I give my friends a lot of advice on a variety of different things and while I'm at work, I tend to be quite bored and don't have much to do so I was surfing the net and found this site and thought it might be interesting. I've been through a lot...so I think I can help some people out...
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I have a new boyfriend at university, but I find myself keeping this news from my friends at home because I don't want it to get back to my ex-boyfriend, becase he is in a very fragile place at the moment and it would really hurt him to find out that I've moved on to somebody else. What I'm trying to do is protect my ex-boyfriend, because I still care about him and don't want to hurt him any more than is necessary, but I feel bad for misleading him and my other friends. Would it be better to just come clean, even if it hurts him in the short term, or should I wait until he's in a better place until I break the news? (link)
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If you don't tell your friends and ex now they might feel betrayed by you later for keeping a secret from them. However, its not really their business. If they ask don't lie, but you don't need to go out of your way to tell them. Let them mention it first if that's easier.
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Ok hey well i have these 2 friends that i always have classes w/ we rarely never have class together maybe like 2 hrs outta the day..but in all the hours we do..they never really wanna talk to me they always ignore me like im not there and leave me out..and if i don't talk they get pissed off..and im sick of them absolutely am sick of there stupid crap they throw fits if i dont freakin give them there way..and lately..its really gotten to me cuz mostly this one girl is always talkin about her boyfriend..and im so0o sick of hearing about him b/c trust me hes my ex boyfriend and hes not that friggn special! we fought all the time..n he just wants her for sex..but you cant tell her that b/c shes so0o stuck up! so0o i guess my questoin is..how do i talk to these people about my built up anger that could explode @ ne moment and get tonz of people pissed off @ me!
Thanks a Bunch
Ill rate if i think its good or if u attempt
xOvEr AnD oVeR aGaInx (link)
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It sounds like you have some really annoying and childish "friends." First off, real friends don't behave like that. Secondly, they throw fits??? How old are they??? Personally, I'm very picky about who I hang around. I don't want to be around people that don't keep me happy and that are demanding. Also if they make you feel like that I can just imagine how they are towards people who aren't their friends. Don't explode, my advice, sadly, would be find some new friends or if these "friends" of yours only behave like this in school, ignore them in school. If they're treating you like this outside of school, you really need to drop them. Groups are a hard thing to deal with in school. There's always the leader, the followers and then generally there's the one that is there for everyone's amusement. Its sad, but its a high school thing. No matter which clique, popular, rejects, nerds, there's always one that is chosen to be left out and is just there for some random reason. Unfortunately for some reason you seem to be that chosen one...you seem like a very intelligent and nice person, its your friends that seem to have the issue. Find some new friends and get a different position in the group. I hate school politics. When you get out of high school, things are much much better. I wish you the best of luck.
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Well, to start it off I'm 17/f.. and i'm gay, recently out of denial lol... But since then there's been this girl who you can easily tell by the way she is (short hair, built, style) that she is definitely gay and I'm so incredibly interested in her. But she's a freshman in college and I'm a senior in high school and never see her. We talk here and there onlnie but it's never really personal enough to get into details about her and evertyhing and the convos are 9 times out of 10 cut really short... But to cut to teh chase, I don't think seh knows that I'm gay and I'm not the type of person to just come out and say it, since it's pretty new to me. Do you have any suggestions on how I can get the hint across?
P.S. I plan on going to the college she's at (not b/c she's there but b/c I really liked it and I actually only got to know her better from seeing her there b/c I only knew her from 1 sball game against her) So if you think I should just wait until next year to actually pursue it, that's fine. I just want to know what you think.. (link)
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Be honest. Tell her that you are gay and see her reaction. If you can't tell her face to face, then tell her online. If it freaks you out, send the message and then minimize the conversation until you are ready to deal with it. To keep it from sounding like just a random revelation, someone mentioned that you ask about clubs at the college, that's a great thing to do. Trying to come up with subtle ways of getting the message across will just be more complicated. Everyone appreciates honesty and someone who is upfront. Take care and good luck!!!
