My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
Answers: 385
Last Update: February 27, 2005
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OK got a Terrior Mix puppy about a month ago. We've been training it to go outside the entire time. But it seems like at night he still has problems. When he potties in the floor, we spank him with a newspaper, and then take him straight outside. When hes good and potties outside, we give him a treat. But he still has accidents. Any suggestions on this? ty much. (link)
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Well, he's only a puppy...so he still has to learn that going to the bathroom in the hosue is wrong...
Get him on a schedule and walk him a few times a day and a night so he knows that he has to go outside to do his business rather than in the house...
I hope this helped...
Good Luck with that
GeSsYkA
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hey. my name's ren. well, to start off. i just started back to school, everythings going great. i'm so happy. i'm doing good, getting every accomplished. i know it's my junior year & i have to buckle down.
but theres still a part of me thats lonley and sad. all i feel like doing is sitting in my room, cry, listen to my music, cut, and read.
i'm a recovering cutter. i still every-so often cut, but.. i don't know what wrong with me.
please help. (link)
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There's nothing wrong with you. I know how you feel. I mean, I've scratched my arm up a few times too. As much as I hate to admit it, and ever so often I do in fact go back to it. =/
I know what you're saying though. I know the feeling of wanting to be alone...yet hating being isolated inside all the time with nothing but your music. It feels like there's no company and there's never going to be for all eternity, but that's not true.
I;m so glad that you are happy now...no matter how happy you are, lonliness or sadness will always follow. But it doesn't mean it will defeat you, the point is that everyone has all kinda of different emotions that are impossible to escape...but there are ways to steer them in the irght direction and make for better times and be able to make the best out of situations...
I don't know what else to say...but there is nothing wrong with you.
Just tyr as hard as you can tobe confident adn don't push people away. As much as people are annoying when all you want to do is lay inm yhuor room alone, you come to realize that they help you...even if they don't realize they are helping you.
~GL~
=) Gessyka_-*
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Hey, my girlfriend and I are really close and i love her so much but lately she doesnt seem as interested in me as her friends, i don know maybe its just me but it feels like she doesnt like hanging out with me anymore, even though i know she loves me. please help me. (link)
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Girls are like that. Yes, she loves you...but no matter how much a girl loves you she still needs her own space. It's not that she's annoyed, and I'm not saying that you're crowding her...but every girl is like that.
Just call her up and treat her to a movie or something...or sit down and talk somewhere and hang out.
Good Luck...
Don't feel bad about it...=)
Gessyka_-*
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Okay so i have these two best friends..and we`re all best friends. One of them changed completely just for her boyfriend and then when the other one pointed it out, the first one got pissed off and now they`re not friends anymore. Now, one of them deosnt care that theyre not friends anymore but the other one does, and she keeps telling me about how unhappy she is. Ugh, i have no idea what to do. I want them to be friends again, but i dont know wtf im supposed to do about it.
Sorry if this is long and confusing, but oh well. (link)
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Trust me, I've had many situations like that where I was in the middle just like you. I would try to help and stuff, but it just wouldn't work...one of them cared and the other one didn't...but eventually it all worked out in the end (which doesn't always happen I might add)...But I'm just thankful it all worked out.
I hope it works out for you and your friends too, but honestly I would just let it take its course because it's not fair for you if you try to bring them back together. I mean you will feel really good if you succed at it but it will just hurt more if you fail...=(
so just let what happens happen as much as it sucks...
Good Luck...
*hug*
Gessyka
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hey i just asked u the question about me and my friend john. hes really nice and sometimes he pretends hes like going to hit me with his chair, and his arms broken and like he acts like hes gonna hit me with his cast and stuff.. (link)
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Just jokingly right? lol...he's probably flirting the way boys always do...unless he actually hits you it's nothing to worry about...
hehe...just have a little fun and tease him back...but if he's getting aggresive and really actually tries to hit you then tell him to stop or tell someone or something...
