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Hey, i'm a young teen who leads a normal life, or about as normal as it gets. i love to help people and hope to some day become a psychologist. You're welcome to ask me anything you want and i'll answer the very best i can.

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can a tampon get lost inside you or like stuck or the string goes in should i just stick my fingers in to get it out im scared to try onei dont care if id hurt

absolutely not, a lot of people are afraid of that but its hardly possible, dont worry about it at all. if you have more questions go to www.tampax.com
hope i helped :)

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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.

NO! NO ABSOLUTELY NOT. DONT YOU DARE TALK LIKE THAT. Please please please dont commit suicide. i understand your in an awful situation but please dont do this. you still have life, but you have yet to learn the good things about it. please, try to set up an appointment with a therapist or atleast visit this site. www.metanoia.org/suicide maybe it will put things in perspective for you. there is no going back once you do that. your brother will certainly miss you as will others. keep holding on. you could be all alone in the world but there is always someone there for you. keep holding on, please. just stay strong. im still young to this world and not yet 15 but you are young. the world still has so much to offer. some times life can really suck and i have moments all the time when i want to give up and and just die, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and it hurts me to know that someone is in pain an wants to kill themself, please reconsider.

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does anyone know any sad songs...that are good to cry to? Only in alternitive and rock....no oldies or hip hop...please..thankyou if you do.

hate me by blue october, chasing cars by snow patrol, keep holding on by avril lavigne, lips of an angel by hinder, welcome to my life by simple plan, trust me i got a ton,IM me at xcrimsonsinsx6 if you need some more.

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I have extra fat on my inner thighs and arms...and belly. I would like to know if anyone has any good tips on getting rid of that extra fat.

drink apricot juice, or pear nectar to speed up your ,metabolsim, you could go jogging around your block everyday, thats what i do, you could do crunches, push-ups and squats or go to a local gym and join a kickboxing class or something like that. good luck.

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In the house I live in with my family...I'm the one who does most, if not all the cleaning. My house is almost always a mess. I know I can't always clean the house when it needs cleaning. I'm sixteen, in 10th & I have a boyfriend now. It almost seems impossible sometimes to manage all that. Sometimes I feel like I don't have any parents, I have 2 middle aged kids...meaning my parents...not to mention my little brother (hes 14). I don't know what to do. My parents are always nagging me about my grades so I've been thinking of asking if we could make a little deal or comprimise...that if I were to keep my grades up...they would keep the house clean as much as they can. I don't even know how to ask that of them. I'm afraid they'll just think of some reason they won't be able to keep their side of the bargin. They are overweight. But not to the point they can't clean the house every once and a while when they get home from work.

this is completely unfair to you. teenagers are not meant to have so much stress put on you. sit them down and say that if you had less rooms to clean then you could have more time to study. maybe you could each have like 2 rooms to clean, including your borther. there is no reason you should have to do all the chores. the most you should have to do is your bedroom a bathroom and maybe wipe up the counters in the kitchen. or maybe everyone in the house could have different chores, like your brother could take out all the garbages in the house, you could vaccum the floors your mom could clean the kitchen and your dad could mop or clean the bathrooms and everyone does their own room. also se if you can set aside one day a week for cleaning. a sunday wouldn't be a bad idea. i hope i helped. good luck.

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I am a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend and i broke up after a long time a few weeks ago. I really do love him and he told me "i used to love you." I messed up because i really hurt him and now I dont know it he is just saying he doesn't love me or if he really doesn't. There is this other boy who is really cute and he likes me. All of my friends are telling me it will help if I go out with him but I still love my ex. what do i do? should i keep waiting for my ex.. he calls me everynight and he always wants to talk... or should i forget about him and go for the new boy?

if he's calling that means he is still interested. ask him directly, "do you love me or not, because i won't wait forever." if he says no then go out with the other kid. maybe you'll succeed in making your ex jealous but dont do it for that reason alone because it isn't fair to the other boy. teenagers always think they know what love is but in truth its too hard to tell. give the other boy a try. it'll be good for you. good luck.

