I am a Sixteen year old girl who enjoys helping others and sharing my experience and knowledge. I'm here to help anyone and everyone and anyone is welcome to add me on msn or email me. I have been through relationship problems, Family problems (I have recently moved out of home.) I have had many friendship problems and have helped a lot of people through self harm and suicidal thoughts. My career goal is to be either a graphic designer, Visual Art teacher or councellor.
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Ive known this guy since i was 7 ( now im 13) and we
always had crushes on eacother ever since we met.
Everytime we would sit next to eachother we would
always talk and he would make me laugh. But
everytime we moved our seats we would just ignore
echother.This year i really want to talkto him. How should I do it. I
know he still likes me because this yr i was in the hall
and he smiled at me and last yr his friend told me 3
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Perhaps you need to show him the courage of walking straight up to him and talking to him this will show your into him and he'll get the hint your into him. Maybe go and sit with him and his friends at lunch time. If your a shy girl why not write him a letter explaining you mis talking to him and would love to spend some time with him.
Good Luck xx
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do girlz have to shave their pubic hair? (link)
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No you don't have to shave your pubic hair but in saying that there is no harm in doing so. Some girls experience rashes from shaving which can be very uncomfortable. There are other ways to get rid of pubic hair such as getting it waxed by a professional (this is known as a Brazilian) and hair removal treatments. You may be to young for these ideas though. Other than shaving, trimming your hair would be a much easier and less expensive option.
Hope this has been of some help xx
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15/F
sorry for the length.
please, just read and respond.
Here's the deal. This isn't one of those stories where I ask advice for my friend. It really is him. Alright, well a little while ago I went to my cousins house and I met his neighbor whom I clicked with immedietly. We had this instant atraction that was werid because Iusualy wouldn't go for guys like him. I'm a good girl, because of the choices I make, and he's more of the bad boy who's been through alot. So we liked eachother a little bit, but he lives about an hour away and I have a boyfriend, and he had a girlfriend.The feelings faded how I wanted them too. When we got to know eachother, he told me that he cuts. I got him to stop and he promied me that he'd never do it again, but only because he loves me and that he wants to make sure that I trust him. I got him through alot of stuff and I became his "hero" as he says. A little while after that he told me that he missed his ex and that his life meant nothing to him anymore and I had to convince him to not take his life. I don't say anything inconsiderate and I talk to him about his feelings. I know how to play. He thanked me for the help and everything was fine for awhile. Then, yesturday, he told me that he broke up with the girlfriend that he currently had because they lived far away. I asked him if I could help and he said no, because, "It scares me how much I care about you, and I can't take loving you anymore." I didn't understand what he meant by this and I tried over and over again to ask him but he never gave me the explaination that I wanted. I thought we were over what we had, but maybe he doens't like me anymore. I asked if he still had feelings for me and he said yes, but I just really don't know. I asked him if he broke up with his girlfriend because of me and he said that he didn't know. I'm gonig up to my aunts house on monday and I'm gonig to see him because he is my aunts neighbor. I'm just afraid that things will be different and that I'll make him feel weird. We had somthing, I'll admit. I love the boyfriend that I have right now and I don't want anything to rekindle with my aunts neighbor. I want to be there for him, but I don't wnat to fall for him. I had a big problem with this last time and it almost caused me and my boyfriend to brake up. This kid means alot to me, and he changed me as a person and I see life alot differently. I just recently lost one of my best friends and he helped me get through. Now I want to be there for him. I can't have him take his life or hurt himself. Please...please help me. I sound desperate, but what would you do if you were me.
you could help me, help him save his LIFE.
thankyou and God bless all who resppond.
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First things first from what i've read i think you have some sort of feelings that you aren't admitting to for this guy. Whether we like it or not there s no way of stopping who were attracted to. I've been through having friends cut themselves and wanting to commit suicide and i know that it causes a lot of stress for yourself. You need to remember than you can't control the person from doing something, and that its not your fault. Maybe you should influence him to see a professional, you could even offer to go with him when you go and see him while your at your Aunts. Does your boyfriend know how close you are to this guy? It seems that your closer with this guy than your boyfriend. You need to be true to yourself and follow your heart, if something happens while your at your Aunts its obviously meant to of happened. It may help you decide between him and your boyfriend. If you too want to have a relationship and your in for the long hawl the distance will be nothing.