~Gessyka~
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well im 14 and im not like...ugly actually ppl think im pretty and stuff but thats with make up on...well sometimez it comes off and its just hard to look cute...for me...and lately ive been so unhappy with myself...EVERY gurl i see i want to be..il b like well if i could have her lips id be pretty...i just want like certain features of EVERYONE im so jealous it makes me not have a good time...i just stare @ them..i want ot be them....or i want just ther hair or watever...im so unhappy....wat can i do to stop doing this..and if ur gonna say o think of the good things of urself...i dnt have ne good things..i MAKE them look good...my skin- has freckles and zits...i use make up...my hair...frizzy and wavy-i IRON it with a clothw iron...just everything is fake it seems like...and im stil not that pretty...wat can i do? wats wrong with me?? =( (link)
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Girl, for real...everyone feels that way. You are not ugly. You are deep...unlike a lot of other girls out there...
Trust me, I think the same way. I mean, I don't think I'm UGLY...but I don't think of myself as "hot" or whatever...I have a "cute" face I guess and I hate it too. I want to look a little older...I hate my thick hair even though people say they like it...I have brown eyes while all these beautiful girls with hazel, blue, and green eyes and wonderful straight hair prance around me...
Trust me we all feel like this at one point, jealousy is normal...it's not always good...but it's normal. It's part of human nature to just want to be liked. I mean, it's not bad at all to want to be liked and noticed...and to be attractive...but you seriously have to look inside yourself like all these other advicenators are saying too...and find the good in you.
I know you feel like there's nothing good to you now...but let me ask you this...are you NICE to people? If the answer is yes...then there's all the good you need right there...
Work with that and make some friends who like you for you...
PLease don't be intimidated by the people walking around you. I've been like that all my life and it got me nowhere so far...
You don't need luck which is why I'm not wishing you any...because you will do just fine. =)
~Gessyka_-*
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OK i think this is really sick, but for some reason, ionno why, but my dog love to sleep in the bathroom. I mean its not hurting me or anybody else. Can anybody enlighten me on why he does this every night? (link)
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hehe
No clue
Dogs are like that...
I'm sorry but that was a really cute question...I have no clue why.. =) haha
~Gessyka~
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ok i have this guy friend,john, well john knows A LOT about me and we've been friends since like may, or something but anyways, he knows things about me that my friends that i've had since headstart and kindergarten dont even know! and hes like really hot and he has a girl friend and all but me and him are REALLY good friends, and anyways, the other day in class the was i was standing i could look at him and he wouldnt know, but im pretty sure i seen him checking me out, i mean he like looked at me from head to toe.. and he knows i think hes cute and all..please tell me what this could mean!!! im 14 female
*-*ShAtTeReD drEaMs*-* (link)
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Maybe there's a possibility that he could have feelings for you. Just don't read too much into it yet. Guys check other girls out naturally...whether they have a girlfriend or not..I mean, I know that sounds wrong but it doesn't mean they like the girl all the time...maybe they just like the girl's style or something...you get what I mean?
Maybe he could like you...I mean, he KNOWS you think he's cute...and if he knew that and didn't like you he wouldn't be giving you any hints as checking you out like that...
Sorry if this is confusing...but I hope I am helping so far.^
How is his attitude towards you? Does he joke around with you and all of that?
You said he knows a lot about you...that's definitely a plus...
No matter if he likes you or not, DO NOT go out with him while he has a girlfriend (obviously)...but, guys are very confusing. He could like you, but then again he could haev been looking for a totally different reason...or maybe he didn't realize what he was doing as he was staring...
But the way you described it DID seem like he realized it, so just smile at him in school and stuff and see if he realizes. You don't have to necessarily flirt (since he has a girlfriend and all) but if he smiles a true smile back...who knows? He may just like you...
Just again, don't read too much into it...since he has a girlfriend and all...
But good luck..
I really hope I helped
=) Gessyka
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hi im a 15 year old girl and my mom hits me a lot. i was wondering what you think i should do to get her to stop? (link)
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Wow...like does she slap you when you do something like talk back...or is it more of a she goes up to you for no reason and hits you...
I don't know what you can say to make her stop...I have toknow more of the situation...does it get really bad? Is your dad there to help? Talk to your mom and tell her you don't think she should hit you like this...tell her there are other ways to punish you than physically..
If she doesn't listen than talk to you dad or something if it's possible that he could help...
