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hi
i really need help finding articles on the seven wonders of the world. my teacher told us to find at least 7 scolary articles on our subject. i looked but couldent find articles only info from like wikipedia. this project is worth like half my grade and i would love any help at all.
thanxxx

Use Scholar.google.com

It's the ultimate source for genuine published works. Plus, makes it look like your paper is backed by some serious people.

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Can you get a tan during the spring, winter, and fall?
Thank you in advance.

You can get theoretically get a tan in any weather. As long as it is daytime, some of the UV rays will be able to hit your skin. However, the difference between tanning on a sunny day versus a cloudy day is simply time. If you plan on tanning on a cloudy day, be prepared to spend more than 3x as much time outside.

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So i have an LG vx9800. and i was just wondering is it possible to convert movie files that you have saved on your computer to the format in which the phone can play them. I just wantedto know if it's possible to play movie from your phone that you downloaded off the computer?

From what I know of compact cell-phone technology, it will be practically impossible to fit a feature-length movie into your phone memory. However, if you can record videos with your phone camera, you should be able to import clips from your computer. What you will need is a cable to connect your phone to the computer and the right software programs that will allow you to do it. Check with your phone manufacturer or your wireless distributor to see if they offer the computer-link cable and software.

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I know that swimmers need to watch what they eat but, what are good foods for a swimmer to eat? I've been searching, but I cant find any sites with recipes or anything.

I've been on my school swim team for four years now. We have insanely intense practices but I've never heard of a "swimmer's diet". If fact, I don't think there IS a swimmer diet.
Regardless, you should eat a LOT because your body burns an incredible amount of calories when you swim. My best advice is simply to eat anything, but eat healthy. Eat plenty of protein(meat) and carbs(bread, pasta), but make sure you stay balanced with veggies and fruit. My personal favorite is to have a banana with lunch simply because it is light and healthy. Plus, it prevents you from getting cramps in the water.

I'd say your only real diet concern would be to eat universally healthy and to refrain from eating for a while before swimming or you could get a bad stomache. Keep away from the junk food.

Good Luck

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our homecomeing dance is next friday. well my ex b/f asked me to go with him. and to make a long story short: he cheated on me after about 2 yearsand we started talking and i think im not completely over him and i thin i likie him again. only i know i shuoldnt and stay away from him. but its just hard. well anyways, he goes to another school and i want to go with him but i dont think i should because i dont want to like him again. i mean, once a cheater always a cheater right? cause i know ill just get hurt again. so my question is should i go to homecoming with him or play it safe and stay away. and does anyone have any tips for getting over someone? any advice you can give is welcomed. thanks =]

From what you've written, the message that I'm getting is that your ex-boyfriend asked you to go to the homecoming dance with him, but not to get into a relationship again. If you've already broken up with him because he cheated on you, best idea is to NOT get into another relationship with him again. Some guys have a nasty habit of recurring infidelity that will only get you into a horrible mess. If you plan to go with him to your homecoming dance, go only as friends. He's not asking you to be his girlfriend again, just to be his date to a dance. It's up to your own discretion to decide whether or not to give him that second chance.

Good Luck

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When my boyfriend and I are having sex, he tends to climax very early. Out of all the times we have had sex, the longest he lasted was 5 minutes! I need him to last a little longer so I can finally orgasm (I've never even had one). What can either of us do to solve this problem?

The best answer I can give you is FOREPLAY. There are plenty of things that you can do together to get you closer to orgasm before you actually have sex. Read around.

If anything, try not to verbally pressure your boyfriend. If there is anything that will destroy a man's ego, it's the fact that he can't satisfy you. Experiment with foreplay techniques that get you aroused before you actually have sex.

Don't worry if you can't have an orgasm through vaginal sex if you've never had a climax before. My suggestion would be to use masturbation to figure out your body likes. After all, if you don't know how to satisfy yourself, how do you expect another person to do so? Take the time to learn your own body. With that knowledge, you can enhance your sexual experience with a partner.

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Alright, theres these two German Twins, they're what.. 5?? and they're as hyper as cam BE! I need answers like RIGHT QUICK, Because they're comming over to be babysatt in 10 minutes! they're hyper, they make messes, THAT I GET BLAMED FOR, they break stuff, once I even lost one of them, she was outside laying in the snow with only her clothes on! A t-shirt and shorts. So i need advice on how to control them!

