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should i feel guilty for being happy?
14/f
this is probably going to be long.
ok so i met my best friend gab when i was 6. This past summer, she met some new people and became good friends with them. Best friends with 2 of them actually, even though i was supposedly still first. They hung out every day and spent so much time together that i felt left out and depressed. Now Gab has never been in a relationship, neither had andrea [one of the girls she became best friends with]. This past week while I was on vacation, Andrea got a boyfriend. I came back today and Gab immediately told me what happened, and details and everything. She says shes not sure if she and andrea will be very close much longer because of this. When she told me this, I felt a tiny bit of joy deep down because that means that I'll have her to myself again, in a sense. I don't know if I should feel guilty for feeling a bit happy though...because gab did pretty much ignore me because of andrea for like 5 or 6 months. So if you made it this far without getting confused, could you help me out?
Thanks<3
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No. The real thing is,it seems that Gab left you first. And now shes comeing back to you,because shes made at andrea. and when shes friends with her again,what will you do? I think you should still be there and be her friend,but you should meet new people as well. Put it this way,shes your number 1,but your her 2nd. Not to be rude,but really,i wouldnt feel happy. I'd be sad and mad. Because Gab after all this time,is now coming to me cause shes mad at andrea? thats just kind of weird. You guys can still be friends,but i advise to find other ones as well in the future. Im saying this to warn you,cause i've been through this. So i guess you can feel happy,yes,but i dont know why. Im not trying to be rude,and i know this wasnt the answer you want to here. But im trying to help you. So good luck,and i really hope i helped!
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Well, you can't really fake your support for her when you're really happy that she's on the miserable side. Just tell her that you'll always be there for her if her other friends aren't. She should get a sense that you miss her. If she doesn't, then just say it: I miss us hanging out. it doesn't hurt right? give it a try.
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Okay not to be mean but that sounds a bit selfish because Gab still had a close relationship with her and you're not being supportive of her your just glad that there not going to be as close you should have a little sincerety towards you bff since she is in need because her other bff is gonna bail on her for some random dude
I guess if you say your happy then wateva
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I wouldn't be too upset. Friends are forever, boys are whatever. Remember that. =)
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there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling joy, she took away your best friend in a sense so don't feel bad. you deserve to feel some happiness. its a normal human reaction
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