If it gets really bad you need to talk to another adult..
Good Luck.
*hugs*
-Gessyka~_*
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Well im 16 and lately I have been feeling really lethargic and sad. I have cried pretty much every single day or I have been in a bad mood and didnt want to do anything. I can never fall asleep at night and when I wake up in the morning I am still tired and want to go back to bed. I took some tests online and one of them said that "The likelihood that you have major or clinical depression is high." and I took a few more and they pretty much said it was high. But I cant tell my mom or step dad about it because they will tell me im fine like they always do. They will say im just overreacting and its not a big deal. But I have been feeling like this for the past year or so, not constantly but it just gets bad sometimes. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? (link)
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Talk to your parents...I mean I know you said you don't want to because they won't believe you, but if you tell them to bring you to a doctor I'm sure they will if they see how much you want to go...
Tell them you feel uneasy about all your emotions right now and that you just want to finalize your assumptions that you may have depression...
It's the only way to know for sure...my computer at home has a virus but if you feel like you need to talk to somebody more, email me...and I can help a lot more I just have to get going now...
If you email me it may take me a while to answer only because of the virus but don't be afraid to...
Good Luck...please talk to you parents...if it's been going on like this for a year then I would seek some help...
I felt like that for the past two years on and off...like REALLY BADLY...it still goes on sometimes but not so often anymore...*knocks on wood*
Good Luck
*hug*
~Gessyka_-*
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I wanna start wearing eyeliner, and in your opinion, should I wear liquid or pencil? Thanks (link)
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pencil
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i dont have a boyfriend for my prom and i dont have any friends that are guys (or girls) to go with either ... I know its early but Im not gonna get a b/f cause i dont really want one but i want ot go to prom but nor alone!! help (link)
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You have to be outgoing..that's the only way. I'm not outgoing or anything...but, just ask a boy you like or make some friends and ask if they're going and who they're going with...you can always meet some people there or something...
Good Luck
*hugs*
~Gessyka_-*
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when u slightly cut ur wrist does it bleed bad... just a small tiny slit...
thanks-
~worried~ (link)
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It depends on where you cut it, and how deep you go...or if you bleed easily.
Please don't cut yourself...and if you do, please stop. It's not teh way to go.
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is there a way where someone can kill themself without it hurting...i wanna know if my brother went peacefully (link)
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I'm so sorry about your brother...
I really don't know that answer and to be quiet blunt, I don't think I want to answer it...
I'm sorry...
*hugs*
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Hey, I was on vacation n i lyked this guy that was always having sex n stuff n i dont talk to him ne more n my frens still do but they wont give me his number or sn. Now that i have a boifren my frens r saying hes asking about me n saying that he wants me to go outside my confort zone and do stuff with him if u noe wut i mean. but i still lyk him a lil bit but my fren told that to my boy fren n now there both questioning me? N i think its my frens fault but its mine too i think? wut shood i do? (link)
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Forget about him...all he wants is sex, that's clear to see....
Stay with your boyfriend and be happy.
Bottom line^
~Gessyka_-*
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My husband is almost 40, I am just 34. We have been married 10 years but have known each other for 18 years. Sex was always good between us. Lately we haven't had any. I keep asking him if there is someone else in his life because a man can't go as long as he does without it. He says no, he just doesn't need it. I do and have considered leaving him because he doesn't meet my needs. When we do have it, it's almost like it's a chore for him. How can I deal with this? Is it possible there is someone else? (link)
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You should try talking to him. Not just about why he hasn't been sexually active, but also about his feelings. Maybe he's very distraught about something and he just hasn't been able to talk to you about it...
Just because you two haven't been having sex does not mean there's another woman involved..of course there's always the possibility open adn I would have to actually know the two of you, but other than that I doubt it.
I mean, woman have a lot of troubles but so do men...I know it may seem it but men ARE NOT all the same. Some have more things going on in their mind than just little guilty pleasures or other little things...maybe he's really suffering inside...or maybe not.
You should talk to him. Really...just open up to him adn try to get him to open up to you...see what happens. Talk to him and don't keep the conversation based on sex but if you feel the need to add it in briefly than you can...
Whatever you think is best...
Good Luck.