Good Luck, your being a really good friend wanting to be there for him, I admire you for that xx
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My sister found out i have a boyfriend and she's 13 im 15 and im scared she'll tell my parents i just want a sister i can trust and talk to but as much as i try to she just back fires i want her to tell me when she has a boyfriend but she always thinks im gonna tell my parents which i won't i want her to trust me as much as i try to talk to her she won't listen and now she knows i havea boyfriend i can't even look at her anymore
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Its great that you want to be there for your sister ad that you want to have a close relationship, I admire you for that. If she wont listen to you perhaps writing her a letter expressing everything will make her realise a few things and maybe a close bond will be formed. At the age of 15 it should be fine to have a boyfriend of course your parents may be a little bit funny because they will realise there little girl is growing up.
Good luck xx
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17/f I have a new boyfriend who is really lovely and nice and sweet and is a really decent guy. The thing is, he's not exactly "parent-approval" material, and I just know for a fact my parents would hate him. I don't normally keep the fact I have boyfriends secret from parents, but this time it feels different. For a start, I broke up with my ex pretty soon before I started dating this guy, and my parents LOVED my ex and were quite sad to see us split up! This was still only about 2 months ago.
Also, I've been going to his and seeing him a lot recently. I collapsed about two weeks ago at his house (nothing to do with him!) and lied at my parents about where it happened and said it was at a friend's, and if I told them now they'd definitely put two and two together, and also realise that I haven't actually just been going to a friend's to do homework all the time recently. They would be so angry that I lied!
I know that I have got myself into this situation but what should I do? I've got a feeling I'm gonna be with this guy for a while and I don't want to lie to them forever, and also he has expressed wanting to come to my house etc. But should I tell them that I have been lying to them all ths time? And how do I tell them? Thank you. xxx (link)
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Its a hard situation your in, I've been through lying about my boyfriend and it puts a lot of strain on your relationship. I think your better off telling them just in case you get caught out somehow. Also I think you should tell them because of the collapsing episode what would happen if something worse happened to you at his place etc. If you can't build up the confidence to tell them to their face maybe write them a letter and explain why you've lied and express how much you'd value their support in your relationship. With your boyfriend wanting to meet your parents thats a good thing and shows he's genuine.
Good Luck xx
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ok so me and my boyfriend just broke up for the 3rd time!!!!!! it is driving me insane i was in love with him!!!! and all of my friends are saying just get over you are a pretty girl and you will get another boyfriend, but the saying is that you never get over your first love, and that scaries me!!!!! because when me adn my ex broke up before i would date a guy for a week and then break up with him all of a sudden because i stopped liking him! and my ex was the same way!! but now he is going to ask out my best friend(Tressa) and i don't know that just drives me crazy!!!!!! i dont know if it is because i am jealious, or it is because i know that she will hurt him because she moved but she lies to the school saying that she lives at her old house just so she can go to our school! and everytime she gets a bf(at our school) she cheats on them with another guy down where her new house is!!! and i dont wat to see my ex get hurt!!!! should i tell him???? but then i don't know if i should get involve with that
i just dont wat to see him get hurt!!!!!!!
HELP!!!!! (link)
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I believe you should talk to him and explain how you feel and what you know about how your friend treats guys but in doing this is may cause complications with Tressa so you need to think about that. You could also talk to her and express your feelings as in that it may cause problems between you and her. If you tell your ex about your friend cheating he may think that your just trying to stop him asking her out cause you like him etc. It sound as though you either still love him or that you want to keep a good friendship with him. I have to say that after breaking up 3 times maybe its time to realise its not meant to be. As for you will never get over your first love there is plenty of other fish in the sea and yes, he will most likely still remain in your heart as a fond memory, It will take time for you to get over him so just take each day as it comes :)
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alright, well im not trying to be cocky, like this is really happening and i dont know what to do..
within 1 month after i broke up with my boyfriend 5 guys asked me out.. and the one guy i like.. doesnt like me.. and i turned down the other guys but one of them was one of my best friends and i had no idea he liked me like that and i felt bad turning him down and now he acts so diffrent like its really akward to be around him and i miss hanging out with him and stuff, i mean he was one of my best friends and i dont know how to make it less akward any ideas?
and my other problem is 1 of the guys i turned down is i guess you can say "really popular" at my school and he got like pissed off when i said no and just walking through the halls is horiable he always gives me dirty looks and he talks about me and how much of a "bitch" or "slut" i am, to his friends who were once my friends and i think hes making up shit about me to my friends because some of them act diffrent around me, and i have one class with him and its really bad like sometimes i will just skip that class so i wont have to see him, because he talks about me when im sitting right there he'll do it just loud enough so i hear him and hes just a prick i guess but idk what to do about it? like what can i say or do to get him to leave me alone and get over it? (link)
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The guy who is giving you shit needs to be disciplined, tell your year advisor or a teacher. Just ignore him he'll eventually get sick of it, don't pay him any attention. Your friends should be able to know you well enough that if they hear any stories that they are not true and they should be able to confront you about them. As long as you and the people closet to you know your not a bitch or a slut thats whats important.
