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Q: Okay well me (14 f.) and my friend ( who is a guy) got in a fight and i hate it because i dont even no what were realli fighting over and its stupid and i kinda like him and he DID like me up untill his ex started liking him again. and shes one of my friends and the only person that nos i like him is my best friend. But he like hates me now and i cant even talk to him and im not sure what to do becuz i like him but even if he did like me back i dont think i could go out w/ him or anything becuz my best (guy) friend hates him. i mean he ust to be best friends w/ him and now he realli hates him. and he gets mad at me for just thinking about liking him. im so confused and i dont no what to do can anyone help me get out of this mess?
if your best guy friend was REALLY your best guy friend, he'd accept the fact that you like the guys he DISLIKES. and he`d do anything to make you happy.. right? and if the guy you like is a smart dhood, he'd realize what a jerk he was about what he caused. if he DOESNT realize it, then he's not worth liking.

Q: i need someone to tell me how to quit masturbaiting plz help me
occupy yourself with other things that wont remind you of anything sexual. spend your time with more people which will help you get your mind off of it. if youre alone often, then of course youd have nothing else to do and youd be thinking of masturbation. try getting out more.

Q: Are there any ways to pierce your own bellybutton without it getting infected?
it'd be safer if you had a professional do it. surprisingly, there has been some experienced body piercers that do make mistakes and result in infection. and they also have complicated procedures that have to go through such as how long youre supposed to keep the ring in, or how many times youre supposed to clean the ring daily, when you can actually take the ring out, and all of that.

Q: Ok, I was recently in a relationship, and I was dumped. So now i have my eye on this cute guy who i like and he likes me. But because im not dating someone i feel like im like gay, but i no im not cause i love this boy. and I DO NOT desire girls!!!eww. im just confused, and need good advice. Its kinda the past thats bugging me, and i know i cant change it. I kissed a girl, because she forced me, i never wanted to but i did:-(! and thats bugging me now, it was about 3 years ago! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
if you still think about the incident that happened 3 years ago and enjoyed it, then you might be 'gay' and you can't help your feelings. try spending more time with the new guy you have your eye on. if there's no spark between you guys, then spend your time being single for a while. during your vacation from relationship, observe what you find yourself staring at.. girls? guys? both? you'll find a solution. (;

Q: how can you get rid of zits really fast? ill rate high
i'm not a doctor or anything but i have a friend that had really bad acne. it went away in a week when she used proactiv. using proactiv daily will help get rid of zits and future break outs. just to keep things safe, it'd be a good idea to tie your hair up after using the product so you can be free of other irritations towards your skin.

Q: i want to make a new s/n and i wnat to have the word barbie in it i noe its clechie but i think its cute sumthin like x0x0babrbie or i dont noe i need help ill rate high tnxs
how about:
BARBiEGiRL x0x0
b a r b i e x 3
oO barbiee

Q: I havce 3 morbid, discusting habits, And i need help on stopping them.
- I forget to wash my hands after using the bathroom. Gross, How can i remeber to wash them?
-I chew on pens I literally take them apart and chew on different pieces and usally end up with no pens, its sad. How can i stop?
-And i can never remeber to flush the toliet.
And thats gross to.
Help me with theese horrible habits!
you can always put up signs on the back of your bathroom door, so once you're ready to leave, it'll remind yourself to wash your hands. also, above the toilet you can say "FLUSH".. after you get use to this routine, you will grow accustomed to it and it'll become a good habit. about the pen.. i have nothing to say about that because i would have never thought of a habit like that. haha but you can always practice using a wooden pencil so you wont have anything to take a part. and u can work your way up to a pen.

Q: ok well theres this guy and ive liked him since 0ctober....well he likes my friend ALOT and the day my friend and someone eles started going out he called me and said he liked me...i dont know whether to belive it or not but he seems like he does but i dont know if its true because i think he just wants to get her jealous...please ill rate high..what should i do?!
if it seems really obvious that he's using you, don't let that fool toy with your heart. play hard to get. and if he keeps wanting more of you, just ask him bluntly if its that what he's trying to do (get your friend jealous). he'll feel like a total idiot if he finds out that you knew all along.