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ok ladies i need your help haha,
ok every girl has worn lipstick at least once in their life, but what if youre about to have a makeout session with your boyfriend while wearing lipstick, doesnt it get all over his face or something, and make a big mess? well, please help quickly! i kinda need help NOW!
thanks! (link)
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That's part of the fun!!! Make a mess. Actually unless you put it on right before you see him and you use a lot, then most likely it won't make much of a difference. Just a little smudge and that's no big deal. Lip gloss is always a nice alternative to lipstick anyways, especially for kissing, little mess and much softer lips. Revlon has this new lip gloss...I forget the name exactly and I left mine at home, but I highly recommend it, its a little rectangular tube and its great. the first night i wore it tons of guys commented on what beautiful lips I have...and i have tiny lips.
On a side note...a little lipstick on his face is not as bad as it could be. This past weekend I met up with my guy for a quickie and he happened to have his face painted red and I forgot about how messy it is...and ended up with a bright red face. I looked like an idiot, but hey it was worth it. Its hard to embarass me anyways.
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Hi everyone! I probably sound a little dumb, but I never knew what's going on with politics and stuff.... I just wanted to know, since elections are today, when do we get to know who the winner is? Do we get to know tonight or tomorrow? Can someone please tell me because I want to know who wins the presidential elections! Thanks so much! (link)
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It depends on which time zone you're in. Polls in Hawaii for example won't be closed til midnight eastern time, so if the race is close we won't know til midnight eastern time (6pm Hawaii, 9pm Cali...and so forth). Otherwise whoever gets 270 electoral college votes first will win, which I think could be as early as 8pm or so...but the race is so tight that its not likely. If the vote is too close and contested, who knows when we'll find out who won. Once again it'll probably depend on how much Florida messes things up. :) I happen to live in Florida and in one of the counties that caused trouble in the last election (I wasn't living here so I didn't vote though), things seemed to be going well this morning...so despite all the lost absentee ballots hopefully things will go fine. If we have any sense tomorrow there will be a new president. :)
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I am currently a first year university student. I have a problem with a talkative person that always comes to sit next to me during lectures. It is extremely annoying to have someone talk during a lecture, especially to you. It is also annoying to have people in the lecture give you dirty looks for 'disrupting' everything when you haven't said a word at all. That is besides the point. I am wondering what possible things can I do to keep this person from talking or sitting next to or near me? I have tried to be nice, and I have tried to be rude and forward - neither works. I have explicitly told this person that they need to shut up so I can listen and they responded, "Ok but just listen to this..." It is beyond the point of frustration. Even when I move, that person always shows up to where ever I am and manages to find me. I cannot come late because a) I am already in that lecture hall from a class directly before and b) because this person is always very very late to the point of getting into a seat right as the lecture is starting. I am not entirely comfortable with asking a random person to please 'sit in this seat next to me, please oh please.'
Whatever can I do?! (link)
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If they don't understand when you are polite to them, tell them bluntly to shut up and that you're paying to listen to the professor and not them. I guarantee that person won't sit next to you again. Its not like high school where you're definitely going to have to see the person again. If you go to a large enough university you probably will never be bothered by this person again.
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well.. i'm in 8th grade. i feel way too old to go out trick or treating, but i have nothing else to do!! plus, nobody is going with me. should i just go for my last time, or skip it?? when did everyone else stop?? (link)
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You are not too old to go trick or treating!!! I stopped when I was 16 I think and I would have kept going, but I'm tall and a lot of people yelled at me because they thought I was much older. I love Halloween and now that I'm older I'm so happy to have it back again...only now no candy, but rather alcohol and partying. Don't stop if you don't want to. I'd give anything to go again. Find some one to go...family anyone...the best part about is going with people and causing trouble and goofing off. Hope you have a great Halloween!!! I'm dressing up as a belly dancer and I plan to get sufficiently trashed and dance on tables in some of the local clubs at the street party they throw here. :) Oh the fun you have to look forward to!!!
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There is a school dance tonight and i'm not sure if i should go!! i want to but there are these girls who are mean and i'm afraid they might try to pick a fight with me tonight! Should i go? and if i go and they confront me what should i do? what should i say? (link)
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Don't let anyone else ruin your fun. But if you're afraid you're going to get jumped, bring some large and strong friends with you. If its guaranteed you're going to get into a fight...is the dance that important??? Weigh your options and decide whats the best choice.