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ok,well i just want to loose like 3 pounds-but only in my stomache! how can i do this,any exsersizes (sp sorry) that i could do just for the stomache?! also,what are healthy foods to eat,and how much? also one more thing- will swimming help me loose weight? thanks!

swimming could help but for the stomach crunches are best. sit ups are good but scientifically crunches are better. also drink apricot juice or pear nectar or something along those lines to speed up your metabolism. good luck

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After my best friend's death her troubled teen daughter came to stay with my family. Of course there were conditions. Job, school (g.e.d.), no drugs, booze. After just 5 weeks she broke all the rules. Got fired from a job that I helped her get etc....THEN she started an affair with my teen age son. Claiming she's "in love", he works and goes to school. He was being rail roaded. She just dug her claws in deeper. It was getting crazy. I had her leave yesterday. She went to a shelter, I feel grief and relief at the same time. Maybe she should have never came. Maybe (somehow) I should've dealt with it. For at least a week I didn't sleep and eat (lost 6 lbs.). My husband is supportive of my decision but my )OLDER son (29), says I was unfair to her. What do you think, please I need advice !!!

look, you layed down the rules and she deliberately disobeyed them. she's going downhill and taking your family with her. im a teenager but i understand more than a normal teenager would. she could hate you for this but a lot of teenagers are filled with hate. the shelter was a great idea for her to stay while you pick yourself up and brush yourself off. you made the right descision. now i suggest that you go visit her and ask her if she wants to stay at the shelter or come home to be with your family again. if she chooses your house then you need to make it absolutely clear that the rules WILL be followed or she will be forced to go back to the shelter. bring your husband for support. also, see if you can get her to see a counselor and try to go with her to the appointments, it shows her your support and i think she has a lot of feelings that are confusing her. good luck.

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alright, i get sick wayy to much; every other week with a sinus infection or virus or flu SOMETHING the only time i will feel good is in the summer...but i still have allergies. i was just wondering if anyone knew what i could do to boot up my metabolism i get between 7-9 hours of sleep...but i should start getting more since after school stuff is over. i don't drink a lot of water because i just think it tastes so plain so i have to have flavor with it. idk does milk help any? grape juice? a certain vitamin? anything i'm sick of getting sick!! pleaseee answer i need to get better my tuesday.




thanks a lot!

go to a pharmacy store or a super market and look for something called Airborne. if comes in a box but its a tube of caplets that dissolve in water. drink it atleast once a day or a maximum of three times a day. airborne will help you get better faster or if you aren't sick you can still take it and you'll have a smaller chance of getting sick. hope i helped. p.s. airborne looks nasty but kinda tastes like lemonade

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when you srcunch your hair.. after you towel dry it (damp) do you brush it and THEN put the gell in?

yes, otherwise you would lose what the gel did to your hair so brush it first, then scrunch.

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i had my ears peirced and they closed up and the holes are gone i might get them repeirced.
does it hurt more than the first time?
do they peirce it in the same place?
will it bleed?
would it be off centered?
it didnt hurt that much the first time for me.
and to who ever had to get theirs repierced in the same place on a rate from 1-10 how much does it hurt?

its doesn't hurt anymoer than it did the first time, the range of pain varies per person so it wont hurt you much. it wont bleed unless it bled the first time u got them pierced which isn't often, a professional will mark with a pen on your ear where the holes will be before they peirce them so you don't need to worry about it ebing off-centered

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Ok now this is somewhat related to my other questions but not really. I really like this guy named Rhodri. He is from Wales and we are the only kids in the entire school who are not just Canadian (im part asian). We first started talking when he accidently found out who I liked late october (actually on halloween). After that I started trusting him and talking to him alot more. Everyone started to notice. Over time I kinda started liking him as more then a friend. He always defended me when people said racist comments, he always was able to make me laugh, he kept all my secrets and was always well there for me. This is the guy my friend says I flirt with alot. Im starting to think that maybe he likes me to. This is a diary entry from a few days ago:

