives and stuff

thnx

Brilliant! I am really happy that you have decided to spread God's word. :-D I actually had converted my Athiest friend into a Christian, and I shall tell you how. I approached him, and asked him why he believed in being an Athiest. I though this may have been a little rude at first, but he seemed not to mind. Some people are scared of converting because they have a Cathloic background, or a background of a strict religion. Make sure to mention how much fun the Christian religion is!!! Its more about free will than it is about rules rules rules. If you want, mention the Christian rock bands...i am sure that will intregue some people. :-P If they seem interested, try asking if they will come with you to Church...or if your chuch is like mine...and extra session where we play games and sing and such. After saying these things, my friend agreed to come to the extra chuch session, and now he is doing the 30 Hour Famine with me and my Christian friends!!! (The 30
Hour Famine is a thing where chuches around the world go without food for 30 hours, and raise money to help lessen world hunger.....as you may know).
Also, about the song you want to sing at your talent show, I reccomend maybe something by Jeremy Camp, Steven Curtis Chapman, Relient K (if possible), or SonicFlood (they have awesome songs)....(even Rascal Flatts has some good Christan songs). Good luck!!!

hope this helped!!! please feel free to ask me anything else, i'd be glad to help :-D

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Do you all think that you are responsible for what you dream about? Like, lets say for example, you don't cuss or something...Well, are you responsible for that kind of stuff?

Yes, in some part you are responsible for your dreams...for you dream about what you are thinking about in that present time. I dont know if we ourselves twist the dream into confusion...but for the baisic 'plot' of your dream, you are responsible for that.

hope i helped =D feel free to ask me anything

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here is something i dont understand and i sont know if anyone here understands it. Why are we here just why i dont understand it we were put here by god but why it makes no sense. i mean think we live just so we can die it makes no sense so i dont understan why we would be put here by god it makes no sense because one day we could be alive and the next we could be dead just why.

we are here because God created us for a purpose, and he has a plan for each and every one of us. NO ONE knows why God wants us here, but we live for God everyday...at least some of us. We make up silly accusations of why we are here, but science could be wrong, right?? They are wrong about TONS of things...so maybe this is one. Our purpose is to live for God so we will be saved in the end.

hope this helped, feel free to ask me anything =D

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Ok so at school there is this really hot/nice guy. We talked to eachother before but not alot. He has a girlfriend but he has told a few people that he likes me too. He also says that hes going to stay with his girlfriend. But one day at PE he came sat by me there was no room by me so he asked my friend to move over so he could sit by me. I kinda do and kinda dont want them to break up. i just hate it because i cant ever get a boyfriend. I really like this guy what should i do???

well, if he confronts you about liking you...or if you just have the guts to do it...ask him if he is still going out with so and so (even though you know that he is, see what he says...maybe he needs a reminder...lol). if he does ask you out and he is still going out with the other girl, i advise you not to date him...hes shallow and a player (sounds like he isnt if he is a nice guy). but if he isnt then i'd say go for it!

hope i helped =D...i've been in the same expirence and i know it can be awkward.

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Does anyone know if I can I have more than one Iguana in my house?

~Nokomis~

i have an iguana. hes cool, lol =P yes you can have more than one in the same house, and in the same cage. when i got Draco (my dude), he was in a cage with like 5 other iguanas. just make sure that they get along before you make the move permadent. have a second option at hand.

hope i helped!! say hey to ur little green guy =P lol

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my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

omg. i am really sorry for your friend and you! i cant believe someone would do that. its disgusting and wrong and horrid and SADJFHASLFAWLIUHFALJKSDFALKJSNCLKSJCNASD!!!!!!!!! someone shoot the fucking bastard from hell. he will rot with the devil. did anyone call the police??? this guy should be arrested IMMIDIATLY!!! please get some help for her, i am in awe. also, if she/you are Godly people, i suggest you pray for her, and have her pray that everything will be OK. God really can comfort you in the darkest times...if you want more advice on THAT subject please message me.

i hope this helped in the greatest way. good luck to you and your friend!!!

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im 14 years old(male) and i keep cutting myself. I've tried to stop but i keep doing it. I ve talked with my friends to see if they could help me out and one of them started to cut too! i really dont know what to do please help me out.

wow, im glad i talked to you then. i cut myself often too, but that was before i did something about it. first you SHOULDNT ever tell your friends about what you do alone. you can never trust anyone with something like that. when i cut, i used to do it alone and in the dark...try getting yourself into something that will distract you. i was so depressed...and wanting something to take away the pain...so i know how you feel. if you like music then blast it when ever you are feeling upset or just fuckin pissed off at the world. it helps. believe me.start writing...i write poetry all the time. but it dosent have to be poetry...just write what you feel. throw your emotions out on paper rather than feel it through blood. if your friends do it, give them the same advice i have...they are only doing it because you did. i know... tell them you have stopped, and then they will feel alone in the world. make it kind of a thing with both of u...and chill together when ur ticked off. and dude...i seriously dont give a SHIT what these other people say. NO WAY IN HELL DO YOU GO TO A TEACHER OR A PARENT. are you kidding me?? they wont understand how you feel...your a teenager......are they?? i didnt think so. =D

i hope i helped you, good luck!! =D if you ever need anything else PLEASE feel free to ask me anything...i am here to help those i can relate too =P.

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there is this guy i like that i send letters to but i was wondering should i ask him if he is single or would that be to rude of me?

hmm difficult. has he answered the letters?? if he hasnt he may get a little eeked out by it...so wait until he answers your letters. if he has, then that means hes comfortable with you as a friend...so i'd say go for it! if you dont want to say stright out 'are you single', change the wording to something more comfortable for you to say.

hope i helped!!! good luck =D

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Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high!

well, my opinion is to actually break it off with 'justin'. i mean, make it offical. wouldnt you feel more comfortable knowing that you havent made a mistake??? it sounds like you really like 'kyle', so dont torture yourself like this!!! GET RID OF THE OTHER DUDE. lol. if he has forgotten about you also, then thats a TOTAL sign to finalize the break up. its more reassuring.

hope this helped, =D good luck!!!

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Ok, well lately, many of my friends have been smoking weed. I tell them that it's stupid and that it can harm your health, and stuff such as that, but they keep telling me that weed doesn't harm your body in any way what-so-ever. If anyone knows, can you please tell me what side-effects you may get from smoking weed? (I'm a 14/f, if that's important, which I don't think it is.)

okkk...well they are completely oblivious to the fact that weed can TOTALLY damage your lungs. MY science teacher had this whole section of our school year on the damage of ANY kind of smoking. My friend also thought it didnt do anything...thought she didnt smoke...and my teacher laughed and said 'you have got to be kidding me'. From a perofessional website, these are the effects...
Effects in General: Euphoria; Relaxed inhibitions; Increased appetite; Disorientation

Overdose: Fatigue; Paranoia; Possible psychosis

Withdrawl Syndrome:Occasional reports of insomnia; Hyperactivity; Decreased appetite

hope i could help you, i know some people that are on drugs and i am trying to help too. its a good thing you are doing. =D

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