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ok so i liked this kid ryan like 2 weeks ago, and then i stopped liking him, and now everyone keeps asking me if im mad at him or if i still like him. And tonight my guy friend told me if i was mad at him because they were playing basketball and ryan told him that he thinks i am, does this mean anything? (link)
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They probably think you are angry with him becuase one minute you are chatting and maybe flirting a little and the next you don't speak to him. Do you think that by not talking to him he will get the message that you don't fancy him? The best way to overcome this is first of all to let him know that you aren't mad at him. Either face to face or through his friend. You then need to make it obvious that you don't want a boyfriend (ie him) perhaps tell his friend to let him know that you really don't want a boyfrien right now and you were worried that by spending loads of time with this guy you would give off the wrong impression. Hope I have helped alittle
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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable. (link)
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It depends on the guy you marry and what his beliefs are. It also depends on your beliefs too and whether you really do want to wait until you get married to have sex. At the end of the day it is up to you and you shouldn't think you should have sex just because all your friends will be having sex. Jessica Simpson waited until she got married before she lost her virginity. Age-wise it totally depends on the guys you meet and how confident you feel. It differs with everyone. I was 18 when I first had sex but my best friend was 14. There is no specific time or age when you should start. You kind of know when it's right as you meet a guy who you feel close to and relaxed around. Your time will come whether its sooner or even later but just remember at the end of the day it is up to you. A lot of my friends had sex when they were younger just because others were doing it and they thought they should be doing it too-every one of them regretted it. I hope I have helped a little
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ok im always nervouse and shy around my boyfriend im just not comfortable around him yet and hes shy all togehter so how do we break the ice to were it can just be fun and relaxed to hang around him. (link)
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perhaps because you think it might lead to something else? Just try hanging around together, going for walks or to the cinema and event hings like chatting on msn as then you don't have to be there in person. You are both obviously quite nervous so the more you concentrate on the friendship part first, the rest will come naturally. Hope this helps
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I'm almost thirty and I've only gone out with a few girls when I was in college. Every time I had sex with them I was drunk and I only lasted a minute. Literally. Does anybody know any procedures I can do to last longer because I have a big date tonight with a really cute librarian and I think she wants to have sex with me. Please help! (link)
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Ok, well I've spoken to loads of guys before and they say that whenever they think they are going to have sex they masturbate just before they go out so that if they do have sex it will last longer.
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I know that most of the people that ask a random weirdos question are being stalked by a random weirdo, but I really like this one girl, and well, I am a girl too. I know it's weird though, but every time she sleeps in my study hall I watch her and fantasize. She woke up one time and saw me and got freaked out...and called me a weirdo. I have a picture of her in my class when we were in kindergarten when she dressed up as a chicken and I look at it every morning when I wake up. This is the only girl I'm attracted to, usually I like other guys. Am I really a random weirdo lesbian or am I just a straight girl with a big strange crush? help!
16/f (link)
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You are not aweirdo don't worry! At your age everyone at some point goes through times when they have confused feelings. They confuse feelings of being bisexual with feelings of envy. Do you like everything about her in the sense that you wish you could be like her and that perhaps by doing the things she does etc will make you feel more that way? It's a bit like when we all look at pictures of models and have some of them on our walls. It's not necessarily because we fancy them but just cos we are in awe of them. Whether you actually want to kiss her is another matter. Don't worry yourself about this as the more you do the worse it will get. Try and say away from her for a little while and see how you feel then. It will take alittle time for you to realise how you truly feel. Hope this helps
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i have really frizzy curly hair and for the last year i have been straightening it everyday which gets rid of the frizz aswell as the curl but this summer i really don't want to be straightening my hair everyday i want to enjoy my time in the sun but without the frizz i have tryed loads of different frizz shampoo's but i can't find one that will make me have cute natural curls (like i have) but without the great frizz,
anyone know anything i can try?? (link)
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I think John Frieda do a really good one. The best people to ask are hairdressers in hair salons as they will know of and probably stock the professional products you're looking for. Hope this helps a little
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this is my dress:
http://www.torrid.com/store/product.asp?LS=0&RN=206&ITEM=592810
this is my picture:
http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=toXic%20x%20baBii%20x3
What make up would look good with that? I need eyeliner, eye shadow, lipstick/gloss, and other things.
I'll rate 5's for anyone that gives me the name of the make up, and where i can get it. I will also definately rate you a 5 if you also give me links to cute jewelry.
Ill rate 1's for jerks. (link)
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Well, first of all, with the turquoise in the dress, you shouldn't go for a drastic eyeshadow colour. Insteaf go for a colour like a creamy beige but not too light and not too shimmery - a matt colour. Black eyeliner would look great - you can make a really good look with eyeliner but practise first and it can take a while to master! Mascara and a lipgloss thats pretty nude. Pink will make you look too multicoloured so go for a colour that is pretty much the same as your natural lip colour. After that, a little blusher on the apples of your cheeks (the apples are the round bits that stick out when you smile) your nose and brow bone, and then some bronzer. Hope I have helped! Let me know if thee's anything else i can help u with and have a great party!