You're approaching this situation at the wrong angle. Don't try to CONTROL them, but rather GUIDE them in a more favorable direction. If the kids have so much energy, direct it towards some kind of activity that doesn't involve destroying things. Give them something that will occupy their attention and let them have fun. For example: try playing some games with them or telling them a good story. Kids will always stop and listen to a good storyteller. I'm sure you can come up with a few better ideas. Good luck!

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I'm only 14 and I'm already getting wrinkles under my eyes and those "crows feet" at the corners of my eyes! Does anyone know any moisturizer or lotion that will prevent those from looking worse or something?

The key to killing wrinkles is to keep your skin, quite literally, moving. The very top layers of protective dead skin start to stack on top of each other and make wrinkles. I wouldn't recommend any moisturizers because they would only make the wrinkles more apparent. On the contrary, I would recommend some sort of astringent that might hopefully zap your skin tight again. For regular maintenance, you want to exfoliate your skin with some kind of a facial scrub (the kind that feels like you're rubbing your face with grains of sugar). If all else fails, find a product with that has glycolic acid and apply it to THOROUGHLY cleaned skin. Get lots of sleep and wash your face regularly. I'm sure you'll be just fine!

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everyone thinks im gay because i dance and hang out with girls...im sure its normal because, well i like girls. what could i do to show im straight to people so they could get off my back about it? -Tom

Nobody actually thinks that you're gay. You're apparently getting all the girls. It's normal for other guys who can't get in with the girls to protect their egos. Instead of admitting that they SUCK with women, they just shift the negatives onto you, so there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. The problem lies in other people's weak self esteem. Don't worry or care about what they think.

If you really do want to dispel the rumors, get into a relationship.

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i know this is really weird, but nobody i've ever dated was really into the neck kissing thing, but my current boyfriend is. and i have no clue what to do while he's doing it. sorry if i sound like a completely douchebag. haha.

He's kissing your neck for YOUR pleasure. Close your eyes and enjoy the moment. In any case, subtlely let him know that you enjoy it. I'm sure you have some great ideas for that.

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i bought the veet razorless thing and i used it last thursday and it gave me a few red pimples on my legs and it also made them burn. so today i decided to try it again and this time, it made them burn even more and now i have a lot of red pimples on my legs. i put neosporin on them but that doesn't seen to help very much, so does anyone know what to put on them to make the pimples go away and how long it would take for them to go away even without putting anything on them? thanks so much!

You're basically using a product that uses chemicals to dissolve your hair so you can wipe it off "razorless". I'll give a fair bet that whatever chemicals that are in the product are irritating your skin. Consider this: Veet Razorless, Nair, and other products of the sort can DISSOLVE HAIR. Maybe it could severely irritate, if not destroy, your skin?
My advice? STOP using it, NOW. Just think of the burning sensation and the redness as your skin screaming for mercy.
Depending on how fast your skin heals, I would guess that it might take a week for the redness to go away. Just keep your skin clean and you shouldn't have any problems.

-Damian

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I have a scab on my face (from a pimple) it's not very big, but it's raised off my skin, it's like bumpy. Is there any way I can make it not pop out so much.

There are actually some really good treatments out there that can remove small blemishes in the skin. My first piece of advice is to be sure you don't pick at the scab. It will itch, but if you pull it off before it's ready, you'll be stuck with more redness and swelling. Just wash your face regularly with some warm water and DON'T pick at the scab. It will fall of on its own over a few days and it won't leave a scar if don't pick at it.

As for treatment, you can find some self-treatment products that have benzoyl peroxide, salicylic acid, or glycolic acid. These chemicals will actually cause your skin to replenish it's outer layer faster. This prevents acne and works wonders to remove minor blemishes, especially acne scars. Just be sure you wear sunblock if you use the treatment and go outside. Using these treatments usually eliminates the outer layer of skin that helps protect against sunburn, so bring some Coppertone!

-Damian

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I am about to leave a relationship that isn't broken, and I'm petrified. I have been dating a wonderful, wonderful man for just over a year. We fell in love very quickly and very soon it was understood that we would marry someday. He's 34 and I'm 26.
The problem is that I have it much more together than he does. I am on the career track, and I am universally acknowledged to have lots of "earning potential"-- I am going to work hard and earn money. He is the antithesis of this; he's not against work, per se, but he's not corporate. He wants to ocean kayak and rock climb and ski and lead tours to Latin America. We joked early on that he would be the house-husband and I would earn all the money.