As for your best friend, you need to talk to him. Being that he is your best friend you should be able to be honest and open with him. Express how your feeling and get him to open up and express his too.
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ok , so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months now & there are thesee [ 3 ] girls who he's known sence like elementary school & were in highschool now . but i mean only 0NE girl is so called justins like " sister " the other to aint & i swear they dont like me , i mean seriously ; justin might not see it [ boyfriend ] but i definatley can ! i know for a fact that they do shit to piss em off , hug him infront of me and go to his house sometime . ughh ! & today it really pisses me off because all THREE of them sent him comments to today sayin ' i love you justin ' & nothing else
wtf do i do ? (link)
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It seems as though from the comments that they are trying to get between you and your man. I believe you need to talk to Justin about it and seen as though you've been in a relationship for 8 months you should be able to be honest and open with him. Express your feelings with him, he can't help if he doesn't know. You could always confront the girls as to what their problems are/is. Its only natural to be jealous of other girls hanging around your man. You have to talk about this issue with him before it gets worse and more intense.
Good Luck xx
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so i'm going to give my guy a blow job for the first time and he's going to return and such. i'm really really nervous.. so first off, is it normal to be nervous? and second, i dont really know what to do so does it like "come natural?"
please help, and thanks in advance. (link)
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Of course its normal to be nervous. you need to be sure your ready for this before proceeding. You need to understand that giving a blow job may take the guy a while to come, you may lose breathe but remember you can always alternate between using your mouth and hand. Its your choice whether you spit or swallow, every guys come tastes different, sometime it can taste really bad so just be prepared. It can sometimes get very messy so you need to be prepared for that too. Just a little hint using your tongue to play with your boy's penis will be a huge tease.
Live in the moment and enjoy it :)
Good Luck xx
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hey! this may be a long story. and knowing that I dont particularly like reading short novels as questions as a columnist myself, ill try to keep it short.
ok, so there's this guy who I go to school with. He's funny, in a lame sort of way, but kind of cute. I mean he's no teen heartthrob overflowing with charm but he's kinda sweet =) so everyone in the grade claim they can see how much he's in love with me. I mean I guess you could call it "flirting" but I'm not exactly sure the term for what he does. He picks me out in the crowd and stuff like that, but its not in like a mature-teenagerish way, it's more in a kiddish i'll poke you because I like you kind of way. I'm his friend, and he says he doesn't like me when I ask him. He says I'm just his really good friend. But it doesn't exactly seem like I'm his really good friend to other people and sometimes to me. I'm not sure if that exactly makes sense but that's the best I can explain it. All of my friends and so he tells me, his friends, say that we like eachother, but i don't like him. Last year when I really thought that he liked me I kind of started to like him too.What do I do?
Can you tell me how to
A. get him to really tell me he likes me if he does which it seems like.
or B. figure out the situation so I can get over this big wall surrounding our friendship
From one advice-giver to another, help please! thanks in advance
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From what I read about you saying he was funny, cute and sweet are you sure you are not attracted to him? I got a little confussed did you mean that he tells his friends he does or doesn't like you. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship but likes you, maybe he's scared that if he tells you he likes you it will change your friendship. I think you need to get him to trust and be open with you, a good start would for you to be open on how you feel to him. It sounds as though you need to talk to him in order to sort this wall surrounding your friendship.
Good Luck xx
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I have a lot of friends. Friends that I can party with, friends that I can hang with, friends I can shop with, etc. But I have no friend that I can just do anything with, a friend that I can always count on to hang out with any time, who won't double-cross me. I haven't lived where I've lived since I was born, so I don't have a childhood treasured cradle-mate. I really want to be ultra close with one of my friends, but I feel like I'm the odd one out who matters, but isn't included in any real group. I just don't know what to do. In my classes, people have partners. Like Jane will always hang out with and pair up with Sally. I'm always the second choice, the girl someone picks if their first pick isn't there. What do I do to matter more to one person? Not like love relationship, but best friend-like, you know? (link)
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Hey, From what you've written you seem to have a lot of friends that you can do things with. Maybe you should try and get closer to some of the girls you go shopping, partying and hang out with. Invite a girl you'd like to get closer to around for coffee or ask them to do something, just you too and get to know that person a little better. Maybe your left out cause you don't put yourself in the circle of friends enough, maybe you don't trust enough or your no open enough. Turn things around why don't you start organizing activities fr example lunch or dinner at your place etc.