Q: there is this girl at school that i really like. i want to ask her out but i don't know her that much.

what advice could you give me?

thanks
Don't ask her out just yet. because if you come on too strong, it'll be a scary experience for her. so starting out as friends is a good way to start. If you have any classes with her, you can just easily do a lot of things to catch her attention such as opening doors for her and all those gentleman procedures. (;

Q: ok there is this boy .. and i have liked him for more than a year now ... @ the begginning of the school year he SOOO acted like he was into me .. but then he started goin out with this girl nd they broke up .. now he doesnt even talk to me ne more unless i am w/ his friends or sumtin .. [ we have sum of the same friends ] .. but he barely talks to me then ... he is the "popular/jock" boy and im a "redneck" ... so i guess im not on his level .. but i dont kno if i should start talkin to him again or what? HELP ME PLEASE! i rate high!!!!!



Theres no hurt in going up to him and start conversation randomly. i mean, you guys DID talk before and you did nothing to make him stop talking to you. if you stay away from communicating with him, that's just going to make matters worse.

Q: so im a freshman in high school.
ive never been kissed before.
i really dont have any guys friends.
ive had a bf before but that was back in middle school.
i wanna know, are there any REALISTIC ways to get involved with more guys and friendships.
please dont say; just talk to them
becuase im not like that exactly.
i like this kid, sorta, and we talk sometimes
are there any signs i can look for to see if hes into me or anything.
i'll rate
if that 'kid' somehow gives you a slight glance, give him a quick smile. it wont hurt. sometimes a smile can trigger a dude's feelings for a girl. and if you don't talk to other people, then you'll never learn to become socially interactive with anyone. im not saying just go up to anyone and start having an awkward conversation.. there are times when it can happen since you said you weren't the talking type. just feel confident about everything you do, and if someone happens to ask you for something, don't seem timid about it and they'll think different about you. a lot of things can be obvious from a couple of words and how it's spoken.

Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over two months and everything seemed great, but for the past week or so it just feels like I don't love him anymore. We mostly talk online and when we do I don't say much to him and I get aggervated a lot with him. When I do get to see him it's basically the same, I don't feel anything for him. I don't know how to tell him I wanna break up with him cause I think it would hurt him because he tells my best friend that he loves me so much and would hate it if we ever broke up.. so I'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks.
before thinking of breaking up with him, you have to think to yourself if it's really worth the loss. a lotta relationships have their moments when you feel uninterested with the other. it's all a part of love. Even when one says they hate the other and things might even get physical with some, but this seems like a minor problem. just think how it would be without him in your life. if it seems like it'll be the same and if it'll feel like you haven't lost anything important, then it's your decision to break up with him and remain friends. sometimes when you lose someone, it's hard to get them back. so you have to realize what you're about to lose. good luck with it (;

Q: how do i improve my looks and updo the things im lacking in?

-weight
-way too light eyebrows
ect.
to lose weight, you don't need to stop eating or anything dangerous like that. just limit the foods you eat and when you eat. eating late in the night can cause weight-gain, so i suggest not eating after 8-9PM. and jogging or even taking a walk outside everyday for 20 minutes burns atleast 500 calories.

NEVER dy your eyebrows a different color or else it'll look artificial. but if youre talking about lighting your eyebrows, as in reducing additional unwanted hair, plucking it with tweezers is a good way. if youre inexperienced with tweezers, asked an experienced person to do it or you will only pluck half of a strand of hair, and it`ll end up growing thicker and uneven. if you could resist pain, then you can get it waxed. despite the pain, waxing eyebrows has amazing results. no pain, no gain (;

Q: Hi, well.. is it "normal" to hate a guy and like him at the same time? Because I don't want to like him but I can't help it! (gah hormones I suppose).. It seems to happen with most I guys I like.. I guess that tends to happen when you like the a**holes.. but.. other than that, I'll alwayd like a guy maybe 30%, never full out crush on 'em. Thanks in advance for your advice =)
Totally normal. most people tend to tease, pick on, or just plainly HATE the person they actually like. an awesome guy always has their imperfections (even if it means they're a-holes. (;

