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Stuck In A Rut
I have had feelings for my friend, we'll call him Rob, for a very long time. When I first met him, it seemed like he wasn't interested in me at all. He is a shy person in real life, and I haven't talked to him that much in person. Over Instant Messenger, he is completely different. We've talked for a long time, and we seem to flirt over it. Reccently, he went away on a skiing trip so I hadn't talked to him in a while. When he signed on, he was SO excited to talk to me.
Now the thing is, whenever I mention to him about other guys, he gets really defensive. I'll tell him, "This guy just commented my picture and said I was hot." And he'll say, "Well I commented one of your pictures before too." He does that all the time, and always seems to get really protective if other guys talk to me. Weird, because at the beginning of the year, I dropped hints to him, and I think he understood, but he would usually just brush it off. I think it was because he was very shy when he first met me, but now he actually starts conversations with me. He also has told me: "alot of other girls are annoying, so I blocked them."
Here's my other problem. I have a fake boyfriend. Weird, I know. But I didn't want people to think I was pathetic, so I got a picture of me and my guy cousin and told everyone it was my boyfriend. I am very miserable, having to constantly be an actress, with my fake boyfriend. I want to know if I should "break up" with my "boyfriend" in case my friend 'Rob' likes me that way. I don't want to "break up" with my fake boyfriend because, then I'll feel alone, and weird, and stupid if 'Rob' doesn't like me like that. I don't know if I want to lose my "boyfriend" quite yet.
Do you think 'Rob' likes me? What can I say to 'Rob' to let him know that I really like him? And what should I do about the whole fake boyfriend thing?
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Rob is def feelin you he dropped hints as well just be the bigger person an ask him out Im pretty sure Rob will be interested because he is very defensive when you talked about other guys o for it
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don't lie to yourself, its kinda unhealthy. let the fake boyfriend go. i think he likes you, and if he doesn't its not the end of the world. there are other fish in the sea.
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It sounds like Rob has been dropping hints about liking you!
But this Instant messenger relationship wont lead to anywhere good. Its great you can talk on there, but a relationship in cyberspace means nothing in the real world. If you cant feel comfortable around Rob and be able to talk in the real world, than its not worth it. Your fake boyfriend is better than that.
So talk to rob-in person. Your fake boyfriend can be a ice breaker, actually. After talking for a while and getting into a deep convo, bring it up. Tell him it embarrases you, but you didnt want to feel pathetic, or alone. Tell him you wish you had a REAL boy friend. Look him straight in the eyes when you tell him that. Now its his turn :)
Good luck!
-Abby
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I have been in the same situation.
Sticky huh??
My advice is to "break-up" with your "boyfriend". Its draining to try and keep a story straight and lie all the time. Its not fair for you to play actress and keep your guyfriend dangling on a string. Plus, Why would you want a fake boyriend if you could have a real one wo cares for you? To me it really does sound like "Rob" likes you, take a chance, tell him how you feel. Dont make up some cheesy movie line, just say something (this is going to sound cheesy :]) from your heart, it truly works. Even if it doesnt work out between you and "Rob" you dont need a boyfriend to make you happy. Believe me, I know from experience.
good luck, hope that helped.
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