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How can I bring my self-esteem up? I'm really loathing myself and not liking it :(.
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just be yourself and don't care what others think. you are who you are and you can't change that.
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Make a list of the things you "dont like" about yourself and try to fix them...try to be happier and look at things in a different but better perspective...
I was watching this show once with a motivational speaker...and the guy was talking about how he's had majorly bad days...and the next day that would keep him from waking up right away and enjoying the day ...but then he realized that moping want the answer so he got out of bed, looked in the mirror, and started saying all these encouraging words to himself...
Now, I know that sounds cheezy, and that nobody really does it...but I actually got up in the morning the next day and after I washed my face and brushed my teeth and everything, I stared in the mirror and said all the good things that I believed that I am not...
Like I would say things like: I am going to present my essay in class without choking, I am going to be more outgoing today, I am beautiful, I am going to smile at the kid I like today with confidence, I'm going to smile at my enemies, I'm good to my friends, I'm a good writer...and so on...
I would just say all the things I thought I am not...which wasn't all true, because as soon as I kept saying those things in the morning I truly realize dlal along that I really WAS some of those things, but I just didn't realize it until after. Afterwards, I did think I was good to my friends, and a good writer, and I had more confidence which led me to look more beautiful...
I know that sounds totally conceited but I obviously don't mean it like that. All I mean is if you keep bringing yourself down, you'll become uncomfortable with yourself which will lead you to be distraught throughout the day, and if your deistraught throughout a few days chances are you're going to naturally be distraight out of habit...so you really need to change your way of thinking before you totally cant stand yourself...you get what I mean?
You CAN stand there moping but t seriously won't help...and the motivational speaker was totally right when he said that if you get up and say those things to yourself while looking in the mirror everyday, that you'll actually feel likek words floating through your ears as you hear yourself speak them out loud, and throughout the day you remember them adn feel them trickle into your stomach and soul...
And I seriously got a warm feeling in the middle of the day within a few of the days that I did it... because I actually remembered MYSELF bringing myself up, rather than only other people.
Now, obviously talking to yourself in a mirror adn saying all these confident things won't work unles syou really TRY to make it work...and even then it doesn't all happen overnight...but it helps you get through that day and feel a little better...
Me, I get so much confidence when I do it...I mean I have a SUPER low self-esteem...and one time I was so depressed I couldnt even eat because it hurt me so much...*shrugs* I didn't know why until afterwards I would look back on my day and realize how mean of things I said about myself...
Think of it this way: Think of yourself as someone other than you...and realize how it's so much better sometimes to like other people more than yourself...so just think of yourself as a nother person who needs love from you, and just work from there and see what happens...
I really hope I helped...
Good Luck.
~Gessyka_-*
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write down ur goals in life. sitck it all over ur room, ur books, anywhere u can see them. this will constantly remind u of ur presence in this lifetime, and why u wake every morning for.
dun loathe urself, move to a new beginning by loving urself for u are first. then will ur self esteem go up.. good luck in bring ur self esteem up! -Rei
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find ur inner u n stay how ur confortable
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Do something you like or you're good at it and think of all the positives and fuck the bad things cuz everyone has them.
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hmmmmmmm i dunno hunnie.. you could...get ur hair done =D and have days where instead of laying around you get all dolled up looking like ur going some where special so u look totally gorgeous ... hmm have days to pamper yourself ... like juss sit around watching girl movies (like 16 candles, mean girls, or sad girly movies) and do like a facial mask and do your toe nails and nails and do ur make up and u could do self tanner too to look extra hott (i use some copper tone stuff, smells kinda good!) but yeah, juss find little ways to feel good about urself =D dont hate yourself, you only get one life, live it! and u'll have to accept who you are and make it better instead of hating it, the things u dont like change them! be happy with yourself instead of being hooked on imperfections :) i hope you feel better, i bet ur beautiful <3 get back to me on how ur feelin
*jesikuh
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everyone's self-esteem can be brought up differently.
"Self-acceptance, self-love, a positive self-image, the freedom to be ourselves; all these are crucial aspects of self-esteem"
i found that on a website and you might want to focus on some areas to bring up that self-esteem. try not to be negative towards life, look on the bright side. leave one in my inbox if you want to learn about self-esteem some more! good luck! =] -ask_anything
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