~Gessyka_-*
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How can I bring my self-esteem up? I'm really loathing myself and not liking it :(. (link)
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Make a list of the things you "dont like" about yourself and try to fix them...try to be happier and look at things in a different but better perspective...
I was watching this show once with a motivational speaker...and the guy was talking about how he's had majorly bad days...and the next day that would keep him from waking up right away and enjoying the day ...but then he realized that moping want the answer so he got out of bed, looked in the mirror, and started saying all these encouraging words to himself...
Now, I know that sounds cheezy, and that nobody really does it...but I actually got up in the morning the next day and after I washed my face and brushed my teeth and everything, I stared in the mirror and said all the good things that I believed that I am not...
Like I would say things like: I am going to present my essay in class without choking, I am going to be more outgoing today, I am beautiful, I am going to smile at the kid I like today with confidence, I'm going to smile at my enemies, I'm good to my friends, I'm a good writer...and so on...
I would just say all the things I thought I am not...which wasn't all true, because as soon as I kept saying those things in the morning I truly realize dlal along that I really WAS some of those things, but I just didn't realize it until after. Afterwards, I did think I was good to my friends, and a good writer, and I had more confidence which led me to look more beautiful...
I know that sounds totally conceited but I obviously don't mean it like that. All I mean is if you keep bringing yourself down, you'll become uncomfortable with yourself which will lead you to be distraught throughout the day, and if your deistraught throughout a few days chances are you're going to naturally be distraight out of habit...so you really need to change your way of thinking before you totally cant stand yourself...you get what I mean?
You CAN stand there moping but t seriously won't help...and the motivational speaker was totally right when he said that if you get up and say those things to yourself while looking in the mirror everyday, that you'll actually feel likek words floating through your ears as you hear yourself speak them out loud, and throughout the day you remember them adn feel them trickle into your stomach and soul...
And I seriously got a warm feeling in the middle of the day within a few of the days that I did it... because I actually remembered MYSELF bringing myself up, rather than only other people.
Now, obviously talking to yourself in a mirror adn saying all these confident things won't work unles syou really TRY to make it work...and even then it doesn't all happen overnight...but it helps you get through that day and feel a little better...
Me, I get so much confidence when I do it...I mean I have a SUPER low self-esteem...and one time I was so depressed I couldnt even eat because it hurt me so much...*shrugs* I didn't know why until afterwards I would look back on my day and realize how mean of things I said about myself...
Think of it this way: Think of yourself as someone other than you...and realize how it's so much better sometimes to like other people more than yourself...so just think of yourself as a nother person who needs love from you, and just work from there and see what happens...
I really hope I helped...
Good Luck.
~Gessyka_-*
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Well i just found out my friend (D) likes me and i guess i like him to but i like his friend (F) more than i like (D). i really dont no wut to do!!!! Please HELP!! (link)
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Get to know both of them better and see how it turns out...
It may work better if you steer most of your likings to (D)...even if you do like (F) better. (D) really likes you, so I would give him a chance if I were you...you've got nothing to lose.
And on the other hand, if you don't feel any sparks between you and (D) you can see how it goes from there and tell him it's not working out...Either way, just don't lead him on too much.
Just, if you know you like (F) more, be careful with both of their feelings...because if you date one and feel like it isn't working, than date the other that wouldn't be too good to both of their friendship...you know what I mean?
SO...if I were you (and if you're ready) I would definitely give (D) a chance...I'm sure you'll like him a lot more once you guys go on a date or something...but then again it may be the other way around...
Just, good luck to you...
Gessyka_-* =)
Follow what you think is best for you...
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Ok, I need to buy another pair of shoes for school but I don't know what to get. I already have the new Nike shoes that have the number "20" on the side but I forget what you call them. Can you please help me out? I just can't seem to think of what to get and school is starting this Thursday. Thanks (link)
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Some skater shoes are pretty cool, whether you skate or not...I'm planning on getting some DC or Element shoes..those things are sweet. =)
Good Luck with school.
Hope I helped...
~Gessyka~_-*
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Has anybody ever met a famous person...and if so, who?
Just wondering (hehe) (link)
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I MET GAVIN DEGRAW! =)
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