He also has a very significant amount of debt-- twenty thousand dollars. When his previous relationship of 5.5 years broke up (VERY acrimoniously), his girlfriend shoveled her credit card debt onto him, arguing that she had supported him and he deserved to assume debt she had undertaken. Despite the fact that he had no idea she was getting herself into debt, he accepted the debt load, because it seemed the honorable way to end things and to get her out of his hair. Now, of course, he has no chance of paying it back and might go bankrupt.

I love him. Everyone loves him, but more than one of my family members has come to me to express doubts about him. At first I shrugged off all the criticisms, saying, "If I love him, and I do, we will make things work."

Now I am considering breaking things off. He is the sweetest, kindest, gentlest person; he would be the most wonderful father I can think of; he is attractive, decent, and devoted to me. In other areas, we have nothing in common: he is outdoorsy, adventuresome, confident and arbitrary, while I am bookish, ambitious, tentative, and reserved.

My question to you is: Is it possible to wish someone well, to want him to be happy, and yet to know on a deep level that it just isn't going to work? Part of me wants to hold on to him, just because he is so special. The other part sees fights in the future, conflicts over money and attention.

Perhaps I have answered my own question. I don't know. It is cathartic simply to write about this. Thank you for your time

Apparently you've mulled over this situation for quite a while.

It is perfectly fine to break off the relationship if you feel uncomfortable at all. Of course, there will be some sore feelings, but if the situation is managed correctly (which I believe you are perfectly capable of), the separation could be just what you need.

As for the debt situation, it IS quite a large sum of money. I'm a bit fuzzy about what happened with his ex-girlfriend, but I'm quite sure there are some legal actions that you can take to alleve some of this financial burden. However, I'm not familiar with the statute of limitations on credit debt, so I would recommend that you have a professional look at it. In any case, you should be able to get a copy of the purchase history from the bank and see if this ex was actually going into debt supporting him or if she was taking advantage of the situation.

While he may seem like the perfect man for you, you ultimately need to decide in your best interests. It really comes down to your decision whether this man is worth twenty thousand dollars. If there's absolutely no way he can get out of debt on his own, do your best to protect your own assets.

He may be special to you, but if you weigh the pros and cons, I think you'll find that it's best just to break it off for your own good.

-Damian

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16/f
well there is this guy that i kinda am starting to like. but he was like ohh yeah i cant go out with a girl that cant dance! and i was like yeah blah blah but you see i cant dance for shit! haha like ive never really danced with a boy before..like grinding and stuff. so im worried if a guy asks me to a dance or something and they want to dance i will be so embarassed about it because i wont know what to do! and people will laugh and be like haha she does not know what she is doing! ahhh and this guy doesnt know it either otherwise he will tell his friends and everyone else and they will be like oh my god you dont know how to dance? AHAHA.

yeah.i dont know what to do..

Stop second-guessing yourself. There are simple ways to learn how to dance, but the key to doing it naturally and successfully is in your head. Go to a few school dances and try some new things. If some guy comes up to you and asks you to dance, go for it. At worst, you'll mess up, but you'll finally learn something. If you want to try learn something new, you have to take a step out of your comfort zone and make a few mistakes. Don't be too wound up on the technicalities, just go out and have fun. You'll do fine.

-Damian

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14/f well my friend just told me she is allergic to condoms(like the rubber or something) and i'm worried about her because she is in a relationship with this guy for a while and if they have sex or oral sex shes not protected. shes worried also but she doesn't know what to do. i want to help her but i dont know how.
if she touches a condom she gets a really bad rash and she has to get rushed to the hospital.

thanks in advanced

Your friend may actually have a latex allergy. This is perfectly normal and there are simple ways to go around this while still being protected. If you go to any pharmacy, I'll bet that you can find non-latex condoms. Polyurethane is the material of choice right now. At 14 years old, I would consider oral contraceptives as a viable alternative. However, each "pill" type contains a different cocktail of hormones that can wreak havok on a growing girl's body until she finds the right pill. For the quick fix, try the polyurethane condoms that are 100% non-latex. In any case, if your friend is being sexually active, she needs to see a gynecologist regularly for her own good.

-Damian

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