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I'm 15/f ... and I liked a certain guy last year... and once i was talking to him and he totally crushed me, he said he wanted to go out with me, and then told me he was just kidding. Well he went out with another girl. Well I thought i would never have feelings for him again since he was so mean. Well yesterday he broke up with this girl, and I still have feelings for him- strong feelings. What do I do?! (link)
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Ahh, he's a jerk. STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM. Move on. Find a nicer guy. You don't want sloppy seconds anyways. Never go for a guy that rejected you for some other chick...its bad. sorry.
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Well my boyfriend is acting really strange...well he always act like he doesnt want to do anything with me i always have to make the plans...he doesnt call me....he doesnt ask to meet me places accept for at times that is really not a good time...and i call him all the and he doesnt pick up unless i send a text message saying PICK UP YOUR PHONE...and i think that is very unacceptable i dont want to take up tooo muck of your time but please help HELP (link)
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We are not meant to chase after guys like that. I have had so many guys pull that with me. He usually is the one who started the relationship and so in the beginning he calls all the time and eventually I start calling occasionally...then he gets used to it and its always my responsibility to call. As things go on, he stops picking up his phone and makes up random ass excuses why he didn't pick up. I get pissed and just end it...and they wonder why. I have a list of guys calling and there is no reason why I should run after one fool because he likes to be chased. Don't call him. If he's your boyfriend he should be more considerate. Threaten him and tell him that if he doesn't change its over. If he refuses to change, move on. Now some guys are just like that by nature...but they're not going to improve...so if it already annoys you now...think about it a long time from now. I can't deal with irresponsibility...so those guys are immediately crossed off my list. Be confident always and know that things should either be equal (with regards to calling and making plans) or if anything he should be chasing after you. That's the ways its always been and how it always should be. A bit old fashioned, but its the truth.
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ok, i had been liking this guy, and i told him that i liked him in a note, but now i havent a clue what to say to him. i feel like such an idiot..im not very good at this sort of thing. i dont know what to do. should i just let it go and hope he brings it up sometime, or do I bring it up, since i am the one who wrote the darn thing. please help me!! im stuck in the middle..i talk to him, but just about everyday stuff and its driving me crazy. thanks guys, y'all are awesome! (link)
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The ball is in his court. If he likes you let him do something. If he doesn't like you back then he won't do anything, so just move on and find another hottie. :) No sense in wasting your time, there are plenty of other guys out there.
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i didnt know where to put this but when you get your braces off, how do they do it and does it hurt? thanks :) (link)
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Getting your braces off doesn't hurt at all. It feels funny. They basically take pliers and pull them off. It just feels like a tug each time they do it. Afterwards your teeth will feel all funny and slimey. But its great. No big deal. Ahhh the rubber bands...I had to wear those for a while. I hated them. Each person is different with how long they have to wear them. Its to realign your jaw, like ifyou have an over/underbite...so if your jaw moves quickly then you don't have to wear them as long. I hated braces and had them for a little over a year...went through a lot of pain and suffering, but the day they came off it was nothing. No worries, it all pays off in the end. Just make sure you wear your retainer when they're off, you wouldn't want to have to go through the process again. :)
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Should i ask out a girl everyone hates in school? (link)
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Find out why everyone hates her first, ask the intelligent people though. There might be something about her that you wouldn't want to get mixed up in. If its just childish stuff, then go for it. Do what makes you happy and screw the rest of the school. :)
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how can i meet a guy .. the mall school & park are all taken lol =) anyway i could meet someone over the internet? (what sites?) (link)
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Depending on your age, I would say probably don't meet people over the internet. I have done it a few times, but I'm 22 now and have a better ability to read people. At 14 or even 18, I probably would not have been able to and trust me it could mean big trouble. Other options besides the mall, school, and park...through friends is always the safest way to go, but not always possible. If you're religious, church/temple...etc...I'm not religious but a bunch of my friends are and almost all of their boyfriends they met at church retreats, bible study..etc. Get involved with more activities at your school, you'd be surprised how many people you don't know. Once again it depends on your age, but coffee shops and book stores are usually good. This is all of course you are looking for a "good" guy. Otherwise, if you're old enough bars and clubs are always other options (but typically just for hookups)or if you're not old enough, kids are always throwing parties around towns on weekends, grab a friend and show up, generally no one pays attention to who shows up. If you're not thrilled with the group of guys at your school...try another school nearby. In the town I went to high school in there were three high schools, one private and two public. The town was basically divided by the two public schools...so I ventured to the other side of town and made a couple friends there and met a few guys. Anyways, I hope I was of some help. Only use the internet as a last resort.
