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Q: If you are 16 years old and live in New York and get pregnant, what are your options of getting rid of the baby with out your parents knowing? Any help is greatly appreciated.
abortion .. but there are really bad side effects

Early-term surgical abortion is a simple procedure. When performed before the 16th week by competent doctors — or, in some states, nurse practitioners, nurse midwives, and physician assistants — it is safer than childbirth. [21]

As with most surgical procedures, the most common surgical abortion methods carry a small risk of potentially serious complications. These risks include: a perforated uterus, perforated bowel or bladder, septic shock, sterility, and death. The risk of complications occurring can increase depending on how far the pregnancy has progressed, but remains less than complications that may occur from carrying the pregnancy to term.

The abortion-breast cancer (ABC) hypothesis (also known as ABC link) posits a causal relationship between induced abortion and an increased risk of developing breast cancer. In early pregnancy the level of estrogens increases, leading to breast growth in preparation for lactation. The abortion-breast cancer hypothesis proposes that if this process is interrupted with an abortion – before full differentiation in the third trimester – then more relatively vulnerable undifferentiated cells could be left than there were prior to the pregnancy, resulting in a greater potential risk of breast cancer. The hypothesis, however, has not been scientifically verified, and abortion is not considered a breast cancer risk by any major cancer organization.

Q: i can't stand my mother. i really can't. i noe that everyone says that you should respect your mother and stuff, but there is no way that i can respect her when she's making my life impossible. i really can't take it anymore. she talks SO much crap! i just can't take it anymore. i don't noe where to go. i have no place to go. i have no one that i can talk to, because everyone ALWAYS takes her side for everything. i can't stand it! i mean, like for everything. like, no one knows the name she calls me and stuff. she's calls me all sorts of things. and, everyone says it's ok for her to call me hat, and then when she does something crazy, and i point it out to her, my whole family turns against me. i have absolutely no place to go. i dont have a dad that can help me talk to her. my grandparents are always on her side, my aunts, uncles are always on her side. i have no place to go, i have nowhere to turn. i just wish i could find help somewhere. can someone give me some advice. please help me
okay what i thought of where to go was if your still in school ask about going to a boarding school--
or you could just talk to her about how she is acting.. sorry i didnt give much help

Q: Really, I asked many people what the definition of soul is, and everybody starts saying his own crap. Soul, is something you cant see, something you cant touch. I dont want to know what soul is not.
people will start saying that soul is your imagination, your choices, antywyas jsut say what you think.
okay well i think that soul is what makes you well you its what makes you stand out wether its your personality or your style just how strong your soul is makes it eaiser to stand out or to be less shy

Q: i have had them for like an hour.
tips on getting them to leave?
duude pleasee help, it hurts. thanksss.
drink something and go upside down and swallow

hold your breathe


Q: I am currently writing a novel. I have about 70-80 pages done, and will soon need a title. The novel focuses mainly around the topic of self-injury, more specifically, cutting. Do any of you have an idea for a title? If I use it, and make any money off of the book, I'd be willing to give you a portion of the money. Any ideas?
congrats im working on a book about cutting too

our little secret
permanant stains
deeper then the ocean
just once more
perfect purification [ as in like cleaning your mind of good/bad thoughts ]
memorable scars
painfully perfect
seeing scars [ seeing stars ]


Q: I'm 13 and jsut starting cheerleading this year and I was wondering: What type of clothing is good for cheerleading practice? I know definitely soffe shorts, and I also have nike sneakers. What are good brands or types of tank tops/ t-shirts are good for practice but aren't extremely expensive. Also if you have any other kinds of shorts that would help too. THanks!
if you get like addias shirts or nike or any sports brand or if there is a decathalon near you

Q: hey you answered my question about freckles and you said..* Lemon juice is a time proven freckle fighting remedy. It is not necessary to rub your skin with a piece of lemon. Applying the juice with your fingers will do the job.

yea i did that but then my face started like burning and i got red bumos on one part of my cheek. i dont know if thats supposed to happen or should i not do that anymore?

redhead6154
i wouldnt do that anymore just incase it either a) damages your skin or b) burns your face severly

Q: has anyone heard of Second Life?? its an online reality chating thing. whats it like?? i just read about it in a Popular Science magazine. www.secondlife.com
i personally found it to confusing theres so much to learn and stuff and it put a virus in my computer -- it didnt even work that good and the graphics suck && i think you have to pay for it as for me i used the teen version of it