Today I went through a whole day without starting to flirt with the guys and I kinda relized something. I think Rhodri also kinda likes flirting with me. First when I came to school he saw me and smiled and said hi. I said hi back and he looked like he was expecting me to talk to him but I didn't cause I didn't want to all day. During first recess I was eating a kit-kat bar and he saw me and like begged for a peice and when I didnt he tryed to take it from me, and he like was chasing me and mega flirting and it ended with the kit-kat on the ground...:(
After first recess he saw me outside my locker and he tried 3 times to start a conversation with me. I just replyed hi on every one and left. Then sadly during lunch recess the girls had a basketball thing and I was forced kinda to talk to the guys. I was with Sam, Erik adn Rhodri. They talked and stuff then Rhodri caught my eye, smiled and started to talk to me. I finnally told them how I shouldn't even be talking to them and he just ignored that and kept it up. All the way until he eventually bugged me and then knew that if he threatened telling Alex's secret I would react/flirt with him more. I took the bait and he began flirting with me. After a while the girls came out and I left to see Em. They followed me and flirted and bugged me. I tried my best to ignore them but Rhodri wouldn't let me. He got into my face with flirting until Emily saw it and got pissed off. He still continued but I flirted back a lil more cause Emily was already mad. He came to my locker to talk to me and we did, him leaving with one of my juice boxes lol, and it was a really fun day. Near the end I was talking to Sam about something, completely ignoring Rhodri, until he came up behind me and like wacked at my face and I screamed, which got them laughing and gave Rhodri an excuse to talk to me. We talked like forever and when Mr.Grady made him leave for his bus he looked over like 4 times over his sholder at me and smiled and stuck out his toungue.

Also lately he has been playing around mouthing "i love you" through the classroom windows and when he asks me to go on msn at certain times he'll finish off by saying "Its a Date!" and another time he left saying "Bye my love" and one time he told everyone we were going out just to make a guy jealous. I have no idea if hes just joking around or if he likes me. I like him soo much sometimes I cant stop thinking or talking about him. One of my friends say he talks about me to. I think thats it do you think he likes me? Do you think I should tell him?

YES! he totally has a thing for you. its a go!

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I have had feelings for my friend, we'll call him Rob, for a very long time. When I first met him, it seemed like he wasn't interested in me at all. He is a shy person in real life, and I haven't talked to him that much in person. Over Instant Messenger, he is completely different. We've talked for a long time, and we seem to flirt over it. Reccently, he went away on a skiing trip so I hadn't talked to him in a while. When he signed on, he was SO excited to talk to me.

Now the thing is, whenever I mention to him about other guys, he gets really defensive. I'll tell him, "This guy just commented my picture and said I was hot." And he'll say, "Well I commented one of your pictures before too." He does that all the time, and always seems to get really protective if other guys talk to me. Weird, because at the beginning of the year, I dropped hints to him, and I think he understood, but he would usually just brush it off. I think it was because he was very shy when he first met me, but now he actually starts conversations with me. He also has told me: "alot of other girls are annoying, so I blocked them."

Here's my other problem. I have a fake boyfriend. Weird, I know. But I didn't want people to think I was pathetic, so I got a picture of me and my guy cousin and told everyone it was my boyfriend. I am very miserable, having to constantly be an actress, with my fake boyfriend. I want to know if I should "break up" with my "boyfriend" in case my friend 'Rob' likes me that way. I don't want to "break up" with my fake boyfriend because, then I'll feel alone, and weird, and stupid if 'Rob' doesn't like me like that. I don't know if I want to lose my "boyfriend" quite yet.