Q: hey i have a problem, lately i noticed im not happy and high spirited as usual. i mean i have things ive always wanted, I.E.-an awesome boyfriend, pretty good grades, doing well in basketball, a lot of friends. but problem is, im not like...happy or high spirited like i used to be. is there any way to fix that?
There's always a reason why someone is sad, it's just that you haven't discovered the cause of your unhappiness. it's all a part of life. i go through it A LOT unfortunately. i always find myself sad and i wouldn't know why. it seems like your life is going pretty well. maybe there were things that you left unfinished (not LITERALLY) and you totally forgot about them and that's what kept you wondering for such a long time. you should try spending time with yourself like in a nearby park to sort your out your feelings.

Q: Ok I'm still talking about the same girl that I'm in love with, ill tell the whole story now though. Shes tends to like the assholes and i always try to show it to her that she needs a better guy, not necessarily me but someone good for her. I would do anything for her, and i want her to know that, she may already from some things in the past i just dont know what to do. I need ideas on how to get her, that might actually work, shes a really nice girl so i can do anything trashy, shes just perfect for me and i will never feel complete without her. Please give me some advice on how to get her in my life.
Things like relationships is really hard to find and doesn't come around real fast. it's mostly unplanned. But to get a step closer to getting her, it's best to always be there for her whenever she's down. if she's with other guys, learn to respect it. but if she happens to get hurt by other jerks, it's a guy like you that she needs at that moment and she'll thank you for it. Then she will know that you'll always be there for her. someday she'll come to her senses and finally realize that a certain person was there all along. (and make that 'certain person' you.)

Q: Im 13 in 7th grade and I want to be in the talent show and I've selected a really good piece---"Un Moto Di Gioia" from Marriage of Figaro. I know that I'm only 13 and all, but I've been singing for a really long time and my voice is plenty mature and operatic to sing this---my choir teacher assigned it to me as a solo last year at choir camp and I did a fine job, so don't give me a lecture on "your-voice-isn't-mature-enough" because it is. The only problem is, what if people, like, make fun of me for singing this in the 7th grade? I mean, everyone else will be doing stuff like rapping and pop like Mariah Carey and it'll just look...weird. Do you think I should lay back or go for it???
You can choose to be one of a kind and go for it. but if you're REALLY insecure about how different you might be, you can always modernize the song a little bit by backing off from those incredibly high voice notes and bring it down to how any other artist now-a-days would sing it. it's just a suggestion.

Q: i want to impress my bf of 4 1/2 yrs. for v-day. and i want to do something fun a special. i want to go to dinner and wear a sassy dress and everything. but after that what should we do, that will make him feel loved.
Anything will do even if it doesn't include MONEY because the best things ARE free. like, a walk in the park, a simple movie, watching the sunset. anything will do just as long as he will remember it.

Q: so my boyfriend of last year and i had a really great relationship we were in love, but then my boyfriend began to like someone else so we broke up. then me and him stopped tlaking for awhile. about 4 months later i saw him at a football game and we began to talk and decided to hang out. it was like we were going out again everything was normal and we were both having a great time. unfortuanately we were both in other relationships. after that we didnt talk to each other any more. but then one day i went to my friends house and he was there also. me and him hooked up then. i can't keep my mind off of him since then and i dont no what to do about it all. i dont know what it is but we keep running into each other randomly. i dont no what to do any ideas?
Since you said you were currently in a relationship, i think it's best to ask the guy you're with if you guys should go on a break. and then, you can try it with your previous boyfriend to see if it can work out. the only hard part is to accept the fact that your boyfriend can roam and meet other people too. it's worth trying.

Q: Ok if you really like someone, but they're going out with someone else but you know they like you, would it be stupid to wait for them? I really need to know what you guys think about that. Thank you so much!

XoXoJamie
It's not stupid to wait for that guy. If he already likes you and realizes that you've waited just for him, he'd like you even more and realize you're worth having! Pleeeaase, if his own GIRLFRIEND can't stop him from liking you, then it's real.

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