Q: i tend to fall back on grades because of my organization skills. how can i be more organized?
same here deff. when you go school supply shopping pick out either things with tons of pockets and compartments or lots of folder and lots of binders if you have binders you can buy an orginizer for that to keep everything nice and tidy you can buy one of these at target,walmart, or at this store [copy and paste the link] http://www.containerstore.com/browse/index.jhtml?CATID=238

hope i helped

Q: hello! i finally had my little daughter 2 days ago... and i need some good names. she has blue eyes... and blonde hair. i want unique names... not like lizzie,.. or emily... or jessica... and i like names that begin with C's. i dont know why haha.
Cassie-Cassandra
Clarissa
Caitlyn
Cady
Cameron
Candace
Cailyn
Callie
Cala
Cambree
Candie-Candy
Carina
Corina
Carla
Carleigh
Carmela
Carrieanne
Cathleen
Cayleen
Cherry
Chili
Chika

Q: what sports do you play?
Basketball [5 seasons]
Snowboarding only twice
Softball [2 seasons]

Q: Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me!
i cut for about 2-3 years on and off then i got put into two mental hospitals one for nineteen days and a partial for eleven days i doesnt solve problems although you may think that it does it doesnt just hurt you it hurts everyone else & honestly its not worth it it takes over you like a way of life a ritual or a religion you cant even look yourself in the mirror for the mistakes youve made ok so what im going to tell you is 1.don't tell your parents they will make you see someone [ since you dont want to] 2. try talking to a friend honestly mine helped me through long struggles 3. hang in there just think only a little more till you move out -- one thing to stop cutting if you feel like you need to then put it off be like ok 15 minutes of cutting free once you get to that goal set it higher and higher so that you make it through three days and see how you feel.. i really hope i helped good luck with the baby and if you cant talk to your friends then talk to me my aim sn is Jessicaa 9o3 and my email is jess1o9@aol.com

Q: kay well ive had my period for a year or so..but when everytime i have it and i have to go to school i feel uncomfortable..and i always worry . when theres nothing to really worry about i just end up becoming paranoid about it..and i wana know if theres something i can do to become more secure or to feel better about having it?
i do the same excact thing just wear comfy clothes and i think the worst thing to do is wear pads because i feel like im sitting in blood so you should use tampons but for some reason or another you can't then just remind your self that your not like leaking or anything -- and if that doesnt work just ask your friends that your comfortable with

Q: im getting kind of bored of listening to the same songs on my computer, so i need to find new music. i listen to basically everything except country [i just dont prefer it] i like listening to hellogoodbye, evanescence, the academy is, the postal service, basically rock is what i like the most. could anyone recommend some bands or songs i should download?
okay um lets see

Flyleaf
Paramore
New Found Glory
Death Cab for Cutie
Foo Fighters
Hot Hot Heat
The Hush Sound
Lacuna Coil
The Distillers
Nightwish
The Donnas
The Tattle Tales
Kill the Lights
Garbage
The Veronicas
Sugarcult
Simple Plan
Amber Pacific
American Hi-Fi
Matchbook Romance
Oasis
Snow Patrol
Taking Back Sunday
The Starting Line
Yellowcard
Atreyu.
My Chemical Romance.
The Used.
The Ataris.
Brand New.
From Autumn to Ashes.
Saosin.
Death Cab For Cutie.
Underoath.
Silverstein.
Daphne Loves Derby.
Armor for Sleep.
The Cure.
Hawthorne Heights.
Scary Kids Scaring Kids.
Eighteen Visions.
The Killers.
As I Lay Dying.
Throwdown.
It Dies Today.
Armor for Sleep.
Winter Solstice.
Rilo Kiley.
The Juliana Theory.
Senses Fail.
The Faint.
Spitalfield.
RECOVER.
The Western Front.
The Appleseed Cast.
The Hurt Process.
I Killed The Prom Queen.
Bedlight For Blue Eyes.
Brown Eyed Deception.
Fordirelifesake.
Straylight Run.
Third Eye Blind
Hawk Nelson
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
Relient K
Hit the Lights
This Providence
Cute Is What We Aim For
Halifax
Foutains of Wayne
Pink Spiders
Dropping Daylight
Yesterday's Rising
Spitalfield
This Providence
The Movielife
Hidden In Plain View
The Fall Of Troy
Minus The Bear
Just Surrender
Fall Out Boy

hope i helped

Q: Does anyone know about how much background dancers for famous singers get paid?
probably 400-800? it depends on the company and the singer

Q: Me and my 2 friends are all 13, and were going to the mall on saturday alone, like without a parent or nething. We all are probbly going 2 go into JC Penney's and get push-up bras lol so i was wondering if stores alow young people (like minors) to buy push up bras without an adult or older person there.
yepp you can deff. buy them i don't think there is any clothes that you can't buy if your a minor