Good luck xx
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Hi,
I really need some advice!
I met Claire two years ago, we became really good friends! We both had problems with our partners at the time (hers much, much worse than mine) so we confided each other and helped each other through it.
My boyfriend at the time really idolized her Husband (he's famous in the motor industry)I actually contacted them when I found out that he lived down the street. My boyfriend told me weeks before he'd seen this guy round town and was really star struck by him. I wrote a letter inviting them to a surprise birthday party for my boyfriend and left a present for their child. As I posted the letter they turned up and friendships were made from there..............................
As we were all English and in a new country we bonded really well. My boyfriend changed he started becoming a complete idiot and kissed her Husbands arse! Nobody could belive how much my boyfriend had changed, me especially. Whom was this person? It got to the point where I didn't recognize him anymore he had changed he was imitating her Husband. I thought we had problems before he came on the scene it was nothing compared to what was to follow. Their friendship was a big problem in our relationship. I got to the lowest point after being bullied and treated like crap for months, my health was bad and I lost allot of weight. Claire would tell me to leave him, I thought it was a faze and he would return to normal and realize he had been a complete idiot after all we had a great relationship for 18 month until this point.
He gave me HPV and I forgave him, and forgive him putting off my much needed surgery (as I said-my lowest point)for his needs. When I went to the doctors he diagnosed with Strep due to stress I ended the relationship that day, he was the only stress I had, I finally come to my senses! Claire could not belive the change in me, I was back to my old self not the dithering mess I'd become.
Not too long after my split Claire became that dithering mess, he bullied her in every sense of the way she was a wreck when I last saw her and so was their child. I had never seen her so low, wow! She had become the same person I was. We talked for hours and I told her she has to do what's best for her and her daughter. She wasn't eating, sleeping, she was a mess! She suspected him cheating. They went back to England and went to Counseling and things seemed to get a little better. They had good days and bad days though mostly bad which was a huge improvement to all bad. That's the way Claire seen it anyway.
My boyfriend at the time told me a secret about two months into our friendship with Claire he told me that Steve had been sleeping with lots of woman before he married (Claire had been with him for seven years before they married). I was in shock though not really, he had passed some choice comments in front of me and was a very, very arrogant man. The more Kathryn and I got close and accused him of having affairs the more I thought about the secret. Should I tell her? Should I forget it? I have told a friend before about her boyfriend cheating and lost her. So I felt like a liar, a cheat and now selfish. I chose to put it to the back of my mind. The sad thing about it is that if Claire knew it was happening to me she would tell me, I guarantee! I have trusted her with thing I haven't told any other soul as she has me. She told me things that if I repeated would destroy her Marriage. That's how strong of a friendship we have and how much trust we have in each other.
Claire is back in England with her husband, she just found out she is pregnant with her second child.(one of there biggest problems when I met them, she wanted another, he didn't)
I got a Voicemail from Claire this morning, she was really upset and said that she caught her husband in a very compromising situation last week. He left her and told everybody that he's left her as she is annoying him!?!?!? I know if he wants to get back with her he will manipulate the situation and she will belive him and makeup excuses for him, she justify's his usual behavior with depression, stress, and the latest Bi Polar disorder. I just think he's a narcissistic nasty excuse for a man whom treats his wife and daughter like crap.
My problem is I really don't know what to do I have been racked with guilt for the last year now and with the present situation I'm leaning toward telling her so she can finally rid him from her and her child's life. They both deserve much, much more. I really don't know what to do? I don't know if I'm being selfish by telling or I'm trying to rid myself of the guilt. I know it will hurt her allot, does she need to know?
Because of who he is I can't talk to anyone about this? Please, please help
Should I tell her or bury it again and live with the guilt?
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Wow! Seems like you've been through a lot with your boyfriend and especially with Claire. From what i've read you to have confided a lot with each other and it seems you too have a lot of trust in each other. You mentioned that if it was her in the situation of knowing the secret that your boyfriend cheated on you she would tell you so i believe it would be only fair to tell her. Claire being pregnant with her second child to this man may add more complications to telling her. You say that your feeling guilty and have been for a year i can imagine that this secret would be eating away at you inside and causing you unhealthy emotional and mental behaviours. I think that it would be in your own best interest to tell her. She may b upset at the fact that you haven't told her earlier so be prepared for that. You need to be there to support her after you tell her too. Its best that she knows, being in this sort of relationship is seemingly causing her damage both physically, emotionally and mentally. If you bury it much longer you may start distancing from her due to your guilty conscious. You need to tell her:)
Good Luck xx
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