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Just as a warning, this will be long. If you have a problem with that, skip on to the next question.
Okay. So my guy and I have been together about 18 months now, and it's been great up until awhile ago.
Now, my boyfriend and I used to have the exact same ideals about sex - we both thought oral was stupid and disgusting, and neither of us was really into the whole manual thing.
All of a sudden, he's asking me for oral all the time - I did that once and I told him I wasn't comfortable with it. He's even asking for "road head" which I always thought only assholes asked for and only sluts gave.
Does he think I'm a slut just because I've had sex?
I feel like he's been taking advantage of me lately and making me feel like a bad girlfriend. I know I'm not, though he makes me feel like it's my fault when we fight, and makes me feel like I'm the one that needs to change, when I believe now that it's him that needs to change.
I really do hope this is just a bump in the relationship - don't most people hit bumps when they've been together awhile?
We were such a great couple for so long, and then all of a sudden, he decided he wanted more sexual stuff than I'm willing and comfortable with giving him. Now, I can understand he may be a little sexually frustrated, as we haven't had sex in like a month, but I told him we'd have to wait a month (due to a medication I ended up on that conflicted with my birth control pill), and he was okay with it. Now he's suddenly not. I'm confused.
He used to be utterly romantic and sweet. Now he's turning into a complete ass.
I really want to ask him right now if he really loves me or he just enjoys fucking me. Recently, it seems like the latter.
We always said that sex was like the icing to a cake in this relationship. He claims this relationship is based on love, not lust, but I'm not so sure about that anymore.
I don't want to break up with him. I want him to realize what he's doing, and I want to fix this between us, hopefully before saturday. Saturday's his birthday, and I went to a lot of trouble to find him a present he wants this year. I'd rather not return it.
But mostly, I just want this to go back to normal. I was so happy with him before...
Help me out?
~Cali~ (link)
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Hi Cali,
It sounds like your boyfriend is more confused than anything. He just presumes that every girl gives head and every girl enjoys it. Well they don't. He is thinking that there is something wrong with him and is probably too shy to admit it. You have to let him know that you love him and that oral sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship. Every couple goes through stages like this in a relationship but it's up to you to help make it work out if you want it to. If it helps, ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and have only done that once. What men don't realise as well is that girls quite often find giving head a more intimate thing to do which often comes the stage after having sex. He has to realise that just because you don't want to doesn't mean that you don't love him or think any less of him. He is probably got quite low self esteem at the moment because he just presumes that if he asks he gets. You could do something to surprise him. You could organise a candlelit meal in your room for him and get some massage oil. Gets some tips from magazines about techniques for massage, kissing and positions that you haven't done before and try them out. Not only will this make him feel special, he will understand that there's more to life than giving head and many more ways to have fun~!! good luck and i hope i have helped a little
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What exactly is a facial (like when you go to a spa)? (link)
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A facial is a mixture of different things depending on what kind of one you have. Products are used on your face depending on your skin type and your face will be massaged at the same time. You can have cleansing facials where they remove all the toxins from your skin ususally by steam, followed by cleansing and massaging to get the circulation going in your face. If you have blackheads they might do whats called extraction where they totally detoxify your skin and remove the blackheads. It's all a really nice experience - any opportunity to be pampered!! But if you have a party to go to and want one done, I would have it done a week or two before because people quite often break out a little afterwards. Hope I have helped a little
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can you have unprotected sex with a guy who is sterile??? (link)
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Yes if he is definitely sterile. It might mean you won't get pregnant but it won't stop you getting any sexually transmitted diseases that he might have. It's best to find out if he is definitely sterile first. I know it might sound weird but a lot of guys can make up excuses not to wear a condom as the feeling is so much better without. Hope i have helped a little
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what color eyeshadow brings out dark brown eyes on a girl with dark brown hair and tan skin? (link)
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Shimmery colours will look great - try a turquoise colour or blues
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I dont know what to do! My scale says I'm 123,and my mom says its accurate,but I think I weigh a lot more! I'm 13, and i dont know what to do. And i wanna wear a bikini this summer. Any suggestions about exercising? (link)
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I wanted to lose a few pounds before getting into a bikini and here's what i did. First i made sure i walked fast or jogged for 25 mins every day. Second, I made sure i drank 2 litres of water a day. Third, i made sure i had my dinner by 7.30 pm and that it didn't have a lot of carbs in it egpotatoes, pasta, white rice. That really helped and i lost the pounds! Hope this helps you
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me and my friend, lets call her Sarah, got into a huge fight over a little misunderstanding. I tried over and over again to tell her that i was sorry...but what ever i said it came out soo twisted and messed up!! she is my only friend and now she hates me...how can i tell her im sorry without screwing up?!?!?! (link)
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If you keep on messing things up by speaking to her then don't try that again. Write her a letter or an email. Say how sorry you are and that you've been trying so hard to saay sorry in person but whenever you do you just get really nervous and mess it up by saying things that you don't mean. Tell her she is your best friend and would never do anything to hurt her but find it really difficult to apologise without saying something stupid by mistake. Hope i have helped a little and that you and your friend make up soon!