Q: 13/f
ok so i have freckles pretty much everywhere. all over my face, my arms, legs, everywhere. is there any kind of makeup or anything that could cover them up on my face or even get rid of them?? i really hate them and people make fun of me all the time. any advice would help.
thanks in advance!!
i found a few articles online--

Freckles. Considered cute by some, they are a real problem for others. Freckles, a.k.a. ephelides, are small brown or tan patches common in individuals with lighter skin, blond or red hair, and blue, green or grey eyes. They appear early in life, increase in number during summer months and fade in winter. After the age of 40-45 they disappear, but who wants to wait? * Wash your face with sour milk. Lactic acid will provide gentle peeling effect without irritating or drying your skin.

* Lemon juice is a time proven freckle fighting remedy. It is not necessary to rub your skin with a piece of lemon. Applying the juice with your fingers will do the job.

* Fruit and vegetable masks (apricots, strawberries, cucumbers, red currant).

* Sour cream mask. Do not rinse this mask completely, just remove gently with a facial tissue, then apply a moisturizer. For oily skin - use lemon juice before applying the mask.

* Natural parsley juice (or parsley infusion) mixed with equal amounts of lemon juice, orange juice, and red currant juice under your favorite cream will help you keep your freckles invisible.

Last but not least - increase your Vitamin C intake! It makes your skin less sensitive to the sun. Foods rich in vitamin C include citrus fruits, apples, green onions, black and red currant, rosehip tea.

Please note that some types of skin discoloration are due to internal disorders. Poor liver functioning, hormonal or metabolism disorders, overactive thyroid can be the underlying reasons for unsightly cosmetic problems. If this is the case, start your treatment from the inside.

However, if you have decided to start the battle against them, keep in mind that several dermatologists strongly recommend prescription-strength retinoids for the treatment of freckles, while other modern treatments for lightening freckles suggest also freezing them with liquid nitrogen, as well as the use of strong chemical acid peels, dermabrasion, or forceful ablative laser treatments. Chemical peels are two main different types, superficial, and deeper. Superficial peels, including glycolic peels, are able to remove freckles after many repeated treatments while deeper peels will get rid of freckles all at once, but at the cost of a more significant recovery time. Resurfacing may get rid of freckles and age spots, but usually are painful and may damage healthy skin, cause scarring and require lengthy recovery times.

On the other hand, one of the most conventional and used treatments for freckles is the use of bleaching agents, which the main function is masking the appearance of freckles in an attempt to fade the freckles to a color approximating that of the surrounding skin, but sometimes their use may result in an undesirable appearance lightening or darkening the skin surrounding the spots, calling even more attention to the area than getting rid of the freckles.

Occasionally, bleaching agents cause chemical burns or rashes, particularly in people with sensitive skin, even causing unpleasant irritation and breakouts, although some individuals have had success using alpha hydroxy acids on a regular basis, combined with sun avoidance and the use of sunblock factor 15 and above to getting rid of freckles while protecting their skin. In fact, the sun causes the darkener risk factor using chemical or natural bleachings such as lemon juice.

Spending too much time outside in the sun may help cause freckles in some individual or make them darker. Kids who have fair complexions and their skin and eyes are light in color are most likely to have freckles as well as people with fair skin light complexion who has less melanin in his or her skin to begin with, but some of their melanocytes make more melanin than other. Melanin is a chemical produced by the skin cells called melanocytes and responsible to protect the skin from sun damage by reflecting and absorbing ultraviolet rays. The more melanin individuals have in their skin, the tanner the look. Such fair skin people when are exposed to the sun instead of getting a suntan, they may easily get freckles.

Today getting rid of freckles is easily achieved with lasers treatment because the treatment can be pinpointed at even a very small spot causing very small lesions to the skin. Other methods used in the quest to getting rid of freckles include the intake or topical application of Retin-A, which is a good treatment, but may take several months of use of the product before seeing good results.
Tips for Freckles - Prevent freckles by taken some of these preventive measures

* Wear a hat to keep the sun from directly hitting your face.

* Use sunscreen or sunblock with UV factor 30+

* If you can avoid peak sun hours, between 10 am and 4 pm when the sun is most intense wherever you live.

* Check out your medications since some things you apply to your skin or take internally may cause skin sensitivity such as antibiotics, birth control pills and some topical products that cause sun sensitivity including alpha hydroxy acids and benzoyl peroxide.

* Ask your doctor to determine if what you use on your face or take internally would make your skin more sensitive to the sun.