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Do any of you ever get into those moods where all you can do is think of everything that you hate about yourself? how do u make those feelings go away...? let me know (link)
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Get out of your house, stop thinking so much about it. There's no reason for anyone to hate themself unless they are a serial killer or something along those lines. If you hate yourself you're probably comparing yourself to others and not happy with what you see...who cares, live for yourself. No one else matters but you in the end. Hang out with friends that are positive and generally in good moods. Nobody is perfect and nobody is completely flawed. I'm sure there are many positive attributes about you. COncentrate more on those and you will be happy. Find something you're good at...a sport, art...anything...my case I concentrated on languages because I had a talent for that...so no matter how bad I felt about myself I could always be proud of that.
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Im tall like not gigantic but im bout 5 6' and im 14 and im not even 100 pounds i dont have an eating disorder i just have always been really skinny cuz i have a good metabolism. How can I gain weight so people will stop making fun of me and i'll feel better about myself? (link)
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You're only 14 so trust me the weight will eventually come. If you're that desperate you can always go to a health suppliment store (GNC...etc) and get weight gaining powder. Wrestlers and body builders use it...just be cautious...don't overdo it...if you ever saw the movie Mean Girls you know what I mean. :)
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can ne one give me some quick tips to lose a lot of weight in a little time??? im 5'5.5 and i weigh like 170...:/ i feel like im really fat but, im not! i juss wanna b able to have a flat stomach...should i run, do crunches, or what?!?! HELP ME OUT!! (link)
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Besides working out...crunches etc...change your diet. Drink lots of water, ridiculous amounts of it...eat lots of high fiber food and avoid sugars and fats at all costs. Water and Fiber. hehe. You'll spend more time in the bathroom, but the weight will come off quickly. Or you can always opt for those stackers pills (if they're still even legal)...they make you lose weight fast, but they also make you go crazy since from what I understand they contain the equivalent of a small dose of speed. Just walk more often and keep active. Instead of watching tv do something that involves movement. hope I was of some help.
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Okay. My boyfriend and I are thinking about going for the whole oral sex thing...and something about the whole subject really weirds me out. Like, I can't imagine giving a guy a blowjob, but it weirds me out even more to think of him going down on me.
For background, we've been together over 11 months, we've had sex, and we've usually kinda skipped over the oral issue. If it matters, I'm 17 and he's 18. I know I should just wait 'til I'm comfy with the whole idea, but I don't think I'll be comfy with it until I figure out what it is that's weirding me out. Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If he won't accept that as a good enough reason tell him that you are prone to seizures (epilepsy) and that you're afraid you might have a seizure and end up biting it off. :) At 22, I still don't like doing it, so for the most part I just don't. No big deal, the guys don't complain and I make up for it in other ways.
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I've just moved in to Univeristy, and my room is really bad. There is only one shower between 18 people, the kitchen is tiny, and there's so little natural light in my room that you can't read without artificial light. I've picked up a form to apply for a change of room, but I don't know whether I should go through with it, as moving would mean I'd move to a new corridor where people have probably already formed friendship groups and cliques, whereas here I already know people. Do you think it's worth the hassle of switching? I have seen other rooms around my campus and they are, without exception better than the one I have, so there's no real risk, it's just a case of it being worth the hassle of having to move all of my stuff after having moved it in just a few weeks ago. (link)
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Rooms don't really matter much. Its not like you'll be spending much time there...ideally. :) You can always study and read in the library. As long as you have a bed, what does it matter. Moving is always a pain.
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My friend's dad smokes. She is afraid he will die! She says that he has been coughing really bad latly. She says he is trying to stop smoking, but not really suceeding. She says that he is the one who brings all the money to the family, and shes just very afraid. She is afraid he will die from cancer or something. So basically, i need some advice in helping her through these hard times, and maybe if theres a good way to help her dad smoking. Thank you! (link)
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Suggest a hypnotist. IT works.
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