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I know that every girl down there is unique, but im not a lesbian or anything but i see pretty girls in magazines and all of them dont have any visible things in their bottoms. like my question is, is it unattractive to have larger "lips" than most girls and will guys be turned away by it? I dont wanna sound weird its just i dont know who to ask without seeming like a weirdo. lol thanx! (link)
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Every girl is different so you have nothing to worry about at all. there will a;ways be someone else out there who will have larger and smaller ones than you and i know what you mean about being worried about guys reaction. They don't mind at all. They are most concerned with themselves at that second as they will be trying to show you that they know what they're doing anyway! Don't worry! Hope i have helped a little!
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How do you treat or make a sun burn go away? (link)
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God, is it really hot with you?! I wish it was here! The best thing is to have a hot shower or burn. It sounds really weird but my mum has been telling us to do this for years and it really works. Have a hot shower or bath takes the burn away. You then need to put after sun lotion or aloe vera lotion on wherever you are burnt. NOT moisturiser as that will keep the heat in. Use this for the first day and then the next day use moisturiser. If the sunburn is quite bad then use loads of moisturiser as then it will help prevent you from peeling. Hope I have helped a little
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ok so here is the deal everyone knows i am Bisexual like everyone at my school knows. and i knew i was gunna get crap from people. But it has gone to far people are startin to make fun of me like way more and it gets more intense everyday. Not to mention people make fun of me because i watch wierd movies like "Hook" or "Aladdin" I mean sure i am male. but still why does it give people the right to say mean stuff i am also colored and people are being racial talking to adults doesn't help very much. what can they do. and i am out of ideas ignoring them doesn't help.
I know that being Bisexual is bad and i am trying to be straight and i am gettin close to just likeing females. and it seems that god isn't here for me i pray everynight hoping for a better life. and for god to send somone to know who i am. al i need is a friend. my dad lives in switzerland. and i never get to see him only in the summer. and it feels like my life is going down hill. my dog died we had to put him down. that still gives me tears. and all my friends seem to be going against me. because of rumors going around that i am dishonest. and what not i only have 2 friends. and i just don't know what to do it seems like i have run out of options.
can you help me like to find someway to get noy only my mind off but at least pray for me.
thnx a bunch
Monn (link)
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Hey, first of all being bi is not bad. You can't help the way you feel. The best thing for you to do is to stick with your friends when you are around the people who are being mean. Ask them for support and because they are your friends they will be there for you. The reason these people are being mean to you is because they see you as an easy target and you are probably not the first person to be teased by them. Next time they say something, just laugh and say something like 'come on guys, have you got nothing else to talk about yet?' I know it's difficult to ignore them but if you react angrily then they will see that they've won and continue. Some people tease because they are unsure themselves of their true feelings. You are far better than the people who are teasing you and it is also a known fact that bullies are the people who are actually the most unhappy. I hope I have helped a little
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I've asked this question a while ago, but i need someone with experience with one or both. Pro-active or birth control for mild acne, i dont care about the birth control side affects either. Experience please! Thanks alot! (link)
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My sister had acne and she was told she could either use this antibacterial face washes the doctors prescribe, or to go on the birth control pill. It all depends on your age and what type of acne you have. Go to the doctors and they will be able to help. Not all birth control pills actually help acne so it will be good to find out from your doctor which ones do help, prevent and get rid of it. Good luck and I hope I have helped a little
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My best friend and I just had the worse fight ever.... we both said very horrible things to eachother and i guess all of our true feelings came out... i can't explain how i'm feeling right now but i guess i'm feeling a strong urge to just cut myself and get it over with... i know people reading this think i'm a freak... but i need someone really bad... please help me.. :(
Lost N Broken
5's to anyone who helps me..... (link)
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Did you mean the things you said to her? If not then it's probably very likely that your friend is thinking exactly the same thing as you. It's a question of who'll make the first contact to apologise.Whenever friends have arguments it can easily spiral out of control and lead to you both saying things you don't mean. If I were you I would send her a text and be the first one to say sorry. Just say, 'I'm so sorry for all those things I said - I didn't mean any of them - it was just an argument that got out of control. I hope you feel the same and didn't mean the things you said too cos I really value our friendship and don't want us fighting anymore!'
Hope I have helped a little
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If you drink lots of water while you're on your period, will that increase you flow? decrease? Does it do anything?? I rate 5's for first 5 ppl who give decent answers (link)
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No, the amount of water you drink does not affect your period flow. Don't worry
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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me (link)
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The same thing happened to me at the beginning of the year. It depends on how good friends you are to what you do. You can either go and talk to her or you can write her a card. Just say how really sorry you are to hear what's happened. You have no idea what she must be going through but you are there whenever she needs to take her mind off things or talk. Say you are free whenever to go to the movies or anything if she needs to get away from it all. Hope this helps a little
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