Do you think 'Rob' likes me? What can I say to 'Rob' to let him know that I really like him? And what should I do about the whole fake boyfriend thing?

don't lie to yourself, its kinda unhealthy. let the fake boyfriend go. i think he likes you, and if he doesn't its not the end of the world. there are other fish in the sea.

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can you get aids from like drinking after someone who has them ??

(i dont have them i'm just asking lol)

hahaha no, aids is only passed through blood, semen, vaginal fluids or breast milk.

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what does "LMAO" and "BTW" mean?

LMAO means laughing my ass off and BTW means by the way

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So whenever I go in public (especially for rehearsals with my theater group) I feel like people are looking at me differently than they look at other people- and it makes me feel really exposed and vulnerable and then I start freaking out. They all ask me "What's wrong?" or "are you okay" and I really don't see why. It's probably because of my facial expression- which is usually depressed (I try not to look depressed but it doesn't work.)

And then I feel like people are looking at me for the rest of the day- even when I'm at home. (with no one else around)

FYI: I'm not a "pubescent" teen... i've passed all that crap so i don't know what's up with me.

its just paranoia, don't worry, i'm the queen of paranoia, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. but if the feeling bothers you which it seems to be see a doctor and maybe they can prescribe something for anxiety/paranoia, it'll help ,make you feel better

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14/F
okay, so everything in my life has been going wrong recently. I used to love volleyball, but now i hate it and i can't get off of my team becuase it cost so much, and that would be a waste of money. i used to love playing my clarinet and trumpet in band, but that's not any fun anymore. My friends don't seem to want to have anything to do with me. My grades are slipping. (2 A's, 2 B's, 1 C, and 2 D's) and im usually a straight A student. I don't have a boyfriend (i never have) and i don't think im pretty. My food allergies have gotten to the point where its super difficult to eat anything. i keep getting sick, which is causing me to miss school. my homework has been getting harder, and ive been getting more of it. my home life is miserable becuase i keep getting yelled at for not cleaning up

everyone has something pretty about them, the mirror only shows you what you expect to seei'm sure you are gorgeous and just because you haven't had a boy friend doesn't mean you aren't pretty. everyone has atleast one period of time when they are depressed your time is now.try to wrap yourself in something you like or use something as a method fo getting your feelings out. grades are evil but if you are usually a straight A student i think you can pull them back up, if you ever wanna just talk or dump everything on someone, i don't mind, IM me at xcrimsonxsinsx6

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I'm thinking about getting bangs. I'm just scared I won't like them. Has that happened to any of you? I wan't to do something diffrent to my hair. Any ideas?

bangs are very drastic and if you don't like them take forever to grow out, i suggest some layers of an angle, that would look nice. good luck

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14/f
this is probably going to be long.

ok so i met my best friend gab when i was 6. This past summer, she met some new people and became good friends with them. Best friends with 2 of them actually, even though i was supposedly still first. They hung out every day and spent so much time together that i felt left out and depressed. Now Gab has never been in a relationship, neither had andrea [one of the girls she became best friends with]. This past week while I was on vacation, Andrea got a boyfriend. I came back today and Gab immediately told me what happened, and details and everything. She says shes not sure if she and andrea will be very close much longer because of this. When she told me this, I felt a tiny bit of joy deep down because that means that I'll have her to myself again, in a sense. I don't know if I should feel guilty for feeling a bit happy though...because gab did pretty much ignore me because of andrea for like 5 or 6 months. So if you made it this far without getting confused, could you help me out?
Thanks

there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling joy, she took away your best friend in a sense so don't feel bad. you deserve to feel some happiness. its a normal human reaction

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I am doing a speech demonstrating how to make a home-made pin.

What are some good ideas for a title of the speech?

this is the pin:
http://www.make-stuff.com/projects/heartpin.html

wearing your heart on your sleeve, or anywhere on your shirt,(you wear your heart on your sleeve is an expression so it might be kinda cute.)

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