* Stay as far as you can from tanning beds because these devices expose your skin to lots of pigment-inducing UV radiation; one tanning bed session is equal to a whole day spent at the beach without sun protection.

* Look for over-the-counter fading creams containing hydroquinone and follow the directions and precautions on the package carefully.

For getting rid of freckles you need to be consistent because even a few minutes of unprotected sun exposure each single day will add freckles to your face and/or other parts of your body.
Natural and home remedies to get rid of freckles

There are also several natural remedies to fade or get rid of freckles such as washing your face with sour milk because lactic acid provides a gentle peeling effect without irritating or drying your skin. Also lemon juice is a time proven freckle fighting remedy but do avoid the sun directly after application. It is not necessary to rub your skin with a slice of lemon, just apply the juice with your fingers as if it was a regular lotion.

Fruit and vegetable masks made with mashed cucumbers, apricots, strawberries or red currant improve your chances to getting rid of freckles the same as sour cream mask, but do not rinse such masks completely, just remove them gently with a facial tissue, then apply a non-chemical moisturizer. If your skin is oily, use lemon juice before applying any mask and never leave to pay attention to control sun exposure.

Finally, a mixture of natural parsley juice or parsley infusion with equal amounts of lemon juice, orange juice, and red currant juice under your favorite cream will help you keep your freckles invisible while you get rid of them.

hope i helped

Q: what are some good eye shadow colors for brown eyes that make them like really pop? kthanks in advance
okay you should start off by applying black eyeliner to your top eye lid .. as for eye shadow you should stick with purples and pinks pretty much colors in that region also it can depend on what color shirt your wearing that can bring out your eyes -- i also got this info about eye make-up online

1. Use eyeliner only on the outer rim of the eyelids, not the inner rim. (Image 1)

2. Blend eyeliner with a cotton swab rather than leaving it as a harsh line.

3. Avoid drawing eyeliner on the inner corner of the lower lid; instead, start the line at the beginning of eyelash growth or even closer to the middle of the eye.

4. Use a light shade of eye shadow on the upper lid leading up to the brow, which will open up the eye. A darker color can be used in the fold of the eye. (Image 2)

5. Consider wearing false eyelashes to give your eyes a more wide-eyed, innocent look. Be sure to use natural-looking eyelashes.

6. Curl your eyelashes with an eyelash curler before applying mascara to give you the same effect as false eyelashes. (Image 3)

7. Try a black mascara if brown does not bring out your eyes enough.


its to make your eyes look bigger

well i hope i helped =]

Q: What colors of eyeshadow would look really really good for green eyes? I tried one of those almay ones that say they are really good for green eyes, with the purple on the lid, then dark green then light green, but it makes my eye look bruised. I use these colors already- pink,silver and green sometimes a skintone/goldish color. Any advice? i rate
okay i know this isn't eyeshadow but it deff. will go good with your eyes and make them look better because it works on mine but i have blue eyes but it still works the same i bought chanel earings [ they were eight dollars at a flee market how can you say no ] and it made my eyes look so much better they have like little diamonds in them its these ones only not real http://cgi.ebay.com/aUTH-CHANEL-CC-crystal-EARRINGS-
1000-authentic_W0QQitemZ270017406978QQihZ017QQcategoryZ86069QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
hope i helped

Q: when you have an eyelash curler and you also use mascara, do you put your mascara on then use the eyelash curler? or use the eyelash curler than put your mascara on?
i do mascara then curler but my friend does it curler, mascara then curler again i pretty shureee your supposed to do the curler then the mascara becase it like rips out your eyelashes otherwise so umm id do it curler then mascara

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Jess1o9
My name is Jessica ; i have brown hair, but i died it reddish ; I love my friends: ; my best friend is hailey mattson, idk what i would do without her. ; i love pink & green & black ; I love Hanging out with friends & Shopping ; i make mistakes. ; i have regrets. ; i hate being alone. ; i can't go a day without spilling something on myself. ; i hate school. ; i never call anyone back. ; i don't like being wrong. ; im a huge procrastinator. ; i act a lot smarter than i actually am. ; i hate being ignored. ; i cry. ; im shy. ; i can't start a conversation with anyone. ; i have enemies. ; i can't sing, but i try anyways ; i'm horribly uncoordinated. ; i laugh way too loud. ; i can't look anyone in the eye. ; many things just seem to get to me. ; i get annoyed easily. ; i'm not even close to perfect. ; i cut. ; i dont know how to deal with problems. ; i have low self esteem. ; i've been in two mental hospitals. ; i love the movies not like everyone else , augusta gone , && odd girl out. ; i'm such a sucker for lifetime movies ; i like the religion wicca.

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